Posts by tealparadise

Original Post by housenut03:

My BMI is 17 right now, but it's BEEN 14.5, so I guess I really don't feel like I'm all that in need of help right now. But I guess that's being in denial.

You sound just like my friend Gemma did a few weeks ago.   She was saying that she was a whole XXlbs above her low weight, which must be so fat.  She kept justifying it to herself that she was so far from her low weight that a few more pounds off wouldn't hurt, even though her BMI was similar to yours. 

Then she got a chest infection, which she always gets when she's being unhealthy.  That was the first tip-off, but she explained that she's just prone to them now from having them before.

Then she started having panic attacks, which she also only gets when she's being unhealthy, but she reasoned that she was just getting them because of her sickness... then her weight kept dropping and now I'm afraid that she's gotten very seriously ill again.

The whole time, she was resisting getting treatment, saying that she was fine &  she was staying healthy.  She didn't even realize that just by losing the weight, her reasoning was no longer sound and she couldn't stop once she got started.  I haven't seen her in weeks now, I hope that her family managed to get her sent to get some help.

Wow, that's impressive to me.  I have never once been able to resist restaurant bread haha.  It's a dealbreaker.

How am I dealing with Thanksgiving?  Well I'm going to a friend's house and her family DOESNT LIKE PUMPKIN.  And they apparently don't have plans for any pies other than the apple one I am bringing.... I know that they will not know the difference if I make a mediocre apple pie on purpose so that I don't get tempted, but i dunno.   I think I will at least get a premade crust to save myself time and temptation, since the filling really won't be too unhealthy.  I'll healthify it anyway.  I'll just make fantastic filling and apologize about the crust.

Beyond pie, there's nothing that really tempts me for thanksgiving.  Sure, I love turkey and gravy, but 1 day of stuffing myself with that won't really hurt me.  I've been trying to keep a larger deficit all week to account for it as well.

Try all the at-home hangover remedies like gatorade and aspirin etc.  because junk food is only helping your psyche, not your body, recover from the drinking.

Eat lightly regardless of whether you think you will be going out.  I learned the hard way that my friends will ALWAYS drag me to dinner 3 hours after I've had a huge lunch.

What are your goals?  Did you know that the body will always use carbs and fat before turning to protein?  Unless you are in deficit of the first two, the extra protein is not going to help.

That being said- If you like sashimi (raw fish) or even think that you might, get 2 lb of raw tuna or salmon from a reputable place like an upscale supermarket.  Dip raw in teriyaki sauce - YUM.    Or put over rice.

If you are trying to gain, I'd say do what I want to do every day!  Take chicken + black beans + tons of avocado or guacamole + stir fry veggies and have a chipotle style fajita burrito!  (whole grain high fiber tortilla or just go without if you please)

I think Louis Black said it best about eggs, but I apply this to just about everything lol.

"First eggs are bad, then they're good, then they're bad, then the yolks are bad but the whites are good MAKE UP YOUR MIND, IT'S BREAKFAST, I HAVE TO EAT."

I totally apply that to fats, eggs, and just about anything I hear from research or the internet.  Sure, take note of it, add it to the mental stock of "facts I know" but nothing is the be-all-end-all of diet knowledge.

God muffin (or loaf lol!) tops are the worst.  It's a sure sign of denial about how much you weigh.  I know because I used to have one, but at least I'm properly ashamed!

While coffee is a laxative, you were already irregular beforehand, so perhaps it just was undoing the damage already done?  6 days of backlog is quite a bit.  Maybe try it when you aren't already in a bad place.

If you are looking for a metabolism boost I'd say the peppers thing is a sure bet.  I know many people don't like pills, but I don't like spicy! So I take cayenne pills.  They increase my resting heartrate to my walking heartrate, and my walking (90) to about 110.  The effects are not long-lived though.  For best results, green tea + cayenne + caffeine (caffeine is optional, and really if you have regular caffienated green tea you do not need it).  You can also try bitter orange (Citrus aurantium), which I believe is found in earl grey tea.  Disclaimer- do not do any of this if you have heart problems.   I have a very low blood pressure and slow heartrate, so the risk to me is negligible.

Everything about metabolism boosting is shady science honestly, but I've seen studies on the green tea / capsaican / caffeine combo.  Relatively legit, even though there was a low sample size.

Honestly, you sound super-healthy and your body may be clinging to this weight for a good reason.  I'd suggest perhaps doing some light muscle work and toning up while you are struggling, as it's easier to build muscle now.

Hmmm what else (I've seen tons of these threads so I'm trying to remember it all)  Calorie Cycling!  Like 1200 one day, 1600 the next, 1300 after that.

