Posts by doug8120

Original Post by supersized:

Lalie I can see your issue with maintenance. The New Rules of Lifting for women is something you may want to pick up. It has a lot of body weight motions in the book. You can start muscle building with stuff like squats, lunges, rows, presses etc..., and you will need the muscle to increase your burn ratio, which you will really need to do to bring up your calories, which is essential to allow yourself to manage your loss long term. Now that you've reached your goal, you might consider giving up the scale for a couple of months as you try to transition into maintenance. Go with clothes and how they fit / look. But you will definitely need the building muscle + more food to make that happen.

Thanks for the advice, but I guess I use this list to get all my worries out - I don't really worry about the maintenance. I will always remember that I was at this weight once before (through hard work - not counting before I gained weight) and I am not going to lose what I gained! (or gain what I lost... you know what I mean.)

And each of us is different in our weight loss - I for example have been weighing myself everyday and plan to continue. If the weight goes up I know why and I can compensate accordingly before it gets too far. I would freak out if I was trying to lose weight and could not check my progress - who knows what could be happening!

Like you told Wenchie, the scale is just data that you can use.

I have also been thinking about the weight lifting - and I am starting to face the fact that I did not really enjoy the power lifting (that's the real reason I did not go back!) and I am better off doing exercise that I enjoy and will keep doing (walking, pilates, indoor rock climbing) than lifting weights just because it would be good for weight loss. But I am lucky that I have a good base of muscle anyway!

Lalie

Well, this past week has had its ups and downs. Made it to my goal weigth but mostly because I was dehydrated. then ate too much at a Xmas party so the weight moved back up a few lbs. Then back down - maintained for a couple of days then, back up for my period!!

I seem to also be having a bit of trouble with increasing what I eat in order to maintain the goal weight: Once I start eating a bit more - the flood gates open and I want everything. (or at least those two chocolate chip cookies I ate last night - but I did recognise that I was full after two/ and it was probably the hormones talking, since i don't even like chocolate chip all that much!)

EXERCISE: Like tiegurl I also love to walk, so that is my first choice for exercise. If I have the time I will walk everywhere.

On a weekly basis I have been doing a pilates class 2X per week (+ 30 min walk each way) and My weight watcher's meeting is downtown which is 60 min each way. I have also been known to walk home from various friends houses/ errands which can be up to a 2 hour walk.

I also bought a rowing machine, so that on days when I have not done any walking/ pilates, I can row while watching TV in the evenings.

I am still planning to start doing some weight lifting, in my case the Olympic weight lifting club because it is so inexpensive, close to my house and has very flexible hours but I did about 1 hour a couple of weeks ago and couldn't use my quads for the next week and a half!!!! I will try again soon, but I will admit to being a wimp this time and use the tiniest weights possible so I don't do that again. (I was only lifting 15kg the first day, but I'll stick with 10 kg next time)

I keep dreaming of going back to the gym and running on the treadmill like I did last year but I have only so much money and would rather spend it on the pilates classes.

And congrats! defrog ! Is this your first?

Lalie

Julie: It is good to hear you so positive! Good going with the goals - everything goes better when you can get into a zone and keep going! Have fun at your reward!

(I'm more boring - I just keep getting massages ever 5 lbs)

FTF: have you tried getting/suggesting some candy you can't stand? I won't eat a mint if I was starving to death - maybe there is something others like but you don't.

Sara: I envy you the job interviews! Hope they pan out. I'll keep my fingers crossed.

I am in a weird spot in terms of employability - I am getting good at applying for exhibitions, grants etc. but I haven't got a day job, (and no obvious job skills) but now the kids are older I really should be earning something! Sigh!

I'm spending the next 6 weeks trying to stay the same weight - neither gain nor lose, so I should get used to eating more/ find a balance in that time.What was weird wasn't that I ate at the party, but the psychological sabotage- "yeah I'm there!/ quick let's wreck it!"

(and nobody should eat that nacho cheese salsa!)

