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| Fitness | I'm at my goal weight but I still feel fat | Jul 30 2009 17:09 (UTC) |
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Honestly - I've been at this point and what helped slim my legs was to work out more.
The jiggles really just turned into muscle... and I love having hard thighs and a tight mid section. Good luck! |
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| Foods | Best and most yummy way to have chocolate without the guilt! | Jul 08 2009 18:35 (UTC) |
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I LOVE LOVE Emerald's Cocoa Roast Almonds. They have this hint of dark chocolate on the almonds, they come in 100 calorie packs and are PERFECT for that chocolate craving. |
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| The Lounge | In Laws (Argh!!) | Jun 24 2009 15:21 (UTC) |
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That's lovely that you had the chance to rebuild things with your mother before she passed. Again, everyone is different. If there was an assurance that when the boys talk to her she won't flip out and throw a fit... then I think they would discuss the 30+ years of verbal abuse/neglect and the fact that she cannot act the way she is acting now. My fiance wants me to be the moderator but I really don't feel it is my place. I seem to be the only person with sense and a good head on my shoulders because I think logically and rationally. (My fiance has dealt with mental health issues and is doing good now since being with me, his brother takes Paxil and his mother, well we already went through that LOL) but that still does not qualify me to be the referee, ya know. Now when we are married and have children and she wants to interfere with OUR family, then I will definately intervene but again, at this point in time, that's not going to happen. I'm not sure what the right answer is... some people are fine just never talking to their family again... some rather hold on. So there is no one solution and he would rather have her in his life if she acted like a rational human than a spoiled child. At this point, he is done. Like the saying... you can pick your friends but you can't pick your family I've been showing my fiance this post... it's helped him a lot and we truly appreciate all the input. |
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| The Lounge | In Laws (Argh!!) | Jun 23 2009 19:28 (UTC) |
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Original Post by moonikins: Oh this woman is capable of taking care of herself and her husband and parents left her a lot of money. Her hobbies continue but she complains about everything. She loves gardening but somehow turns it to something miserable and painful. The guilt is the worse thing... I mean, I would do anything to not have my mother cry but then my mom doesn't use it to guilt me to put in a new mailbox in the front of the house or take the pool cover off (she did this yesterday and she got hysterical and he ran over on his way to work, almost getting in late...who does that at 8am??) What's worse is she makes him feel terrible about himself and tells everyone they know that her sons are useless and don't help her.... Gosh it's so upsetting. If his father was alive, he would never want things this way. |
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| The Lounge | In Laws (Argh!!) | Jun 23 2009 19:01 (UTC) |
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OMG I'm SO adding you as a friend dispatchn! I really hope it doesn't not come to this point. It's like you just sit and wait to see what madness she pulls out next? |
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| The Lounge | In Laws (Argh!!) | Jun 23 2009 18:57 (UTC) |
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Oh everything you said I 100% agree with... I just let out (posted) the angry part for now since she's having an episode right now. Yes, this family has plenty of issues that were never address with their mother since the father was the mediator behind things. I just wish they could get a long. My family is by NO means perfect but there came a point when I parents just "got it". My family has had drug abuse, affairs, suicide attempts... I mean, heavy stuff but in the end, why would you drive the only people you have away from you. It's beyond me and I frankly think she needs to learn that the gifts of life given to us should by no means be taken for granted. I have not gotten involved, just been supportive and helped out where I can. I wasn't raised to be disrepectful to elders. The boys are trying the best they can but slowly they are just running for the hills. The issues go FAR beyond the death of her husband and expecting my fiance to drop everything for her is out of the question. |
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| Motivation | At my lowest point... | Jun 23 2009 18:12 (UTC) |
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Bummer hon! Throw out ALL of your sweets! Hang up pictures of yourself at your heaviest and pictures of what you want to look like on your refridgerator and cupboard... i am about to do that now! Give it time... unfortunately this does not happen over night. =( |
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| The Lounge | / | Jun 23 2009 17:50 (UTC) |
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Wholly crap crazydiamondchrysalis! Someone needs a vacation like NOW LOL Corporate hell! I would definately say working for Bear Stearns and now JPMorgan I have hit the end of the line with insanity in this place. I can't tolerate the politics and I definately cannot have enough vacation time to allow to fully rejuvenate. I can honestly tell you that working out and boxing regularly makes me run out of the office everyday rather than stay until 8-9pm at night (last week I was actually here until 11pm and when I got home I worked out for a meesly 45min) It feels good to punch something and not stare at spreadsheets all day |
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| Motivation | SUPER Motivation needed! | Jun 18 2009 15:23 (UTC) |
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Cool... thank you so much. I was hoping more would post because they have felt the same way... darn those plateau's... of DOOM! Ever feel like you freak out so much about losing the weight that you get too scared to put anything in your mouth? I can remember the day where I would go out and just have fun and not worry about eat too many...say... chips and salsa... now I just gain tons of water weight! Unbelievable right?! I need a buddy, to keep me motivated for these last 30-40 pounds... god I feel like a loser now LOL |
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| The Lounge | Words of wisdom for a HS grad? | Jun 17 2009 14:38 (UTC) |
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Congrats on graduating! At least you'll save $$ going to community college... I actually got a Stafford Loan and didn't have to pay anything except my books for my 4 yr uni. Definately make an appt with the financial aid office and they'll help you finance your education. Good luck! |
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| Foods | how do you say no to your own birthday cake? | Jun 04 2009 19:18 (UTC) |
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Happy Birthday!! |
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| Motivation | Gave into temptation | Jun 03 2009 21:56 (UTC) |
