Posts by cellotlhicks

Focus on the journey that lies ahead. You can't go back, so stay looking forward. I have had 50 lb swings myself, but all that matters is right NOW. Where I am. What I have to work with. N.O.W= No opportunity wasted. Take every opportunity to do something fulfilling, get some more exercise....walk instead of drive, eat better stuff. You can't get to your destiny looking over your shoulder at what you messed up.

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I am pretty sure there is a range of how many carbs to consume. A long distance runner would need more than a sedentary person. Just as a weight lifter needs more protein. I usually do about 50-55%, and try to get at least 25% protein. But, I really do agree with the post. I have never tried low carb. Don't see the point in demonizing one food group. I don't think it is necessary to call the OP ignant . I see the intentions, and that is to steer some people away from carbophobia that has been ingrained into our minds the past 4-5 years. Lets not get upset over the numbers....a simple correction is enough.

So yeah...people should research thier own needs, see where they feel and lose the best, (the range is 45-65% I think, min and max for most people) and enjoy some bread or brown rice here and there! Happy Tuesday!

Mother figure...hmmmm it sounds like perhaps she is one of those people who is only nice when in control. And you losing weight and doing better does not give her that edge over you. I would be nice but keep some distance for awhile. But don't let the rudeness slide. Let her know how you feel. It makes her feel more powerful if she gets away with being nasty. You are not only losing weight, but gaining confidence, and that will cause tension with those around you whose confidence lies in tearing down others. They cannot do it so easily anymore. So what do you do, shrink back so that you keep friends, or teach them how to respect the new you? Your personal journey with yourself is even more important than a friendship.

I think you should keep in touch with the old, but open yourself up to some new buddies!

It has only been about 5 months for me, but I can assure you that when you stick to it, it becomes more second nature. You can make a breakfast wrap too...with some fruit on the side.

What have you eaten so far today? What are your stats and goals?

Hunger is not cool. I obey mine.

PS: Your family kinda sucks....not you

It was not your fault.

I did not weight myself at first either. But when I did, I was reasonably happy. When I hit plateaus, I put the scale away for a little bit, and focus on the process more so than the progress. I don't think there is anything wrong with your approach. The only thing is, you will miss out on the opportunity to reward yourself for milestones.

To de-personalize the scale some:

A- weigh in after one month, and then start doing it weekly, at most.

B- Do this experiment one day(it would drive you crazy to do it daily) : weigh yourself 1st thing in the morning, naked, then with clothes, then after you eat, after you use the RR, end of the day etc. Notice how many factors influence your weight and realize that one weigh in is not that important. I had a full bladder, and after using the RR, "lost" 2.5 lbs or so. I am usually 2 lbs bigger at night, but I go with the morning to weigh in.

C- Set up rewards for every 5 or 10 lb milestone.

D- Set up other goals, such as a fitness goal or a clothes size goal so that the scale has less power and say.

Hope that helps you some.

 The muscle tone is partly genetic, I mean, I only go to the gym 1-3 times a week as well as walk, but I do do a lot of push ups (125+) and eat as close to 100g of protein a day. And as far as abs, genetics determines them somewhat as well. Some people cannot see all 6 even when they are slim, but either way a healthy body, and a toned stomach is awesome.  The down side to gaining muscle without a ridiculous amount of effort is how fast my calves tone up! I can barely zip most boots, and straight legs look like skinny! But yeah, work what you got!

I know, but You still need it. Eat foods that are high in calories as snacks between meals (a handful of nuts, a pb sandwich on good, healthy wheat bread with some fruit, etc). The fact that you don't get hungry very often is a sign that you have slowed your metabolism some. You need more food. After awhile, you will get used to eating more. But as for right now, you are on the verge of some really unhealthy eating habits. How long have you been restricting your calories?

I think that it sound like you might possibly NEED to gain weight, unless you have a small frame.

#1- Your BMI is 18.6 You are far from needing to lose weight. You are already on the low end of healthy.

#2- That was NOT a lot of food. 

#3- You are not eating ENOUGH

#4- I am not going to help you to eat less or lose weight.

Growing teens need a minimum of 1500 cals a day (You will most likely need more than that even if you did have weight to lose which you don't) if you don't want to set yourself up for problems in the future. Your focus should be healthy food and moderate exercise, not calorie restriction. You should discuss how you feel with a trusted adult.

Much <3

Here are your stats according to the CDC if you don't believe me:  

Based on the height and weight entered, the BMI is 18.6 , placing the BMI-for-age at the 39th percentile for girls aged 14 years 0 months. This teen has a healthy weight.

