Posts by sugarshocked

You've had tendinitis in your knee for 2 years?   Do you mean off and on for 2 years?  If its lasted two years I doubt its tendinitis... in that amount of time it would have healed or progressed to something worse.   Did you ever take like one full month off from all cardio that would aggravate the injury?  Injuries don't always just get better over time. Some need complete rest.  I suffered a stress fracture in my femur from running - the pain started one place, moved, to another, and then another (you get the picture).  I never just completely STOPPED to let any of the injury heal - I'd rest a couple days and then be right back out there.

"I had a jerk of an orthopedic doctor suggest that I just run less (as if 2 miles at 23 is too much to ask) and just brushed me aside." 
Unfortunately not everyone's body can maintain running, even at 23.   That said, I definintely would get a 2nd opinion.  Maybe an orthopeadic doctor, someone that specializes in sports medicine.

Edit:

ooops, forgot to add that my stress fracture was tendiniitis, then bone marrow edema, the they said I had something else - all along my femur had just been cracking more and more.  Even though the pain was felt in other places it was my femur all along causing most of the pain. However, some other problems were caused by me compensating unconsciously for the hip pain.

I've never tried Nutella and that is a conscious choice on my part.  PB + chocolate... good lord, I'd never be able to stop.  I am positive I'd be addicted.

Side note: If anyone made this woman feel uncomfortable it was the "fanstastic" trainer she hired... He was shooting her "I don't believe a word you're saying" looks the entire time and bascially at one point, as I was walking out of the room, it looked like he rolled his eyes at her when she was talking about diet & nutrition.  So cpt, maybe you're right. Maybe she was embarassed to try because the trainer was treating her like that. 

Hey skillz- read through all the posts.  Mine are the some of the least judgmental on here.  The responses cast way more judgment than I did.  I have a feeling this touched a nerve with you because you're insecure about your own self, but its cool I won't look through you posts and point out how frequently you're judgmental & rude to posters.

While pregnant, my friend's ob/gyn told her she had gained too much weight and should cut out carbs... she's 5'4" and she had gained 25 pounds but still only weighed 135 and she was in her third trimester.

OMG trikki - that website is awesome! Thanks for posting it.

Original Post by skillz794:

without sounding like a complete dick, why were you even listening?? its her money let her spend it the way she wants.....its things like this that make people self conscious about even trying to get into shape, instead of complaining about something that doesn't even concern you how about having a little bit of compassion, maybe she is hurt......and yeah i know i did sound like a dick, but reread what you wrote, just as rude.......

 well it was the two of them and me in a completely empty group fitness room.  I was on the opposite side of the room but she was basically yelling and it was echoing through the whole room because it was so empty.  Trust me, I was not eaves dropping.   It was actually irritating me that I could hear her and would have much rathered work out in peace (which was why I went in there in the first place).

Edit: Sorry, I had to come back and add to my post because the post by skillz really pissed me off. 

Skillz - your post was way more rude than mine and way more rude than anything I did at the gym.  I absolutely didn't say anything that would elude to me being uncompassionate or even to the fact that I was judging her.  And by no means was I complaining about her.  I don't give a rat's ass about if this woman wastes her money on a trainer or whether she gets the full benefit  - I was simply stating I thought she wasted her money.  I stated that she had an excuse for every exercise, which she did. And her session was a total waste of money.  You're correct in saying that maybe she was really hurt.  Maybe she was hurt, which is very likely, but if she was hurt and really wanted to benefit from a personal trainer she would have rescheduled when she could actually do exercises.  I think you need to re-read my post and then re-read yours.  You clearly read my post and then interpreted it to mean what you wanted it to mean. You interpreted it as judgmental... I assume because you're judgmental as evidenced by you response.  And yes, I am judging you here. 

Why say no when it feels soooo good to say yes?

I'm not currently working in the field, but I have my degree in counseling psych & have worked as a counselor in the past.  All of my answers below are just my opinions & every therapist and counselor is different in their approach, so others may feel differently.

Do you hug your clients? Why or why not? Never. This is completely stepping over professional boundaries in my opinion.  Therapists aren't your friends and family, they are professionals that happen to work with you on an emotional level.  Would it be weird if your travel agent or plumber hugged you?  To me it would be. 
Also -  I've been to many therapists over the years for a variety of reasons (some educational, some personal, some professional) and none have even hugged me.

