Posts by jessicar7501

Original Post by ladyduece:

Honestly you might not see a parent but they could be inside watching from the windows.  When we lived on base and my son was a newborn it was too hot to have him out in the August/Sept heat so rather then leaving him unattended (our baby monitor always got interference from our neighbors) I'd keep an eye on the girls from the back room (all windows) or from the porch.  Chances are I'd be running wash (cloth diapers) that would need to get out on the line so I'd be in and out anyways.

So there's always that chance.  There's a few houses near the park that parents are able to do that now and keep an eye on their kids.  And then for some of them.. they have this "Won't happen to me" attitude.

I know as a parent of 4 that there's times when you just need 10 minutes to yourself to get Something accomplished....wait.... that's called Summer when all 4 of them are home all day long!  Kidding lol.  Kindergarten or younger I think should be with an adult....point blank....unless they're in direct line of sight from home.  Older then that then it depends on the kids.  And then with the older watching younger, I don't take the chance.  Even with my kids being careful to watch their little sister (she's 4) I wouldn't trust my 10 yr old to keep tabs on her without me there.  I'm able to sit and draw at one of the benches while they play and I have piece of mind =)

and to the vandalism and etc that the older kids get into.... it's not a problem around here but I'd expect so many of us at that age did write things like "Sue was here" and whatnot on park phones and the like.  I chalk it up to boredom.  Combatting it, if kids are showing a gift at tagging then I'd be getting them into art more.   My oldest showed talent with drawing, got in some serious trouble for doing it on one of her walls, and now has her own supplies.   Somehow she thought taking a piece of my canvas would be worse then her wall...silly kiddo!

 I agree with a bunch of what you said that after a certain age its not as big a deal and that younger ones should be watched more that was more my point to this whole thing that these kids are tiny anyone can come in here on one side is a parking lot and the other side the river so yes i think these kids should have a parent with them, unless they are older and know and follow rules.

as for the vandalism its more like broken car windows and paintballing the building ripping the exit signs out and the emergency lights in the hall for when the power goes out. tagging and graffiti is nothing in comparison to the actual dammage they do.

i get being busy and all that but some of these kids are like 4 years old or younger and they are out there alone i think thats what i have a harder time understanding after a certain age they understand "stranger danger" a bit better but at that age shouldnt someone be there?

stick with it its fun and a great calorie burner! why not do it hahaha

I think alot of people have gone trough the same thing at some point in time or another it took me about 2 months to get to that point and it sucked i felt like i was failing at everything not just my weight loss i still counted but i did go over but once i realized what i was doing i spent some time to get my mind back together. i relaxed read a book and wrote about it all in my food journal and now im back feeling like i want to count and excersise. it really does such especially when you enjoy excersising and then dont do it and cant understand why. losing weight is not going to be easy the whole time some days youll just want to stop and relax everything and stop thinking and others youll be super happy doing all of it, no matter how much you know it will take time you will have days that youll just want it all gone but stay with it youll do great youll feel awsome and you wont regret all the effort you put into it. good luck on your journey!

i used to drink lots of water then i stopped when i started agin i did the same thing i would drink a glass of water while watching a movie and would go to the bathroom 4 times before it was over what i noticed was if i kept drinking water this would slow down after a few days until things would go back to normal. I read somewhere that when you dont get enough water your body stores it and when you start drinking the water your body needs it gets rid of the water you stored

it depends on your height weight and activity lever and age

im 19, 5'10 and when i started 246lbs my intake was abot 2200 a day i am now 235 and my intake is 1900 i dont lower or raise it if i am more active i just eat the same ammount a day i only changed it because i didnt loose for a week and i checked what they suggested on here they said lower so i did and lost a bit more.

all in all normal for you may be high for someone else but dont worry about it just do what will be right for you

i live in canada too and its snowing as im typing this haha

I feel the same, i always have to adjust my pants or shirt when i sit there is no comfortable place to but my waist band and really it just makes me think hey its slowly going away i have already lost enough to be able to get rid of my big jeans that were wearing out between the legs ( just in time i didnt want to go shopping). people sometimes think im pregnant because i am shaped like im about 5 months along, that wouldnt be so bad if i actually was. But yeah i cant wait for my tummy to be gone or at least not sooo big.

id rather a flat tummy. even when its bigger i like my butt hahaha.

maybe try eating sweet fruits or plan a time to have a snack find something low calorie (or high but watch your portion) and sit down eat it and enjoy it maybe if you take the time to pay attention to eating the treats youll crave them less. I could probably eat a whole pizza if i really wanted to but when i pay attention to how it tastes, the texture, all that i feel full faster. other than that all i can say is will power.

The way i have looked at getting the calories i need in a day is thinking that im eating to loose weight on a day that maybe im busy and dont slow down all day and forget or i just dont feel like anything i have in my house to eat or just dont want to eat at all i try to remind myself that to make sure my weight loss keeps going and i stay healthy that i need to find something to eat. I have my own issues around my weight and my self esteem but i have always been concious of my habits as far as making sure i am eating enough and as healthy as i can on a budget and with a somewhat picky family. everytime you think you feel full concider what you ate and how many calories it was then think of how many you need if you didnt eat enough push a little, your mind could be fighting your body.

periods are pretty light and can be fairly painfull. it hurts most of the time but i get sharp alot lately.

I think im lucky my son eats healthy food and likes it he asks for an apple over chocolate and would rather eat veggies than a burger, he is 5, i know it has to do with me feeding him this stuff but we dont cut out all the bad food we just taught him that its something to have as a snack not as a meal. I do pretty good most of the time eating healthy foods but my problem was portion control. I have found it pretty easy to change that but i just think parents think if they give their kids the crap food they will not wine or cry for it. the problem with that is the parents created it.

The way i delt with it was ignore it when i could then when i turned 18 i stopped all contact with him. my dad did more than just pick at my weight he picked at everything my hair my nails my teeth my skin my job i had anything he could put down he did. now cutting him out of your life may not be the answer for you and if your dad is at all understanding then talking to him may be easier. Mine was impossible to talk to no matter what i was wrong im not sure how old you are but i know i became alot happier once i didnt have to hear it all anymore and it has been alot easier to lose weight and be healthy the way i want to be. and trust me your not alone I see people treat their kids like this all the time and it pisses me off because i know what long term damage can be done by it. just be strong and confident with yourself and start to try not to care what anyone thinks it takes time but i did it so can you.