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| The Lounge | I need some emotional support | Nov 18 2009 17:09 (UTC) |
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about 2 years ago I think I had a forum post along the same lines.....I think it's the catch 22....when you STOP looking is when you find what you are looking for. But how do you stop looking if you don't have it? About a year and a half ago I finally decided that I was really ok w being single and that I needed to focus on myself more; my weightloss goals and hobbies. Once I did, that's when I started dating my b/f. I hadn't lost the weight yet or anything but I think it's the mindset that ppl subconciously are drawn to or away from. My guy and I had actually been friends for about 2 years and tried dating for a little bit....but I was just out of a relationship, and HE wasn't ready for a commitment yet at all. Seems like we both needed some growing and thinking and somehow it was the right time. My advice: go out w someone COMPLETELY out of charachter for you. If you are the artsy type; try a jock. If you are the nerdy type; try a pretty boy. Might/probably won't work out with THAT guy, but you learn more about yourself and what exactly you are looking for....your standards of things might change a little. Or if that's too scary, then drag a friend to a different type of hangout than your used to or a class of some kind. Either way, you'll be doing something NEW and different! Good luck! There are good guys out there, and I'm sure there is one waiting for you. Sometimes I think it might just be luck, or when the stars align a certain way....but the nice thing is, is that it will be worth it when it happens! |
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| Weight Loss | Meridia and Doctor prescribed me to eat UNDER 1200 cals a day... | Nov 05 2009 13:44 (UTC) |
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Hey.....my mom was on meridia when I was like.....maybe 15-17 years old. She lost TONS of weight and LOVED it. But, eventually she had to go off of it, cuz that was when they found out all of th bad stuff about phen phen and waht not. She didn't have any heart probs while on it, but once she got off it she started having hte palpitations and got put on bp meds and stuff. And of course she gained it all back, even more, cuz her metabolism got so revved up on it and went SO SLOW after it. So she's been obese since then.....well, not anymore. She's lost over 40lbs in the last few months by eating 'clean' (the diet I was on when I was on the challenge, ya know high protein, low sugar, green veggies).I guess i'd be more worried about AFTER you get off the drugs. That's when the bad stuff seems to happen. And you can't stay on it forever.... So, I'm just sayin..... |
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| Foods | Good protein smoothie? | Oct 29 2009 14:40 (UTC) |
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I go easy way! Any whey or soy protein; chocolate flavored (if you are a chick, you'll love tightcurves protein powder. It's SO YUMMY even just w water). scoop o that then a lil peanut butter then a lil sugar free chocolate pudding mix (just the mix, not the pudding) for extra chocolate flavor. ice
you can also use banana sugar free pudding, vanilla sf pudding, etc, to change the flavors of it. Take out the peanut butter or add diff fruits. I stay away from adding fruits cuz they have a lot of sugar, but a banana n pb chocolate one is great post workout! |
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| Fitness | My gym membership | Oct 20 2009 21:06 (UTC) |
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I've found that the eating and exercising go hand in hand....I tend to eat worse when I don't workout consistently, and I don't workout when I eat bad. haha You have to force it into your routine. I use little tricks like changing into my gym clothes at work before I leave, or making a protein shake...then I HAVE to go to the gym. Even if you can make it only 3 times a week, it's worth it.....I'm not suer what kind of life you have (like kids, etc), but usually you can find SOME way to get it in. And the eating is KEY! I worked out consistantly for about 3 years before FINALLY losing the weight. I got in a challnge that motivated me to eat 'clean' and workout hard for 12 weeks. SO I commited to 12 weeks and lost even BEYOND my goal.
