Posts by meisteh

The best way to reach your goals is obviously to enjoy the journey. A couple little things that help me are:

• Find exercises you enjoy doing.
  I actually itch for my next weights day, I can't wait! Variety in exercise is good of course but if you have fun then you won't stop. If it's hard to enjoy them then perhaps pick the most tolerable and make it the only time you listen to your favourite music.
  
  
• Give eating boring a plain a try.
  Doesn't work for some people but I've actually started really enjoying plain foods such as vegetables and meats without any sauce or fatty/sugary flavour added (it took a couple weeks). Try it and if it turns out you enjoy it, then that'll be great for achieving your goals.
  
  
• Measure yourself regularly from the start
  I don't necessarily mean weight (that too), but grab a tape measure and perhaps a skin fold caliper and take lots of measurements every 2 or 4 weeks, depending on how fast you're trying to achieve your goals. I only started this a month ago and wish I started earlier as it's a real buzz and motivator to watch numbers fall and rise (depending on which ones). E.g. I haven't lost any weight in the last 2 weeks but I lost nearly 2cm from my waistline and gained 1cm on my arms (which is good in my case!) so I was extatic to see those numbers and I wouldn't have known if I just watched the scale.
  
  
• Research, research, research.
  Spend lots of time asking advice and reading about different types of exercise and about nutrition. There's a lot of conflicting information out there (and a lot of bad information) but I've found that doing lots of research usually leads things to become clearer and clearer over time. And the more you know the more equipped you will be achieving your goals.

All the best, go kick some arse!

The feelings may never go away completely. I'm 6'1", 142lbs and I still very often can't stand looking in the mirror. However that's not a reason to stop. You feel better now than you did 2 years ago and that will only improve when you reach your goal.

Unfortunately in life we usually can't escape our problems completely but we sure can work to reduce the impact they have on us and the more we do this the happier we become. And what could be more important than being as happy as possible?

Here are a few things I do to help reduce negative feelings and keep things in perspective, maybe they will help you too:

1. Think back to how often you felt good about yourself 2 years ago and compare it to how often you feel good about yourself today. It's definitely a difference isn't it? With more work it'll get even better!
2. Discover when you feel the best about yourself and when you feel the worst, then use that knowledge to your advantage. Eg. I usually feel bad during the day when I don't go for a jog in the morning and I like looking in the mirror after doing weights and having a shower. So when I know I need a good day I make sure I go for a jog and I try not to look in the mirror except after doing weights, and then I make sure to relish it, make some poses and such ;)
3. Compare before and after measurements and photos. Weight isn't the only difference and sometimes seeing the changes is a helpful reminder of how far you've come. When I started measuring and found I lost 1.5cm from my waistline I was excited and looking at old photos is a good reminder of the improvements I've made and what I don't want to go back to.

By losing 40lbs you've achieved more in weight loss than most people ever will, that's bloody excellent! My workplace is full of people complaining about their weight who never do anything about it and probably never will. You've already got my respect for your achievement and unlike so many other people it looks like you'll achieve your goal and be much stronger and happier for it.

Well done and keep kicking arse! Imagine the future you'd like and fight tooth and nails for it, you deserve it!

Original Post by danaofdoom:

because men feel inferior when they see a woman who is more fit than they are. so they talk about how unfeminine and ugly it is and make women not want to look that way.

This goes the other way too. Many women want their partner to be bigger and stronger than them.

In this instance 1600 calories is the amount needed to provide the energy the body needs to function every day. By previously only eating 1200 calories per day, it forces the body to get energy from fat (or muscle) already in the body. And this is how they lose weight.

So once the person's goal weight has been achieved, they no longer want to get any of their energy from muscle or fat in their body, they want to get it all from the food they eat. Therefore they must eat more to stay at that weight, or they might continue to lose more weight.

That's quite a simplification of course and Calorie Count provides recommendations for individuals, not facts (that would require expensive medical tests). So you might need to see what works for you. Try the amount Calorie Count recommends for a while and see how it goes. Or if you want, try a tiny bit underneath it. See what works for you; what gives you enough energy each day while maintaining your weight.

I've been following the directions on the following site for the last 2 months and its been great. There are beginner plans, detailed video instructions, nutrition advice and more. And it's primarily driven around cheap home workouts. I have no affiliation, it' just a great resource :P (plus it's just a guy sharing his knowledge and experiences, he doesn't sell anything).

I highly recommend watching as many videos on it as possible and soon enough you'll know quite a lot!

http://scoobysworkshop.com/

The issue is your mothers and not yours. I don't feel qualified to offer advice on what to say to her but I'd like to let you know that you're not alone.

My girlfriend is naturally very thin and her overweight mother is always either commenting on how anorexic she is or telling her that she's getting fat. No rational discussions/arguments have ever helped and I think my girlfriend has given up trying to please her or get her to understand. Whilst some people can change unfortunately most don't and some people can never be pleased.

Your mother has problems that your physique, size and health cannot fix. Your best bet is to just focus on your own health and when your mother is being frustrating perhaps just try to let the conversation go, remember it's her problem not yours and either think some nice thoughts or think about the parts of your Mum that you like.