Posts by abbi333

I think you need to talk to your mom. I wonder why though you don't want to get into therapy? It sounds like you need support and it is not a bad thing to go. It shows strength to know you need more help. Why are you angry? What would you like her to do? Those things you mention are going to mean little if you end up having severe health complications.

Well for me it was different cause I had my ed for 14 years on and off so I now healthy weight I am in a different stage in life. Though I will say that I have gained a lot in my mid section which I am hoping will balance out. For you it is good you caught this early and your body can repair. You have to give it time. You are at an age though being 14 where even non ed your body is changing. You are going from a child to a teen. This can be a hard stage in life. Let nature takes it course and try to stay in the moment of what you need to do. Your fears may not happen.

I don't mean to be rude but need to call it when I see it that this is very ed thinking. People vary even 5 pounds. This is about a range that is healthy for you. So whether you ate an extra meal or not and you are varing weight slightly is not going ot determine your health. Your body is not a calculator and will vary. Try to focus on health rather then this being a number game.

I have anxiety but move a lot. I am actually moving again right now. A few thoughts but regardless I think if you have anxiety disorder then it is key to see a psych and possibly get on meds. Though I am still anxious and have issues since being on meds again i am like a new person. Anyhow back to the move change can be hard as there is so much unknown. Unknown though can bring good things. I think you are focusing on the fears and the bad that may happen but what about the positive? It takes time when moving for it to feel like home but it will after awhile.Can you think of ways to comfort yourself in the transition? What does waiting achieve? I think it actually just makes things worse. It is going to be hard in the transition but in the long run hopefully better and it will also show you that you can face change and the obsticles and get through it. Imagine how proud you will be of yourself

A lot of this fullness is mental. Also that your gi system is slow. I am thinking if you were offered a million dollars to eat 2500 you would so why is your health worth less? Just like medicine that can upset your stomach but you still take it to get better in the long run food is the same. You can do this. Also 1600 should not be the goal. That is a weight loss diet. I think changing your mindset that the goal is to gain and eat a high calorie level is very important. If you enter into the day with that goal rather then just doing "better" it helps quiet the ed voice

Hi sunshine. I remember you saying you don't like nuts or nut butters. How about home made muffins?Granola? Your breakfast to me on weight gain is not adequate in calories. What about also adding some fruit? For example to increase calories but use these foods if you like it. Porrage made with milk,large bagel instead of toast or very thick toast,yogurt with a banana. Flaxseed you can throw in cereal or yogurt. Now back to the nuts and nutbutter is it that you truly don't like it or that you are scared of it? There are other nut butter spreads too like almond,sunflower.

Yes I agree that docs can be clueless and in my past years I have heard almost every stupid thing. I know it can be hard when already confused by the ed. Can you see on top of the gp people who deal with ed like a nutrionist. I ended up in a cardiac unit a few days after a gp visit where he just brushed things off. You need more then 2000 not only for metabolism but to repair. You damage your organs and tissues a lot through destruction of your body.

If you are in treatment op I think it is very key to work as a team with them instead of against them or to be your own doc. That is when trouble begins. You have come a far way but your brain and body is still healing. I hope you continue to fight for health.

Everyone has given great advice but I will just add a little. Remind yourself of the facts that you are still underweight by a lot and though scary the goal is to get to a healthy bmi. The goal is to gain. I know when I got scared with weight fears I would remind myself that it was the goal to gain and also to stay in the day and not worry about X weight. Also what does it achieve to drag the process out?Lastly I think mentally if you give yourself the option of only doing part of what you need it makes it that much harder. When I chose to not give in and became consistent after time it became much easier and less scary. I hope you stay strong and accept that it is hard and scary but really the only way to a better life.

Maybe you dropped your calories too much. If you normally ate on some days 2500 and now are eating 1700 that is a big drop. Maybe if you just drop it by a few hundred you will see results but slower and lasting. Also what is your activity like cause that adds to caloric needs.

No problem. I may be confused in your ? so I am sorry if I am off. Right now you are underweight so the focus needs to be to reach your set point range. Then there is time to worry about getting fit or strength training. I understand the guilt because I struggle with this but it is the ed mindset making you feel that way. Regardless if under or over weight this should not cause guilt same with calories and exercise. This does not make you. It is hard because it is recovery. It hopefully will get easier when you see that you have a bigger life without this. I wonder you said you are alone and having some crazy feelings plus you mentioned the guilt. Do you have a support system and therapy? Maybe if you identify some struggles you have it will help.

Since the poster is worried about how slow she is then I think it is an issue. I could be wrong but people who naturally are I don't think have second thoughts and an hour is too long. I remember ip people would cut their food so small and prepare for so long. It was not a natural way. Eating at night is fine as long as you have some balance during the day. Skipping meals or snacks when you are more active to "save" for the end is not ok. Having a bigger dinner and night time snack because it works better for you is ok cause you are still fueling yoru body during the day. The only way to break bad habits is to challenge yourself and set up a plan.

I think you are still underweight so your activity is too high. Are you still eating to gain? I hope so, Regardless of weight bodies need breaks from activity. It gives your body time to heal and you will be less prone to fatigue and injury.

There is more to being healthy then just your period. Yes this is important but I got mine at a low weight and still needed to gain to prevent other health issues. Also for some it can take time. Just because you are doing better now it takes time for your body to repair. Tessa asked a good ? though regarding your activity.

I had 4 of mine out during a past regaining and still gained. I was very focused at that time. I also was allergic to the antibiotic so I had an upset stomach and a rash. I don't mean to be harsh but there can always be a reason to not do. Yes this is hard but I am sure if I said here is a million dollars if you complete the mp you would do it so why is your health any different. Ok some food suggestions.

I went to Panera and got creamy soups then took there bread and let it get mushy

Mac and cheese

I only heard for the first day no dairy so I ate things like ice cream and milkshakes

Why not ensure or boost? A few of those can help with calories

Pancakes and french toast just don't overcook

Chicken pot pie

Cereal and let it get soggy

Pasta with butter

rice with butter,cheese sauce,etc