Lalie

weekly check in: Well, predictably, after my surprising weigh in last Saturday (158.8) I went to a tree trimming party and ate ... whatever I wanted! The bad thing is that I can't resist that cheap nacho cheese dip! Which is probably the worst stuff to eat on the planet. At least I did not polish off a whole jar while watching TV alone - I ate too much at a party, a few wholegrain tostitos at a time.

The next day I did my best to reconstruct the accident evening and I figure I ate just over 3000 cal. Weight bounced back up to 161.5

But I was back on the wagon the next day (and it could have been much worse, really)

Today I am back to 160.5, and have been trying to get at least 500 cal. worth of activities done per day.

BUT the weird thing was: It felt really strange to have reached my goal weight, to move on into the scarier world of weight maintenance. I feel safer back at "I have a few lbs to lose". I keep saying the 158.8 was a fluke, just water loss, etc. That I had somehow not gotten there honestly.

It is the maintenance that scares me silly, and I have to keep it up for the next 50 years!

(one other sad/funny thing. Last night my husband (healthy, active and fit) was complaining that all his jeans were in the wash, so he pulled on one of my new, size 12 pants... and they were hanging off his bum! all lose around the thighs... boo hoo hooo. He is still skinnier than me. (he's 5 11 and 162 lbs)

Lalie

Hi everyone,

I'd like to introduce you to Meg:

Meg is a special events coordinator who lives in outside St Louis, MO. The lucky girl lives in a rural area and so can watch the stars at night unlike us city dwellers.

Despite being only 24 (25 in January!) she organizes Fairs and festival, and feel she is pretty good at organizing.

She has two brothers, one older and one younger and has been dating her high school sweetheart for nearly 8 years. They moved in together a year ago and she secretly hopes he will get her a golden retriever puppy for Xmas -lets hope he reads this too...

She loves the outdoors and all that goes with it; hiking, camping and swimming. But she also loves indoor stuff like shopping, board games and spending time with friends and her boyfriend. She likes to watch  House and Bones  on TV and is looking forward to the return of 24. Her favorite movie of all time is Dirty Dancing. Evenings when she is not playing board games with friends you can find her curled up with a John Grisham or a Jennifer Weiner novel.

She is really good at sports cooking and lifting weights and did I mention organizing? But not sprinting, and she feels she is no good at standing up for herself.

She supports Communities Healing Adolescent Depression and Suicide ( and you could find out more at http:/www.chadscoalition.org/ )

So, that's Meg in a nutshell - let's all be glad that one of her secret vices is the internet - so she can always makes time for her internet friends!

Lalie

Hi Chocoholic,

well, at 110-112 lbs or so you have a BMO of just under 18. Which as I guess you know is a bit low.  How we feel about our bodies is all relative! We tend to only see the changes. So while I am barely at a healthy weight I feel amazed because all my clothes are now too big, and I look so different.

You, who could weight up to 155 lbs (fainted yet?) and still be a healthy weight, feel fat if you see a few lbs come on. Relax, You have a lot of leeway, a lot of room to try not counting your calories, before you get fat.

But you have probably realized that it is not the actual numbers on the scale which is the problem, but the obsessing over it.

Try just keeping a log of what you eat, and don't look up the calories till later, give yourself a chance to live without planning it too much.

And maybe try to give yourself a higher weight limit - say at least 118 and stay at that weight for a while until you get used to looking at yourself at that weight.

Good luck,

Lalie

One oz. of pretzels...

http://caloriecount.about.com/calories-pretze ls-hard-i19047

Hi everyone,

Thank you to Sara for the One Month message! I can't believe it has been a month already. Seems I just started this. In your message you asked me to say something about what has worked for me this past month, so here goes.

I have lost over 15 lbs since I started logging things on CC, (21 lbs since starting to keep track) which is great, and I have 4 - 7 more to go depending on how I measure (naked in the morning or fully dressed at my Weight Watcher's meeting.