What do you do when a client becomes attached to you or dependent upon you? Do you refer them to someone else, or do yall work through it?  This situation only happened me one time where it was so bad that we couldn't work through it.  Usually, when I noticed it happening (and as a therapist you should notice pretty quickly) I would immediately bring the issue up and address it as soon as possible.  Most people don't realize they are becoming dependent until they are completely dependent, so if you wait its too late.  Once its brought to the surface and addressed it can usually be worked through pretty easily unless there are severe co-dependancy issues that are present in the client's life prior to therapy beginning.  If you can't get the client past the dependancy issues you need to refer out.  If you don't you're acting unethically.

How long on average do you see a client? Is it usually around a year? Or longer like 10 years?  This is 100% dependant upon the client's issues.  Thre is no "average" amount of time.  Because of managed health care clients are usually only entitled to a certain number of visits so therapists have really had to change the way they practice.  There is alot more solution-focused and CBT therapy these days because they produce results quicker.  Clients with issues that aren't completely taking over their lives usually see a therapist pretty regularly at first, for about 4-6 months and then less regularly after that.  Once a client finds a therapist they like & connect with they usually stick with them, but only see them when things start going bad.  So I may see a client every couple weeks for a few months and then not ata ll for a year and then they may come back for a few sessions and so on.

What led you to become a therapist? did something traumatic happen in your life, or were you just always interested in psychology?  I like helping people.  Nothing traumatic has ever happened to me and until I  was about 27 I had never had anything in my life that was even really a struggle. I grew up in a home with 2 loving, happily married parents; a brother & a sister; more than  financially comfortable; got good grades, was popular, played sports; went to college; met my husband & got married... I really had (have) a life that could have been taken from a 1950's TV show. 
I like studying human behavior. My undergrad was in sociology & grad was in counseling psych.  I just really find humans & interactions & our society as a whole to be fascinating.  I don't work in the field right now because I have found that I much prefer to work with human interactions & humans as groups (sociology), rather than humans on the individual level (psychology).  I do love counseling though and will probably go back to practicing at some point.

Hope this helped.  Out of curiosity - why are you interested in these questions?

Maybe, but there is always a new supplement or vitamin or mineral that is the new miracle.  But the good thing is that usually its something thats healthy regardless of whether or not it does what it claims - so there isn't a harm in using it anyway.

I think that small meals work for some and not others.  Maybe your body & satiety just does better with smaller meals.  I know people will disagree with this, saying that you need small meals thoughout the day to keep blood sugar even, blah blah blah, but everyone is different & what works for some doesn't work for others. 

During the week I'm fine with small meals and don't get hungry, but on weekends I usually eat a really bug breakfast (like 1000 calories) and a regular dinner.  I might have a snack in between, but its usually not because I'm hungry. I usually just eat the snack because I feel weird going so long between meals.  I don't know why I'm like this on weekends only.  I've tried doing small meals on weekends and always end up overeating around 7 pm.

1. pasta with marinara/ alfredo/ lemon butter/ olive oil / absolutely plain

Marinara

2. eggplant parmesan / chicken or veal marsala / chicken picatta / vegetarian lasagna

vegetarian lasagna

3. bean and cheese burrito / fajitas / tamale

bean burrito, no cheese

4. cookie dough ice cream / sherbert / mint chip / plain vanilla, chocolate, or strawberry

I can't eat regular ice cream.  I get chocolate brownie soy ice cream.

5. croissant / muffin / scone / biscotti / bagel

Muffin

6. chocolate chip cookie / sugar cookie / macadamia nut / oatmeal cookie

oatmeal (this really depends on the mood, I would eat any one of those depending on my mood that day)

7. fried rice / chow mein / steamed white rice 

none - I don't like chinese food or white rice

8. breadstick / bowl of broccoli cheese soup / caesar salad

Breadstick

9. cheesecake / brownie / chocolate cake with raspberry topping / other cake

brownie (however if the other cake happened to involve both choc & pb, I'd most likely go for that)

10. hamburger / cheeseburger / grilled cheese / fried chicken sandwich/ veggie burger

veggie burger

11. corn dog / hot dog/ french fries/ chili fries

fries if I had to pick one - most likely none

12. cracker jacks / popcorn / soft pretzel

crcker jacks

13. hot wings / mozarella sticks / nachos / quesadilla / chips and salsa

Chips and salsa, but again I probably wouldn't eat any of those

14. hot ham and cheese sandwich / veggie sandwich / turkey sandwich / roast beef

hot ham & cheese (with soy cheese if possible, otherwise no cheese)

