Posts by priceless7

Original Post by fidget84:

you know my feelings on this. as long as you keep on the road you are on - you are lying to yourself about recovery.

stopping any addiction is hard. it is painful, it is messy. it is not pleasant. will you gain weight? you might. will you binge? you might. will you feel awful things about your body and about your fitness habits? you might.

but compare this to an alcoholic, which effectively you are. is it messy and painful and unpleasant? yes. is the reality of being sober terrifying and stomach churning? yes. is what you see in the mirror as a sober broken mess far more awful than how you ever saw yourself as drunk...quite possibly.

but the alcoholic gives up his addiction because the pleasantness of being drunk does not compare to all the heartache and loss and anger and sadness that this addiction causes.

the only way out of this is through. through does not mean perfect clean eating with a perfect body with a positive perfect mindset about food. through means breaking free from the compulsions of running. not doing this 'il run 5 now and 2 more later' bull. it means stopping on the days you are tired. forgiving yourself.

i dont know what answer you want. its hard and slow and painful. but not being chained down is one of the most Heavenly emotions i have experienced.

 I appreciate this post a great deal and agree with it. Thank you fidget.

It is possible you misunderstood where he was coming from (I know that happened to me A LOT in college) I think what he said is what you can take for truth...He is busy with school and realizes that a relationship might affect the way his studies go.

I think its apparent that he was falling for you and probably got scared but would still like to be friends and hang out....but its just like you said....friends without all the glitter.

Youre a smart girl. Let us know how it goes.

What method of Birth Control do you use?

Nuvaring

How long have you reallied on this method?

About 8 months

Has it always been effective?

So far no babies

Any side effects?

I have not noticed many side effects. I thought at first I couldnt lose weight on it but proved myself wrong. I have lost 13 lbs and still going. My sex drive is about zero but I cant tell if thats from the BC or just me.

What do you know about IUD?

Not much.

It took me a good few months of being on this site to be able to estimate calories in things.

Now I can successfully lose weight (or maintain if I wish) by just estimating. I give myself a buffer also. I dont always count exactly how many calories were in my ketchup on my hamburger for the day.

I dont have much advice to offer, all I can say is I was in a similar situation...

I gave all my passwords up to the boyfriend, gave him all my old pictures of boyfriends, let him go through my bank account statement, go through my phone, my email, my cell phone bill...everything.

I didnt realize at the time how controlling and awful the situation had become. It was pure abuse.

I really wish you the best of luck with this. I hope things can get worked out between you and your husband. :( I am so sorry.

Hi Katyuwf -

Dont give up! And definitely go to the party. This is the time to make a life style change but dont give up on the parties and things because you are losing confidence. You CAN do this! and I know that if you start working out even a little bit and eating more healthy, you will begin to see changes and it will become addicting to be healthy. Even if you dont see drastic changes on your body for awhile, you will feel better on the inside and gain the confidence you need to continue.

Dont let peoples size 6's get you down. You are beautiful with a way cute son. Start with the Wii if the gym membership doesnt motivate you and spend some quality time with your son playing games and becoming active. Remember you are an example to him! :)

Good luck!!!

Wow this whole time I was thinking these people I was hearing stories about actually had demons trying to get inside their bodies!! FREAKY. Im glad there is more explanation out there than just that.

Original Post by vanessa1031:

I slept with the lights on for two nights after watching PA.  Some people thought it was dumb; I watched it through half closed eyes and a sheet ready to be cast over my face.  I watched it again the other night to see what I missed when I covered my eyes!

I have experience odd things from time to time-  but the one thing; that has been scientifically explained was:  Sleep-Nightmare Paralysis.  I suffered through that when i was having man trouble in my early 20"s.  I'd wake up from horrible nightmares; not being able to move; always laying on my stomach; with the sensation of a man creeping up my back-  very heavy and distinct crawling on 4's.  No-  i didn't have an animal.  I know it wasn't a ghost per sae-  but the mere nightmare terror followed by sleep fright paralysis with that sensation in the pitch dark of night at 4AM (same time every night) was very real and scary to me.  Gave me insomnia for a while.  Then I just grew out of it.

 This scares me! I dont know how you handled that. I have heard a lot of stories about this same kind of thing happening to people I know. Im glad it doesnt happen anymore.

I dont know this show but I am looking for more TV shows to watch when I work out. With a lot of ABC shows you can watch them for free online.

What is this show about? Anything like Lost? I really liked Lost when I was watching it.

Hey,

For the people that were wondering - there wont be any alcohol at my wedding/reception at all. I am a recovered alcoholic and no one in my family drinks at all (very religious). So that wouldnt be a problem in that area. But everyone is right in saying that I need to do what is best for her...which would be rehab.

Thanks all again. and sorry if I sounded snappy in any of my posts. I was just having a rough day.

*ETA* no one drinks in my family at all....except for my sister. and I used to.

Original Post by rosieblue:

Original Post by priceless7:

Original Post by watergirl:

seriously? rehab trumps wedding.

Well and what does this exactly mean? Cancel the wedding? I know she needs to go to rehab and its more important than my wedding.

I agree with watergirl.  Rehab comes first.  And I also don't think you should lay the whole "cancel the wedding" on her, probably make her feel even worse.  Alaskanmama had a good suggestion.

I would NEVER do that. I know better than most in my family how easily alcoholism can take away lives.

I would never put that guilt on her so please do not belittle me like that. But I am willing to put the wedding on hold so that she can be there, she is my sister and I love her dearly.

*Edited for clarification

Original Post by nieto914:

This is tough, in one hand we all know that she needs to go. In the other hand is there a way she can come to you to plan everything with you sometimes having a project like planning a wedding is rehab of a diffrent kind. you both win and if need be she can go to rehab after the wedding?

Opinion, at the end you know what is best.

Nieto914

 Yeah I was totally thinking that she could come up here and we could go crazy on wedding plans and she could be distracted with that...but now everything is pretty much planned.

I love her and want her to go to rehab because I know that is the only way.

Pretty much I was wondering what people thought if I should postpone the wedding?

Scary! Yeah try and find a place to go for a bit if you can. I live in a really small community and its spreading a lot around here as well. They have closed down some of the elementry schools within the area. I have been nervous to come to work since I know people are prone (at this office) to still come to work even though sick.

I dont think you are overreacting. No one wants to get sick!

Original Post by kfirth1:

Honestly...I think it looks like the photographer told you to look thoughtful and you were about to laugh :)  I got lots of those at my wedding!

 Exactly! The photographer kept saying to be serious and I would just start laughing or try so hard to be serious that I looked angry.

Cant wait for more pics of the actual wedding day!

haha you guys are awesome! thanks!

the photographer said it was one of his favorite shots and maybe I dont have the artist eye because I was kinda like "hmmm i look a little mad" but we are our worst critics.