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yum frozen fruit! That or chew sugar free gum... the other option is (reposted) brush your teeth. Always a problem solver here =D |
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| Foods | Wylie Dufresne's WD-50... What to eat on the menu!??? | Jun 03 2009 21:26 (UTC) |
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The problem is eating out to all these places is what got me in trouble in the first place. There's so much yummy food here in NYC. The issue is - I was trying to be good considering I put myself on this weight loss goal for my high school reunion. A collegue of mine here at BRAVO said the portions are small... so it's not too bad. The tasting menu is SO tempting! I would just about get the 8 course dessert menu and call it a night. What do you say?!! LOL One night isn't going to hurt me! LOL |
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| Foods | Wylie Dufresne's WD-50... What to eat on the menu!??? | Jun 02 2009 20:50 (UTC) |
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I can't image the portions being huge at this place either. I wish they had pictures of the food on the menu. I guess I should eat very little or just go all out. This is a birthday gift for the in-law but It's a FREE meal too... I might as well go crazy. Too bad no one posted if they have been here or not... bummer =( |
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| Weight Loss | How do I set my mother straight? | May 22 2009 16:35 (UTC) |
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i hate talking about weight to my mother because she seems resentful that I am the thinnest out of everyone. I am in a family were my mother diets all the time and exercises like a maniac yet she is still over weight. The issue is the "child" (regardless of your age) looking for acceptance and guidance from a parent. It's the classic "looking for love and approval" from the parent. In my case, EVERYTHING revolves around my weight (in my family) whether I was heavy or now thin. I couldn't win so I just avoided the issue and if they made comments I would ignore acknowledging anything. |
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| Weight Loss | Farewell Beautiful Breats, Hello Table-Top | May 21 2009 16:10 (UTC) |
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Yeah - the ever shrinking boobies! |
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| The Lounge | Why does intelligence always get questioned? | May 20 2009 18:57 (UTC) |
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Who is anyone to judge a person because they are brave enough to ask for some help. People are people man... Live and let live. |
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| Foods | In the spirit of ice cream season!!! | May 19 2009 17:41 (UTC) |
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Oh this a great idea! Get ideas for low-cal desserts as well. Naughty - Like it Strawberry Blonde from Cold Stone OR a regular cone of Banana soft serve from Jersey Freeze in Freehold Nice - (Again) Sugar Free Dreyer's Slow Churned Vanilla Bean OR EVEN BETTER - Napoli Boys Mango Italian Ice... only (I think) 60 calories per serving and NO high fructose corn syrup... yay! |
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| Weight Loss | Im doing the master cleanse !! | May 14 2009 14:50 (UTC) |
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The master cleanse is TERRIBLE. My body was in agony. I had nausea, headaches and chills. I am a vegan and stay away from coffee and heavily caffienated drinks so I know for FACT that I was not crashing from those substances. It must have been the maple syrup glucose or maybe the cayenne on an empty stomache. Nonetheless... terrible for the body and you WILL gain it back. Beyonce did. |
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| Weight Loss | Just a rant about lack of progress... | May 14 2009 14:45 (UTC) |
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I understand your frustration. No lie... I gained 4 pounds overnight and it stayed around for a whole week. That was an emotional disaster on my part. It was all just water weight from the chips and salsa I engorged myself on the previous night. I hate fat days... and weeks. Your not the only one =D |
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| Weight Loss | . | May 12 2009 18:01 (UTC) |
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I feel the same sometimes, I'm 27 and lost 75 pounds... it's been a challenge. I just keep in mind how miserable and guilty I will feel if I indulge in very negative eating habits. I remind myself that I will physically get ill and sometimes it works and sometimes I just don't care and eat a handful of miniatture chocolates. I've been doing what themassageguy says... and it's worked TODAY LOL A good herbal tea or chai with a splenda-- yum. Get rid of all that food that tempts you as well. Just chuck it all out in the dumpster immediately. Sometimes it's what you have to do. I take my goodies to work and set out for my co-workers so at least it doesn't go to waste LOL Good luck and HTH |
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| Weight Loss | Pizza | May 07 2009 21:25 (UTC) |
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Sounds like a happy slurge... I went on a nacho and margarita one Friday night. Then I made the bad choice of weighing myself the next day. It also took 3 days to lose the water weight from all the salt in the cheese, salsa and chips. So true, pizza is heavy and the scale will go up... and will remain for the next few days because of water weight. It's a scary thing to gain 4 pounds in 1 day... I cried and cried. So, as an emotional warning... NO SCALE for the next 2-3, maybe 4, days. |
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| Foods | chocolate cravings | May 07 2009 20:52 (UTC) |
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I found a gem at a Health Food store. The company is called "Nutritious Creations" they have a website too... I was so happy to find a BIG low-fat chocolate chip cookie for ONLY 150 calories. They also have these "hybrid cookies" called Cookie Chips. They are like rice cakes with chocolate drizzle (Rocky Road is my FAV).. the WHOLE BAG is a serving and 150 calories! Can't beat that! |
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| Motivation | Help!!!!!!! | May 06 2009 18:01 (UTC) |
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Original Post by shg_chiquita: That's so great! I pray for that moment... I'm so happy for you =D |
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| Weight Loss | What is your pant size? | May 06 2009 17:53 (UTC) |
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Ah sounds like we should be related LOL I'm puerto rican and the booty and thighs are strong in my family. I am 27 yrs old, 5'5", 160 lbs and a size 9/10. I've been fortunate to have a small waist but still... when I was 230, I wore a size 16 to 18. If you have bigger thighs then the thighs always win even if you can somehow manage to still zip up those jeans. |
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New journal post Back to basics by lovemytulip 03:43 |
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New journal post good day by karenkazi 03:42 |
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New journal post Yay! another day well done.. by 1200calgirl 03:41 |
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New forum message I love losing weight =) by jessica3215 03:41 |