Posts by salmander23

Original Post by just_me_here2009:
To Jackattack: I am not sure why you are so condescending and like to attack people with your responses. This is not the first time you have been so rude to other members on here. What is the problem? People come on this site to ask questions we are normally afraid to ask in front of real people. People should not have to fear being criticized by someone who is perpetually PMS'ing. If you have nothing valid to add to the conversation then please don't write anything.

Thanks for sticking up for me :)

And thanks everyone for your replies, they were very helpful.

I'm not saying that I agree with all of the methods used on biggest loser, but you all have to remember that the contestents on this show are severely OBESE.. like 300, 400 pounds! Although their strategies are a little extreme, they are being supervised at all times by medical profesionals.... and in my opinion, the damage of being obese FAR outweights the damage of losing that extra weight maybe too quickly. I think it's better to have them lose a bunch of weight and be in a healthy range and then even if they gain a few pounds after the show, they wouldn't be obese. Does that make sense at all?

I'd just like to add that 1 week is not a plateau! You have lost a lot of weight in just 5 weeks, and your body is probably just adjusting.

Also, (please correct me if I'm wrong..) For people who have said that you're losing too much, 20 pounds in 5 weeks is about 4 pound loss per week. Experts say that you're supposed to lose 1-2% of your body weight a week... and for you 4 pounds is a 1.5% weightloss. Which is perfectly acceptable. As you continue to lose weight, however, your weightloss will slow down, and that's normal.

You've probably been told that BMI is useless because it doesn't take into account a person's body composition. Muscle weighs more than fat, so a musclular person could tip the BMI scales as 'overweight' but not really be overweight. I think measuring your bodyfat is a much more helpful tool to set healthy goals.

How many times a day do you run? You didn't really specify that.. but even so, I agree with G.I. Jane that you're probably moderately active rather than lightly active. I plugged in your numbers into a calories needs calculator and at your activity level, you can eat between 1800(for about 2lbs per week loss) to 2300(for a 1lb per week loss) and still lose weight.

As far as the weight lifting, that's great for toning, and you definitely don't have to worry about getting bulky, even if you're doing a "man's" workout. But it might be a good idea to check on form to make sure you won't cause any injuries.

Good luck!

It's really interesting to see you guys's posts... how people's perception of right and wrong behavior in this situation varies greatly. It has opened my eyes and helped me to see things from a different perspective.

taylor, i was not expecting him to be alone and celibate waiting for me ... when we broke up, i was perfectly fine with him dating other people. that wasn't the issue. the problem i'm having now is that we had a very long discussion about getting back together, and apparently while we were having that discussion, he was hitting on other girls at the very same time. im just sad... it makes me feel like he wasn't being serious during our talk on the phone.

and to those who said that im a bad person and that he's better off without me because i was snooping in his email... i completely understand where that's coming from, but i wish you could try to get your point of view across in a way that's not snarky and insulting.

wowww you guys need to stop bashing her. have you bothered to even check out her profile? she is 5'7" 120 pounds and recovering from unhealthy eating habits. she is thin, and from her pictures, she is obviously fit. She can take a day off from running if she feels like it. show a little sympathy.

lol. yes, I know people flirt.. but I feel like he went too far when he was talking to me on the phone telling me he loves me while at the same EXACT time flirting with other girls online. That worries me when I consider dating him again.

And it wasn't just a "you're pretty" kind of flirt, which is fine... it was more of a "do you have a boyfriend? maybe we could go to the movies" kind of flirting. He was actively looking for someone else at the same time he was telling me im "the one".

Am I really overreacting and being unreasonable?

aww it's ok. i was kind having a moment.. one of those days, you know? not your fault at all!

anyway, i'm pretty sure our measurements are pretty average, not "huge" at all....you must've been tiny before you were pregnant to think that! But yeah, don't be so hard on yourself, you just had a baby only 3 months ago for heavens sake! lol. Are those your kids in your profile pic? they're adorable :)

im not a guy, but I would much rather have curves in the right places (boobs and butt) than be shaped like a rectangle and have skinny chicken legs. But for every woman, there is a guy who will worship her body, no matter what it looks like.

...and bananapancake... 35" hips are NOT wide hips! lol. they are actually med-small... I have wide hips.. 39" and my boyfriend LOVES my bum.

.......anyone? this post got backed up all the way to page two, and hardly any of my questions have been answered. I really could use the help....

so to lose 1lb a week i need to eat 1800 cals????(the calculator said that at a moderate activity level I burn 2300 cals...that's assuming i really am at a moderate activity level, what do you think?) that seems like so much! some calculators say that you need to be 18 yrs old to qualify as having the caloric needs of an adult...so i'm very confused. I am done growing............ and i have done 1800 cals before just to maintain! any thoughts, anyone?

  also, it was very depressing to see that i weigh more than about 75% of girls my age .....

I have tried to give him sneaky little "lessons" about weightloss... ex: he was boasting how his drink was only 60 calories, and I said, "but there are 8 servings in that container! So the whole thing is 480 calories." He really is so uninformed about health and weightloss.. he skips breakfast and sometimes dinner... and doesn't want to listen to me telling him that it is only hindering his efforts. He is completely sednetary.. a videogame nerd :-P But he has excuse after excuse.. bad knee, asthma, sick, tired. I invite him to go on walks with me, ask to go on dates with some activity such as bowling or ice skating.. but nothing. I know I can't force him to do anything, but it bothers me so much.

Should I bring it up? If so, how do I do it delicately so he doesn't twist my words around and hear "you're fat, im not attracted to you, i don't love you" ?? Or should I just leave it and hope that in time he will realize his unhealthy ways?

why would you even post if you changed your mind? you could've just deleted it, right?

.......and yes, I couldn't help myself with seeing such an intruiging title.. had to look!

amethystgirl, thanks for the reading, it was very interesting. But I still don't understand why I am gaining from eating the MINUMUM requirement for me (according to the kids nutrition website you provided)... and I'm GAINING! i stopped growing height-wise several years ago..... I am only a few months from being 18 years old... should I really go by the adult recommendations that I eat 1200-1300 to lose weight now?

So I spent a week with my family and completely pigged out. went from 124 to 126, but it's mostly water weight. Today I started up again with Jillian Michaels. I have improved immensely in my endurance and strength. With the push ups I am doing half modified version and half "girlie" version. So definately improvement. I'll have to be better about making good food choices this week!

Hang in there, everyone!