Also- drinking water is not just for your weight!  It will greatly improve your running as well.  I used to run and it's so rough running dehydrated!  Just carry a bottle everywhere and it will become habit to drink from it.

Annnddddd ... you could try upping your protein percentage.  Not low-carb per say, but if you are doing 30C/30P/30F  you could try 20C/50P/20F, as protein has the highest thermogenic effect out of all the macronutrients.

Original Post by gi-jane:

If you see something you don't like hit the 'report violation' button....

That's only for entire threads though, which makes it look like you think the original poster is at fault, not the following comments.

Yeah, I've pretty much stopped being active on the forums because of the abuse that's started against anyone who isn't conforming to any one member's view of a perfect diet, perfect BMI, etc etc.  There really needs to be some kind of mod action against it.  I get that each person can suggest their own diet or state their opinion that something is unhealthy, but people are starting to do it in a "If you aren't already following MY rules you must be dumb!" kind of way.

It is in the "how to get a thread locked" sticky that you aren't allowed to abuse or harass other members, but there's such a vague definition.  No name-calling obviously, or trolling, but I've seen TONS of posts that snark at someone for having an ED when they do not, which I consider a form of name-calling.  Even nastier than names actually, because there are people who read here who probably do have problems like that.

Also- I've started seeing a lot of members, if they can't get the incriminating data they want, they will go into the poster's personal journal and previous posts, and use things there to discount anything the poster may say.  I think this qualifies as harassment when what they find are not relevant to the post, and are only used to fuel a personal attack.

For example: Giasbash (sorry if I spelled it wrong!) takes (very gracefully I might add) **** from a few members who will see her post in a thread, look and see her interesting diet on her profile, and then use that against her even if the post is mostly unrelated, basically discounting what she says.  They just never say specifically "anorexic!" or any real "name."

Or I've seen someone complaining about meat making her ill due to her long abstinence from it, and another member replying that she probably just wanted an excuse to purge.  The person had followed her posting history back to find that she used to be bulimic, but that fact was completely unrelated to the discussion.

Just this week a girl posted a generic "Omg don't you hate when ____________?! " sort of rant, and was immediately attacked by two people and called anorexic (without using the names of course) and dumb, then someone stalked her posting history back and found her stats to parade to everyone, and guess what, she was over the average weight for her age.  So it didn't even make sense for them to bash her.

I consider that harassment.  Sorry for the long post, but it's been bothering me for a while, and I hope the mods see this.

Original Post by niccole-abel:

Original Post by tealparadise:

 

These horrible comments are completely unwarranted. 

***What horrible comments we have just told her she is at a healthy place.

 

Beyond that, these kinds of comments from people (not the comments in the original post) are what CAUSE people to feel low self-esteem.   Way to be Internet bullies. 

*** what has been said besides she is at a healthy point to really look at herself for herself and not compare herself to an unhealthy standard.   I'm pretty sure telling her she is perfect how she is, is the exact opposite of bulling.

Well I had to answer these comments. 

Original Post by rosieblue:

I bet you're verging on underweight and you probably won't tell how much you weigh no matter how many times you're asked.  Right?  And if somebody says something you don't like, you're going to freak on them.  Right?

Original Post by hedgren:

You didn't provide your weight for a reason. 5'3".

Uh huh. So what? How old are you? This your first massive diet? What's your BMI? How compulsively are you exercising and restricting your calories? How much weight have you lost?

Any history in your family of eating disorders, addictive behaviors, compulsions? Did you know that genetics can trigger a change in your brain when you start restricting calories that will inevitably result in an eating disorder?

All you've done is whine that you don't believe people around you saying you are skinny. Are you just looking for a bunch of posts to confirm how silly people can be in thinking you are underweight when obviously you are not because you have small hips?! Well, sorry I can't oblige.

Oh yeah, these comments are just telling her that she's healthy and should be happy.  Totally innocuous.

what.... how does a HRM transfer between machines? If that happened wouldnt the machines' monitors transfer too?

I just want to chime in that your dress in that pic is beautiful!  It's a bit hard to tell you how much to lose from just your arms, but you look like you have a nice shape.

Try eating only things for which you actually know the calorie count for a few days.  Packaged things aren't always bad - frozen fruit and veggies have calories and serving sizes on the bags.

Then if you feel hungrier or the weight comes off, you were underestimating your calories.

Yep.  I always do it in my head and just jot it down at the end of the day.

One thing I did for a while was wear jelly bracelets that each *equaled* 100 calories, and I'd take them off as I ate to remind me.

Are you saying we'd be forced to eat it every day or what?  Cause if that's the case  I'd like to be forced to eat something good for me in the mornings!  (I had 1/2 a submarine sandwich for breakfast today lol)

So mine would be 3 scrambled egg whites and a banana.