Posts by clolitaa

I think the issue, sagittari, is that we're discussing under these assumptions now,

- that looking at pornography is a normal, natural behavior that humans are naturally inclined towards

- that it's a healthy behavior, and not detrimental

- that disagreements in relationships should result in breaking up / someone capitulating

- and your assumption, that women who mind pornography are insecure

Firstly, pornography is not natural. It's an artificial creation that was popularized only about 35 years ago. It was not made possible before 1900, and then, it was common as clothed softcore. Before this time, porn didn't exist. People had sex, or watched others (as an intimate part of the experience) having sex. Nothing points to this being a natural and integral human behavior. It's a cultural behavior; our culture creates it, forms it in our minds, and encourages young men to watch it.

Secondly, whether it's detrimental to sexual and mental health is currently under investigation. Since it's an aspect of a sexually violent culture, it's hard to say whether it promotes violence or children's concept of relationships, sex, and women. But I'd venture to guess that showing a young child or teenager any media will promote something in them, and it won't be under the control of the parent what it is. With most porn being either abusive, misogynistic, and dysfunctional sexual behavior, would it be very difficult or false to assume that it promotes these things?

To have the idea that a disagreement about this means that you have the 'wrong boyfriend,' says that we're talking about more than porn, here. Making the argument that incompatible, insecure girlfriends are the only ones who disagree with watching porn in a monogamous relationship is in really poor taste. There are decent arguments on behalf of porn, and this isn't one of them. This is ad hominem and hateful and insensitive towards women. Men watch porn, not because it's natural, normal, and an obvious decision, but because men are cultured to experience and enjoy it from a very young age.

To me, this would be like saying that because only girls get eating disorders, that men don't understand them, and that if they won't accept them, then they should either leave the relationship or capitulate and accept them. Pornography obsession can be classified as a psychiatric disorder - not that everyone who watches porn has one - but that the behavior can result in dysfunction and addiction. I think there are aspects of this, that women who agree with porn-use would disagree with, if they understood the extent of their loved one's addictive behavior.

Original Post by umneydurak:

clolitaa well if someone has chosen a diet that cuts out substantial part of food choices, maybe they should learn about nutrition and do look at the nutrition labels....

 

wow, why so pissy? What's your problem?

I do check my labels, thank you very much for this wise suggestion. And I do know a great deal about nutrition, so no reason to speak down to me like that. Yeah, sorry I didn't check the label of the ORANGE JUICE my mother in law bought. I still am human and I still have a life and I refuse to be so hyper paranoid and obsessive that I start checking labels of juices.

Hell, I don't have to defend myself here for simply putting a warning to fellow vegetarians who maybe happen to open someone's fridge one morning while still being tired because they want a cup of ORANGE JUICE. WITHOUT FISH OIL.

But thanks for the lecture. Have a great day.

So - in other words - you're speaking from hearsay, anecdotes, informal conversations, and bedtime chatter.

Why didn't you say so in the first place, rather than going around gallivanting that you have any idea of what you're talking about? Sounds like some bitter, tired people had their way with your ears, lysis. You've also probably been heavily, heavily, heavily influenced by your husband's complaints about how cruelly and inhumanely these people are being treated (coincidentally, the very business of his work relies upon this mistreatment.)

I'm not saying there aren't abuses (where aren't there abuses?), but to try to dissuade someone from getting into the field of psychology with this nonsense is simply irresponsible.

Also, I love how you throw around profound diagnoses like they're insults - the maturity really oozes out of your "my friend's friend's friend said" knowledge.

What about this Tropicana Heart Healthy Orange Juice?

http://www.pepsico.com/Media/Tropicana-Health y-Heart-Carton.html

http://www.allergizer.com/50226711/tropicanaa _healthy_heart_with_omega3_not_for_the_fish_a llergic.php

Fish oil in my orange juice. Yum.

Thanks for the warning, Tropicana, and for dancing your way around the fact that there's compressed fish juices in my pure, fruitly, refreshing orange drink.

By the way, yes, I did drink it without knowing. I've been vegetarian for 7 years. Not anymore!

Costco Quiche.

Every store-bought cookie ever.

Yeah, I think that a lot of people have begun to confuse scientists with Oprah. Oprah, her fad diets, the Daily News, USA Today.. These people are not scientists. They're morons and they're trolling for money and readers.

First off, nutrition is a very, very, very, very difficult science. Let me pose this to any of you: try to design a simple experiment that shows a positive effect of food. Now, do so on a statistically significant sample of people - about 100 or more. Now, beg for grant money.. Ok, I'm sure some of you get the picture.

Nutrition is a new science, but it sure as hell isn't a dumb one, merely a difficult one. If more people respected and listened closely to the advice of nutritionists, we wouldn't be in the mess we are today. You have a large population of uneducated and easily misled people to thank for that.

Jesus.

No offense, but you should watch less TV. Nothing of that stuff is good for your body, nor does it work. And if it works, it's an incredibly dangerous, body-damaging short-time fix.

And speaking about Hoodia:

"Richard M. Goldfarb, MD, a doctor and medical director of Bucks County Clinical Research in Morrisville, Pennsylvania, claims to have conducted a preliminary efficacy study of Hoodia gordonii on seven people and reports to have found it effective. None of the findings were ever published in any peer-reviewed journal. Such information cannot be considered as evidence that hoodia is effective as a weight loss product."

http://www.webmd.com/diet/guide/hoodia-lots-o f-hoopla-little-science?page=1

And here is something nice about Diet Pills:

http://www.consumersearch.com/diet-pills/are- diet-pills-safe-

Sometimes I wish some "great" Celeb would die of their retarded "diet", which is often just plain starvation, overexercising, and/or substance abuse. Maybe people would wake up then and stop following these dangerous health scams.

