Posts by caclbmc

That's really a shame that they are not being watched and I two have been at the playground with my daughter and seen other kids playing and I know they are not being supervised. I can easily say when we are leaving to the child do you want us to walk you home or We are going home now maybe you should too and walk them home. But it would make it hard if I didn't have my daughter with me I would be afraid that someone would think I was trying to kidnap them and have me arrested even if I had good intentions. I know sometimes kids can get away from you and you don't even know it.  Or your older child is suppose to be watching them and didn't. Has happened to me one time my daughter walked down to the neighbors while I was taking a shower. And older sister was suppose to be watching her. Lucky when I got out of the shower I asked her where she was and she said IDK and I went out looking for her in a towel but did anyway. I saw her on side the roade. 15 mins later a Sheriff car pulled in the driveway asking I she had been walking down the road and I said "yes I got her". Someone saw her walking and called them (which is probable the safest thing to do but be sure no one knows it was you because Social Serivices can be called if the parents didn't know or are not watching them you may hear slack about it).She was 4 and wanted to play with the dog.When I found her I freaked and instead of yelling sat down on the ground holding her sobbing unconrollable made her realize how dangerous it really is or maybe she didn't want mommy to get upset again because Now that she is 7 she never leaves my side I go to the bathroom she goes to the bathroom, I taking a shower she right there. If we go shopping and I leave her line of sight she freaks out and when she sees me she lets me know that she is affraid that I (Me, her mom) got lost or kidnapped.  Her Daddy Calls her his proctoigist (sp?_) (not to her face) as she walks right behind him all the time won't let him out of her site and every time he stops she bumps into him, She follows him around the house like that and if he goes to the bathroom she stands outside the door and talks to him.  She has gotten alot better I have to admit. If we go shopping she will run down an Isle to get Cereal while I stand at the end of it but and runs back, she will go in the ladies room but I have to stand at the door and ask her "Everything okay every few minutes so she knows I am there. So she is learning Independance.

Sorry I have not gotten back to everyone sooner lot going on, which is another problem.  Here is the update.

Got out of work, texted him that I was on my way home. I got to the camper and he was already in there. Night light on a bouquet of flowers on the table and note telling me he was in the back in bed. He said he was sorry and if he fell asleep to wake him up when I got there.He was sleeping soundly never heard me come in so I went in the house and showered put on a long silk gown and robe, and went back out there. ( I was not expecting anything but I wanted to look nice). I tried to wake him up but he was in a very deep sleep I guess, so I just crawled in bed and snuggled up with him. Which he responded to this quite nicely by pulling me close to him. We slept like that all night, He ended up waking up for work late, which he said "I just didn't want to get out of bed, I was to comfortable and didn't want to go to work" He said " I wish I had called off". Which made me feel really good. He went into the house and bought me a change of clothes as we also own a garage with another guy and he didn't want me walking to the house in my sexy night gown, for everyone to see. Which again made me feel good as he still thinks I am sexy.

He came home from work early, Now mind you he went in a half hr. late and came home early which he can do but never does, he usually works late everyday. We where able to talk. I told him that calling me a sex-aholic hurt and he apologized saying he didn't mean it as a bad thing that. He was happy about my new desire. I asked him why he was avoiding it. He then said that he had a lot on his mind and proceeded to tell me. I then told him that he needed to communicate to me what was going on that we have always communicated how we feel and to stop now  would only put more strain on our marriage. I then told him that I didn't mean it that I would find it else where if he didn't want me anymore. He said he knew that as because I always said that If we split up I would call him for a booty call if I ever wanted sex, and we both laugh. I asked him if I could joke about him being my "New found boyfriend and Joked about not telling my husband. He said " Only if I didn't tell his wife".

I went to work on Wed and texted him on and off all day with things like " I would like to make an appointment for to get an oil and lube" If I could have tube steak for dinner" You get the picture and he replied with a lot of other ones "Eating at the golden arches etc. We can't get to naughty with texts just in case the 7 yr old gets his/my phone and reads them.

Anyway we did this all day thursday as he had to work. It was my day off. My 7 year old got off the bus as her sisters. They had something planed anyway. The 16 yr old went shopping with 18 yr old and he house was empty, When he go home he had to work in our garage. Well Here comes the good Part! I got my Sugar Honey Ice Tea, and PUNK. As Eddiep would put it and used some of his very good advice, he was half way under a car when I sunk in the garage locked the door and went to town on him. When I suddenly stop and went to walk away and he asked "What's wrong?" I said I had to make dinner, Well need less to say We ended up ordering Pizza as there was not time for dinner and the girls got home we were still in the garage. It was the longest most intimate time we ever spent together.

