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Vegetarian New Vegetarian Oct 11 2009
17:12 (UTC)

My favorite vegetarian cookbooks are The Vegetarian Epicure, Vegan Planet, The Best of Lord Krishna's Kitchen, and The Vegan Gourmet. There are thousands of free recipes available online at http://www.vegweb.com/. Vegweb also has a massive directory of links to related organizations and companies, a section containing articles from a variety of authors, and a pretty articulate statement of their philosophical foundations in doing what they do. 

I haven't read The Skinny Bitch, but I have been a vegetarian for 13+ years. I was a vegan for a few years in there as well.

I, personally, did not become a vegetarian for health reasons, but it has become a more central concern over the past couple of years. There is little question in the medical community about the health benefits of a well-balanced vegetarian diet. It's important to watch nutrition whatever your diet, though - maintaining a healthful vegan diet particularly takes a pretty good understanding of nutrition. Most vegans who tell you otherwise haven't been practicing very long. I suggest that you start by looking at the American Heart Association (http://www.americanheart.org/presenter.jhtml? identifier=4777) and Mayo Clinic (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/vegetarian-d iet/HQ01596) webpages on the subject. The Vegetarian Society (http://www.vegsoc.org/info/health1.html) and American Dietetic Association (http://www.eatright.org/ada/files/VegetarianP ositionFINAL.pdf) offer fuller analyses, if you are interested.

If your primary worry is with chemicals... well, we're all pretty screwed. A friend of mine, an environmental scientist, hasn't eaten fish in a decade and won't in the foreseeable future, because she says she hopes to have children one day. She does eat other animal products, including meats, but she has identified cumulative heavy metal and chemical retention in fish flesh as particularly dangerous to fetal development.

In a related note, my understanding of things suggests that our water supply is the most immediate health concern diet-wise, and bottled water is not the answer. I really recommend the film Flow if you're interested in knowing more about the risks, realities, and politics of water: http://www.flowthefilm.com/

In terms of general theoretical/critical books you might be interested in after finishing Skinny Bitch, I suggest: In Defense of Food: An Eater's Manifesto, by Michael Pollen; The Sexual Politics of Meat, by Carol J. Abrams; and perhaps some Peter Singer (though I don't agree with much of what he says, he's definitely an influential thinker). The writing of Derrick Jensen, particularly Language Older Than Words and The Culture of Make Believe, continues to have big impact on my perspective - though Jensen does not directly address vegetarianism and is not a vegetarian himself, he talks a great deal about cultural norms, exploitation and economics.

Hope this helps.

Health & Support I feel sick to my stomach Aug 09 2009
15:05 (UTC)
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When I was a teenager, I experienced something very similar during a period of intense depression. I had not only nausea, but also sometimes debilitating stomach pain and frequent constipation. Ew, I know, but maybe you are having similar symptoms.

You should talk to your doctor. I went to see mine several times, and it was concluded that my problems were stemming from anxiety. I was given a medication (I can't remember what it was called now), but I didn't like its side effects and didn't take it for very long.

In combination with gaining some distance on the source of my depression, I started feeling better when my boyfriend and I began making fruit and yogurt smoothies and vegetable juices. I had a really hard time stomaching solid food, but the fresh juices and smoothies went down a lot more easily. If you want to supplement your diet, which I assume is low in calories right now, you might try to avoid fruits and vegetables that are very acidic (tomatoes, citrus) or high in sodium (like celery). They seemed to upset my stomach. Cigarettes (I used to smoke), coffee (which is very acidic) and alcohol did, too.

I'm not suggesting that you go on a juice fast; if you are having difficulty eating, though, delicious, light, nutrient-rich liquid foods can help keep your body going. In my case, pulling through my depression over a few months, my physical symptoms cleared up and completely went away.

Tough times are tough times, and you can't always change the situation around you (though sometimes you can change it, or remove yourself from it), but I think there's a close link between physical and mental well-being... even if you feel down, taking good care of yourself will most likely help you feel better.

