Posts by buckcherry

Original Post by trustwomen:

I was always sweet as pie to the girlfriends of my conquests, ahem, friends. I could afford to be - I felt superior to them, I could be gracious beyond belief, I even felt a little sorry for them. I didn't want to steal their boyfriends, that wasn't the goal, I didn't really want these guys as boyfriends and I wasn't in love with them, I was happy to leave the gf all the real work and simply skim off the cream for myself - the attention, the priority in their hearts, their physical desire. (Yes, I was all kinds of f-ed up, I know.)

 I meet way too many girls who are like you used to be who are interested in my boyfriend LOL. I am just lucky that he has grown up enough to tell them that he has a girlfriend and thats who he's going to be spending his time with that night. It definitely heps my piece of mind that we live together though ;)

Jellykiss - i would have a big problem with my bf staying at another girls house. Plain and simple, why don't they just meet halfway at a restaurant or something and catch up, and then go home. Whoever said that friends do dinner a movie, and then go to their seperate homes, is right.
I know you love/trust your boyfriend, but every thing that has been said here, I immediately lean towards caution. My boyfriend would choose, me or them. If they want to meet for coffee, great. But no sleepovers. Period.

Original Post by thhq:

  cc foods lists neat alcohol (or 100 proof) as 4 calories per gram, or 82 calories to the ounce.  I don't know why everclear would be so much higher than that.

 

 Because everclear is 190 proof, not 100 proof. Far higher alcohol content.

Original Post by susiecue:

Original Post by clown8516:

no fruit is fattening as long as its eating raw. trust me, in fact the more raw fruit you eat the leaner and healthier you will become. so think of fruit as a free food. and don't worry about your blood sugar because raw fruit will not raise it.

 

This is completely untrue.  *Any* food is fattening if you eat too much of it.  Admittedly, it would take awful lot of watermelon - but if you were to consume 10 pounds of the stuff, that's a lot of calories and they certainly would count.

 I would like to meet someone who could consume 10 pounds of watermelon a day.

I can't wait to hear what he says either! Please update.

Original Post by jaefuma:

And then they brought out the stripper pole.

Now, I am all for getting fit. If you like to dance, please, dance away. However, a stripper pole? Really? Why? These people are already overweight and going through the indignity of wearing unflattering, skin tight clothes, why must they now struggle with a stripper pole? Fit people can't even pull that off (I'm guessing. I don't know, it looks difficult).

Just to clear this up, because it bugged me when I read it.
Pole dancing (for fitness) is actually a great workout. I have been taking classes since January. It is not 'hard' to do, because it is in levels, so it is progressive. At the studio I dance at, there is SUCH a wide variety of people. Short, young, petite people like myself are a minority, for sure. There are quite a few mid-to-overweight women who are taking the classes, and many of them are seeing positive results. There are younger heavier people but also older(50+) that come weekly or more.
And many of the heavier people are - you guessed it - better dancers than the rest of us.

Just my comment on that, I haven't actually seen the show xD

Original Post by priceless7:

I dont know much about getteing boobs done even tho every one of my cousins (4) have gotten them done. I know there were no complications for them. They all love their new boobs.

 Do you know what they paid? I actually know someone who has a breast augmentation booked for October in Mexico (she planned an extra long holiday there so she can recover in the fun and sun), and the price is quite low. Then again, I don't think I would want to go there for anything like that, personally... 
I live in Canada as well.  

I have frosted mini-wheats every morning for breakfast, and I have been maintaining for a long while. I love them. I find that they keep me full for at least 3 hours. I also ahve trouble with my iron and fibre intakes, so the mini wheats DEFINITELY ahve helped that (no more headaches!).
Love them.

Umm, does it really matter what an online calculator tells you?
You are 5'3 and 125 lbs - there is no physical way you could possibly be obese.
Go to your local gym, and ask them to measure your Body Fat % - the only truly accurate way to measure BF% is with calipers - even the digital scales that send impulses through your body are not correct in measuring body fat. 

Took the words right out of my mouth! I was going to say to treat it was exercise. I feel your pain though - I spend usually 3-4 hours of my work day on CC  - when I know I should be doing something productive.

Original Post by mspw:

So here's my solution:  Lets legalize nudity in public and marijuana while we're at it.  Then, when the Rapture happens, all the die-hard Chistians can go on up to thier boring little heaven and listen to Lawrence Welk and drink Earl Grey tea and remain sexually-repressed, getting-off on feeling 'naughty.'  Then the rest of us can just get on with the business of being human. 