Sometimes you just have to find different motivators.....like I like new workout clothes. So everytime I start to dread the gym, I buy new shoes or a new top or workout pants and then I get excited to go so I can wear them. Maybe a reward system would help? Like if you go x amount of times for x amount of weeks you get a massage or a purse or whatever it is you want (mine tends to be more new workout gear haha im lame). Pick a goal....maybe only one...and focus on that so you don't get overwhelmed (since you've been stressed). Maybe start w cutting out the bad food and slowly replacing that...then get back into the workout routine. Or vise versa! Good luck! |
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| Fitness | If you were stranded on a desert island... | Oct 19 2009 19:16 (UTC) |
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1 + 2: Squats and pushups for sure..... 3: then either pull ups or Bulgarian split squats. I would add cardio for one, but if I was on an island deserted, I probably wouldn't need cardio.....but even then I think I would just say jumping jacks or squat jumps (some form of plyo) (notice they are all compound movements that use many muscles) |
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| Health & Support | Probably a stupid question-but thought I'd ask anyways. | Oct 15 2009 14:45 (UTC) |
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are you taking any new medications? could be a reaction to tht... |
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| Weight Loss | Controversal topic, by Tony Horton(90x guy), on weight loss | Oct 15 2009 14:04 (UTC) |
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no matter what, we can't forget that he's a salesman selling a product that he wants us to buy...... With that said, I think the quoted statement is true in the sense that he means: you get what you give. I'd bet any trainer tries to find ways to get that into the heads of the people looking to be fit. But also, a lot of those people live in a different world: the world of figure and body building competitions where being ripped IS their job. Yea Joe Schmo wants to be fit, and would probably like definition, but wouldn't hold himself to the standards of Joe Bodybuilder who has to bulk up/diet down to certain weights and have the most muscle definition on a given day. I personally find that more motivating because he is telling it like it is; it's in OUR hands and not someone elses. But not everyone is going to like that method and want it to look easy. I think PX90 is a pretty good program though. I haven't gone through it myself but it incorporates body building and plyo and cleaner eating. I've known someone to go through it and he had a great transformation and still uses the basics of the workout. But like anything, you gotta do the work to see the results. |
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| The Lounge | Need Boyfriend Advice!! | Oct 07 2009 17:28 (UTC) |
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I feel for you! and I agree he sounds depressed.....I got pretty depressed when I got a DUI and had to go through all that, so it's kind of natural. But he could be dpressed anyway...... The problem i see though, is that depressed or not, it doesn't sound like he's contributing to the household enough. My daughter's dad was like that when we were together...eventually he didn't work at all and just sat at home playing video games all day. I tried so hard to get him interested in ANYTHING, but it didn't work. We broke up (while I was prego), but then he changed his act and acted like he did before we moved in....just long enough to get engaged. Once engaged however, he went right back to doing NOTHING. Eventually I realized that he has to fix himself; I can't. I can be there for him, but if he won't do anything about it, I can't do anything either. So try talking it out calmly....ask him how to help YOU (if you can somehow) cuz it seems men like helping. Or just tell him you are worried about him. And then HE has to do something about it. If he doesn't, then you can't and you'll get more and more resentful of him......until the point you decide you have to leave. I'm not saying that you'll have to leave him, I'm just saying that if he isn't willing to help himself (even if he's not depressed, you obvioulsy need to see a change in him), then you are stuck. It didn't work out in the end for me and my ex (we split 5 months before the wedding).....but that doesn't mean that your guy won't want to fix things. But either way, you will get through it and learned from it! Good luck1 |
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| Weight Loss | Mirena IUD help!! | Oct 07 2009 16:37 (UTC) |
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I had the IUD put in about a year n half ago. I LOVE IT! I lost about 40 lbs SINCE having it put in. I have not noticed any effect on my weight....I just started losing once I got serious about losing and changed my diet incredibly. I'm sure there will be some adjustment time, so give it a chance haha. |
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| Weight Loss | Is it O.K. to eat the same foods everyday????? | Oct 05 2009 20:46 (UTC) |
