Posts by james_64

Original Post by bagga:

About vasectomies.

I have been with my husband since I was 21 and he was 19, I am 45 now.

We decided very early on that we were not having children. We could not get a doctor to give him a vasectomy.

Seemed they have some kind of rules that entailed him having kids first.

He had his when he was 39.

 

If any guys are in a similar situation, they should just lie to the doctor about having 3 children to 3 different women and are sick of paying child support.  I can't imagine a doctor requiring proof of the childrens existance.

I guess it depends on how long you're going to be with them.  Generally, the longer you'll be with them, the more tactful you'd need to be.

A quote from the film Grease: "if you play, you pay".  I guess I'm lucky, I'm childfree which means that I got a vasectomy before I started having sex which could result in pregnancy (also due to my first partner having had a hysterectomy). 

IMHO more men should take more control of their fertility and bank some sperm, then get a vasectomy.  Reversal is not guaranteed (especially after a few years or so) but it's better than nothing.  Unfortunately, I don't think I'll see male contrception (and I don't believe condoms can be considered contraception) in my lifetime, but when it happens, it will be a great day for men.

This whole abortion issue will be solved I think when abortion is not fatal for the fetus.  Lots of other issues will be created of course, but I think it will be a step in the right direction.

By the way, in my country (New Zealand) previous to about 1978 women had to go to Australia to get abortions.  Then there was this big political blowup and they changed the law, and you could get an abortion due to medical grounds, and that includes depression.  30 years later, you guessed it, abortion is about as free as you can get, although 98% of women asking for one give depression as a reason for wanting one.  It's too much of a hot potato, so politicians won't touch it, I can't see it being touched in the next 15 years.

Try whey powder as a protein source, it's the easiest way I find to eat protein (I don't really like meat).

I'm 44, have been sexual for 20 years and have 12 sexual partners, comprising:

3 medium-long term relationships

1 short term relationship, and an even shorter relationship

2 flings/friends with benefits

2 casual things

1 woman I had sex with 1 1/2 times (yes, it happens...)

2 women I had sex once with (not by my choice)

Peak rate in a 12 month period was 5 partners, longest without sex was about 3 years.

Name: James
Age: 44
Height: 183cm
Start Weight (Your February 1st Weight): 88kg
Goal Weight (by Mar 1): 85.5kg

1/2/09: 88kg
8/2/09:
15/2/09:
22/2/09:
29/2/09:

Total weight loss:

Someone starts a diet, doesn't weigh themselves for a month, and then finds out that they've lost 1 pound.  Inevitably, someone else chimes in with "are you eating enough?".

I was like this, 20 years ago.  I attribute it to appetite regulation - my body knew almost exactly how much fat it had, and suppressed my appetite whenever it got above a certain level.  As a result, my weight (probably) never fluctuated, I don't know because I didn't weigh myself, I didn't even know how much I weighed.

You've lost 4% of your body weight.  Congratulations!  Logically, I'd just drop my intake by 4% to compensate, which is about 1815 calories.  Fiddle around with that, until you reach a loss rate you like.

I'm doing this in metric - because it's the only way I know.

You want to lose 30lb = 13.6kg.  That represents 477,000 kJ or about 1000 apples. 

March 13th is 3+28+12 = 43 days away.  In 43 days I'd be able to lose about 4.3kg, but that's without any exercise, just eating less.

So you want to lose the other 9.3kg through exercise, which is 216g of fat a day.  Using Calorieking.com as a very basic guide, 230ml of olive oil (which probably weighs about 216g, although I haven't checked this) represents about 212 minutes of running, about 3 1/2 hours a day. 

So my guess is that no, that's not enough.  However, 13.6kg is not a lot, and 9.3kg is even less.  most people won't notice 5kg, so if you exercise the way you wanted to, as well as eat less, you'd probably be about 7kg above goal. 

At the end of last year, I got a cold.  Suddenly, for a month I simply couldn't be bothered even trying to lose weight.  However, at the start of the new year, my motivation came back, and I was away again.  Most people go through periods where they can't be stuffed losing weight.  It happens.  Just try and maintain during those periods, and when you come out of them, you'll be ok.  Losing the same weight over and over again is crazy, I know because I've done it many times.

I am experimenting with motivations.  My new system means that I cannot see a film or buy coffee at the supermarket unless I am the lowest weight since Jan 1st.  This sort of system may, or may not work for you.

There are at least 3 different ways to measure body fat.  Calipers are the least accurate, but the least expensive.  Then there is immersion into a pool to measure your weight under water, some universities have the facility to do this.  Finally you can be 'scanned', much more expensive but probably the most accurate. 

Don't forget that bodies get bigger, and heavier until the age of about 23. 

I'm left handed, but strangely I play right handedly.  I figure doing the fretwork is harder than strumming, so it makes sense to play that way.  Paul McCartney plays left handed as well.

 I'd suggest you try out both.  Even better, borrow two guitars, and restring one to be left handed.  Once you get a feel for things when you start learning the guitar, you'll quickly decide which is better for you.

There are 300+ left handed guitars on ebay right now.

You'll probably have access to a locker at school so I'd suggest you keep some food that won't go off there.  As to what you could eat, no idea sorry.  I have whey powder as a protein source which keeps me feeling full, stores well and is easy to consume if you're lacking in time. 

To fit into those jeans that my first love (no longer with us) bought me 20 years ago (worn out and unwearable in public) and look into the mirror wearing the jeans and say "I miss you and thanks for the jeans.  Still wearing them".