Posts by buttonsxandxbows

I binge eat  the most in periods of my life that I find scary/stressful/upsetting etc. etc.

I think maybe this is you too. There is no magic way to stop it - you obviously know this - and you have admitted that you feel that there's a problem, which is great! Now you can help yourself more easily.

Firstly, understand why you do it. Write down how you are feeling when you feel the need to binge. This sounds simple, but is incredibly hard... when you are in "that" place, you just don't care, you want to eat eat eat.

You have tried to get help by seeing your doctor. Don't give up. Keep seeing a doctor until you find one you gel with, who can understand and sympathise. Maybe don't bring it up primarily as an issue with food, but rather that you are stressed, and you don't know what to do. Then mention that it's affecting your relationship with food, and maybe other things in your life (I know this is true for me), and that it's a vicious circle you want to get out of.

Maybe they will recommend a counsellor you could see. I'm not sure if you live in the US or not, or how it works over there, but here in the UK you can get referred to someone to talk to. Talking helps. When you want to binge, why not come on here and confide to us how you are feeling? Write in the journal section, or email someone on your buddy list. You can email me if you like.

Sorry I've written so much, I just really feel for you because I go through the same things, and have managed to break the cycle, but right now am so stressed out that it's really been affecting me. I going to count my binge free days. Maybe we should do it together?

Good luck and much love xx

Original Post by yaza:

Original Post by ri-a:

So I had my sister-in-law round for dinner and I decided to serve up quiche. As she sat down she eyed up the quiche then looked me up and down and then blurted out “make sure that after you have your dinner you go on a diet because you’ll never get a husband at this rate!”

I couldn’t believe it! I gave out a short laugh but it crippled me inside. I am 5ft 0 and weigh around 112-113. Yeah, so I’m not at my goal weight but I am not fat.

I never raised this with her again but I can’t believe that people think that they can get away with making comments like that. It’s those kinds of comments that can throw people into eating disorders and / or depression.

why dont u stop being a cry baby and stand up for urself.

 

Why don't "u" learn correct grammar??

In response to the OP, I think that she's obviously insecure, but not just that, she's really ungrateful! You have her round at your house and cook for her! Was she never taught to say thank you to the host?! Crazy. You are a perfect weight - my goal!! Good luck with everything, you always have support on here... xx

Hi Hi HIIII!!!

I couldn't weigh or post yesterday, for week 3, so I'm hoping it's ok to do so now, and that you haven't added up the points yet cdanda?? Great job by the way, this challenge is excellent, and you've been steadily losing weight.

After not losing for the first few weeks, this morning I was really please and surprised that I weighed what I did!! Here are the results:

Week3

Team: 1

Starting weight: (0) 165.6 (1) 166 (2) 166
Goal weight: 150 (for end of challenge)

Week 3 (May 26) weigh in: 163.8

Week 3 challenge points earned: 4 for fibre (I'm English, so that is the correct spelling here, not that I can't spell!!) 5 deficit

Total points earned: 11(weeks 1 and 2) + 9(week 3) = 20

Bring on week 4!!

name: Alice (aka buttonsxandxbows)

Team: 1

Starting Weight: 165.6

Week (1) 166 (2) 166 (3)163.8

Points Earned this week:

Deficit:

Exercise:

Team: 1

Starting weight: (0) 165.6 (1) 166

Goal weight by end of challange: 155

Week 2 (May 18) weigh in: 166 (still?!)

Week 2 challenge points earned: 7 (I love water! So I loved this challenge!)

Total points: 11

ME ME MEEEEE!!

I'm in - my goal weight is 112lbs...

Will weigh in on Monday 4th and let you all know what I beeee xx

haha, I've never had that personally, but I hated having sloppy looking jeans after I lost weight (I, too, am cheap... heheh) However, I know what it's like have jeans that are too tight, and you get that muffin top, and it's uncomfortable to sit down etc. so I can put up with the sloppy look for a bit.

Depending on the type of jeans (this will work best if they have a slight stretch, and they are/or you want to make them into skinny jeans) sew up the inside leg seam, and take them in around the waist and ta-da! Well it worked for me... sometimes... xx

tealparadise - I get ya, also, I don't think you stay on the "starve yourself diet" for too long... from what I read, it seems that once you "learn" new ways to eat (not emotionally etc.) with help from your "special counsellor" you get to eat "normal" food again...

I too still think it's a load of crap.

topazie - is this after working out? or just generally? Also, is it in your calves or shins? Or both?!

xx

Original Post by ds1973:

It's called the "cheesecake factory".  What do you expect? 

Why should this not be allowed?  You have choices.  You can:

1) Not go there.

