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My dream friday night and last night were um, of the adult variety...one involving my brother in law so I wont share those although they were wierd.

The one I will share happened about a month or two ago. And i was in the shower shaving my legs and the hair kept growing right back....only it wasn't hair, it was sea weed or something similar and it was slimy and would sprout immediately after a swipe with the razor and flap around on the bottom of the bath tub...seriously

When I woke up the next morning, I was afraid to look at my legs for fear it might have been true...and trying to shave later that week...took real effort!

The only advice I have is that less than 1200 calories is bad for you, so don't do it again. And secondly, try not to lose more than 2 pounds a week, .5 pounds is good and steady. Unless you want to try to lose at least a pound a week. That is still fine, but you may find that you are feeling deprived. Just a thought.

Original Post by simwaves1:

Original Post by sarahbluebelle:

The whole time I was learning that if you liked a food you should eat it all, and if anyone else showed interest, you should eat it faster and that all thin people are dumb, shallow, and inferior and if you wanted to be like them, you must be dumb, shallow, and inferior, too, I knew that IF I WAS STRONG ENOUGH, I COULD DISAGREE with those thoughts and behaviors.

This was very interesting to me. I didn't know that people thought this way. Is this common for people who are overweight?

 No, it's not common for people who are overweight to feel that way, unless all they have known their whole lives are rude, inconsiderate stupid skinny people.

Original Post by tannis86:

Thank you for the advice. Maybe I need a vacation from the scale, and yes I made sure it was before food, perfectly level at the same time- I was desperate for it to go down a little more- No luck though.  I think setting an exercise goal ( aka running faster, longer) would be much better for me. I didnt up my calories to the point I was over or anything but to see the scale only go down a pound in 2 weeks still puts a damper on everything. I will keep in mind that its slow process I just feel frustrated at the fact my finance seems to be able to eat cupcakes and pizza all day long and wake up constantly lighter.

Thanks again for the advice and reading my rant :) I will keep on it - I have a wedding dress to get into, lets just hope my snail weeks are coming to a close. . .

 I wanted to comment specifically on the part where you said watching the scale go down by one pound in two weeks....to be perfectly honest, that is actually better for you than losing 3 pounds in one week. A good steady weight loss of .5 pound to no more than 2 pounds a week is healthiest and wont put your body in freak out mode. Just a thought.

Also, the more you burn, the more you can eat as long as you maintain at least a 500 calorie deficit. One thing I am thinking about the estimated caloric intake (for myself included) is that is for not doing any physical exercise, just doing your daily routine with being sedentary and not working out you should consume no more than the estimate to get to your goal weight. Please, if you are working out eat a bit more just make sure to keep an approximate 500 calorie deficit for a .5 pound a week weight loss. If you want to lose more weight than .5 pounds in a week then have a bigger calorie deficit. Strive for no more than a two pound a week loss and make sure you eat at least 1200 calories a day (for women) and 1500 (for men) as if you eat less your body will go into starvation mode and hold on to fat from your food. Good luck

How much muscle do you have? Muscle weighs more than fat and will increase your weight and make you appear overweight when you have very little fat, so...I would suggest that you find a way to get calipers and measure your body fat vs. muscle and if it shows you have little fat and tons of muscle I wouldn't worry too much.

And do you get bored easily? These questions will definitely help you. Also this site has some beginner workouts and you can mix and match as you chose. Like, one day do your upper body and the next day do your lower body. Try to work opposing muscle groups: chest then upper back, biceps then triceps, shoulders then chest, abs then lower back, glutes/hamstrings, then quads, and such like that. That way you don't over work one and become super strong that way and weak on the other side.

You need to remember that you can't pick and choose from where you lose it, it comes off uniformly, you just notice it places with either a lot or a little bit of fat on them first. Like, I have absolutely no boobs (I wear a nearly A) and I always see weight missing there or my tummy (which is not as big as the lower part of me) first. Also, if you are strength training/weight lifting then your will start to bulg out a little before you notice the fat loss. So, I would work on weight training your legs/but and if you are really concentrating on your arms during your weight lifting then you could be pushing out the fat with nice muscles and just not be losing fast enough to notice it. How long did you say you've been working out and trying to lose weight?

ARe you allowed to only have one buddy? I am trying to lose around 10-11 pounds, but sometimes i have a really hard time trying to stay motivated what with being a full time mommy and wife and college student. I really started last week hardcore and lost around 2 pounds, but that could change at any moment. I must say though that this is the week before finals and I am finding that going to the gym is helping me not feel so stressed.