Recipes Can you reheat quiches? Aug 02 2009
20:25 (UTC)

Yes, but many quiches are also excellent served at room temperature the next day as a lunch food. With a fresh salad (spinach and strawberry?), it can make a great summer meal.

Foods Has anyone else here tried to go vegetarian but failed? Jul 20 2009
00:06 (UTC)
1

I've been a vegetarian for thirteen years, and I suspect that part of what might be making the shift difficult for you is a shortage of protein in the vegetarian diet you are pursuing. Many new vegetarians replace animal products with simple carbohydrates instead of additional proteins.

Could I suggest that you compare the protein intake in your daily, regular food log to those periods when you have explored vegetarianism? You'll probably notice a significant difference. I maintain a relatively high protein diet, which includes, among other things: egg whites, legumes, sprouts, almonds, soy milk, seitan, tempeh, nonfat yogurt and cottage cheese, part skim mozzarella, and some meat alternatives (think Boca, Gardenburger and Morningstar). I also recommend taking a daily multivitamin, if you do not already.

Many people also find it easier to transition slowly - reducing their consumption of animal flesh over time. Usually, this begins by eliminating red meat and pork, then poultry, then fish. Whether you are pursuing a change for your health or for your ethics, be assured that each step makes a difference and perfection is not required.

Enjoy exploring the diet. My favorite vegetarian cookbooks are: Vegan Planet, The Vegan Gourmet, The Vegetarian Epicure (I and II), and The Best of Lord Krishna's Kitchen. There are also thousands of free vegetarian recipes available online at http://vegweb.com/index.php?action=recipecate gories - some better and some healthier than others, so use your judgement. The site has been around for awhile and was a great resource for me when I first became a vegetarian.

I hope this helps!

Health & Support Eat and Want to Go to Sleep, Like a Drunk Jul 09 2009
16:38 (UTC)

I hate that feeling! It used to happen to me all the time. A bunch of different things could be going on, but with me it came down to two: diet and depression.

With diet, if you're diabetic, these factors might be different for you and you should definitely talk to your doctor before making major changes, but I find that 1) high calorie, 2) simple carb and 3) fat-heavy meals tend to do this to me.

I changed my diet to greatly reduce simple carbs (except for fruit) and fats, and I eat five small meals a day with lots of protein and veggies instead of three large ones. I almost never feel tired after eating anymore. I also like to drink green tea, which has a little bit of caffeine (much less than coffee) in it and will give you a small boost that won't make you crash later.

With depression, I actually found that my physical and emotional well-being were deeply connected. I spent many of my teenage years on antidepressants that never really seemed to work. When I started making changes for my physical health - eating better, exercising more, and keeping a regular sleep schedule - my moods really stabilized a lot.

Something else that helps with food grogginess is taking a walk to the park (if there's one near you) at breakfast or lunchtime and eating there. The walk there and back will help keep you from getting sleepy, you'll have the treat of the meal outdoors, and it'll leave you feeling surprisingly energized.

For the nighttime, one of my favorite social customs is that of the Italian passeggiata - a slow evening stroll following dinner, usually about an hour. In small towns especially, it's a significant social event (people even dress for it, like an old school promenade!), but it has the added benefit of getting you moving after a meal. It's a great habit to get into, and it both exercises and wears you out a little before bedtime.

The Lounge sex problems Jul 08 2009
05:19 (UTC)
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You don't really sound confused to me. You sound like you know how you feel, and you should do whatever feels right for you.

