Posts by kayeanne

Original Post by agruskin:

AGREE WITH ABOVE POSTER

SEE A DOCTOR/PSYCHOLOGIST/SUPPORT GROUP

Why would i want/ need to do these things. I am simply saying that ED's are mental illnesses too and that people here should have a little compassion for those who ask questions or need support. 

Is this a professional opinion Arguskin?????????

I have no need or reason to do as you have suggestion but this is exactly what im talking about. Trying to make someone feel small of expressing opinions. I only hope i dont have the unpleasent experience of meeting both of you IRL, personally and professionally.

Original Post by fidget84:

this is not an eating disorder forum... please read the posts at the top. there is a link in the health and support forum wher there are oodles and oodles of these questions which have already been answered.

the rule with posting here, is that you dont unless you are eating 2500+

My god, is this now your standard answer for every ED related post. I get it that you are sick of people posting about ed's but its a real issue for real people. No where in this post is there any pro-ana statements, shes simply asking if this is all normal, asking for advice. 

Im sure that when you were in the depths of your own ed, when you started reaching out for help, you had lots of questions, concerns, worries. Im sure if you had posted something similar on this forum, with good intentions, you would have liked to have had some type of support or atleast have someone answer your questions.

I get it, you dont like the ED posts, but let me ask you a question. If some posts here about depression, anxiety, OCD, schizophrenia (as they do by the way) would you tell them that this is not a depression, anxiety etc forum and dont post here. 

Ed's are mental illnesses, have a f**king heart

Original Post by cellophane_star:

Calorie-wise, 1 tbsp of oil has about 120 cals. The difference between oils is the amount of good vs. bad fats within it. But you're looking at 120 cals per tbsp.

Those tomatoes are actually called 'sundried tomatoes' and no, CC's listing doesn't include the oil. If you take the tomato out of the oil & pat it with a paper towel, you'll eliminate most of the fat calories. You can buy these not packed in oil too.

In all the supermarkets ive been to, i cant get them not packed in oil. I live in NZ and i guess we dont really have a huge variety of brands available. 

I dont put the oil on my salad or what ever i add them too, so i guess that eliminates some of the calories. Will start patting the oil off them.

They are just o tastey, and i just wondered how good/ bad they actually are for me.

Swimfan - I dont know what it was when i was around 20 that changed. Dont get me wrong i still have issues, i have an ED. BUT i no longer engage in all those other self destructive behaviours. I stopped SI, which as you know is difficult. BUT i realised that i felt so so bad after doing it, i felt ashamed and bad, and i realised that stopping would help me more than doing it. I havnt SI'd now for 3 years. 

I havent taken an overdose since i was 17. Ive thought about it but i can now rationalize the thoughts and realise that its not going to make anything better, it will only hurt my family more etc. I have put my family through hell and i feel so so guilty about it. 

I think its been 3 years since i spent any time on a psych IP ward, but i have had one admission to an ed unit for a breif stay to stabilize my eating patterns. 

I havnt had much therapy but ive studies psychology, ecletic counselling, narrative therapy etc. It has taught me that it is the meaning of situations that i make that causes me to act in certain ways and feel the way i feel. I have learnt to sit back at look at situations more and rationalise why i feel that way i do. 

The reason i mentioned a residential treatment facility is because what you wrote sound alot like someone struggeling with BPD. I was mistakingly diagnosed as a teen and like i said, i guess i grew out of the behaviours that lead people to think maybe i had BPD. 

Residential treatment can be helpful when you are struggeling with a range of self destructive behaviours and dont seem to be able to stop by yourself. It can help you by allowing you a safe place to feel what you need to feel, think what you need to think, and work on the issues that you face. If you have people to turn to 24/7 when you feel like SI'ing then it can help you to stop. If you have someone to go to when you feel like you want to OD, then it can help you to sit with the feelings and move past them. 

When i say residential treatment i mean a theraputic boarding school or actual treatment facility where you stay for a long period of time, and really work on getting well. I know that there are psych hospitals that have BPD specific treatemtn programmes that are 6-12 months long, where you stay there, get therapy, medication management, life skills, grounding skills etc. 

I just think that you are so young and you deserve a good, happy, healthy life, and sometimes that means taking time out of "life" and going somewhere where your energy and focus is on working on the issues that cause you to behave the way you do. 

Thanks for the replies. 

The reason my friend is so weary about medication is because for five years while trying to get pregnant she was using a variety of over the counter herbal remedies for depression and sleep aids. It turns out that some of those that she took were natural abortives, so all this time, she may very well have fallen pregnant multiple times but the baby was abortited very early into it due to these herbal medications. She is terrified of taking anything but has been chewing quickeze like candy. 

Ive given her some liquid gaviscon to try and she also has so losec, which she has been told should be fine to take. 

I like the idea of a pampering day out, might try to arrange something for her. Im house sitting for her for a few weeks as she has alot of out of town engagments to attend, so not sure when i can arrage something for her but will give it a go. 

I just hate seeing her so upset and i really dont know what to say to her. I feel like a hypocrite saying anything about weight gain to her. I suffer from an ED and i totally get the emotions that weight gain can bring but i feel like i dont have the right to say anything comforting to her about it because of my ED. 

I guess i just need to try and listen and be a sounding board for her. 17 weeks to go, so hopefully the last part is a little better. Then again, its coming into the hottest part of the year here and i can imagine that it wont be too fun.

Is there any family that your son could stay with for a while. I know that i put my parents through hell as a teen. I moved out of home for a month to try and help the situation, give my parents a break from me, me a break from them. Is that a possibility for you and your family???

What about getting your son into therapy. When teens are this manipulative, getting police and CPS involved in normal everyday situations, then something else must be going on in his head, for him to be acting on in this way, to this level of extremes. Any possibility here??