I really want to thank everyone for your posts and suggestions I took each one as not negative or positive I evaluated them too Notes and processed everything. I valued every ones opinion. But most of all I want to thank EddieP and yes his advice and ideas did work for me. They were defiantly better then casmo mag. My husband asked what I was reading. I told him I got advice from a friend not telling him who and said He doesn't have to know all my secrets. He was a little disturbed as the though I was Airing our sex lives to everyone. I explained that I was just asking a friend for new Ideas, as to make our already good sex life a lot more Spicier. Which I was not lying,  I just didn't give details.

Anyway Eddiep Where did you do the research from I would like to find out more Ideas. LOL or Maybe you could keep them coming It is so nice to have a man's perspective on this kind of matter.

Thanks again everyone!!!!

Cathy

Thanks for all you input. I Called my 21 yr old daughter. She is taking my 7 yr old over night, and to school in the morning. My 16 yr old on a sleep-over to study for finals. I have to work till 12am but my friend gave me the Idea to go to the camper tonight and have candles, cheese crackers and wine (beer for him) and just talk about it. printed out these pages will review them and ask him the questions from Nonoreexcuses.

My daughter doesn't know the exact details of whats going on, I only said "your dad doesn't love me anymore He's not attracted to me"  I think she has the general Idea as she gave me some Cosmopolitan Magazines and said this may help. I plan on reading them at work.

Anyway I am going to text him and tell him I am in the camper and to be quiet so my Husband does not find out. When he gets out there I am going to tell him that he is the only one I want to be with, so I am making him my boyfriend on the side. Will let you know how it goes.

I am sorry if telling him that I would find it someplace else sounded so mean but when you try everything. I have even resorted to walking around the house in my birthday suit and nothing. We still enjoy each others company. We talk for all hours of the night about everything. It just seems like since the girls are not home on the week-ends and we aren't sneaking to do something he just not interested. We go out a few times a month, I end up having a few drinks and i have to attack him and the next day he says you really are a sex-aholic which hurts my feelings.

I have even suggested Viagra, (i even admit I have though about getting a herbal supplement to put in his food but was afraid that if he had an allergic reaction or something I would have to fess up to what I did and I'm not that good at being deceitful).

Thanks Vanessa1031 I will try that.

Being tall has it's advantages. Yes you can reach the top shelf at the grocery store. You can see over the croud at a concert. You can be a model.

It also has disadvantages: Finding a guy taller then you. Sitting in a little sports car. finding pants that fit your waist and are long enough. You can get a pair of pants shortened but you can't get one lengthened, Or not being able to wearing one of those cute dresses because instead of going to just above your knees they go just below your butt cheeks.

Just had a flash back:

I remember being 13 I was taller then anyone my age, My girlfriend fixed me up with a boy(shorter then me). We (her and her boyfriend, me and my date) went to the park her boyfriend picked her up and carried her down a hill (now she was short and very petite) Well the boy I was with wanted to do the same thing. With much protesting I let him picked me up. We went down the hill and he fell forward right on me. Everyone laughed. Needless to say I didn't date till I was 17 and he had to be a very buff guy. Which was cutting off my nose to spite my face, as I missed out on dating some nice boys.

Don't miss out on life and having fun. You can never go back and change it. If you like wearing heals wear them, I say wear the shoe if they fit, If everyone looks at you, It's because they are jealous and wish they could look so good.

I have problem with diverticulitus or diverticulosis ( not sure which one is the worst) It got so bad  I had to be hospitalized for 4 days the 1st time and 3 days the second, and IBS. I would be consipated for a week and have diahrea for days, then constipation and back and fourth.

I finally found a good dr. and she told me to eat a cup of fiber one cereal with some other food I chose Oatmeal (flavored) with psyllium husk (2 tablespoons). I mix all three with plenty of water almost making it like soup and chock it down with a  full glass of h2o (I chose 20 oz. bottle  to be sure I am getting enough)  I don't particularly like it but it keeps me moving and haven't had much of a problem (haven't had to be hospitalized). I also take two tablespoons of benefiber in a cup of hot Coffee or tea. I get two sips in the am and I am off to the bathroom, I usually go two or three times a day (lg. soft well formed bm movements).

I have lost about 10 lbs and have kept it off.

When I had my last colonsocopy Dr asked me what I was doing as everything looked good except for a few polyps. Its a lot cheaper a pound of psyillium husk is about $3-$4, and benifiber (wal-mart brand) $13 Lasts me about 6 months.

Good Luck

Cathy

Which why protein powder do you drink, I am allergic to Soy. I got one from the local super market. Not sure how good it is. Someone said it was not a good choice too high in calories. But I couldn't find anything else we live in small town. Have a wal-mart but is the brand they carry ok. I don't want to spend the money on something not good for you.

