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| Motivation | I'm at the end of my rope. | Jul 07 2009 16:33 (UTC) |
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Thank you to everyone for all of your really good advise. I really appreciate your time (& patience) with me. I didn't think too much about it before but I really do think I may be sensitive to a lot of foods because I am soooooo bloated. this is not normal for me. I just have to figure out from what since I am eating fruits and vegtables literally ALL DAY. I pack up all these little baggies, of carrotts, grapes, grape tomatoes, sliced apples, I also eat a lot of yorgurt and whole wheat crackers (everyday)etc.. My whole body feels like it's "swollen". I look and feel horrible. I do have a dr.'s appt. tomorrow just for a follow up and I am going to have my thyroid checked, it can't hurt, right? As long as I am already there....unfortuantely, I can't get into a nutrionist for awhile. On my way to the gym tonight I'm also going to talk with a trainer and make sure I'm doing everything right on that end as well. Again, thank you for helping me out....I couldn't do this without you all! |
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| The Lounge | / | Jul 06 2009 20:01 (UTC) |
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Original Post by crazydiamondchrysalis: I laughed so hard at this...I peed myself! |
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| Motivation | I'm at the end of my rope. | Jul 06 2009 19:10 (UTC) |
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It didn't start when I got married....I started this 3/1 and I got married the end of march. Being 45, getting married, I figured no better reason then it's about time I took care of myself and was healthy. My husband has really been supportive but I know he is sick of hearing about it as I am sick of thinking about it. I know this has to stop...I just was frustrated because I thought this would be so much better for me as far as feeling better, looking better etc....I just feel that is not what has happened. I don't want to be unhealthy, nor do I want to look bad. I know it's not all about the scales and last Wednesday was the last day I weighed myself(i did that becasue I joined a new forum in losing weight by the end of July). The scales don;t have to exist....my clothes are proof enought something isnt right. I know my worst enemy is myself. I went on blubbering this morning because i was just feeling sorry for myself which after having gotten myself together realized that is not helping the situation. I'm the biggest advocate on telling other people to not be so negative..if you think negative then your results will be negative. I need to practice what I preach. |
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| Motivation | I'm at the end of my rope. | Jul 06 2009 17:22 (UTC) |
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point well taken.... |
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| Motivation | I'm at the end of my rope. | Jul 06 2009 16:37 (UTC) |
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OK....I have to say this....reading over my own posts I am regretting writing that. I would like to apologize to everyone that reads this for the pity party I am giving myself. I HATE being like this! Please understand me when I am saying that I really "don't get" the whole how much I should be eating with how much I should be excercising. I need to educate myself more. Sometimes I feel the need to "think outloud" in my frustrations but I don't want to be like this. I don;t want to feel sorry for myself and I don't want you to pity me either. I need to give myself a break, be thankful for what I have, keep living healthy and wish for the best. I need to stop dwelling on poor me. things could be worse. |
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| Motivation | I'm at the end of my rope. | Jul 06 2009 16:13 (UTC) |
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I hear what you are saying....what I don't understand is "deficit". Maybe that's part of my problem. If you want to lose weight shouldn't you be eating less and exercising more? I just want to lose the 10 lbs. that I have gained. My whole point for starting in March was not really lose any weight (but maybe 5 lbs?)but more importantly get toned and just live a really healthy life. I had no idea it would turn into this nightmare. By using the tools from CC I should only be eating 1300 calories...I'm so confused at this point by what I should be eating, how much I should be eating, how much, how little exercise I should be doing. I know now what you are saying is true that I did nothing but harm my body for years by not eating enough and when I did eat is was not healthy. Boy oh boy, let this be a lesson to all people out there that think "starving" yourself is the answer. I assure you it is not. You may not pay today, tomorrow, or even a month or year from now...but take it from me...you will pay. The older you get the harder it is and if I only could do things over again....but it is what it is and I can only move forward and forget the past. My husband is truly wonderful. Again, you are right, he knows I am totally obsessed with this whole thing. He thinks I am beautiful and he always says it's the best I have ever looked. I just have a hard time believing that. I see what I see, and I assure you...it isn't beautiful. |
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| Weight Loss | What have you learned from being overweight? The silver lining. | Jul 01 2009 18:07 (UTC) |
