Posts by lovegrowsontrees

I like hugs, but I don't like to initiate them. I feel like the act of hugging doesn't fit in with my persona very well or that it'd creep people out. : (

Original Post by linz1990:

Original Post by lovegrowsontrees:

[generalization] Those darn fat girls, always bitter about skinny girls who can eat whatever they want without gaining weight. [/generalization]

Body superiority, in any form, is stupid.

I think that a lot of you are missing the point of this post.  The bottom line isn't about bashing naturally skinny girls, or naturally larger girls.  The point is that the poster, who used to feel self-conscious about herself around her skinny friend, has grown to love and accept her body.  And I feel like some of the people posting on this thread are too wrapped up in their own self-consciousness to notice the real point here.  Bottom line, a teenager has learned to love her body as it is, and that's pretty rare at such a difficult age.

The point went way over my head, obviously.

Yeah, it's great that she's learned to love her body, but that doesn't mean being all "lulz I can bike 4 hours and my thin ex friend can't" is a particularly healthy attitude. How is a thread entitled 'Those darn stick girls' promoting positive body image as a whole? That's the bit that annoyed me, and for the record, I'm not thin. It just irritates me when people, however indirectly, say negative things about people of other sizes. Generalizations and misconceptions piss me off. Why can't we all quit looking at each other's bodies, making assumptions, and judging?

if he said it's okay how it is, what gives you the impression that he's hoping for more?

and yeah, I don't think there's anything wrong with a casual sort of relationship like that as long as you're both honest about what you want from it, and there are no misconceptions.

fitnessgirll, i thought your name was fitnessgrill. so i lol'd.

addictionally  i haz cat and booze

Wow, you look great :). I wish I looked that good at 160.

It sounds to me like they're just trying to bully you into getting a trainer. While some people plateau and gain it all back, that doesn't mean you will. You can work through plateaus. You can lose weight by yourself. You don't need a trainer, nutritionist, life coach or anyone else to lose 35 lbs. While these resources are very helpful, they aren't necessary.

Plenty of people on here have lost much more than that without trainers. It's impressive. I don't even go to a gym right now, and I've lost 10 lbs which are not coming back. I've learned so much from the forums on Calorie Count as well (especially the fitness one). I think that if someone has the education, creativity and determination, they can make it work.

Be proud, and don't get down on yourself. :D Good luck!

Also, I'm around 160 too, and my goal is 130. If you want someone to chat with when you're feeling discouraged, you can message me if you like :3

He's either a creep or he just doesn't know that he's coming off that way. Who knows. You should call him and go from there.

The fact that he's unmarried isn't an indicator of anything imo.

I've never noticed chunkier girls having nice faces any more than thinner girls, but 'nice face' is subjective. People can attractive at any weight. To be totally honest, I have a fat face, and it's not pretty. I'll look much better all around when I lose weight.

[generalization] Those darn fat girls, always bitter about skinny girls who can eat whatever they want without gaining weight. [/generalization]

Body superiority, in any form, is stupid.

Original Post by merylwhite1:

Agreed. It seems odd to me that they are sort of claiming they are a size acceptance show because they feature... only large women. If they are as interested in portraying "Real women" as they claim on the promo video, why isn't there a range of sizes portrayed? All they've done is move to the other end of the weight spectrum, which is really no better than showing all skinny women.

Quoted for truth. Why do they only show the outliers? There is a ground between size 0 and 16+

Nah, I don't think you can delete, but you can edit out what you wrote.

That seems like enough. http://www.bcm.edu/cnrc/bodycomp/bmiz2.html is a good site, btw.

And if you're insecure about your body, I'd say keep exercising like you are and you'll look better and get stronger. You don't neccessarily have to lose weight. Anyways, good luck : ).

I was hoping for girls who weren't insecure/desperate in their demeanor, but seeing as it's a dating show, I don't know how I could've expected that. I hate it when TV attempts to be genuine and just embarrasses itself. For the most part, that was a pathetic hour.

Showing the height and weight didn't bug me though. As a contestant, your emotions and intimate actions with a stranger are being exposed, so how is weight a big deal by comparison? People on reality shows usually lack shame and modesty anyways.

^ Not that funny.

Suzanne Somers + doctors who apparently don't know anything =/= holy medical advice

Original Post by merylwhite1:

OP: as someone who has struggled with eating disorders, I don't think this is healthy for you to be posting about.

usually i'd be like "don't drag her personal life into this" but honestly, these topics are kind of pointless and a bit triggering. and between 'what size are you' and 'whats your bmi', idk, could someone explain the logic behind it?