Posts by unhappygirl17

Original Post by ibez:

Happiness is relative. It's a simple process: "I am __________, but not _________ like I want to be". It could be "I am obese, but not average like I want to be" or "I am average, but not fit like I want to be", or even "I am almost perfect, but not perfect like I want to be". A very obese person may think you have no reason to be struggling with body image, and with exactly the same reasoning that you have.

Point is, it doesn't matter where you are, if you want to get somewhere and feel like you're working hard to get there, it will be frustrating if you aren't seeing progress. It doesn't matter if their opinions don't have as much merit as a heavier person's opinions might. You're not going to change how people feel. You have your goals, they have theirs, and everyone's goals come with their own frustrations. That's just the way things are, and at any rate it's just better to stay focused on your own goals rather than compare yourself to other people.

And if they're behaving in a way that you don't think is productive, telling them that isn't going to change the way they act. It's pointless, just worry about your own goals and do what you need to do.

 Very true, Ibez. You raise a valid point. I apologize to anyone this post has offended.. I myself, as a few of you pointed out, am not fat; in fact some might call me skinny... and yet, hypocritically, I feel I have far to go. Just as someone who is thin might feel they too need to lose 5lbs, tone up, etc. I guess in the heat of the moment (after reading some very thin girls self-involved journal entries) I became angry and posted this in anger. I guess part of me is the same as they are: a bit narcassistic and vain. I sometimes obsess over my figure too... I suffer from depression and sometimes I can be very negative.. haha I see some of you have read my journal! hahah ... I find it funny & ironic that I have actually revealed that I sometimes do what I have criticized so harshly in this post. What a realization... thanks to those who have helped me see it, however bluntly (sfredbull, phimegaphi)  Sorry for picking on those of you who are very thin.. I guess you are just an easy target for pointing out behaviors A LOT of us (dare I say ALL) practice whether we realize it or not.. at least I have sparked an interesting discussion. Everyone who has posted so far has voiced an interesting point of view.. Again, apologies to those who I may have offended. Society and a number of other factors have encouraged us to feel this way.. it is very sad. I hope everyone on here gets where they want to be someday :)

Cheers!

Thanks for the input guys! I actually have not weighed myself in a looong time, and I don't plan to for a while! I only want to lose like 5-10lbs, and thanks to all the compliments. I was not expecting any... :D

Also, I'm sure I was sucking it in for a few of these pictures, pottsjen, considering I was having my picture taken in a bikini I think most people would probably have done the same!! correct me if i'm wrong ladies!! haha