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When I was really trying to lose weight, I ate about the same 5 things. I would make meals on a Sun and prepackage them for the rest of the week to make sure I always had healthy food onhand. I LIKE doing that, cuz like you said, it takes the guess work out of it. However, I eventually get burnt out on a certain food and replace it w something else and wont TOUCH that food for a few months. haha. But it works for me! I'm in maintenance now and I still pretty much eat the same stuff day after day! Especially for breakfast cuz I'm a zombie in the morning, and it's just easier! |
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| Weight Loss | Figuring Casseroles | Sep 23 2009 17:39 (UTC) |
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I LOVE the recipe analyzer! Once i figured out how to use it that is! haah I make a lot of Body for Life reciepes and diff casseroles.....but I used to always have problems with it not finding what I was trying to enter...so sometimes you just have to change the wording of the food and hit 'analyze' again if it doesn't register! haha i like to tag them, too, so they are easy to find and I can enter a serving easily! You can also do that w ANY meal....like if you eat a certain type of omelete or make a lunch that's the same a lot. Makes life EASY haha. |
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| Weight Loss | Easier to lose weight after taking a break? | Sep 23 2009 17:32 (UTC) |
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its good to take breaks! Your body gets very used to what you are doing, whether it's eating OR working out. It finds the most efficient way to run itself...meaning it burns less cals when doing the same thigns if you've done them for a long time. I tend to take week long breaks every now and again....usually every 3 months or so from the gym. I WOULD prob take breaks from eating well....except Id probably never start again! haha But I tend to zig zag anyway, so i think it's mixed up enough! just log the cals, make good choices and hit the gym....you should see a loss! |
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| Health & Support | Thanks, but no, thanks... | Sep 03 2009 13:42 (UTC) |
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Although I probably wouldn't catagorize you as 'fat enough' to make it on the show, I completely understand what you mean about the truth. Before my b/f started dating, we were friends for a few years first.....at one point when we started getting closer we were emailing back n forth (slow day at work haha) and he made some comment about how I could stand to lose a few lbs. At first I was kinda pissed that he'd say that to me....but at least he told the truth in how he felt. My other friends would NEVER have said that to me.....my sis will tell me the truth and not sugar coat it and it's good for the soul I think. And since you obviously have some things you want to change about yourself, it would be nice to have your friends saying that they understand! |
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| Fitness | Spin and bulky muscles | Aug 28 2009 18:58 (UTC) |
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I've yo-yo'd since the end of high school at my highest (220...I lost, then had a kid, then lost, then went back up)...but most recently it was down from about 195 to my current low is 145...so 50lbs total since March of 08. BUT, I spent 6 of those months going from 195 to 176, and then lost the rest like that *snapping my fingers haha* once I changed my diet! Granted, I LVOE LOVE LOEV working out....not a big spin fan (however my sis teaches spin so I sit in sometimes), but I absolutely love lifting weights. I haven't had any trouble keeping the weight off....except when my eating starts slipping to bad habits...but I get back on track and I lose it again! |
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| Weight Loss | Fat pinching and major FRUSTRATION! | Aug 28 2009 15:09 (UTC) |
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You know meth n coke will only keep the weight off temperarily and cost too much money and too many other health issues. That's not worth it at all! Some trainers try to read people. Maybe he thinks you need tough love and to take a hard look at what you are putting into it. With that said, if his style is not right for you, either talk to him about it, or find someone new. I suggest finding someone new or a new program anyway. Working for a year and a half w someone, unless you are switching it up, your body is SO USED to what it's doing that its doing it the most efficient way possible. Does he make you switch up routines? If not, you should be! And I whole heartedly agree that you should be taking in more cals. if that scares you, just bump it up 200 cals a day at first, trying to make those protein cals if possible. Have a/an extra protein shake or something. HANG IN THERE. You are doing this for you. If you need a break, take one, cuz being too stressed about it won't help. Then get back on the wagon and figure out what's right for you.....when I get sick of the grind, I'll try to find a new food to incorporate (I hate fish but I made tilapia for the first time last night), or buy new workout clothes or shoes to give extra motivation at the gym. Find a new routine that you are excited about. |