Thanks Cathy

My suggestion Go to wal-mart and use the scale there wont cost you a dime. That's what I did. I also didn't have a tape measure so I used my cord for my cell phone used masking tape to mark my waist. hips and thighs sizes then I could check to see if they went down or not.

Good luck,

Original Post by giasbash6260:

So I will definitely come back to this forum to see people's ideas on movies because I am constantly looking for one to watch (when I get the motivation to drive over to blockbuster)... I just rented Zak & Miri Make a Porno... yea, not the best thing in the world but it did make me giggle! 

Oh and as for the movie Marley & Me - yea, I think I hate it because 2 weeks after I saw the movie, my dog Jackson died! Oh and you know how Marley's stomach flipped? Well that is essentially what happened to my COLON! Yes, people can get DOG problems too! ha ha! 

You rented Zak and Miri Make a Porno at blockbuster. I am assuming not a kids Movie. LOL 

I live with 3 of my Boyfriends

1 was only short term it was more out of convenience then anything, neither one of us wanted to live at home and we couldn't afford to be out on our own. Really did not change a thing he had his life I had mine. I wanted more and he could not/would not commit to more. Did not really argue just knew it was time to get out. Mind you I never cheated just moved in with family. Live in Relationships out of convenience never work. (was a good lesson for me)

The next one was 2 yrs. Bad relationship all together was a fiance, I wouldn't married him till we lived together first wanted to be sure we could get along after the first live together as we were having problems from the start. Never did get along he was too abusive and I would not stand there and take it. (a very good lesson for me)

Number three was the charm we Lived together for 2 years been married 23 yrs., 4 daughters. Didn't really argue the first 3 yrs we where together, then we moved in with his mom. Argued ever since, but still together never changed how we feel about each other and our ability to communicate. We still love each other and act like we dating. Just argue which is  sometimes healthy for a relationship as long as no one gets physically or emotionally hurt. Besides we still love to make up I thinks that is the best part. I still get flowers every once in a while, he stopped putting candy on my pillow now it's fresh fruit. And I still take dinner to him at work 2 or 3 times a week. If my husband left today I would not be devastated I would and could carry on, (although if he passed away I do not think I could handle it). He always jokes that it took too long to train me why would he want out now. And I say if I moved out I would call him for a Booty Call. By the way he would get my girls, (He definitely would not have a life taking care of them (I am joking, I could not give up my daughters). Oh we still date once or twice a month. We have Date night and get all dolled up and go out. We sometimes miss a few months of dating and I can really tell that it is time to go out.

I wouldn't change a thing learned a lot about myself and what I wanted, Mostly what I didn't want. Just try to remember If it don't work out that It's time to get out, don't stay in a live in  relationship to long if it is not working. I never thought of the break-ups as a failure only as a lesson and tryed to learn from it.

Thanks for the clarification on that, I didn't know that. I never usually bother to look at the date a thread was started I just look at when last post was, and I see so much of "Why don't you do a search on that instead of posting the same question", which I am sorry to say I didn't do a couple of times but after getting my hand slapped a few times realized this. as a matter of fact when I saw this post I almost posted to it when I did a search on Dogs. but didn't because It wasn't what I wanted to talk about.

I just don't understand why someone has to be so mean about It. Maybe she really didn't know that you shouldn't do it. I didn't till you told me being new at this and all. She could have just explained it like you did.

Almost smack dab in the middle between Rochester and Buffalo.

I was not really asking for proof. I was just asking what You Think. Not whether someone is right or wrong but your Feeling.

Belief to me Is Faith. I have faith/belief,  that my children will make good choices and even when they may not make the choice I would make,  that it is the right choice for them, that all people are not bad they just make choices that I would not make. That when I am at the end of my rope that everything will work out. Whether I am right or wrong that's my belief. Belief doesn't have to be proven its not fact It's just how you feel, and feelings are not fact, they can change. Fact or proof is something that never changes that can be proven.  Belief is Hope their is a place we go to when we die, Hope that our pets go to that same place.

My original post was

I was wondering how many people out there think that animals have a Spirit like we do???

Do you think they go to heaven??? I sure hope they do. Do you think they Pick us or we pick them, or just because???

