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| The Lounge | Society and the Eating Disordered | Aug 10 2009 15:12 (UTC) |
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I agree with merylwhite1, I too have suffered anorexia at the age of 14, and felt no pity or the like. People were more judging, made rude comments, and were generally unkind. I don't think ED victims get any more sympathy than obesity victims. It is not a perfect world, and life willingly hands out problems. NO ONE deals with them the right way all the time. It is so much easier to live a lie than own up and feel pain. As for the media, look at the tabloids. Eating disorder victims are there and obese victims. Neither get special treatment, both are looked down upon. If the latter gets more hostility as has been previously mentioned, then yes it is society's fault. Thinness has been idolized so the sickness of ED is idolized. Personally I think people should make an effort to be kind to everyone and stop judging. I know we are human, we mess up, so judging is will never completely end, but no one is stopping us from trying. |
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| Weight Loss | 5'1" - 5'2" girls what is your goal weight? | Jul 30 2009 18:29 (UTC) |
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I was told by a nutritionist that my ideal weight is 112. I am 5'2'' and that is where I feel the best with body image, confidence, and health wise. |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | really desperatly need help, dont know weather to terminate pregnancy | Jul 27 2009 15:30 (UTC) |
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Tani, Do what you know is right. |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | really desperatly need help, dont know weather to terminate pregnancy | Jul 27 2009 14:42 (UTC) |
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pgeorgian- Why do you feel the need to backstab every response that is for the baby. We are thinking about other people than ourselves. By the way, this isn't your post, and it is not your place to tell everyone else they are wrong and you are the only one with correct advice. The OP asked for advice and we are just responding with our comments and opinions, she can take what she wants from it. |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | really desperatly need help, dont know weather to terminate pregnancy | Jul 27 2009 14:05 (UTC) |
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Now that there is a baby (a real human being, who you are debating whether or not to kill/murder) growing inside of you, it is no longer about you or your husband. It is about the baby. That child has just as much right to life as you do or anyone else who has commented or anyone else in the world. I know women who have aborted children and they are spending the rest of their lives haunted by it. They think about where their child would be at this or that point in life. They talk about how the abortion clinics do not care about you once you are in there. It is an extrememly painful process, and not just emotionally. One woman walked into an abortion clinic, and saw how truly awful it was, she wanted to leave. But since she had an appointment they drug her into the room and literally murdered her child before her eyes. They strapped her down so they could kill the baby. Another time a women talked about how the abortion procedure went wrong and when they were sucking the child limbs off, the baby came out and writhed in pain on the table until dead. And she had to watch all of it. I know people can and probably will come back at me and say they know people who had the most pleasant experience during the murder of their children, but it is not always that way. |
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| Health & Support | What Now... after anorexia/binging/ losing weight | Jul 25 2009 15:14 (UTC) |
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Thank you for your responses. I have no problem eating when I am hungry, but I just can't stop eating. My main problem is that I cannot tell myself no. When I think of something I want to eat, I will eat it when I get hungry, but after I have let myself stop eating, I can't stop. This usually only happens at snacks, not meals. Thanks again. |
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| The Lounge | Evolution or Creationism? Which do you believe, and why? | Jul 15 2009 23:25 (UTC) |
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I believe in God who created heaven and earth in six days. He spoke the words and what he said came to be. I do not have a doubt in my mind that evolution DID NOT HAPPEN. Why on earth would you want to believe you came from an animal. There is a Heaven and there is a Hell. God loves me and He loves each one of you. He DIED for YOU. I know there are many out there who will disagree, but how someone can disagree with the God who SAVED YOU, is beyond me. God is not "energy" or an "idea" or anything but a Spirit who lives in me. |
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| Foods | Calorie-Dense Foods for Weight LOSS? | Jun 25 2009 22:26 (UTC) |
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Thanks, that helps. I have some experimenting to do with my current diet to get everything working for me, but I will figure it out. Thanks again. |
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| Foods | Calorie-Dense Foods for Weight LOSS? | Jun 25 2009 20:46 (UTC) |
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I know this thread is pretty "old," but I just stumbled across it and have recently found myself to prefer less food, more calorie dense. I hate feeling bloated. Everytime I feel bloated I just want to eat more and more, because So, I was just wondering: Anyone who less, but more caloric food, What does a typical day of eating look like for you? |
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| Health & Support | another binger trying to stop | Jun 17 2009 00:04 (UTC) |
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*bump |
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| Health & Support | stopping after one sweet | Jun 07 2009 16:22 (UTC) |
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That might help. I will try it. thanks again |