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| Fitness | Spin and bulky muscles | Aug 27 2009 15:47 (UTC) |
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spin (or any long cardio session) actually tends to lean out the muscles....unless you are all hills spinning/biking/running....but even then the muscles tend to deplete when you go for a long time (over half hour).....so I would work on the eating. I worked out for about 3 years before I finally got my eating together and lost all the weight right away. I hate to say it, but it's true; diet is just as important (if not more) than exercise. |
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| Weight Loss | How many beer lovers on here think drinking once a week is perfectly ok? | Aug 24 2009 18:13 (UTC) |
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I drink beer on Sundays haha. I generally do MGD light as well, since it's so low in cals. but i DO drink on other days as well, and have wine. It's the best for weight loss...as told to me by someone and when I was really trying to lose I cut beer out and replaced with the wine. It still comes down to calories in vs calories out...moderation of beers on a friday night is just fine if you ask me. I just suggest having that be your cheat meal or free day or wahtever you call it, cuz you dont want to restrict cals all day just for the beer; otherwise you get super hungry, get the drunk munchies and want to eat a lot! haha and now i'll move over and give room for everyone to say it's not ok to have beer haha |
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| The Lounge | Advice needed...Should I tell him or let him surprise me?**Update...Party was great!** | Aug 21 2009 20:30 (UTC) |
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last year my sis/mom/friend threw me a surprise party....I figured it out a few weeks in advance, but I never said anything! afterwards (months later) my sis asked if I suspected and I said I did a lil, but I was so glad everyone wen thtrough the trouble! |
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| Motivation | How do you keep your self motivated after you reach your goal? | Aug 12 2009 20:52 (UTC) |
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What i think is SUPPOSED to happen is that by the time the goal is reached, new habits are formed and the old ones are out the door. But it is a slippery slope. I reached my goal (actually went under it) but it IS easy to slip into the old habits. Im trying now to find the balance of "yes, I CAN have this now" and "I dont need this I eat healthy" I think it's something we are always going to have to be aware of. we arent dieting (short term), we are changing a lifestyle. ONce the goal is reached, we are supposed to have the new lifestyle, and not want to revert back. I'm trying to let myself have cake at parties...and then say no to ice cream. or have mcd's breakfast, then eat clean the rest of the day. Sorry I guess I'm not much help....just dealilng with this issue myself right now!! I just try to remind myself that healthy is the key, NOT being slim. Good Luck! |
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| Weight Loss | It is 8:30am and I have already consumed 850 calories | Jul 30 2009 15:38 (UTC) |
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the body needs a shocker every once in a while...helps keep it guessing! I wouldn't suggest skipping any meals, but try to fill up on low cal stuff like veggies and eat a lot of protein for the rest of the day. Be active. Sometimes we need to just say screw it and give ourselves a cheat meal. Want honesty? I had mcds for breakfast today. And it was yummy. But lunch is chicken and veggies, snack is a small egg white omelette and dinner will prob be lean steak w veggies. It'll be ok! |
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| The Lounge | Quick poll about Ex's | Jul 28 2009 20:13 (UTC) |
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I can be pretty jealous....BUT..... what if it wasn't an ex....just a guy friend? You wouldn't expect her to just dump her friends cuz they are men. A few of my ex's had become some of my best friends...we could go out and party and get drunk (while single) and nothing ever happened after breaking up. They remained my friend after being a boyfriend, and weren't even considered an ex in my book. w that said though, I think it does depend on the relationship she has with them. Is she open and honest about it all with you, or do you find out info by chance? has the ex ever hung out w you too (like both at a party or something)? I can be pretty jealous sometimes so I can understand why it's disconcerting, but trust is first and foremost. If you are irked by it, but fully trust that she would never do anything, then cool. But if you have that bad gut feeling...well, even if there IS nothing to be jealous of, then maybe you should be w someone that you wouldn't get that feeling with. that's a hard one. I wouldn't expect my current to not let me hang w a friend just cuz he's an ex....but I don't know how comfortable I'd be with it were it vise versa. I guess if he's that good of a friend still, and always has been since you've been dating, you might need to let it go. If they've recently been buddy buddy, then I'd probably worry. |