The only thing that ever works and is good for your body is having a balanced, healthy diet and some moderate physical activity.

Original Post by enchantingimage:
Trash magazines/media sources photoshop everything nowadays. Seriously? Seriously. It's their goal to make celebs out to be freaks,imho. She's had muscular/toned arms for quite a while... That photo appears to have been photoshop'D to an extreme,imo.

Yeah, totally amazing at 50. It's all those celebmagazine photos trying to make her look bad.. They always photoshop bones and lower bodyfat into celebrities..

http://img38.imageshack.us/i/61843639.jpg/

Original Post by jcl76:

Girls, give Tony a break. He was just trying to help. He signed his post as a "former HR manager" so if I were you I'd listen to what he has to say.

Just trying to help by SPREADING THE BULL**** THAT GOING TO HR MAKES YOU KNOWN AS A "COMPLAINER." YEAH, TELL THAT TO PEOPLE WHO GET SEXUALLY ASSAULTED AND CALLED A **** 365 DAYS A YEAR, COMPLAINERS!! WHINERS! WAHH GO TO YOUR MOMMIES, YOU MAKE WORK NO FUN! You can't even call your coworker a 'butch lesbian bitch' these days!

I've seen enough of your posts to realize why you would agree with tony. Thanks for the reply, though.

tony sounds like the sort of person that A) enjoys being stepped on by others and rationalizes it because of his low self-esteem, B) likes to step on others, and doesn't like being reported, or C) typical "masculine man" that thinks "handling it man to man" is more manly than "crying to HR."

This is why women manage businesses.

People that dislike or discourage communicating with HR are the people you're probably going to be reporting to HR, anyway. Steer clear of them; this isn't a 2nd grade sandbox, it's a workplace; and this isn't toys, it's your career and your life.

Original Post by jcl76:

Original Post by merylwhite1:

*Sigh* Why do so many girls want to go slutty on Halloween?

Oh come on, don't be a fun sucker. I dress very modest all year long, and Halloween is the one day of the year when I dress as sexy/slutty as possible. Let us have our fun!

A fun sucker, huh? Why do you need Halloween as an excuse to dress slutty - do you feel forbidden to otherwise?

The feminists of the 70s would be rolling in their wheelchairs right now, reading this. Have some decency and self-respect. Halloween, nor any day, is not a reason or appropriate time to demean yourself.

Thanks everyone. These are some good exercise ideas for avoiding exercise.

I'll try investing in weights and looking into the dance courses at my college. As for rollerblades: my balance is not ideal, sadly!

Glad to hear you're recovered too, cat-girl.

Aside from all the useful things amanda mentioned:

There are private home daycares and private center daycares

Centers might be less expensive, but the child will receive less individualized care. Whileas home-run centers are done by a mother just like you, who may or may not give individualized care. You'll have to interview them.

The basic idea is that daycares, when not abusing children or being unlicensed, are pretty good. Statistics say that daycares give about the same attention or more to babies as their mothers will.

The best thing you can do is thoroughly interview and spend time at the place as you can. They might be annoyed at some point, but it's for the best.

My mother ran a home daycare center for about 20 years. The basic facts that you need to accept are that these people aren't mothers, they're caregivers. They can never give to your child what you can, all they can do is keep them safe and moderate their interactions.

Likely, your child will benefit from the wide interactions offered at nearly any daycare. The only thing to avoid is probably a daycare with only your baby.

In any case, good luck, and make sure to make use of Google.

Original Post by loriklorik:

Basically, people unable to use their brains to function normally are crazy. Unless there is a physical cause (chemical imbalances), there is no reason you can't just sit down and think through the problem to get on with your life. I consider people that are unable to think, crazy.

You know what? You have a lot in common with Mr. Tom Cruise, publicity agent of Scientology and Crazytalkers Against Pseudoscience. Whileas Scientology purports that no such thing as chemical imbalance exists, you - in your infinite .. Kneejerk, trolling, high-school education wisdom - believe that psychological problems can only occur if someone has the wrong neurotransmitters dancing around, and that all those other problems like drug addiction, eating disorders, post-traumatic stress from sexual assault, child abuse, et al are really just the person's own shortcomings.

Yes, I know we should all be thankful for your insight into psychological neuroscience over us poor, primitive therapy-worshipers, but your theory is pretty outdated. We got over that hurdle around the 1900s, when we figured out that feminism wasn't a form of neuroses and that you don't 'fix' retarded individuals with an icepick. While it is really unfortunate that we have to address these posts, I think it does underline a still all-too-common layman's idea of therapy, who needs it, and what it means to have problems you can't deal with.

For the fortunate people in the world that believe in this new-fangled therapy, it's great that it has helped and it's beautiful to hear everyone's experience. For everyone else.. There's always beer.

Original Post by ka2007:

having a "degree" in something clled "holistic nutrition" has nothing to do with having a degree in, for example, nutrition. read this whole thread or google.

True enough! Some backwards-ass states like Arizona give out clown degrees like "Doctorate of Holistic Medicine," and "Masters in Planetary Religion."

Yeah, these aren't the people you get hard science from. I think the fact that she has this degree and tries to pawn it off as a real dietician's degree is enough to discredit her. If you want to learn something, check her so-called sources. I believe that Ann Coulter also had a very lengthy citation list - most of which were irrelevant/misleading/at odds with her actual statements.

It's more pop diet bull****. Here's my source, from wikipedia, "a book written by Rory Freedman, a former modelling agent and Kim Barnouin, a former model." WOW, IF EVER I WANTED GOOD, SOUND NUTRITIONAL ADVICE TO KEEP ME HEALTHY AND EATING WELL, I'D GO STRAIGHT TO MY NEAREST MODELLING AGENCY!