Posts by sabedini3

My dear, I know that at this time there is so so so much emphasis on the stick-thin, but the truth is it really isn't healthy.  The doctor probably emphasized this to you.  Just take for example the missing of your period:  there is a reason we women are supposed to get our periods monthly (and it's not just to make sure we aren't pregnant!).  It is also getting rid of what our body needs to excreet (not to be graphic and whatnot, but this is what our body is designed to do so we stay healthy).

You say you binge eat...I'm taking that as you are an emotional eater.  I am too.  Often I feel it's hard *not* to be an emotional eater because life is pure stress mostly and it's plain tough, let's face it.  The only thing I've found has helped me with this is directing the frustration/pain in a different way.  What do you like to do for fun?  Writing, drawing, photography, sports?  Anything can be useful.  Even just talking to a friend for an hour can be an amazing help.

At our age it feels like the world is falling down on us a lot.  The main thing to realize is you're not alone in this.  We are all going through these problems and supporting each other is the best thing we can do.  My attempt at supporting you will at least be to tell you what a pal once told me:  all these pretty pop stars that are famous for their good looks and bodies...yes they mostly have had plastic surgery and implants, but the reason men think they are brilliant and so attractive is partially their rear ends.  And yes, at this point I laughed at her, but she told me that hey, you can't have a nice butt if you are at 100 pounds.

That brings some humor to it but the fad of weight-loss at this time is to be healthy, not to look like TV stars.  We lose weight if we are over, gain if we are under.  Maintaining a stable, healthy weight is ideal.  Talking to parents is hard because we feel they're so judgemental but talking brings support and guidance.  If not your mum, then a counselor, a friend...honestly, if confidentiality is an issue then even me or another online responder.  It'll take work but shaking the mentality is key.  The important thing is learning to love your body and find it beautiful at it's healthy weight.  If even for future children/grandchildren, you need to have your health so you can have a long life for the good times ahead! 

Good luck, friend.  Just believe in yourself & it'll all be okay.