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| The Lounge | Punked... | Jul 27 2009 21:14 (UTC) |
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didn't you post this somewhere else? Only saying skunked? |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | cheese? | Jul 27 2009 21:11 (UTC) |
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o pooh on them. My daughter LOOOOOVED cheese as a lil baby (well, not TOO lil). I think maybe ppl think it's bad cuz it can cause constipation? Well, if the kids get enough green veggies then that won't happen! Ugh, I'd smack that person.....who give them the right to parent YOU on parenting YOUR child? |
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| Weight Loss | What is a good weight for 5'7 - 5'8 ?! | Jul 27 2009 19:41 (UTC) |
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I'm 5 7 1/2 and I'm currently at anywhere from 140-150. I think this is a GREAT weight for me! Under 140 I look scary and over 150 I start feeling really puffy. |
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| The Lounge | Dating troubles...advice? | Jul 22 2009 21:20 (UTC) |
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Happy bday!! Guys suck first of all haha. In the dating scene that is. I would leave it where it is for now! You made contact and you don't want to look clingy. Guys run the other way then...even though they'd be texting again if it was vise versa! I'd do the same as kooky...I'd make other plans and say sorry but since you didn't hear back you accepted a diff offer. Have fun and let him sweat it out a lil. |
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| Fitness | Strange Thigh Question | Jul 22 2009 20:06 (UTC) |
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do you lift? I don't know WHY, but it might help if you always lift your 'smaller' leg first, ensuring that you are lifting as heavy as you can for that one and then using the same weight for the other leg. Trainer told me I should always lift for my weaker side to avoid lopsidedness...... lol but my whole right size is larger than my left....got a lil more chub on that side and muscles are a lil bigger..... |
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| Pregnancy & Parenting | Who's baby ??? | Jul 21 2009 20:36 (UTC) |
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I think the b/f is going to find out eventually....you can't NOT tell him if there is a question,. It would be absolutely revolting if b/f thinks he's having a kid, spends the time nurturing the mother and maybe being there for the birth, only to find out it's not his. That is the meanest thing ever. I think prego lady should own up to what she is doing and GROW UP. She's going to have a baby so it's time to start acting like she isn't one herself and takes responsibility for what she's done. She should feel TERRIBLE for cheating in the first place. And she should PRAY TO GOD that both don't leave her in the dust and that her baby grows up to be well adjusted. And she should test her/baby for AIDS or other stds. and, she should take a good hard look at herself as to WHY she would completely string her b/f along. SHe obviously DOESNT love him if she's cheating (you CANNOT love someone and completely disrespect them like that, it's impossible. that's basic respect for a HUMAN). So she should do the right thing, tell both guys, break up with b/f to let him find a GOOD woman who won't do crap like that. |
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| Weight Loss | No Carb Diets- how is that possible? | Jul 14 2009 22:05 (UTC) |
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octo-luv....'m not actually doing a contest yet. My sister competes...Ive always been the 'chubby' sister until recently, so she convinced me to do a 'fake' contest prep diet to see how it goes and to see if i'd be comfortable enough to get on stage....we shall see!
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| Fitness | Fatigue... | Jul 08 2009 17:22 (UTC) |
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O you would feel so much better if you jumped the cals up to 2300 a day. Especially if you are working out that much...you mentioned after a meal you workout for 2 hours? That sounds like the exercise ed as well almost. I'd bet, though, if you add more calories daily, you'd see an improvement. |
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| Fitness | Overworking??? | Jul 08 2009 14:55 (UTC) |
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yea I think you need some rest days in there! what is your lifting routine like? Are you doing splits? Cuz the muscles need rest after lifting...so hopefully you aren't lifting the same parts two times in a row.....I lift 6 days a week and (at the moment) am doing cardio 6 days a week, but I have one full day off, and alternate muscle groups with lifting. And i think if you are lifting that vigourously, you probably dont NEED cardio 6 days a week...and yoga and active job, too? ooch, you make me tired ;op |
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