Posts by nikonik

I feel you here...while I don't binge, I can relate to the feelings of guilt. My parents are very strict about not letting me exercise, and the self-loathing ensues when I can't exercise like I want to and purge all the calories I've eaten.

Original Post by innocenteyes:

Original Post by fidget84:

no recovery isnt possible for everyone. because some people just cannot face it.

i completely agree with the director in my IP clinic. beyond the 5-10 year mark, it is nearly impossible.

some people will not get better. this is a fact. if it wasnt then eating disorders wouldnt kill people. but they do

yeouch this is harsh. I know what you mean but it's a bit discouraging to say this when plenty of people who've been sick that long will read it.

personally I've only been ill 6 years but I think I can recover and so do my doctors, I've been told that it's not 'yet' long enough that they would give up. I know I do struggle more than I would have after 2 years and it will probably take me longer to make progress, but not everyone has to recover immediately and as quickly as possible. if the ED is very entrenched it can take a lot of time and patience but I think it can be done.

 I'm going on my 6th year of being ill. Even when I was weight restored, I still counted calories, recorded everything I ate, had certain foods I ate all the time, etc. I never wanted to truly get better, and so after high school, I relapsed twice. I'm on my third relapse since I had to leave college. I feel pretty hopeless about my recovery, and I feel like one of those people who will never recover. One psychiatrist actually told me that I have the attitude of someone who will be dealing with this in their 40's-50's. I knew it was true. So fidget84, when you say recovery is nigh impossible for those who have been dealing with this 5-10+ years, I agree. At least, in terms of myself. I'm happy for the ones who actually do get to recover, but I'm so disillusioned that I believe that possibility is impossible for me. Even when I try to surround myself with positive people (like the ones on this site), I still find myself feeling totally hopeless. :(

I too weight fruits, veggies, EVERYTHING. I've had people tell me that I've been doing it for so long that I can probably eyeball the amount. I haven't quite summoned up the courage to do that yet, but it sounded like a pretty good suggestion. Try eyeballing the amounts of your fruits and vegetables.

As for whether teens should count calories, I agree with the poster above me.

Original Post by skippinggirlvinegar:

There are a lot of people who have posted on this thread whose weight/goal weights are too low for their height. There are far too many underweight teenagers who haven't specified whether they are trying to gain or lose, and I'm pretty worried that the majority of them are trying to lose a few pounds.

Seeing posts from people who are a few inches taller than me aiming to weigh less than me is very triggering. I will try to discourage people aiming to be underweight and I hope others around here will join me.
Because 13 year olds, actually any teenagers for that matter, should not be worried about counting calories [even the obese ones, who should just try and eat more fruit and veg and cut down on all the junk food & fast food]

 I agree. Threads like this are way too triggering. In fact, it feeds my ED even more. The posts are never-ending, it seems. I know I can look away any time, but why look away when all this information is right in front of my face? I'm not even going to provide my height and weight, because that will just trigger another girl like me. Please, mods, do something about this.