Posts by lisarose7

This may not be what you want to hear, but it just takes time.  Just don't make the mistake of trying to be "friends" with him right away....otherwise you won't bother getting over him.  Instead you'll cling to the hope that you can win him back.  Keep exercising...the endorphins will make you feel good, which will make you feel better about everything.  Also, take solace in your girlfriends...they're great for reminding you what a fabulous person you are and that there's an even better guy out there for you somewhere.  Journaling or blogging may also help...sometimes it's enough to just get those horrible feelings out when you have them.  Good luck with everything...I'm sure you'll do great. :)

String cheese, yogurt, cottage cheese.  I've been snacking on these quaker granola bars with added fiber that are only about 140 calories a bar, too.  I keep fat free pudding in my desk at work...Snack Packs only have about 80 calories each and don't have to be refrigerated.  Hope this helps!

It takes a LOT of practice and hard work, but force yourself to think of yourself as beautiful.  Stare at yourself in the mirror and concentrate on the things you like.  Maybe you have great hair, a nice smile, gorgeous skin...focus on those things until you can learn to love the rest.  I used to hate the way I looked, too.  Then I made an effort to love myself.  It's been well over a decade since I first started trying to like the way I looked, but when people look at me now I assume they're checking me out. :)  And if I can do that when I'm 5'3", 150lbs, and 41-32-40 (not to mention when I was 186 lbs and several inches bigger all around), you can learn to do it no matter what your size.  Good luck!

Next time you're forced to clean it up, go through the fridge about mid-morning and toss everyone's lunches.  When people complain, tell them that since no one ever cleans up after themselves, you decided you'd clean EVERYTHING.  I mean, if you have to clean PART of the kitchen, you might as well clean the WHOLE kitchen, right? :)

Antidepressants are typically appetite stimulants.  I was on Lexapro several years ago and gained 15 lbs because I was constantly hungry and too tired to exercise.  One of my aunts is a geriatric nurse and told me that they'll sometimes give nursing home patients antidepressants to get them to eat.  Talk to your doctor about your weight concerns and do some research about the drug.  There ARE antidepressants that actually cause weight LOSS rather than weight gain, and I'm sure you can avoid gaining weight while on medication if you're informed and can structure your diet and exercise routine accordingly.

I would look at the later date.  That way if you hit your goal weight at a date that's between the two, you'll feel like you accomplished your goal early and it'll be an extra little emotional boost. :)

When I'm in school, I always pack healthy snacks in my backpack so that I'm not tempted to buy something unhealthy from a vending machine or snack bar.  Try packing some fruit, granola bars, string cheese, or other snack that can stand not being refrigerated for a few hours.  If your school allows it, make sure you have a bottle of water with you and take sips from that periodically.  That way your body won't mistake dehydration for hunger and you'll be less likely to want unhealthy snacks.  Good luck!

I believe you would just gain at a slower pace, but I suppose it's possible that you might lose a couple of pounds initially before you started gaining again.

I haven't read any of the Twilight books, but there are quite a few books that I love.  Are you familiar with any of Janet Evanovich's books about Stephanie Plum?  They're crime novels, but are pretty funny...Stephanie is a lingerie buyer turned bounty hunter.  They move pretty quickly.  I've also read all of Jen Lancaster's memoirs.  I know, you're probably thinking a memoir is pretty slow and boring, but she's HYSTERICAL!  Her books (in order) are Bitter is the New Black; Bright Lights, Big Ass; Such a Pretty Fat; and Pretty in Plaid.

You probably won't lose anymore weight until you increase your caloric intake.  Sounds like your body is probably in starvation mode and will decrease its metabolism to avoid losing weight.  Try working healthy, higher calorie foods into your daily diet to try to reach your projected calories and see if that helps.