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| Health & Support | stopping after one sweet | Jun 07 2009 15:12 (UTC) |
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Thank you for your suggestions ily51 and gi-jane. I live with other people so I can't just not have anything sweet around. I agree with you, gi-jane, that I will just have to treat it as a reality. I know that I can't just not have any sweets in the house either, because I won't stay in my house the rest of my life and never have sweets around. I have never been able to stop after one treat, I just never cared until now. I want to be healthy. |
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| Health & Support | stopping after one sweet | Jun 07 2009 05:37 (UTC) |
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Good idea! I know that brushing my teeth immediatly after works, but I struggle getting myself out of the kitchen into the bathroom to the toothbrush. I will try enforcing this rule on myself a little bit better. |
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| Health & Support | stopping after one sweet | Jun 06 2009 21:59 (UTC) |
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Thanks for the advice. I already am doing some of this, and I can abstain from all sweets, but it's the black and white, that i can have none or I have to have all I am trying to over come. Anyway, thanks again |
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| Health & Support | avoiding work - eating | May 05 2009 12:48 (UTC) |
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Thanks, I know I have to just do it, but i find it very difficult, when I am only a freshman in high school and I am running on only about 6 hours of sleep a night anyway. I only have a few outside activities, but I don't know how much longer I will be able to keep them up. I feel like it either have a life or have school, and I am struggling with that. I'll start taking advice from myself now. |
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| Health & Support | avoiding work - eating | May 05 2009 12:29 (UTC) |
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I have tried talking to people. My teachers don't listen because "they had it planned for a week now." So we just have to do it. My parents can't do anything about it. Other people have gone to the highest authority people in our school and the particular teacher gets defensive and no one can do anything about it. Am I just going to have to completely force myself to just do homework? If so, how do I force myself to just do it? |
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| Health & Support | Wow, I think I need help... | Apr 27 2009 03:18 (UTC) |
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First of all, you are not a monster, no matter what size you are. So stop thinking that right now. Second, if you want to lose weight, there are much healthier ways of doing it than starving yourself. I would know, because i had the worst experience of my life while i was anorexic, and i have memories and consequences I will be regretting for the rest of my life. Don't do it. It is not worth it. Starving yourself slows your metabolism and ends up in even more weight gain. Something else, I've been through. Eat at least, depending on age and activity level, 1200-1800 calories. And if you are really struggling with this, which it sounds like you are, I would recommend seeing a good therapist. I found a therapist who helped/ is helping me get my life back. The complete joy that comes from setting yourself free from an eating disorder, it indescribable. Remember, you are beautiful, because it is not the weight that counts. Eating healthy, exercising the right amount, and loving yourself is the best thing you could ever do for your body. |
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| Health & Support | after an eating disorder | Apr 26 2009 23:16 (UTC) |
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Thanks for replying. I just feel guilty if i don't eat all the time, or stuff myself, because then i feel like i am not eating enough. I have been preached at so much about eating, that i don't know what satisfied feels like, or how to convince myself it's okay not to stuff myself. |
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| Health & Support | Recovering from Anorexia... waist size issues... D: | Apr 16 2009 05:21 (UTC) |
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I too am 5' 2'' and recovered/recovering from anorexia. I haven't grown since diagnosis, and am close to your age, but that doesn't mean you will not grow any more. Everyone is made unique. I understand all the weight feels like it is going to your waist. I too had this. There are two reasons: 1) you have vital organs there that you need to have fat there to protect and 2) it is mostly water weight that will be gone in about 2 weeks or it will distribute else where in your body that is in need. I have been told by doctors to reach a weight of 112, it sounds scary, I feel so much more comfortable in my own skin, and i acctually feel confident. :) Lastly, you should not feel the least bit guilty being hungry and eating. The hunger is your body finally trusting you that you will feed it the nutrition it needs. Love it and give it the TLC it needs after it has been starved. The constant hunger is a very good thing, eat! Congratutlations on how far you have come!!! Keep it up. Words are not even enough to describe what life feels like after conquering ED. |
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| Health & Support | eating until sick and full | Apr 15 2009 20:36 (UTC) |
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i probably eat about 1000 calories during the day. I don't really feel all that hungry, so i don't think it is because of hunger. I still see my therapist, but not as often because she and i have decided i am not in need of as much counseling. I don't think it is ed related, because i don't really have any symptoms. Maybe i just need to learn to control how many sweets i can have, but i don't really know how without it becoming another eating disorder. |
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| Health & Support | eating until sick and full | Apr 15 2009 02:40 (UTC) |