But I don't know if I am a good example for anyone else, because I have been doing it a bit all or nothing (still) so I mostly get by through sheer force of will. I keep my goal present in my mind at each turn, and I have given myself a deadline (get to the goal weight before my pre-paid weight-Watcher's package is used up), so I can't even say, "oh what the hell, I'll catch up tomorrow or next week....'

The challenge for me is not losing the weight... the hard part for me will start the day I get to my goal weight, and continue for the next 50 years....

HOMEWORK:

Funny you should ask what I don't log, because I am starting to find my logging a bit pathological! I find I can't eat until I have logged the food and know there are no big surprises in my food choices. I will eventually have to wean myself off logging everything, but for now, I log just about everything.

I sometimes skip stuff like vinegar, or lemon juice, or other flavorings since they are usually so tiny and add up to so little.

I also sometimes don't log bites of other peoples foods if they are to complicated to calculate.

I have found having a family around, eating fun stuff great, because I can have a polite bite (not a piggy bite) to taste something and not feel I am missing out completely, yet not feel obliged to order / make a whole piece myself. The kids are much happier now because my "little bites" are actually little now!!

Lalie

Ditto for the telling off stuff, but add to that the admission that I was doing the same thing for a while.

I did not really intend to eat so little, but just kept cutting back more and more to keep the weight coming off, but finally it started going up despite the low cals.

So I bit the bullet and started eating more (1200 - 1500 cal) and after a week, the weight started to go down again anyway! Not spectacularly but a 1 or 2 a week.

So don't worry, commit a week to raising the cals. to a normal level and it should even out again.

Lalie

Original Post by carrie099:

I just hate my shapeless body so much, the only solution seems to lose a bit of weight as I was happier with it then. 

 

 

If you want curves on your shapeless bod, the only solution is to eat more - not less!
Guess what those curves that make a woman look like a woman are made of? Fat!

Women normally have more healthy body fat than men and that's what rounds off the hips and fills out the breasts.

You still have a lot of leeway between where you are now (BMI19) and your healthiest weight. So have a few healthy, rich snacks for the rest of us!!

Lalie

Watch out for some of the online sites to buy acai berry (like the sponsored link ones just to the rigth!!!) My friend tried one and it was a complete scam - once you send away for the free sample , you find out that they will keep charging you, and sending a new shipement each month UNLESS you call and cancel, but she was never able to get through to cancel! She had to cancel her credit card.
But I also agree with hkellick - you don't need to detoxify - just get more fiber and eat good food.

Lalie

Hi,

I worked as a nude model for 3-4 years, until I had my first child and the scheduling grew too complicated.
There is nothing sexual about modeling, and it is great for body image because a great model to draw is not necessarily thin.
It is hard work though, holding a pose is not natural and the body rebels - pins and needles, etc.
If your boyfriend has issues with this, he should maybe find out more about it and you should think about how much control he should have over what you do....
Our society has a lot of hang ups and taboos around nudity, which are artificial and old fashioned.
Good luck with the decision.

Lalie

Hi Sarah, don't get frustrated, it is the worst thing, cause then you feel bad (which makes you eat more), just catch yourself before you fall further off is all you can do at the moment! Move forward, never look back!

Good luck with the next week!

Lalie

Hi,

my name is Lalie and I have just joined the wagon jumpers.

I am 5'7" and currently 170.5 lbs (down from 185 recently)

I gained a lot of weight (210 lbs) when I was pregnant (3 kids) and lost it all after the 3rd, but alas, gained most of it back. It was so hard and so long to do the first time that I could not get up my courage to do it again, so I have been losing a bit and gaining a bit for the last 7 years.

This is my latest try and I am doing great. But the hard part is yet to come - the last 10-15 lbs and then maintaining it for the next 40-50 years!!!

Lalie

Right now I am 172 and my size 15 pants are nice and baggy! looks terrible but makes me happy - I'll buy new ones when I get a bit lower.

Recently I have been fitting into size 14 stuff at around 180.

I think when I weighed 155 I fit into size 11/12 stuff, but I have wide hips.