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Original Post by tciherr: You literally took the words right out of my mouth.....I wish you the best of luck! |
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| Motivation | July Challenge? | Jul 01 2009 13:35 (UTC) |
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Well, here we go....I weighed myself and am in tears.... July 1st - 129.4 July 8th - 129.3 could this be any slower, seriously..... I guess biking that additional 26 miles instead of celebrating the 4th made no damn difference. I'm disgusted. July 15th - 128 July 22nd - July 29th - |
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| Weight Loss | HELP!!! I am so stinking frustrated I don't know what to do | Jun 30 2009 19:37 (UTC) |
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Not long ago I asked the same question (Can someone please explain why...) It is terribly frustrating that by cutting calories and working out that you could actually be gaining weight. That is the advise everyone gave me was to up my calories. I too was consuming between 1100-1300 a day and since I have started this program I have gained 7 lbs. (& my clothes are tighter) I have to admit I am very afraid of upping my calories because I am so afraid of gaining even MORE weight. But everyone has said the same thing so I'm thinking they must be right. I belong to a gym and talked to my trainer regarding this( & no I don't work out everyday with a trainer, it's part of the membership and allows me three visits with her). She too said I need to start eating 1600-1800 calories a day. I just wanted you to know that I feel for you and your frustration....I have wanted to throw in the towel many times but I know I just need to be patient and hope that everyone is right. I went to the gym on Saturday in tears because of all the frustration. Thinking that I am going to work so hard for an hour 1/2 for what? to gain more weight? But....I cannot think like that any longer...I pulled myself together and I am determined to do this! I am not as young as I used to be and it's just going to take me longer but atleast I know I am doing things the correct way. Please keep in touch with me as we are in the same boat! I wish you the best!! |
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| Motivation | July Challenge? | Jun 30 2009 17:59 (UTC) |
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Count me in!! I want to lose 10 lbs. I could really use a challenge and need the motivation. Thanks for starting this! Be back tomorrow! |
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| Foods | Top Ten things you eat the most often... | Jun 29 2009 17:18 (UTC) |
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My List: coffee water no fat yorgurt carrotts apples skinless/boneless chicken salmon Kashi cereal fiber bar low fat cottage cheese Hummas lettuce, grape tomatoes grapes |
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| Weight Loss | Can anyone out there please explain why...... | Jun 26 2009 15:36 (UTC) |
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| Weight Loss | Can anyone out there please explain why...... | Jun 25 2009 20:25 (UTC) |
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hlthygrl25...thank you for your wisdom and I agree, we should keep in touch! I feel I am implementing good calories, that is why I am so frustrated with this whole thing! I want so bad to have pizza, cake, cookies, bread, etc....but I stay away and believe me...it's a real struggle! It's one thing if your good and you see results because of it, it's quite another when I feel I am working my butt off (yeah, I wish hehe) and would kill to have something "scrumptious" but feel somehow I am worse off? I am 45 and I don't have periods any longer (had a hysterectomy). I thought about making a Dr.'s appointment to have my thyroid checked? I don't know, I'm grasping at straws I guess. Yeah, that's another thing...I really try and keep my mouth shut with anyone in paticular to this because while others may see me as slim, I do have personal goals set for myself and no one understands me. It's either that I am trying to get "attention" or "fishing" for compliments. That really truly is NOT the case. That's why I love this site...I can let my frustrations be known, vent a little bit and hopefully get someone that may be similar to me and give me another site into the situation. Thanks for all your advise, I really do appreciate it. I have a feeling you will keep me motivated! |
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| Weight Loss | Can anyone out there please explain why...... | Jun 25 2009 17:28 (UTC) |
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It's a good think I asked for all of your help....I would have never thought to ADD more calories...actually, I thought maybe just the opposite. That tells you how much I know! I am 5'2. I started out at 123 lbs and my goal was 117. I am now 129. I know that doesn't sound like a lot to some people but I am small framed and petite...5lbs on someone else? no big deal but 5 lbs on me, I swear I will go up a size. I would also like to add before I get slammed on this topic...I know there are a lot of people that have a lot of weight to lose, that have it a lot worse than I do. I'm just expressing my frustration because we all know that chosing to be healthy in your life rather you have 5 lbs to lose or over 100 lbs to lose when you are doing (you think anyway)everything right and after 3 months...nothing . It is extremely frustrating. I work very hard as I 'm sure all of you do in getting healthy and it is not easy. What I am a little afraid of by adding more calories is I did that over the weekend which added an additional 2 more pounds. I just don't want anymore added weight. If it's all muscle weight and I am losing inches than that would be great but I feel like I'm defeated. |