I don't thinks it's neither bad dog nor bad owner. I think it's just personality differences. I have had lots of dogs growing up and have only had to get rid of 4 for bad behavior,  3 German Shepard's and one mixed ??, I love them too that's the sad part. my first was a white Shepard (he followed me home one day). reminded me of the one from that Jody Foster movie, well he acted just like that one. He never attacked anyone in the family but cornered the neighbor in the hall and she call the cops and they shot him ( I was 9 so it was 35 yrs ago). Next one I was 13 and he was following me home and got hit by a car and I was crying the guy that hit him took him to the vet and paid the bill. The guy said I could keep him but if I decided to get rid of him I had to call him and he would come get him. Well this one was big he could jump a 6ft fence and not touch the top. He would steal the neighbors cloths of their cloths line and bring them home, my step-father went to discipline us one day and he attacked him. He loved us kids hated my step-father Good dog the best I ever had didn't get beat the whole year I had him. He finally made us get rid of him ( he went to the man who paid the vet bill like promised) The last one he some how found my House about 4 yrs ago ( Humm I have 22 she was 18 at the time I wounder if he followed her home some how too LOL) Anyway we own a business I couldn't keep him he was great with other dogs and kids he just didn't like some of our customers (nipped two of them) so I gave him to a good friend of ours who has a farm.I had one dog Thunder bolt Bless her heart, ( she's in heaven now) but was given to me because she couldn't get along with my sister's dog at the time I had P.J (puppy Jr.) and Ginger.  Well my sister was going to have her shot (not only illegal Unfair, and inhumane). I took her she got along fine with my dogs, also with my friends dogs, she was fine as long as I was walking her if another dog came around, but one day she Went after another dog, and she too was leashed. I just think she was somehow threatened whether or not she thought it was going to hurt me or what. I had to put he down. At the time we lived in a apartment house and the landlord said the dog or us. I couldn't afford to move  or find anyone to take her so... I still get pissed cause we found a house 6 months later, I wish we had found it earlier.

I now have a Wiener dog, he was abused by previous owner said he hated kids. Well he loves my seven yr old and my granddaughter and all the other kids that come over. I caulk that one up to the previous owner had a 5 yr old and she tried to  drowning him in the pool so he didn't like her 10 kids. I don't think I would neither.  My Ginger girl I have had her for 16yrs she is 20 yrs old at least, she was owned by my mom and my stepfather well she couldn't be house broke and he was not to nice to her. I was there one day and he beat her I got pissed picked her up and said I was taking her home and if they ever owned another dog again I was calling the SPCA on them. Needless to say she has only had a few accidents in the house (when daughters to lazy to let her out) but no big problem, a little shy with men but it doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure that one out. She loves my husband follows him all over. We also have Landon a 6month Old Lab mix. Each dog is so loved by all of us My 7 yr old and all three dogs are inseparable they are constant companions to her. If you ask her what her best friends names are she will say Landon, Wiener, and Ginger Schultz. They are family.

Oh PJ who passes away after 24 yrs. She was an SPCA dog. She never barked in the house or at anyone accept one person and every time he came around we had  to kennel her because I believe she would have bit him needless to say he didn't come around much, and he was not a nice person, so  it didn't break my heart. And Sparky another SPCA dog who lived with us for 20 wonderful years. Bless his heart he never did stop bolting out the door when you opened it.

I think too it might on occasion be just the dog and breeding. My sister-in-law had a Cocker spaniel it bit all three of my daughters and went after my grand-daughter it attacked each one of them without provocation what so ever. I personally never liked that dog from the day I first saw it. They never abused it  took it out, fed it, took it on walks this dog was not lacking in anything. Finally they put it down when the neighbor got attacked and threatened to sue.

So I have see dogs have personality conflict with other dogs and humans, They also seem to just come to me and I know that its a dog I am suppose to have. Some times no matter how much you love them they can just be difficult, it's like a kid how can You have 4 kids they are all from the same two parents, you  raise them the same you treat them the same but one is a handful. Just plain personality. Its nothing you could have done or changed its just the way they were made. I could get a lot deeper about this subject but I think animals have a spirit and are meant to be with us to teach us a lesson or to learn a lesson. It's life or spiritual growth. I don't take it personally I just love them all the same and try to remember that I have to do what is best and safe for them and everyone around them.

Sorry its so long but I like to talk and get passionate about animals.

45  Well will be 46 will be Married 23 yrs.

8 ex-boyfriends

5 under a yr.= 4 that I slept with (we moved a lot I was experimenting)

2 that I lived with  (not at same time one from 18yrs old -20 the other 21 to 22.5) One ex-fiance)

I started dating at 13 Married at 23

Hubby, boyfriend number 8 and still is, we still act like we dating. LOL Man that took a lot of effort and the sad part I can't even remember all their names.

WOW I always thought that I was  inexperienced but now that I look at it on here I wasn't as innocent as I thought Shh!!! Don't tell my 4 daughter's.