Here is the website: http://apps.nccd.cdc.gov/dnpabmi/Result.aspx? &dob=11/16/1995&dom=11/25/2009&ag e=168&ht=66&wt=115&gender=2&m ethod=0&inchtext=0&wttext=0

You might need to take the pressure off by not dieting for events. Just do this for your health, and set mini goals. I have regained 49 lbs in the past, and came here at my highest weight. But I did not lose for any event based reason. My motivation was to never put my body through a huge weight gain again. I forgave myself and focused on my new lifelong process. Try setting mini-goals for yourself, with rewards for when you got to each one. I am 6 lbs from my final goal, but as my BMI is healthy, I don't feel a lot of pressure. Whether it takes 6 weeks or 4 months, I will be proud of myself cause every lb is an accomplishment. I am grateful to my body for every one of the lbs I have dropped, and I believe that you can do it too!

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Never mind your 'stats'.... This is not really about body-shape or size or weight.  This is about self-esteem & confidence - both of which you are lacking for some reason.  Being a healthy weight is obviously a sensible goal but you're absolutely right to think that being slimmer in no way means that you instantly acquire self-esteem or confidence.  That's something you have to work on independently.  And 'attractiveness' has nothing to do with size or shape either.  Have you ever heard the expression 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder?'.....  well it's true.   If it were not true, only women of a particular size would be given a license to breed.  LOL!

Attractiveness is very much tied up with confidence and self-esteem.  The relaxed, smiling girl  - fat or thin - who has something intelligent to say for herself, is interested in others and who is pleasant to talk to is the one that gets the boyfriend.  The miserable, boring one, sat in the corner too terrified to utter a sound is the 'wallflower' everyone walks past - whether she's fat or thin, nice-looking or not

So at the same time as working on being a healthy weight you can work on your self-esteem... Some tips.

• Become your own biggest fan.  And stop talking yourself down. Find at least three things you really like about yourself and remind yourself of them daily.   Ask friends and family what they like about you if you can't think of anything. 
• Widen your social circle.  Get involved with more people.  The more people you associate with, the more confident you'll become and the more likely you'll find a soul-mate.
• Challenge yourself... face your fears.  Put yourself into situations that may make you uncomfortable and see how you cope.  The more you do it, the les daunting everything else will become
• Learn new skills....  Interesting people are more attractive than boring people.  Learning gives you a sense of achievement and purpose and as you learn you'll build your confidence.
• Put yourself first..... People who lack confidence tend to assume everyone else's needs are more important than their own.  Be more selfish.
• 'Pretty is as pretty does'.... act pretty.  Always be well-groomed and wear flattering clothes.  If you look good you'll feel good.

Good luck

 

 

 This is the best answer you will get from anyone!!!!!!!!

 

No one will love you until you love yourself

 

Good luck :-)

Another voice of support for this advice.

Even teenage boys do not all universally reject heavy girls - and honestly, OP, you are not even really overweight. Maybe you are only going for the most popular boys, who tend to also be the jerks. Widen your scope a bit and someone wonderful might come into view.

Mm no...I've never liked someone because of his good looks or something.Every guy that I've been into...were a "smart" and with common interests with me..But they only want me as a friend and nothing more...because of my weight.So they prefer to be with skinny girls...and f**c them...and talk with me.

 

 

 

Ummm...'Id say its a good thing they don't look at you like that. One day you will find more guys who want depth. Easy girls won't attract them as much, whether they are slim or not. You just might be that take home to mom type...which they dont want yet. That was my 'problem' in high school. Worry not 

You can't really believe in love if you don't have it for yourself. I wasn't trying to be condescending about your age, but yeah...looking back, all the guys I was into when I was 17 were still so not ready for love. Don't let the past  discourage you about the future.

But anyways, I just want to echo Dken's sentiments. Take care of yourself and talk to a Dr./ nutritionist as soon as you can to get on the right track.

She is 17 though. A lot of 17 year old boys are juvenile when it comes to relationships. Comes with the territory. Girls too I suppose. I don't think high school campuses are the ideal breeding ground for love.  Doesn't mean you aren't worthy of it, and you can't go around expecting it to always suck. But yeah, work on your self love, health and all that and you will be stonger and more ready for a real relationship when you have real men in your age bracket .

OMG...I used to pour half a bag of Reese's pieces in mine. My own medium with butter.  That is disgusting. A whole rack of ribs with ice cream on top. I will always see that in my mind now when going to order popcorn (or not).

Me and my bf never really get it though, cause we always eat first.'

ETA: from the article:

An 8-ounce bag of Reese's Pieces is just a cup of candy. But with 1,160 calories and 35 grams of saturated fat, it's like eating a 16-ounce T-bone steak plus a buttered baked potato.

So I had about 800 cals and 20 or so grams of fat on top of that!? Def over 2500 cals just from popcorn and candy. Gross.