I dont know how CPS works in the States, but is it possible for you to let them know that you are concerned about his behaviour and believe that he would benefit from some type of psychological/behavioural intervention???

Original Post by celestia007:

So, is it bad for one's body to eat junk (on occasion) when on a weight gain diet? (I'm aiming for 1800 calories) and currently at 89 lbs, 5" 3....

Or, better just to shut down those thoughts and avoid it all together for the time being?

Thanks for your input! :)

Your calorie aim/intake is too low to begin with. You need to be having 2500 to gain!!!!

As for junk food, its not nutritionally dense, your body needs vitamins, minerals, good fats, protein etc to repair the damage done while being underweight. Gaining weight is important but so is repairing your body. You will gain by eating junk food but it doesnt have the nutrients needed for body repair. 

I would say that like anyone else, eating junk is ok definatly !!!! Once in a while is fine, i guess it would even be ok to add so called junk items into your meal plan everyday (ie - a choc bar as part of a snack, ice cream for dessert etc) but if you were guna try basing your main meals around items like big macs, youre not really guna get the nutrition that you need. Again, having a big mac, chicken nuggets etc for a meal once or twice a week is sweet but not every day.

I lost my period at a normal, healthy weight but it was/s due to starvation etc. I have a normal healthy body fat % but i have lost my period anyway. I did get it back once for a couple of cycles when i was eating healthier and my body was more nourished. I think it has alot to do witht he amount of weight you have lost and how fast. If you have lost a significant amount of weight in a short space of time then that may very well be a cause of the loss of your menstural cycle. 

In saying that, a few years ago i was only gettin a period once every few months. Went to the doctor, she thought it was likely to be cause by weighing too much. Anyway turned out i had a cyst on one of my ovaries so that when i ovulated fromt hat ovary, it was just helping the cyst to grow, and only mensturating when i ovulated from the other ovary. 

Best thing to do is to see your gp.

Youve already answered your own question. If you gain on 2000 then maintainance cals will be lower, if you gain on 2500 then maintainance cals will be higher. If you were previously eating 2000cals and maintaining but are now eating 2000 and gaining then your maintanance cals will be lower. 

 think you posted before about being hungry on 2000 cals and worried about how hungry you will be on lower maintance cals. I think it would be better to increase the cals to 2500, gain on that then you can eat more on maintance and not be hungry.

You definatly need to get yourself to a doctor ASAP

A 2lb gain in one night is not real weight. I had a 4lb gain in one night and i was so upset, i knew it wasnt real but it upset me anyway. I figured out that it was most likely due to the fact, that while i had had alot to drink that day, i had mostly diet soda and diet energy drinks = LOTS of sodium. That was the cause of my gain. Its gone today and an extra bit, so no biggie. 

Eating only 800-1200 cals is going to seriously mess up your metabolism. If your body learns to function on so little cals your metabolism will slow down. It will learn that it needs to hold onto weight so when you do eat more, you are more likely to gain weight. 

If you raise your cals up, you will initially gain a couple of water weight lbs but it will speed up your metabolism so that you wont have such a small number of maintance cals when it gets to that point. If you are losing on 800-1200 then maintance is only going to be about 1500-1700 clas. Thats really a dieting calorie number. If you raise you cals to say 1400-1800 cals then your metabolism will speed up and maintance cals will be higher, say 1800-2100.

Wouldnt you prefer to be eating more and still losing weight??

I do understand the fear that you will put all the weight back on but if you have gone about this weight loss as a lifestyle change then you wont put weight back on. 800-1200 isnt a lifestyle change its a desperate attempt to lose weight fast, and yes if you keep it up you will most likely put some of it back on. Increase the cals, make healthy lifestyle changes and you will get the weight off and keep it off.

Could be that you have or had a uninary tract infection. Ive heard that urgency is a symptom, ie. the feeling of needing to go. 

It could be that the reason for wetting the bed was a deep sleep combined with a UTI. 

Maybe go to your GP and get tested for a UTI. 

I had a flatmate who had major problems with being able to go #2 and he said that it was related to being able to relax. He said that his doctor recommended to him that he should give himself a long time in the bathroom, not just get it over and done with type thing. He put a gameboy type thing in the bathroom, and would sit there for ages and just play it while on the toilet. He said that it helps help relax so that he could go. 

Prehaps the fact the mornings are so rushed on weekdays, you arent able to relax. I know that if im rushing out the door, even if i need to go, i cant just sit around on the toilet for half an hour trying to go. Being able to relax and let your body doing its thing is a big part of it i think. 

Could you try getting yup 15 mins - half an hour earlier, having a nice warm cup of water (told this helps) or coffee (definatly works for me) and go sit on the toilet for 15 mins or so, try and relax, maybe read a magazine. After the time is up and you still havnt gone, then go about you normal morning routine, and hope it works the next day i guess. 

THANK YOU SO SO MUCH!!!!!!

Have taken both panadol and ibuprofen and am about to head off to bed. So hoping its better tomorrow. Not looking forward to sitting for upwards of 10 hours with this discomfort. 

ANyway thank you again for the advice. Very helpful and very much appreciated!!

I have a cream called soov - it was initially perscribed for numbing my chill-blanes. Would this be ok to try and numb the area??

I didnt think of taking any type of pain relief medication would help but will go take some panadol now and hope that helps. 

In the past they have only been this bad for a day or so, so hopefully by morning they will have gone down and be less painful. Doesnt help that im doing exams right now, so i am sitting the majority of the day. 

Thank you so much for the advice. I also have a hot water bottle handy, as its still very winterish here, so will give that a go too.

Thanks so much