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| Motivation | How to not fall off the wagon...? | Jan 18 2009 18:21 (UTC) |
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Yeah, I think it really has to do with the "all or nothing, black and white" thinking. I always think , "well I ate that on Wednesday so the rest of the week is shot and I'll start again on Monday." Come Monday though, I think that my entire plan is shot, so what does it matter, I might as well eat what I want. I can't get over this thinking. I am trying to set less agressive goals. Goals that I know I can reach even if I have a few "bad" days. And I'm trying to look at it as this is my life, not two months in my life where I will suffer and come two months it will be over and I can eat and enjoy myself again. When I do what I've done in the past, I get depressed, withdrawn and angry. This makes me binge and lay around the house all day and get more depressed. I wish there was a pill or something LOL. |
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| Weight Loss | I Never Heard This Part About Losing Weight... | Jan 17 2009 18:29 (UTC) |
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Splittrail, yes, the summer is better. Without all the fat you just don't get as hot. However, when the temps get up to the 30s or above, I don't think it matters, its HOT. Also, I'm used to cold climates so the heat depresses me and makes me wanna hide too. |
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| Health & Support | Need help with my OCD.... | Dec 17 2008 18:32 (UTC) |
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Original Post by pgeorgian: Ain't that the truth LOL. I have a therapist, I guess I should talk to her about my obsessions more. I've been dealing with other problems with her. |
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| Weight Loss | Can't work it out... | Dec 17 2008 15:15 (UTC) |
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I think that you are overestimating your exercise calories. You burn the most amount of calories when you increase the intensity. Unfortunately, walking doesn't burn many cals. The cross trainer can, but you have to keep the intensity high and vary it over time - try doing intervals. Also, I don't think your swimming workouts burn 1000 cals - I would give you half of that so like 500. Finally, make sure you're counting your food calories accurately. Weigh the food for a while to get an exact idea of how many calories are in what. |
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| Health & Support | Need help with my OCD.... | Dec 17 2008 15:07 (UTC) |
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Thanks for the replies everyone. I don't know if I actually have the medically diagnosed form of OCD. I just know that my mother has always told me that I tended to obsess over things when I was a child and I know that I continue to do so now. I'm a perfectionist as well so that plays into it. The fact is that I've had an ED in the past, so food has always been a sensitive topic. I would like to finally get over the weight and the food controlling my life and have some sanity. I thought that I would just relax, take it slow, focus on other things in my life (like grad school) and it should be OK. But I'm starting to obsess over the calories, exercise, food etc again. I figured not counting calories and weighing the food would tame some of these thoughts and behaviors, and it has, but as the weight comes off, I'm getting more inclined to return to what I used to do and that always backfires. |
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| Weight Loss | Biggest Loser Finale!! | Dec 16 2008 18:48 (UTC) |
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Definitely looking forward to it. I love the transformations at the end. And yes, I would rather have Ed in the finale, b/c I've hated Heba from the beginning - she's such a b*tch. |
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| Weight Loss | Does anyone here NOT count calories? | Dec 12 2008 14:14 (UTC) |
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In terms of carbs, I think that some people just get cravings when eating carbs and that's why cutting them out would lead to weight loss as the cravings wouldn't be as strong. Also depends on the type of carb. I actually started the weight loss thing again in November and decided that I would not count calories. Granted I still have a ballpark figure in my head, but I don't go crazy like I used to. Its such a relief not to have to do that. Counting became a problem for me, b/c if I went over, I would get annoyed and depressed and that would lead to bingeing. Plus it was outrageously time consuming and especially problematic when I would have meals with my parents or in restaurants. Now I just go with the flow, I've been doing this for a long time, I know what I should be eating, and I keep a close eye on the weight. |
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| Weight Loss | Eating a lot and exercising | Dec 10 2008 01:52 (UTC) |
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I would say that the easiest way to get an answer to your question is to do some trial and error. Keep doing what you're doing and monitor your inches or weight or both. You'll eventually get stuck, then you'll need to cut the calories or up the exercise or both. Also depends on how much weight you have to lose. |
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| Fitness | Just registered for my first ever 5k!!!! | Sep 12 2008 21:40 (UTC) |
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| HalHigdon.com has great training plans!! | |||
| Fitness | 15 Minutes Everyday? Or 30 minutes 3 times a week. | Aug 29 2008 17:12 (UTC) |
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| I would go with 30mins 4-5 times per week. But, anything you do is benefitial. Is there an activity that you do like doing?? | |||
| Health & Support | a nutritionist and an overeating problem | Aug 29 2008 12:51 (UTC) |
