Posts by goldenathlete

Their website says 260 as well...not 290. Atleast thats a little better, but why would it say 160 on the box?!?

Have they recently updated to make them "healthier?"

Thanks. i know im not "fat" so i shouldnt say "fat" but i just always find myself comparing. and yeah im very very petitie so when i was 140 i looked alot heavier than that...so its not a surprise 120 looks more than it is. i have very very small bone structure. When i was younger the doctors thought there was something wrong because i was soooo unbelievibly tiny. Once i got in middle school things started to even out. Im still small so when i do put on weight, its more noticable.

but thanks for motivation. i think i decided 7 lbs just because knowing me...i'll put a couple back on in no time ;-)

jade...thats kinda cool.  Never met anyone with a birth mark on their belly like mine haha. I like it there lol.

I just dont buy it...if i dont buy it, its not availiable therefore i cant have it. Im one that needs to kepe my mouth busy i chew gum or drink water.

I also keep herseys bliss squares (lol my fav. or dove) in the freezer and when im like GGGAH IM BORED I NEED TO EAT. i go suck on one of them.lol.

I am 20 years old, college junior in nursing school...high stress levels from that but i am totally in!!! Im 122 lbs right now..on a good day lol. (123 on a bad!) i'd like to be 115 but im more looking to tone up and be healthy!!!!

totally looking for a buddy most deffinatly.

Uh, your totally over thinking this. You lost me.

but i think your girlfriend sounds like a whore. If she really truley cared about you she wouldnt have hooked up with another guy THAT SOON after you! i mean seriously....that being said i think you need to do what is right FOR YOU!!!!! if the child is yours, do whats right and b there...if it isnt yours, get the hell away from her...get far far away!!!! she doesnt sound like good news. and deffinatly not the type of person you'd like to be a mother to your children....what a great role model

haha thanks  to both of you. i got stuck at the weight of 125 lbs for like ever (well it seemed like it anyway) and now im at 122 lbs! so im happy to see there is hope for me yet :) i went down 2 pants sizes (8 to a 4) I got 7 lbs to go.

i definatly stopped the weighing myself every few days. i was like obsessed with it...I just do it once a week now. Its frustrating when i dont see any results but if i dont loose anything i just see it as a week i could have potentially put on a pound or two. Oh well.

Yeah with these stupid scales i feel like that lady in the weight watchers commercial who has the scale attached to her ankle with chains. It pretty much is attached with me. The scale at my apartment says im 107 lbs so when i need something to make me happy i step on that haha (im really not 107 lbs! its a messed up scale)

haha it will  happen r4eboxer! give it time. he's still young...our relationship is a little more mature than some of our other friends. I'm more mature for my age,  he isnt so much but is getting to be. I'm rubbing off on him :-) he just needs to find a great girl.

YEs! Its ridiculous i completley understand why were werent allowed to be in the same room alone when we were in high school! At the time i thought it was lame but what high schooler would'nt?? It's just ridiculous that we are adults now. We are both kind of sucking it up and respecting them untill we graduate...he says if it continues after we graduate we just wont visit. Sounds fair to me!!

haha yeah. his sister and i are fairly close. She lives in california so we dont see her a whole lot. My boyfriend is very close with his sister so im thinking maybe he can talk to her and ask her how she did it...she is totally understanding of us. thats how i know his mom asked her to "watch us" cause she came and told us she was like "That is ridiculous! your 21." she didnt watch us that night haha...just said she would so we could for once have them off our backs.

I agree...thankyou for your opinion. i know im not mature enough to handle marriage and children. We dont plan on that any time soon. Both our families know that school is our priority right now and we both have a year left after our interns. I'm sick of being treated like that. when we are at our age level we should be treated our age level. it was like, i went to his parents for the holidays and he got a movie for christmas and they went to bed and we stayed up watching it...his mom asked his sister to sit with us! It also kind of hurts when his sister is only 23...2 years older than us. and when her boyfriend comes over for the holidays...they sleep in the same bed!! We've been dating much longer than them. and my boyfriend had to sleep on the sofa and he gave me his bed. I personally think our parents, especially his, are having a difficult time letting go...we are both the youngest in our families.

is it really that hard for parents to let go??E is it different with the youngest??  who knows...maybe she has a rule of "23 years old your mature." i think his mom is having a very difficult time with him growing up.

Part of me feels to young to have that talk. Like we go out somewhere and kids are running around being so annoying and im like thinking "oh my god! put your kid on a leash if hes going to be that way" Obviously i'd never do that...but you get it :-p.

I dont plan on ANYTHING AT ALL untill i get ATLEAST 30. We both have amazing careers and im trying to get into the surgical field right now which isnt easy to get into. he had an internship with harley and is now doing mechanical engineering in research and development in automotive. So it's like we both want to get where we want to be before anything. hes made that clear. i completley agree with him.

Brtaylor- kinda going with what you said, his mother pressures him SOOOO much. His sister is unable to have children so they are looking at adoption within the next couple years. His brother passed away a few years ago in a car accident so leaving him the last one. his mother brings it up ALL the time. she never pressures me or says anything to me about it, but will to him. I personally think she is making it worse. part of me wants to tell her to shut the hell up (haha) but she is amazing so i cant do that. So maybe that is part of it. he has once opened up to me a while back (we werent talking about "our children" this was just in general), he said he fears he is going turn out like his father. His dad is a little different. hes a nice guy but hes kinda obsessed with porn and has cheated on his mom with a 17 year old girl. this was when his older sister was 15 so it was a girl only 2 years older. So there is some there. he has like a love/hate relationship with his dad. He is NOTHING like his dad now. i asked him what he was scared of about turning into his dad cause he isnt a porn freak and he was like "I'm afraid im going to be a horrible dad and husband like he is"- harsh but it was a few years ago he said that. he still has not the best relationship with him.