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| Motivation | Comments family member make about my weight..anybody else have the same problem | Jun 18 2009 18:22 (UTC) |
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OMG..........where do I start... I love my family but I am truly fed up to the point I am going to stay away for a little while. When I was in high school I was always too fat (5'3 137 lbs) If I lost any weight I would hear from my father..turn around, I think I found it. Then I ended up getting very ill for about 2 months and lost about 15 lbs. Then I heard, gee, I hate to see you sick but you "finally" look good. I've always been pear shaped so when I do lose it seems it goes up top first. don't you hate that? Then in my twenties, I was always accused of starving myself. I guess no one thought I was ever intelligent enough to lose weight the healthy way so lets just "assume". I have always dbeen picked on for now being too thin which I can assure you, I am not. I don't think I am fat, probably just normal. By the charts my BMI is normal and my weight is normal. I am now in my forties and have started a very healthy life style. I work out 5 days a week at the gym which now I am told by my mom and dad I'm just going through a mid life crisis. I explained to them (why I still bother is beyond me) that I am not trying to lose weight but just eat a lot healthier and tone up. I just bought a bike on Sunday because when It is nice out I love to ride instead of going inside at the gym. Well, needless to say, I was made fun of because of that. Unfortuantely where I live there are no bike trails so I just ride along side the road and purchased a helmet as well, and was made fun of becase of that! How stupid I must look with that helmet on. I know I have probably given the impression that my family is terrible and they are not really, but when it comes to this...God help me. They KNOW how much this behavior hurts me. My husband tells me they are just jealous. Any thoughts? |
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| Foods | Paula Deen....holy lard-a-mole! | Jun 16 2009 15:20 (UTC) |
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I have to agree with jenny8484....I had it on one day and the "y'all" just about drove me to eat!!! I had to change it. As far as the food goes, I love to indulge myself once in a while, but to make a living on butter and grease? No thanks. She most definately looks the part. |
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| Motivation | You do not know what it's like to be obese: Follow-up to rant. | Jun 15 2009 18:37 (UTC) |
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Sorry to interupt......but is anyone interested in topics of losing weight, getting support, having a good/bad day, reaching your goals? I thought i joined a forum where we could all have respectable conversations, have the right to agree, disagree, and move on. C'mon people......let's try not to lose track of why we joined this in the first place. |
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| Motivation | You do not know what it's like to be obese: Follow-up to rant. | Jun 13 2009 14:48 (UTC) |
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OMG.........enough already. Face the facts, you can't take back what you said...get over it, and move on. Your not the first person to feel this way and won't be the last. Stop trying to justify why you feel the way you do, it only makes it worse. Your not going to get everyone to agree with you so please stop trying. Everyone has a right to bitch. If you have never been obese, then of course, you can talk to your blue in the face and not everyone will know what it is like. Persoanlly, I chose not to go there. I am not obese, and hope to God I never know what it feels like. Just like someone can say to you, do you know what it feels like to be 5'9 and 100 lbs? it's awful. Maybe they are "naturally" skinny, maybe it's an eating disorder...who knows. I've got an idea...instead of wasting one more breath on a topic that is clearly so divided, let's take that energy and have a good work out!! |
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| Motivation | Rant at the naturally skinny, from the fatty perspective. | Jun 10 2009 02:03 (UTC) |
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as I am reading everyone's comments, I have to admit, it pisses me the hell off that people can be so cruel. I used to think that kids were the cruelest human beings because they weren't old enough to know better, but getting offended myself on a daily basis it just amazes me how ignorant people can be. The question isn't why do skinny people have to be so mean to fat people or visa versa...why does ANYONE have to be so cruel?? It's like the black and white issue that is still going on for a gazillion years....it doesn't matter what color you are, why be so cruel?? I happen to work with a bunch of women that weigh more than I do, I guess. These women are my very good friends so I don't look at them and value them by what they weigh, they are just my friends, We have a mutual respect for one another and actually can talk and vent about anything without being cruel. I had a women come from one of the other departments in my building, passing around donuts for everyone and when she came to me I said, oh, that is so nice of you, but I will pass. thank you for offering anyway. Her reply was , figures, skinny bitch. Nice huh? Did she mean it? I'm sure she didn't. Was she fat? Don't know, didn't notice either way. I just once again, ignored the comment and moved on with my day. To be honest, I get comments all the time from people telling me to shut up when they ask me what my plans are for the evening and I say I am on my way to the gym to I hate you because maybe I didn't want to eat something fattening. I struggle with my weight every day. I have to work very very hard to stay in shape and it is a day to day struggle making the right choices when it comes to food. Please don't judge me or put me down or say your snide lil' comments because I don't make the same choices you have. Just do what is best for YOU, hope that it is the right decision and I wish you the best of luck...thin or fat. |