Can I dork out for a minute and quote a policy my friends and I lived by (and still adhere to)? It's about sexual consent. I won't spell out the don'ts, but here is the most basic do - Verbal and Willing:

This spirit is about a fully affirmative YES. Not an ambiguous yes, or a well-not-really-but-ok-I-guess yes. Certainly not a silent-no "yes," or an ouch or yuck-but-I'm-afraid-to-hurt-your-feelings yes. This is about YES, UM HUM, ABSOLUTELY, YIPPEE YAHOO YES! Being with someone who you are sure REALLY WANTS to be with you. Being with someone who you are sure YOU REALLY WANT to be with. THAT is EXCITING, is EROTIC, is DEEP, is GREAT, is Y E S! That is consent. That is the Spirit of the policy. (Capelletti, The Spirit of the Policy is YES)

Don't be self-conscious about saying no, when you mean no - or yes, when you mean yes. Bottom line: you will not feel good about yourself, and it will likely ruin your relationship and sex life with this guy if you force yourself into sexual situations that don't appeal to you. Trust me. If it's not something you're interested in and if doing it would compromise the trust and intimacy of your sex life, it is going to push you two apart in the long run - exactly what you're trying to avoid.

It's great that he's being open with you - you need to be open with him, too. It's so important. If he starts pressuring you, tell him to get lost. You already know you both feel differently about it, and that's okay, but he should respect you, your body and your decision.

Weight Loss Thinking of going off white flour products and sugar Jul 08 2009
04:41 (UTC)
3

Yes! I did this.

I cut out all grains, potatoes, and refined sugar from my diet at the end of May. I don't eat a lot of processed foods, so I didn't have to go label crazy. It was definitely difficult at first, but I feel so much better and don't even get cravings for it anymore.

Once in a while, I might make a social exception, but for the most part, it's pretty easy to maintain. Substitute extra helpings of vegetables and fruit in every meal where those nutrient-poor simple carbs used to appear, and supplement the lost calories with extra protein and healthy fats.

Some of the things I eat:

  • massive amounts of leafy, green vegetables
  • wraps with lettuce instead of flour or corn tortillas
  • bed of roasted vegetables or spinach instead of rice
  • sauteed mushrooms instead of potatoes
  • crispy oven baked eggplant slices instead of potato chips
  • ripe strawberries and yogurt instead of cereal
  • thick slices of juicy cantaloupe or cottage cheese with pineapple (never thought I'd like it, but I love it) instead of ice cream and other desserts
  • Crystal Light instead of soda (yeah, I'm one of those)

I made the change in my own diet, because I am trying to lose weight, but I actually like eating this way better - I never feel bloated after I eat and never have to deal with sugar crashes. I get all of the fiber and carbs I need from fruits and vegetables. I even get to eat larger portions, while I'm losing weight, because of the calorie disparity between the food groups. What's not to like?

Foods MSG, healthy or not? Jul 07 2009
21:47 (UTC)
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Thanks for the link. Very helpful!

Calorie Count I cant find the calorie content anywhere! Jul 04 2009
21:41 (UTC)
2

I don't know what the strawberry sour candies you mentioned are, but you can look up Haribo sweets at: http://caloriecount.about.com/haribo-nutritio n-m555

When I can't find this info, I just google +["food name"] +"calories" and add the data myself.

Young Calorie Counters too young to know if you are bi/gay? Jul 04 2009
03:46 (UTC)
12

Thexnest, you said it.

Attinew, I think most people are exploring their sexuality in general at that age, and "according to Alfred Kinsey's research into human sexuality in the mid-20th century, many humans do not fall exclusively into heterosexual or homosexual classifications but somewhere between. The Kinsey scale measures sexual attraction and behavior on a seven-point scale ranging from 0 (exclusively heterosexual) to 6 (exclusively homosexual). According to Kinsey's study, a substantial number of people fall within the range of 1 to 5 (between heterosexual and homosexual)." (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality)

Would people think she was too young if she said she liked boys? No? Then she's not too young to like girls. It sounds to me like your classmate was really brave, because that's a hard age for many people to talk openly about their own sexuality at all, and I'm sure it wasn't easy for her, either.

Foods MSG, healthy or not? Jul 02 2009
21:18 (UTC)
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I've been wondering about MSG, too, and I'm glad you started this conversation. I wrote a journal post about it a while ago, hoping to get a response, but there hasn't been any as of yet.

The research I did really worried me. I won't copy and paste my entry here, because it's long, but if you cared to read it, I would be interested to know what you think.