LOL I love it . All of it.
Because its pretty much the way I feel.
Also, I think it was you lorik who made the reference about Canada being more liberal than the USA - and I think you are absolutly correct. Being a Canadian who ends up in the US multiple times per year, I see it first hand. A great example (though unrelated to the discussion topic) is marijuana usage. I'm not going to lie - I partake in said usage on a regular basis. It curbs my anxiety. It also makes me binge - but the anxiety is a far greater evil then the binging (I just don't buy junk food anymore when I buy groceries for that very reason). I live in BC, where marijuana use is even more liberal than the rest of Canada. Hell, we have a cafe in downtown Vancouver called the Amsterdam cafe - where you can not only buy pipes, bongs, endless rolling papers, vaporizers, etc., but you can roll and smoke your pot right there in the cafe, while you eat your sandwich. Yes, police/law enforcement know about it, however they are far more involved with the herion/crack/cocaine usage just a few blocks away, and generally leave the stoners alone :P I think nothing of walking down the street downtown and smoking one with my boyfriend, because chances are there is somene within a block of you doing the same. And this is the nice part of town. Then again, its extremely common to see two attractive, well-dressed men holding hands walking down the same street, and not one person even giving them a second glance.
With regards to the OP again, I agree that being lied to is not acceptable. My boyfriend knows where I stand on the topic (not even white lies are acceptable - I am brutally honest and couldn't lie to save my life, so I expect to be treated that way). However, I do think your husband shuld be allowed his own freedom of choice. Blocking his internet usage is, like others and myself have already said, something you do to a child. Not your partner.
If he can't respect your wishes, or you can't respect his, then there is clearly more dysfunction than you let on. 

Love the rainbow roll, order it everytime - though I order it with half the rice (something I think Eva Mendes does, read it in Cosmo a couple years ago - cuts the carbs/calories from the rice in half obviously xD). Red snapper is my fav sashimi/nigiri, though I love salmon and most of the rest of them too.

I also always order a sunomono salad (those clear noodles in rice wine vinegar - so tasty and refreshing).

Beyond that it depends who i am with. I LOVE yam tempura, and gyoza. Only get those if I am with my boyfriend though, since he *must* have something fried lol.

Usually I order another roll of some sort if I am with somene else (so many delicious options!), or if I am alone sometimes just the sunomono and the rainbow roll. "
I love edamame as well.

I just love sushi in general.

God now I m REALLY craving sushi, thanks a lot lol

Original Post by gg80:

"Its not unrealistic body images...its simply what some people are like"

So you think there is an elemnt of truth to the images you see in porn? That thats what some people are like in the bedroom? Interesting.

 I'm not going to lie - I have learned a lot from porn. I know what my boyfriend likes when he watches it, we have watched a fair amount together, and if he sees someone do something while we're watching (or even by himself), he will tell me and we can try it out together. It keeps our sex life interesting for sure.  We have also discovered a few new really great positions and other 'techniques' we both like, once again via porn.
Definitely an element of truth to some of it. I would hate to be our landlord.
Seems there are at least a few liberal-types on this site, which is good to see.

Vievien - the age thing - I am not so sure what way to consider that in my mind in relation to him watching porn. The way I can sort of see it, is that he more than likely is not thinking of other women while he is being intimate with you. Hell my boyfriend is not shy and very honest with me, and tells me often even when watching porn on his own he is thinking about me instead. Particularly given your age gap, I would think your husband probably does the same - any older guy with a younger woman generally 'can't believe his luck'. My boyfriend is 34, I am turning 21. Women that are around the same age as him always try and tell him that I'm "too you for him" (he is such a charmer - no joke he could have pretty well any woman he wanted - if you met him, you would understand. I feel lucky to have him, he's amazing). He always politely tells them that they shouldn't judge me before they know me. Meanwhile, all of his male friends think he's the luckiest bastard they've ever met haha. Sorry, small tangent. But you get what I'm saying? Likely he is not thinking of the pornstars when he is with you. Because if he would rather be with another woman, he would be.

Personally, I avoid Ardene's, or any other store that does not specialize in carrying body jewelry. The stuff they carry at Ardene's is VERY LOW QUALITY. I have over 30 different ones for my belly button, and each and every one of them has been bought from either a piercing/tattoo studio or one of the speciality body jewelry stores/kiosks (body mods, culture craze - 2 we have here in BC). They range in price from about $25-$60+, but at least I know what they're made of, and that they have been properly sterilized. 

You get what you pay for.   

Original Post by makenasmom:

I never really thought about it before, but I prefer the lowfat or light versions of most dairy things, like light cheese, skim milk, low fat frozen yogurt, FF sour cream, light cream cheese, even light mayo, I can't stomach the richness of the original. These foods in their full fatty goodness, actually give me a tummy ache and always have. I can drink 2 litres of skim milk and thoroughly enjoy it, but one glass of 2% and I'm doubled over in pain... So I have been buying the "light" version of all those things long before I started "dieting" I also prefer the taste of diet pop, regular makes my teeth ache it's so sweet, but for the 4-5 glasses I drink a month, I'm not too concerned.

But there are definetely foods that have to be real! Pretty much anything non dairy, lol

 I am exactly the same! Full fat dairy makes me feel very ill. Whipping cream does it to me as well. I can handle rich ice cream though...

I know this sounds counter productive, but I think you should increase your calorie intake. Time and again on this site people have posted the same/similar things as you. And basically they put their bodies into 'starvation mode' by eating far less calories than they need. I will allow someone else to explain the science behind my suggestion, since I have a broken hand and its a real pain to type with one hand ;)