I am a 23 year old full time college student mother of two and a wife. I don't work and I have a few people that i talk to at school two of which are people I would really like to keep after we no longer attend the same school and when me have more free time. I got pg with my oldest when I was 16 and pretty much got rid of all the people i had previously considered friends. I kept one and she was a great friend until we had our falling out this past september. I had another pretty good friend for two or three years and then she moved away. the only true friend I have anymore, besides my husband, is a girl friend I have had since I was seven years old. We have both been busy with life and live thousands of miles away from each other, but we both consider ourselves sisters still. I wish I had friends that lived close to me and shared my interests of going to school and being a great mommy and that don't require having to get drunk to have a good time (this is why I can't hang out with my bio sisters very often with out my children). Also, I don't think I am that great a person, so perhaps in my case there is a self esteem issue and putting to much value on needing to be with people all the time. I grew up in a huge family so that is whatI am used to. However, if I did have friends I probably wouldn't be keeping straight a's. I don't know if it helps to share my story, but i hope it did.

I just wanted to let you know that you aren't the only person who goes through that. I am an adult, have my own family and attend college full time. I am 23 years old. when I first started to try to lose weight in 2005 my dad and a friend of mine at the time asked if I was taking drugs!!! I saw what drugs did to my father and family there is no way in HELL i will take them. anyway, since I have really gotten serious about not just eating healthy but also working out and making sure my kids eat healthful foods I am ostracized when we visit my family. They are all over weight and don't care what goes into their bodies or anything and they think it is okay to tell my I am wrong for doing so and for insisting my chilren eat healthy and stay as thin and fit as possible. At one point they tried to make me feel bad for my new (slightly) healthier self by saying that I am still fat and what not. But my BMI is lower than all of theirs. You are not alone and anyone who feels intimidated by your healthier self and probably new self esteem is going to try to bring you down. You do what you need to do to stay healthy and happy with yourself and screw the rest of them! We are here to support your endeavors so good luck!

Original Post by izzyy23:

Long story short, I've been only eating about 1000 calories for the past few weeks and I wanna get out of the habit. I'm happy ot say I'm gradually up-ing my count daily. My question now is, what foods should I look to consume to help re-start my metabolism (it was about average before...not too slow, not too fast)? How long should it take for it to go back to burning about normal? And is it true that eating at regular intervals (small meals, 2/3 hours apart) will help to kick start it? Appreciate your advice

as does eating breakfast

Original Post by simwaves1:

From watching the video, it seemed that the justices were suggesting that the prop 8 campaign wasn't clear to voters that a yes vote would retroactively invalidate marriages that already took place. Apart from the language of the amendment itself, "Only marriage between a man and a woman is valid and recognized in California," the qualification of prior marriages being invalidated was only explicitly stated in a rebuttal argument in the voter materials.

The justices may make the argument that retroactive invalidation of the marriages was not made clear to the voters; therefor, the marriages would remain valid.

 Unless it end up being like Oregon and then they get annuled or whatever nice term the politicians want to use. In oregon any homosexual couple that got married we no longer considered so when they reversed it. Also, part of homosexuals getting parental freedom is that they would be more likely to get to adopt. As of right now, most homosexual couples are turned away when trying to adopt. And they don't get to claim social security benefits if their partner dies, many employers don't recognize civil unions or domestic partnerships and don't give health benefits to homosexual partners...The list is endless and it needs to change. Marriage should be allowed between any two consenting adults despite their sexual orientation.

You would be surprised at how many of us use food to help us feel better. I consider the relationship I have with food to be very unhealthy, I love it and it loves to get eaten by me. There have been times I will eat a huge bowl of cereal for breakfast and an hour later eat a huge store bought chocolate chocolate chip muffin and then eat three hours later. When I am sad or lonely (like when my husband goes out) I go to the store and by junk food. I am trying to battle my demons, it really does help to know your specific triggers (anxiety over finals, feeling sad, being happy [yes people over eat when they are happy, actually more common]) and then diverting your attention from food and busying your hands. Good luck, sweetie!

Goob,

It is great that you are trying to get your ED under control. However, you can't do it alone. My advice is to seek your doctors help, especially for how many calories are appropriate for a growing 15 year old boy. Most teens (boys and girls) that I have ever met, eat their families out of house and home and still maintain an appropriate weight. Best of luck to you.