I had a few of those moments lately. I tried on a couple of pairs of jeans that have never fit me that well (bought in a fit of optimism several years ago) and they were actually LOOSE in places!  That and I put on a skirt that I haven't zipped all the way to the top in easily 8 years and wore it all day zipped all the way up. :)

I also had one of those moments shopping for new clothes.  I needed tank tops for summer so I went to Old Navy.  I got frustrated because they didn't have many colors in large, but then I held the large up to me and it seemed a little big.  So I grabbed a medium (which I haven't worn probably since right out of college 9-10 years ago) and pulled it on over the shirt I was wearing.  It fit.  I was so surprised I said out loud, "Oh my god, I'm wearing a medium!"  The girl next to me looked at me with a puzzled look on her face and I explained to her that I'd lost some weight.  Turns out she lost about 80 lbs, so we high-fived and spent a few minutes talking about what a great feeling it is when you fit into a size you'd given up on.

Congratulations!

I would have been tempted to just smile sweetly and say, "At least my diet will be a lot cheaper than all the plastic surgery you'll need to not look like a troll."  Although, since you were both young, I suppose "Is that your face or did your neck throw up?" would have worked just as well.

As an adult, I'm not really that self-conscious about my weight.  If I'm out with friends and I see snotty girls looking at me and snickering I figure they're just jealous that I have cuter shoes or bigger boobs than they do and have no better way to validate themselves that to call me fat.  If I'm in a particularly bitchy mood, I might flirt with their dates just to see their expressions when the guys flirt back. :)

You'll probably always remember that hurtful remark, but turn it into a positive thing and use it as motivation.  When you don't think you have the energy to exercise or you're having a hard time resisting that box of cookies in the cupboard, remember that moment and think about how good it will feel to run into that kid when you're at your goal weight and have his jaw drop at how hot you are.

Original Post by taum:

One question: what is an appropriate response to a friend who is larger and who has expressed a desire to lose weight?  I've never really known what the best way to handle that is.  I usually say "That's awesome!" and attempt to bond on our mutual experiences with the issue.  But that may not be the best approach, I'm hearing?  It may come across as trying to identify with something I can't possibly understand?  Or as judgmental?  What should I say to both show support and avoid making them feel worse?

I would probably just ask, "What made you decide to lose weight?"  It shows that you're interested without conveying any sort of judgement.  Either that, or say, "Oh, I've been down the weight-loss road before.  Let me know if I can be any help, or if you just want someone to talk to about everything."  Again, it doesn't sound judgemental, but it shows that you're supportive.

Most of the skinny people I know don't act the way that was described in the rant, but I've come across similar comments from strangers.  As petty as it may be, though, I can always come up with a backhanded remark in reply (usually in reference to my rather spectacular breasts).  For example, some skinny stranger makes a comment about my size, or checks out my ass, nudges her friend to look, and giggles: "Oh that's a cute outfit.  I'd never be able to wear something like that because I have boobs," or "You're so lucky not to have to wear a bra."  Usually, though, I just brush it off.  After all, most people only criticize others because they don't like something about themselves.

Original Post by coltonsmom:

Have you seen the infomercial for the Ped Egg? That might work! I was looking into getting one because my feet peel in the summer. It's kinda similar to the little shaver they use on your feet when you get a pedicure =)

 Love, love, LOVE my PedEgg.  Just make sure you use it on your feet when they're dry, or you can really irritate your skin.  I also have a variety of foot-spa type items that I love: foot soak, exfoliating foot scrub, self-heating foot mask, and ultra-thick foot cream.  Use the PedEgg first, then soak your feet, use the foot scrub, put on the mask, then use the foot cream once everything's done.  To really hold in the moisture, put socks on after the foot cream to allow it to penetrate more deeply.

One word of advice, though.  Make sure you don't have a fungal infection that's causing the peeling before you do anything else.  If it's fungal, all you'll do is get the fungus on your pumice stone...the stone won't do much.

Wow...and I thought getting poison sumac down there was the worst that could happen from peeing in the woods.  (Happened to me a few years ago...WORST WEEK EVER).  Glad you're doing better!