Anyway, I went ahead and eliminated any foods with MSG (and its colleagues) from my diet as an experiment. I was quite concerned about the additive, because of the link I saw in my binge behaviors. It's been almost three weeks now. I feel better. Regular food tastes better to me. I rarely feel bad after eating, and I am less compelled to binge. It is very noticeable.

I only have my personal experience to go on, because there is not scientific agreement about the ingredient's effects. There is a lively discussion and great deal of study, however, which suggests that others have had similar experiences.

Foods Summer Survey Jul 01 2009
23:26 (UTC)
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Favorite cold drink besides water: iced coffee

Best summer dessert: strawberries, golden cherries

Favorite summer meal: asparagus, frittata, and sundried tomatoes

Most enjoyable outdoor activity: bicycling

You are at the beach, scorched, what drink would you like calories aside: ice cold glicine

Favorite summer fruit: fresh figs

Beach or pool: lake

Favorite salad dressing: oil and vinegar

Seedless or seeded watermelon: seeded

What SPF (sunscreen) do you start off with at the beginning of summer: 50!

Favorite road trip snack: bananas

You get stung by a jellyfish…what do you do!!!?: scream

Any certain brand of bottled water you buy: N/A

Best BBQ food item: grilled eggplant

While out in the sun do you burn easily, tan, or acquire more freckles, or what: burn

Is it called coke, pop, soda or soft drink: depends on where you are

Favorite smoothie flavor: strawberry guava and flax

Salsa, queso, or pica de gillo: pico de gallo

Favorite vegetable to eat raw: spinach, avocado

Motivation Lost first ten and noone can even tell Jun 14 2009
20:07 (UTC)
1

If you are losing weight gradually, the friends and family who see you everyday probably won't notice at first. Don't get discouraged - even if they aren't sure what's different, they will notice as you become more confident, healthier, and comfortable in your own body.

People you see only occasionally are more likely to have a 'wow' response. When I was in college, I weighed almost 210 at one point. While studying abroad for six months, I lost the first 30 pounds I needed to reach a healthy BMI. No one there seemed to notice, and I started to feel like, "why am I even bothering?"

When I came back to campus, very few people commented, but suddenly I was being asked out a lot more and invited to many more parties. Acquaintances became friends. Suddenly, I felt included in a way I had always wanted. I was still far from a healthy weight, but the social effect was very noticeable. I'm sure that my appearance factored into all of this, and fat-phobia is definitely real - but I was also a lot more fun to be around, because I wasn't so self-conscious and ill at ease in my own skin.

And that's what people seemed to notice the most - it was like I had came out of hiding. I was told, "you always seemed so wrapped up in your own world before" and "you just seemed inapproachable." I think people unconsciously respond to the signals you send out about who you are and how you present yourself. If you feel feel good about yourself, they're more likely to respond in kind, and that feels much better than someone simply making a remark about your weight reduction.

Weight Loss She called me FAT! Jun 14 2009
01:03 (UTC)
3

Is your sister in law a time traveler? It sounds to me like she walked out of this 1955 Housekeeping Monthly article:  http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_s1uVAfcZ170/SdpQiBm BnmI/AAAAAAAAAQM/8qwj_BGmm14/s1600-h/1955good housekeeping.jpg

Even if she insists on living in Pleasantville, you don't have to - and the chances are pretty good that isn't where you're going to find your soul mate, either. You clearly have more respect for yourself than that, and the person you love should, too.

You are also clearly more mature than I am. I would have gushed about her seemingly effortless ability to foster low self esteem in others and further oppressive gender roles. I think your response was probably the right one, but maybe it is a good idea to talk to her about it if it happens again - you wouldn't laugh at a racist joke, even if it came from a friend, and you're not compelled to listen to anti-woman rhetoric either, even if it's coming from another woman.

I'm sure you are beautiful the way you are, and if you are working to be healthier, the more power to you.

Foods Low Calorie Desserts...and I mean LOW Jun 13 2009
18:32 (UTC)
16

There's a thread full of suggestions here:http://caloriecount.about.com/need-something- sweet-gt47-289

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