Posts by tiff88

I don't totally agree with everything the OP said but I do see where she is coming from at many points.  I think she wants people to not judge each other based on weight [ meaning she judged the fat people..but they judged her first..it creates a never ending cycle]

And with the fashion thing, I interpreted what she meant as.  If the media did start using BMI's of 30 and up or whatever other sizes, society would not all of a sudden start gaining weight.  Its not just because of fashion that people believe they to be thin..its just how society is [yes, media and different things may have started it, but they can't change it immediately]. I think of it like how people always want to tan now, in the "old days" the more pale you were.. the richer/fancier you were.  Now most people go tanning and expose themselves to skin cancer...just to look tan and pretty. [I know its not the same thing..its just a similarish comparison].  Its like societys view of beautiful has changed, and everyone wants to be what their not originally.

And as a previous poster said, she wasn't necessarily talking about everyone, she wasn't generalizing, she was talking about real people who she met/knows, who aren't like the people on this site, because they AREN'T living healthy lifestyles.

I think everyone should be treated equal, you can have pride in yourself and in things, but you shouldn't be condescending to others because they do not have those same things.  People need to see the other side of the fence.  Just as you have said many fat people have been treated like crap, I have too, for the opposite reason.  I have been told by people I am not " a real woman" because I do not have nice big boobs or a big butt. [I am naturally thin and am on this website trying to gain weight to become more "average"..whatever that may be].  Heck, when I was in my younger teens [like ages 12 to 14] people used to tell me I look like the boys in my class because I didn't really have any boobs. I've had multiple guys tell me they would never want to date me because if they'd eventually probably have to sleep with me and that would be "gross" and like "banging a bag of bones".  In high school I was sick one day and didn't eat lunch..because everytime I ate I would throw up, and had a friend report to the guidance counselor that I must be anorexic because I didn't eat anything, so a whole rumor started that I'm anorexic and a druggie and thats why I'm thin.  Ok thats enough of the insults I've had said to me, but I also know bigger people have encountered just as many if not more,  but the point is that neither of us should be getting made fun for it.  We both get hurt by it, and it only makes matters worse.  I have big friends and I think they are beautiful just as they are, but I don't envy them, just as they like how I am, but they don't envy me. 

i know how you feel. im not as tall as you though.  im 5'6" and 101 lbs.

my mom/sister are 5'3" and like 130 or 135 lbs and have normal sized boobs/waist {like not big...but not small}.   my dads entire side of the family is over weight [like all over 200 lbs].  i have a few cousins on my moms side of the family though who are tall/thin like me and have the same frustrations.

 i always think the most annoying thing is that at the side of my boobs like by my ribs..it sticks out wider.  so as if my boobs arent small enough..when you look at me straight on..my ribs/sides stick out wider than my boobs do lol.  it makes wearing some clothes a pain in the butt.

i hope somene else will respond in here that can give both of us advice! lol

I also have similar stats to you, I'm 20 yrs old, 5'6" and my weigh fluctuates usually from 100 to 103, so I'm not going to comment saying you most likely look bad and/or unhealthy because that'd be hypocritical.   I think you should just try eating more through out the day and just let your parents know that you are doing that, then they won't expect you to eat as much at that meal.  Because by eating so much at dinner, if it is making you stuffed..then your not eating through out the day which makes things even worse.  You need to eat a few meals through out the day and make sure your parents know, so they won't expect you to eat so much at dinner.

I suggest looking through the what did you eat threads because theres usually alot of different meals which also list calories and you could get ideas from there on what you could eat to bump up your calories for other meals.

my waist [im assuming this means at the smallest part in the middle of the torso kinda?]   is 23.5"  and i hate it.  i want a bigger waist.  i like dressing in fitted tshirts and tanktops..and i always find that the ones that are long enough for me and fit me..hang so loosely at my stomache they dont look right. its lilke putting a a skirt on a broom..it just doesnt fit it hangs loosely.

age 20, female, 5'6"

LW: [i dont really know what my lowest weight has been..when i first started here i weighed 101 that day..but i fluctuate]..that as may 15

CW: 100.

GW: 130

I really dont think this is going to happen..I was on here everyday doing calorie counting..then I started working alot and now I'm working 3 jobs and work 63 hours a week so even though i eat alot..i burn off so much that I can not eat enough to gain..only  maintain.  But I just figured maybe I'd start using this site again to try and keep track of it all again.

im not a doctor either...but im pretty sure when people are severely underweight and need to gain weight, it helps for them to be sedentary and not do much.  because if they exercise/ work out/ move around alot it burns more calories, therefore making it so they need to eat even more. 

so if your underweight and trying to gain. lets say for example you need to eat 3000 calories while being sedentary.  so if you are going to exercise and move around..you might burn off 1000 calories...therefore making it that you need to eat 4000 calories to gain.

when people are to skinny and recovering from ED's they should not be completely concerned with gaining fat and body fat..they just need to gain weight to survive, not be worried about becoming overweight.

once they are at a more steady, healthy weight, they can exercise and do other things and worry about an ideal distribution of weight and not have to eat as many calories and therefore be able to burn more.