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| Motivation | Rant at the naturally skinny, from the fatty perspective. | Jun 10 2009 01:54 (UTC) |
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as I am reading everyone's comments, I have to admit, it pisses me the hell off that people can be so cruel. I used to think that kids were the cruelest human beings because they weren't old enough to know better, but getting offended myself on a daily basis it just amazes me how ignorant people can be. The question isn't why do skinny people have to be so mean to fat people or visa versa...why does ANYONE have to be so cruel?? It's like the black and white issue that is still going on for a gazillion years....it doesn't matter what color you are, why be so cruel?? I happen to work with a bunch of women that weigh more than I do, I guess. These women are my very good friends so I don't look at them and value them by what they weigh, they are just my friends, We have a mutual respect for one another and actually can talk and vent about anything without being cruel. I had a women come from one of the other departments in my building, passing around donuts for everyone and when she came to me I said, oh, that is so nice of you, but I will pass. thank you for offering anyway. Her reply was , figures, skinny bitch. Nice huh? Did she mean it? I'm sure she didn't. Was she fat? Don't know, didn't notice either way. I just once again, ignored the comment and moved on with my day. To be honest, I get comments all the time from people telling me to shut up when they ask me what my plans are for the evening and I say I am on my way to the gym to I hate you because maybe I didn't want to eat something fattening. I struggle with my weight every day. I have to work very very hard to stay in shape and it is a day to day struggle making the right choices when it comes to food. Please don't judge me or put me down or say your snide lil' comments because I don't make the same choices you have. Just do what is best for YOU, hope that it is the right decision and I wish you the best of luck...thin or fat. |
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| New Members | 26 - female - need to lose 60 pounds-ish - looking for a friend :) | Jun 05 2009 17:34 (UTC) |
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thanks fl53095.....after I posted a reply lastnight I did not even look how old that post was that I was replying to (2008?). I was all over CC last night looking at different new and old posts....right after I sent it I realized I responsed to last years post..oh well, it's still an ongoing problem for a lot of people out there! I am really trying to be positve because it is a lot of hard work. One thing I did do was took my workout up a notch. Hopefully I start seeing results. Are you looking to lose weight, or just tone up, or trying to be healthy or all three? |
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| New Members | 26 - female - need to lose 60 pounds-ish - looking for a friend :) | Jun 05 2009 02:36 (UTC) |
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Hope it's not too late for me to join your group as well. I'm not looking to lose a bunch of weight, mainly about 7 pounds. For me, it's more about eating healthy and toning up. I hate to admit it in front of all you young babes, but I'm 45 ): but that doesn't mean I have to look it or feel it. It is a struggle for me everyday. I may not have a lot of lbs to lose, but at my age, it isn't easy trying to keep in shape! As you get older,gravity kicks in and your metabolism kicks out..or disappears all together!! I work out 5 days a week for about 1 - 1 1/2 hours and I am freaking tired!! Do I enjoy it? NOPE! but I really need to start taking care of myself. My body was turning into mush! I have been plenty discouraged....I started in March, took it serious in April and have not lost 1 pd!!! I was ready to throw in the towel, but thanks to the support I get from all of you, I'm going to keep trying!! I would love to join all of you and stay positive and be a support for you...if you'll have me.
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Hey everyone....thanks so much for all of your advise. I was ready to throw in the towel. I went through my food log for the month and it ranged between 1100 & 1350 a day. I had no idea that eating too few calories and excercizing could cause me to gain weight. 
I kept my calorie intake to those numbers because I was going by the "calorie target" for my goal weight. I had a hysterectomy 15 years ago...but I was also told because of that and my age menopause may be kicking in (sniff, sniff)and that would slow down my metabolism? If I was going to the Dr.'s I was going to have them check for that as well. I think I will hold off on that for the time being and "add" a few more calories (yikes!) and see how that works. wish me luck!