15. potato salad/ macaroni salad/ tortilla chips / baked beans

none

16. fried fish / grilled fish with lemon butter/ shrimp scampi / fettucine alfredo

grilled fish

17. cheese bread / cinna stix / buffalo wings / regular breadsticks

cinna stix

18. cheese pizza / veggie pizza / pepperoni pizza/ canadian bacon or hawaiian

cheeseless pizza

19. peanut butter and jelly sandwich / cold deli sandwich/ frozen burrito of sorts

pb&j

20. rice pilaf / baked potato / grilled veggies w/ possibility of oil but unsure

Grilled veggies

I agree with ninafish & fidget.  My anorexia was basically caused by overexercising.  I starting restricting food intake at the end, but for the majority of my ED my restriction came through exercising way too much.  I can confidently say i am recovered because
1) I am at a healthy bmi and am maintaining
2) I rarely count calories anymore
3) I no longer feel compelled to do 60-120 minutes of cardio, 6 days a week. In fact, I rarely do more than 30 minutes of cardio and very rarely make it to the gym more than 4 days a week because sometimes (especially weekends) I don't feel like going. 
4) Thoughts of food, weight gain, & appearance don't give me panic attacks or control my actions.

I think these are all pretty good indicators of recovery.  Compared to these how do you think you're doing?  I had to cut out 100% of exercise during recovery and it was the best thing that happened to me - it proved to me that exercise is not what controls weight (or me).  I highly suggest that if you aren't fully recovered you cut out all exercise for at least a week or two.  I know its hard, but trust me, in the long run it will help tremendously.  Exercise was what held me back from truly recovering until I had to stop it altogether.

Edit: Every single point you raised about exercise is how I felt during my anorexia when I was restricting through exercise...

Original Post by hotfuss:

Wow, I certainly hope he didn't see you taking that photo.  Poor guy, that would be so humiliating.  How incredibly rude of you.  I wonder...Do you do the same thing to obese people or women that are that skinny?  Stare and gawk and even go so far as to take pictures of them so you can show your friends how "gross" they are?  And when they are clothes shopping no less....an activity that a lot of people with weight issues are already selfconscious about? 

My husband is tall and underweight due to health issues(not an ED, digestive problems).  He has a very difficult time finding clothes to fit and sometimes it is easier for him to find jeans that fit in the womens' section.  At first, he was very embarresed to try on womens' clothes, but eventually he saw the benefit of flinding pants that fit, instead of just wearing some that were too wide, too short, or having to get them altered just so he could wear "men's pants".  If I saw someone gawking and taking a picture of him, I would probably not be able to resist confronting them....I doubt it would end well for their camera/phone.

I really hope in the future you will think a little more about how your actions can affect other people and show them more respect.  No matter their size, they should be able to shop anywhere they want without being ridiculed.

 

I knew I'd get flamed for this post and quite frankly, I'm surprised it took this long.

I know EXACTLY how it feels to have people talk about you because of your weight.I've been underweight my whole life.  Pre-ED people would blatantly ask me if I was anorexic, which I was not.  Years late during my ED people stopped asking but started staring & commenting on the side.  People have made me feel like **** about weight and other have praised me for my weight for as far back as I can remember.  So yea, I do know what it would have been like HAD he realized I took the picture. There was no way he had an clue whatsoever.  If he had i wouldn't have done it.  Intentionally hurting someone (for their weight or otherwise) isn't something I would do. And to be honest, if he doesn't know it happened then it did absolutely no damage to him at all.  My actions did not have any impact on him.  I wish that in all of the years of comments about my weight people would have done it behind my back rather than to my face.  It human nature to be awed by the extremes and out of the ordinary.  Sorry if this pisses you off, but I find it hard to believe that you've never gone home and told a story about the someone that you saw that day. 

 EDIT: Sorry your husband has to shop in the women's department, but its not exactly ideal to be 30 and shopping in the girls department either.

Original Post by jcl76:

Original Post by n0a1dsyet:

And as horrible as it may sound, I have to be honest when I say that I get somewhat of a thrill when I see girls looking at me with envy. I know its low, but I get my confidence-boosts where I can.

 

Not to sound rude, but maybe girls are staring at you because you're too thin. 6'0" and 125lbs on a male is not attractive at all to me, and if I stare at someone that size, it certainly isn't out of envy.

I agree with jcl - This week I saw a very tall, very thin man (probably 6'2", 130-ish) in Target looking through women's clothing.  It was so disgusting - all bones.  I was seriously so grossed out that I actually took a picture of him with my phone to show my sister because I knew she would think I was exaggerating at how thin he was when I told her the story. 

Also - why on earth was a post from 2007 resurrected?

EDIT: And not only is this an old post that is controversal, but the person that brought it back created an account today and responding to this post was the first thing he did.... Troll

Original Post by carm3413:

Not trying to be rude but just wondering....... why would anyone wear a pad doing anything?  Especially working out.     Ditto on the tampon and pantyliner.

LOL! My thoughts exactly. Pads are gross.