Thanks so much for responding.  Wow thats alot haha, I guess I'm just gonna have to really work at increasing how much I eat and everything, especially on fridays when I work 13.5 hours.  6,000 calories is so much haha, but I will figure something out.

man. why am I the only one who posts calories, lol i just realized that... i do it cuz i thought it would help other people if they want to know what things have approximately what amount of calories for if they'd wanna eat it.

Breakfast

peaches n' cream oatmeal - [130 calories]

Strawberry pie [home made] w/ whipped cream & alittle granola - [about 620 calories]

1% milk w/ hersheys chocolate syrup - [356 calories]

Snack:

Beans n' Weiners kids kitchen - [320 calories]

Lunch

Chicken Parmesan - [350 calories]

Spaghetti w/ ragu sauce [390 calories]

Pepsi - [100 calories]

Snack

Honey Roasted Peanuts [560 calories]

Dinner:

like half a sirloin steak w/ a1 steak sauce - [about 500 calories]

Mashed potatoes w/ gravy - [270 calories]

Sweet Peas - [84 calories]

Sobe Life water - [100 calories]

Snack

Popcorn w/ extra ICBINB regular - [300 calories]

Icy tea - [about 130 calories]

Total Calories is about 4,200 so far. [yay i love when my moms home, she makes me yummy lunch haha]

SW - 101 on 5/15/09

CW - 103 on 5/26/09

Breakfast:

Waf-fulls Strawberry - 300 calories

Minute Maid Orange juice - 206 calories

Bacon - 160 Calories

Snack: 

Hershey Kisses - 207 calories

Lunch: 

Cheese steak - Approx. 580 calories

Chips - 150 calories

Icy Tea - 100 Calories

Snack:

Veal Parm w/ bread - Approx 282 calories

M&M's - 34 calories

Dinner:

Shrimp Scampi - Approx. 370 calories

Potato Filling - Approx. 300 calories

Drank 3 Icy Teas while at work - 240 calories

Its almost 3,000 calories approximately.  It says its like 2,950.  The problem is I work at a restaurant and stuff gets cooked for us so I can't look up how many calories are in it.  So I'm not sure about veal, cheese, sauce, shimp, butter, home made potato filling, cheese steak roll, cut up meat for cheese steak, sauce/ cheese for it.

Is he naturally thin [without cycling or hiking or being vegan]?  Some people honestly do just have a fast metabolsm, which is what I have.   

At 5'11" and 129 lbs his bmi is about 18, and anything under 18.5 is usually considered underweight.  Usually a good median I've always heard is like 20 to 24.  So for him to be at a 20 BMI is like 145 pounds.

I would say maybe put in the food calculator approximately how much he used to eat in one day, then you could compare its total to what they suggest.  If he's already normally eating like 3,000 and still isn't gaining weight it should be increased.

2,400 might be what he needs for like being sedentary for the average person maybe? It also could depend on what you put in, maybe you put in a low weight and a long period of time for him to reach it.  But then again its not always right,  I weigh 101 and my goal on here is 130 by october 1st, and it tells me to eat 2,000 a day.  I've been eating 3,000 a day..and still not gaining, and I don't work, exercise or do anything.  Some people just have to eat ALOT of calories depending on their body.

I'd say maybe have him start at 2,500 a day [unless he's already eating more than that], then if thats not enough try 3,000, if thats not enough, go up to 3,500, if thats not enough go up to 4,000.   Since he's very active it could make it need to be a lot more than the normal average person.  For example,  Michael Phelps..since he's so athletic and trained so much for the olympics and everything...used to eat 12,000 calories a day.  Now your BF doesn't need that much..but it shows that the more you train and burn off calories.. the more calories you need.

Oh yeah, and I don't know if you've done this already or not, but theres lots of website out there that list which foods have the most calories in them and you could check it out to see what he likes the most.   I'd suggest like...bread, pasta, potatoes, rice, cereals, fruit, vegetables, nuts, seeds.   I'd also suggest dried fruit, they have lots of calories.