Simig- as far as "answeing my own questions" is concerned- i am not. I'm not asking wheter i should be with this guy or not. I was more leaning towards i dont get why he is giving some people different answers. I did not answer that question, if i knew the answer i wouldnt be asking. Thanks :)

Yes, without a doubt he is the one i want to be with! I would not spend 7 years of my life with someone if i wasnt sure. We didnt go through hell for 4 years of seeing each other once every 2 or 3months for nothing!!! yes it was hard, but it has certainly paid off. As we both have achieved our dream jobs (well me, almost) and are still together!

Not a doubt in my mind shawn would do anything for me. He would have kids if i were to leave him for it....but i dont want to force him into it. He would do anything for me, i just would want him to do it for the right reasons. Shawn is always doing what is best for us. He is truley a great guy, not once has he ever made me doubt it. He likes kids, hes great with them hes just said he isnt sure if they are for him. he was like it isnt something you can reverse or just return. I agree with that, which is why im unsure as well...i just worry more in the future whether this is going to be a big issue and looking if anyone has had this issue with their man. I mean are men afraid to grow up?? he's still young so its not like i need an answer by tomorrow.

Original Post by simignonne:

First off:  I understand more about why you're waiting a while to get married. I didn't realize that the two of you were apart for so long.  It makes sense to get used to being around each other.  My husband and I are very different in that way (we figured.. why wait!?).  I have friends from college who did the same thing, they were apart for four years and then moved to the same town for work and to get to know each other on a local level and then the next year got married. 

However, I completely agree with Bier.  The two of you must have open communication with each other.  If you aren't comfortable talking to your fiance about something this important (while being completely honest) then something is wrong.  My husband can be a tough nut to crack as well, but when he gets in that defensive 'this isn't very comfortable to talk about' mood, I get just as tough back and lay the cards on the table.  It is important that your partner realize that even though it's not something he thinks is important, or something that he wants to talk about, that it is something that is important to you.  He should be willing to hear your heart. 

I've noticed that while my husband doesn't think changing diapers and feeding children in the middle of the night isn't fun and cute, he gets really excited about teaching our children about video games (I know, it's silly but still) and helping them with their homework.  He was even emphatic when he talked with me, that he was more comfortable wanting one child so he could spend undivided attention with them.  Hearing him say those things spoke wonders to my heart and allowed me to love him deeper than I ever have before and we aren't planning on children for at least another two years.

Just like bier said, "if you're going to spend the rest of your life with him, you need to learn to talk to him about these things".  These topics aren't necessarily going to get easier, and they aren't going to go away.

 well said... i just didnt want to make it sound bad, "getting to know each other" like i dont want to make it sound like i dont know the guy im engaged to :-). But im sure you get it now.

he WILL open up on occasions. You just have to get him at the right moment...he knows where i stand, he knows im undecided. but he just like doesnt worry about anything like that at all...the most he has ever looked ahead into "our future" is where he wants to get a job to be with me. He turned down a position at harley davidson in their engineering department, to come home to me. i asked him why he did that cause as anurse i could get a job anywhere and he told me that he knows i want to live close to home and to work at the hospital i have my internship at right now.

Yeah, thats not really like my situation because atleast your husband is willing to discuss it. He wont "talk about it" but he says things like that. But thanks for that...its good to know he isnt completley helpless and maybe over time.

Everyone thinks its odd we dont get married right now, and i really dont like people pressuring us because of it. It is our decision and we are doing what we think is best for us. He went half way across the country to the top engineering school in the country and i stayed back at our home town and attended nursing school. Reason i stayed: i got an internship in cardiology! i couldnt turn that down. He had an internship with Harley Davidson, and i didnt want to make him turn that down! i mean, who would make their loved one stay? he promised me he would move back when he completed school and wanted more than anything to have this intern spot. So i let him go (duh!) we were apart for 4 years!!!!! we saw each other on holidays and talked every night. He is a very trusting guy...i trusted him with everything. he has the biggest heart so there was no doubt we couldnt do a long distance thing. After 4 years of being apart, we are now together and its such a shock for us!! like i couldnt imagine being apart for 4  years then getting married RIGHT AWAY. and having the pressure of the wedding, getting me through my last year of school, getting settled in his job etc. It would have been too much for me and him to handle. So we decided it would be best untill i'm done with school untill we even start planning. We did what we thought was best for us, and its been working great. We are taking things slowly and one thing at a time.

sorry so long :-p kudos to whoever reads it all.

Forget about your calories and weight for a day!! seriously, you wont gain your weight back in one day. That would be pretty friggen amazing.

Maybe enjoy what others are having but in moderation. Like instead of having 10 christmas cookies, have like 1 or 2. Eat them slowly so you can enjoy them longer. Just dont count calories like "This sprinkle is 3 calories, and this sprinkle n this cookie is 4 calories because its red" uh...no! go for it. I wouldnt forget about it for a week ...but xmas day-have at it!!! :-) Drink some egg nogg and enjoy your xmas!! After that- go back to your diet.