2) Eat half, get the rest to go (two meals for the price of one)

3) Order fish or chicken ask to have it prepared without the toppings (for some reason everyone needs to smother good food in melted cheese or butter)

4) Ask for a double side of vegetables instead of fries or onion rings (I do this with steak all the time).

Just because the menu lists something a certain way, doesn't mean they can't hold some of the extras that make it less healthy.

http://www.cheesecakefactory.com/menu.htm

Regulate yourself, not others.

"Why should this not be allowed"?!? Well, if an "average" woman can eat 2000 calories p/day, and an "average" man 2500, then I don't think that resturants should sell things that are four fiths, or the WHOLE of your calorie allowance. No wonder America has the highest obesitey rate if you think that "regulate yourself, not others" is ok, when the majority of people don't think to look up calories (people not dieting etc.) I hate all the American chains coming to Britain. I don't want to eat a 2000 calorie meal without realising thanks.

Also, the information should be on the menu... it is disgusting!

personaltrainer - specca never said that quote, that's the point.

Hi hi HI!

I'm 5'2" AND A HALF (because every little counts, right?)

Currently I weigh 158lbs, and am looking to get down to 110lbs, so a little more than 30!! But 30lbs would get me to 128lbs, which is around my lowest weight ever, so definitely want to be there again!!

When are weigh-ins??

alice xx

cool cool COOL!!

So amazing!! I got down to around 130lbs, but am currently 158 aiming for 110 - like you!!

Well done xx

That was EXACTLY how I felt when I was 14, 15, 16... exactly. It ruins you. You need to change now... It's hard. But when I look back on pictures of me being 14 I WASN'T fat, I was just bigger than my under-developed friends.

You have to find an exercise and eating plan that works for you. It's impossible for me to give you advice, because I know how you're thinking, and telling you to do something, won't help you! However, I started with small steps.

I was embarrassed to exercise, so I danced around my room for 30mins/1 hour every night at 8pm. Not only did no one see me exercising (my biggest fear was what they would think), but the 8pm time meant no picking at food after dinner. And the exercise sometimes curbed my "fake binge" appetite. Also, I LOVE dancing in my crazy 80s style, so it was fun, and I knew it was better than sitting on my arse.

I also sometimes went for a 10 minute walk around my block (I say block, but I'm in England, and we don't have "blocks", but it was basically a circular route back to my house - up a hill at the end). It started off taking me 15 mins.

As for the eating. That's always an ongoing battle. I wish there was some magic way of stopping, but there isn't. Recently I've been trying to eat for pure health reasons - macrobiotic and all that (I have other problems that may be helped by my diet). When I appreciated the food, and understood that it was all natural, I felt content. 

At the moment I've just thought f it. What's the point, and have been eating my cheese and my milk and my chocolate and my *insert un-macrobiotic food here*...

I need to strike a balance between both. I'm all or nothing at the moment, like you... and we can never succeed like that.

You are young (I know, how patronising, but hear me out) Not only are you going to grow (inside, not just up), so you need those "curves" to grow into and to help you grow, but also, now's the time to change if you need to. It's so hard when you're 14 because you have effing school and all that bollocks, and social pressure... But you can do it. 

xx sorry this hasn't been much help, because honestly, I don't have answers to any of your problems... they are for you to find out for yourself... and you will xx 

One of my friends on here, who is also a mod, has been following this diet recently I think... If you look it up, it's not as extreme as it sounds out of context. HOWEVER, I don't think I'd be able to do it...

 I think there are lots of other things involved, not just an extreme zig-zag of cals...

To the OP - Are you on this diet? If you are, perhaps you could let people know how it's going, and maybe give some useful links to those wanting to read more about it (who can't be bothered to look it up, haha.) Why are you on it? And do you find it better than just CC alone??

If the answer is no - I take it you are researching it in order to find out more, which is great - make sure you do your research properly to avoid endangering your health.

xx 

Once, a woman found a chicken beak in her mcnuggets. Also, when some chickens were rescued from a maccy d's farm, along with other ailments such as injuries from being trapped in their own feeders, they had 8 miscellaneous illnesses... what the hell's that all about?!

Mcdonald's are fascists.

But if you're not like me, and just care about the actual meal, not really what's inside it, then you could go for it I suppose... I mean, it's 340 calories which is fine for one meal. The sodium might temporarily push the scale up though - just a warning - drink alot of water!!

Wouldn't it be better to just get some free range chicken breast (in breadcrumbs?) and some wholemeal baps with seeds, and just make your own burger? With parsnip and potato chips (I'm from England, so I mean chips in the THICK FRIES or whatever sense of the word...) You could chop em yourself and bake in the oven at 200c for 45 minutes with a little reduced fat butter on each. AND you could have it with a delicious crunchy salad!! Ohhh... I want it now, and it's 10am!! haha.