I am the same way, naturally thin and its hard to gain weight.  I'm 5'6" and when I joined here last week I was 101, and I never counted calories, since I joined here I have been trying to eat a MINIMUM of 3,000 calories a day.  And I weighed myself yesterday and I was up to 102, when I weighed myself today I was back to 101.  It can depend on how your body is, most gain on 2,500 and I haven't.  If your naturally thin and lets say you've been eating 1500 calories your whole life [and not realizing it since you didnt' count calories] and that was enough to fill you up and you maintained your thin weight.  You should bump it up to eat maybe 2000 or 2500, and see how that works.  I'd say go put in how much you used to approximately eat per day and see what the total was, then add like 500 to it.

Well as others said you can't really say " I want to lose this fat area here"  but you can try and tighten up those muscles and stuff.

From what I've always been told  aerobics, swimming and walking are the best ways to get more of a flatter stomach.   A friend of mine got a firmer stomach by dieting/becoming healthy and doing yoga.  She always said she couldn't swim and walking/running tired her out.  So she did yoga for almost 2 hours every day for a month or so, and it toned her up all around.

I'm the same.  My whole life I've been skinny and its hard to gain weight.  I don't run or work out or anything either. [well as a kid I was always playing and riding bike and doing sports, so we always assumed thats why I was thin. but I still am regardless of what I do]

I'm 5'6"  and I am currently 101 lbs.  My weight often fluctuates a few pounds, it may be 100 one week, and 104 the next, and back to 101 the next week, and thats without even changing my eating [probably because I measure myself at different times of the day and stuff].  The most I ever remember seeing was 105 lbs.

My goal is to be like 130 pounds hopefully.  I just recently only joined here so I'm only now learning about calories and everything, before I would just eat whatever I wanted when  I wanted and didn't pay attention to calories.

Well there have been alot of replies to this so I thought I would start out this post alittle different.  I strongly recommend you read this book:

http://www.amazon.com/Stick-Figure-Lori-Gottl ieb/dp/0425178900

It's TRUE STORY about a girl who is 11 and her parents are constantly talking about weight and dieting.  The girl thinks its stupid and shallow.  But eventually she begins dieting and her mother enables her pretty much.  The girl becomes annorexic and never eats and eventually pulls her skin on her stomach out and tries to "cut off" the fat.  Its about her struggle and the struggle of weight pressure on young girls.

I think if you read it you might see how even the littlest things of pressure can be massive to a child.  Most children look up to their parents and want to be like them.  So you talking about losing weight will make her think she should lose weight.  If your comparing yourself to other thinner women, she will compare herself to other thinner children.  You haven't mentioned your weight or her weight, but maybe you should just keep your weight more to yourself.     I have a younger cousin who is about 6 and she is overweight, the doctors have told her parents just to have her eat more healthy, and maybe take up an activity.  So she does ballet and thinks its fun, she doesn't even think of it as exercise, she just enjoys it, and her whole family eats healthy now.  She weighed about 100 pounds which overweight for a child now, she is fine and the doctors said she doesn't have to keep doing the activity but she does it as fun.

Another example I have is when I was in elementary school one of my best friends had a "chunky" baby face and was a little heavier than average, but not fat.  When she turned 12 she became much taller and she grew almost 4 inches over the summer..and went from chunky to thin/average.  She never changed her eating habits or exercise or whatever, but she just hit puberty and grew taller and averaged out.

So maybe tell her not to worry about it and that she is beautiful regardless.  Unless her weight is actually a more health concern [as it was with my cousin], then you could consider changing her foods, but I would not recommend her training and exercising constantly.  I also don't think you should talk about your weight loss around her and have her watching weight shoes.   Weight loss should be about becoming healthy not about becoming a certain number.

No I don't know my level now, as I said I don't know how many calories are in most of the food I eat.  I often mix foods and take a bit of everything for a meal, so the labels on the boxes aren't necesarily how much I am eating which confuses me.  And I often go out to eat so I don't know how many calories are in it.  My guess is I eat enough that it balances out with how many calories I burn a day, since my weight always stays the same.

My stomach is fine and I have been getting my period fine my whole life [since i was about 13].  I've just naturally been thin.  I try to eat past being full and then I get sick because I'm so stuffed, so I usually eat until I'm full, then in a few hours I eat again until I'm full.

I don't know if I'm considered unhealthy or not.  I mean they always say if you have a BMI under 18 you are underweight and at risks of more things,  but if someone is naturally that way [not forcing themselves to be and restricting themselves], is it the same? What I mean is there could be 5 people out there who are 5' 6" and normally weigh 135 and restrict themselves to weigh 101, which is unhealthy.  But if I'm naturally at 101, am I just as unhealthy/at risk as them?  I mean we would physically probably look similar but would we be similar in our lung/heart/body functions?