Posts by bumfuzzled

Original Post by jblarghp:

edit to add: for people who are saying it's too thin for someone 5'4"....I've never weighed over 118 pounds in my life. I have a small frame and look completely healthy at 110 pounds. it depends on the person.

 Yes, this is true.  I have a medium frame.

Original Post by loriklorik:

 Least paid employee is uneducated, unskilled, un-everything. They just need to move widget A to slot B..... they dont make value, they dont manage anything, they just mindlessly DO. We would get monkeys to do it if we could (though, we found out its better to get robots to do it for larger scale).

So....1200 times sounds about right heh.

 I can guarantee you if these employees don't do a good job of moving widget A to slot B they will be fired.

If a CEO (who is supposedly so valuable) drives a company into the ground, he needs to be fired too.  Plain and simple!

He obviously was not doing his job. 

Wow, I just read your bio.  You are so full of life and love.  Your family and pets are SO lucky to have you!

I'm sorry I don't have the answer for you.  I have to admit I'm rather perplexed as to why you would feel this way about yourself.  You've accomplished way more in your life than I have (I'm 47) and you have a really big family and what sounds like a perfect husband (if there is such a thing  )

Anyway, somewhere along the line you decided that everyone else deserved your love and attention, but not you.  I realize you already know this, but can you pinpoint why?  I mean, do you just think that deep down inside you are inherently bad?  Or is it purely physical;you hate your body? 

As far as your weight and health go, you know a lot of your problems are related, and if you could get just one thing resolved or under control it would more than likely resolve something else.  Out of curiosity, have you been checked for a tumor (cist?) on your pituitary gland? It sounds like such a long shot, but what if that were the problem all along?

I agree with catria, this is not your fault.  Something has gone awry here and you've been left to deal with it.  I am amazed at the life you have built while having to go through all this.

If anything, you deserve to be put up on a pedestal.

Well, if you're a jerk, then I must be one too.

My problem is that losing (or gaining) 5 more pounds isn't going to make any difference for me.  Neither is losing or gaining 50 pounds.

I'm just not shaped like a "real woman" since "real' women have curves.

I get really sick of hearing that, because there's nothing I can do about it.  I will NEVER have curves.  If I'm thin, I look like a ruler.  If I'm even close to the middle of my healthy weight I have fat rolls around my waist.  I look like a can of biscuits busted open.

I always feel like my character is being judged.  I mean, if I'm thin (trying to FIND some kind of curve under there) I get accused of wanting to be a stick figure like the women in Hollywood.  If I gain to a more normal weight I get teased for having fat rolls (even though my legs are skinny) and told that if I would work out more I would have more curves.

I work out six days a week.  I CANNOT change my shape.

Anyway, I didn't mean to get off on my own rant there.

You are NOT a jerk.  But doesn't it feel good to get something like that out of your system?

This comes in handy when you're in a situation where you can't measure, which for me is most of the time!

I HATE lunges!  But in reading all these posts, I've decided my body must be really weird because I don't feel it in my glutes.  I feel it on the tops of my thighs (quads?).  Especially my right one.

Am I doing something wrong?

Wow, I could have been the one writing this post.  I have exactly the same problem.

I don't have curvy hips, and that's why I have the muffin top when I put on pants.

I watch What Not to Wear all the time, hoping to get some ideas for my body shape, but it seems most of the participants are pears or hour glasses.  Or at least they have big boobs.  If I had big boobs it would detract from my thick middle.

Anyway, I feel for you.  It's a shame we lose our self esteem over something so stupid, but we do.  We see too much on tv and in magazines.  I mean, look at how they literally pick apart each woman on the red carpet at awards shows.  It's no wonder we do the same to ourselves.  If we don't see a flaw in ourselves, we certainly will after watching one of those shows.

I like luthien_j's idea.  It's something I'm going to look into soon.

Original Post by melkor:

Meh, a far easier way to have a more favourable waist-to-hip ratio and a better BMI would be to build up some muscle on those hips.

 Add in some capped shoulders, put on a litte muscle in the upper lats, leave the waistline alone - no more apple shape.

 I just bought New Rules of Lifting for Women and I'm working on getting my weights together.

But I was really disappointed to read that I can't bulk up.  I was counting on that to help me reshape my body.  So you think I can still do that?

bonny08, will you post back here which one you decide to go with and let us know how it goes?  I've been wanting something like this also.

Thanks opusanna.  I've just started working on some of those exercises and have found that I really suck at lunges :(  I suppose this is the area I need to focus on the the most.

I'm going to move ahead and try this anyway even if it doesn't make my lower body curvier because it seems I really need to build up my strength.

Thanks again!