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I eat 2,000 or over calories a day, because i eat so many fats, like peanut and almond butter, whole fat yogurt, nuts, olive oil, fish, etc, which are high calorie. I try and eat pretty much whatever foods i want in my typical diet, which includes fruits, veggies, breads, meats, fats, etc. It is only when i come home from school that i have any problems. Also if the food is in the house, i just have to eat it, then i can't stop at just one... I would like to not keep it in the house but other people living here eat it, so i can't just get rid of it. I have tried setting it off limits, because it is theirs, but i still end up eating it, i have tried just letting myself have it and i end up eating the same amount. For a time i was eating around 3,600 calories, but started getting refeeding syndrome and had to cut back or i literally could have died from it. So i don't think i am lacking any nutrients, and i know i do not have too little fat. i don't know why i still don't have my period. |
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| Health & Support | stress+food= disaster | Mar 18 2009 19:47 (UTC) |
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What works for me is sleeping, taking a warm bath, reading a good book, going for a walk just to enjoy the outdoors, playing with cats or dogs, or playing an instrument helps to releave stress. |
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| Weight Gain | anyone eat dessert? | Mar 17 2009 17:44 (UTC) |
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I eat something sweet everyday. I have even had a dietician put it in a meal plan for me everyday. She just made sure that i ate a certain number of calories from fruits, vegetables, protien, dairy, etc. Then the rest she said i could eat whatever sweets i wanted. |
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| Health & Support | protien with carb always? | Mar 08 2009 12:36 (UTC) |
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I'm sorry, I did not explain myself very well. I meant like for snacks, if i want just an apple, can i have it or do i have to make sure i am getting a protein with it? And if I have a treat like a piece of cake, do i have to make sure i eat a protein at that time also? I have no problem getting it into meals. |
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| Weight Gain | Stomach muscle pains | Mar 04 2009 21:58 (UTC) |
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I am eating mostly protien, breads, banana, and dried fruits. Protien bars and ensures are what my therapist reccomended to me. I eat nuts, nut butters, full fat foods, whole grains, etc. My therapist also recommended drinking a minimum of 30 oz. of water to aid digestion, but not let it get in the way of getting calories. I have been having regular bowl movements and actually have been going more than usual. My stomach just feels swollen and painful. How am i supposed to eat to gain if whenever i try to eat more, i feel like i am "stuffing myself?" |
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| Health & Support | what medical support is needed? | Mar 04 2009 02:50 (UTC) |
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Okay, but my only thing is, my doctor doesn't check those things, because she is inexperienced in ed. I have had blood work done 4 times and that has not all been checked. Should i continue going to her, or work to find a doctor who knows what they are doing? |
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| Health & Support | still an eating disorder? | Feb 19 2009 13:41 (UTC) |
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I do have a nutritionist, and she told me to allow myself to binge just to wait like 30 seconds before i do. She said binging is a way to cope and it is sometimes good, because otherwise the emtions would be too much to handle. Can i ask if you always feel really full, or ever even feel hunger on your weight restoration plan? Thank you for your help chemgirl. |
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| Health & Support | still an eating disorder? | Feb 19 2009 12:52 (UTC) |
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Thanks for the advice gi-jane. I was just trying to figure out how to tell what is 10-20% and 80-90% I have thought about this before, but I never knew how to measure it out. Sorry if I am being diffucult, I just want to eat "normally" (whatever that is) :) |
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| Health & Support | anorexic to binge eater | Feb 19 2009 02:42 (UTC) |
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I have also gained weight from binging. I am up to around 95. It has all gone to my stomach though, or that is how i feel at least. My stomach was my biggest trigger during my ED. Is it because i have been gaining from junk food, or is is because it will redistribute? How am i supposed to eat to feel good. |
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| Health & Support | still an eating disorder? | Feb 19 2009 02:40 (UTC) |
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clharr what is WRONG!!!? What approach should i not be starting with? I eat whole grain bread, eggs, chicken, beef, fruits, vegetables, yogurt, cheese, etc. But my problem is i started letting myself eat anything i wanted and I have gone overboard, and binge. I eat myself sick and hate feeling so full i am ready to throw up if i move. I just want to eat with a normal relationship with food. I want to not have to dwell on food and my body. I know that sometimes i binge because i want to avoid feeling pain or other emotions, but my therapist is helping me work through that. Other times i know i am overeating, just because the food tastes so good. I don't know if i can tell myself to stop eating ice cream, cookies, cake, brownies, and all the other junk foods, though because I want to be able to eat them with balance. I also lost my period a year ago and am trying to eat to regain it. The only way i gain weight though is to binge. If i try to just eat healthy foods, even high calorie, i can't eat enough. It is not as addicting i guess. I just don't understand how during my anorexia, i used to never even think of junk food and now i eat probably about 1000 calories of it every day. I want to be free from this horrible eating cycle. |
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