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| Hi Safina, As we've talked before, I have the same problem. I also thought about working with a nutritionist but it was just too expensive - about the same that you say. I just can't afford that right now. However, I have been going to a new therapist since February and I think its finally starting to click. She also recommended some books to me, which have been helping. I also got a book on depression. Its going to take time and you're not going to feel better overnight. I have to fight everyday, but each day it gets easier. Of course there are those days when you want to throw in the towel but like some of the other posters said, you just need to distract yourself for like 20mins - the urges to overeat do pass. I find it really helpful to have someone to call or I have some people that I communicate with that I found on this site and I just type them an email about whats going on. It really helps. I know it may seem helpless right now, but you just have to take it one day at time. Forget tomorrow and don't worry about yesterday - trust me, each day does get better. What I meant to say was, I think you're better off with a therapist. Find one that you like and that maybe has some experience in this sort of thing. Is it possible that you can be depressed? Maybe you can try drug therapy for that. I also started that just recently, but it will take a few months to see if it helps. |
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| Weight Loss | Has anyone had success not counting cals | Aug 27 2008 17:28 (UTC) |
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| Cosmogirl82, are you having success at the weight loss? | |||
| Weight Loss | Has anyone had success not counting cals | Aug 27 2008 17:07 (UTC) |
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| Oh and for those of you that don't count, do you estimate or do you just kind of know what to eat and go with that? | |||
| Weight Loss | Has anyone had success not counting cals | Aug 27 2008 17:02 (UTC) |
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| I'm just afraid of getting all obsessed over it again so that it controls my life. I do beleive in checking package listings or looking something up here on CC if you don't know the calories, but I just get crazy with everything. I weigh all foods to the gram and I get SO anxious when I'm at my parents house and I can't do that. I then get angry and crabby at everyone. | |||
| Weight Loss | Don't know what to do anymore :( | Aug 27 2008 16:51 (UTC) |
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| Thanks everyone for your support. I stayed home from work this morning from work and went to the gym!! Of course it felt great! Its a long journey still and I guess this is a step. The only thing that's discouraging is that I've done all this before. I've taken the first step before. I've put in sweat, blood and tears and have lost the weight in the past. Just thinking about the long way ahead is making me depressed. I just hate being at this weight SO MUCH that I just want it gone. Grr. | |||
| Weight Loss | Don't know what to do anymore :( | Aug 26 2008 22:05 (UTC) |
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| gi-jane, I know you are so right. I am a perfectionist, so I feel like I need to do it all right all at once. I've just been through this so many times before, I'm just sick of being overweight, or on a diet or whatever. I wish I never started this thing ever. | |||
| Weight Loss | Don't know what to do anymore :( | Aug 26 2008 22:02 (UTC) |
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| Thanks for the responses! I do appreciate it. I know that once I get fed up I'll just give and have to do it, at least I thought. That's what got me last year. I just couldn't take it anymore. This time around, I just don't feel that way. And I can't shake this feeling. I'm going on vacation next week for a week so that doesn't help much. | |||
| Motivation | i am fat again.....fatter actually | Aug 26 2008 16:55 (UTC) |
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| Its hard. I'm in the same situation. I've gained and lost these 40lbs like 3 times. I'm trying to convince myself that I can go slower this time and focus on things other than weight, but its hard. It makes me so depressed to have put on this much weight and I just don't have the motivation to get it off again. | |||
| Weight Loss | Has anyone had success not counting cals | Aug 25 2008 20:44 (UTC) |
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| jblarghb, I feel that when I count calories, I actually think about food more! It could also be that when I'm focused on "dieting," I don't allow myself foods that are not "approved" so to speak. I know people have splurge days or get the food they've been craving once or week or once a month. I find that when "dieting" I deprive myself of most foods - so that could be driving me crazy. I just feel like I don't deserve it unless I get to my goal. I used to have like cookies for example and figure them into my daily total - lately I haven't been doing that. So of course, when I get frustrated and pissed off, I go for a box of cookies. | |||
| Weight Loss | Has anyone had success not counting cals | Aug 25 2008 20:29 (UTC) |
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| No, I haven't been counting for 12 years all the time. I started this diet thing 12 years ago, then after an eating disorder and load of other crap, I'm still doing it. I feel that counting calories plunges me back into the anorexic days - like "how many calories less can I eat today than yesterday, or this week vs. last week." It becomes an obsessive behavior for me, which stresses me out, pisses me off after a while and so I give up and eat everything in sight. I feel that maybe if I can let go of the calorie counting that I can establish some sort of normal behavior towards food. I don't think counting calories is all that normal. Who knows - just wondering if I can do this without counting. I was also thinking that if we are supposed to make a "lifestyle change" rather than be on a "diet" then counting calories is good at the beginning, but in the long run, I don't think its realistic to do it everyday for the rest of your life. If you think about it, we usually eat mostly the same things week in and week out for breakfast, lunch and dinner. Then there are special occasions, vacations etc where we just have to be smart. I feel that if we just eat smart with the occasional splurge, there shouldn't be the need to count calories. The reason that some of us are overweight are because we don't exercise, or we emotionally overeat, or because we don't pay attention to what we are eating as food is EVERYWHERE these days. I feel that with a little exercise and mindful eating - the weight can come off for the long term. If the weight doesn't come off - maybe its not meant to be?? | |||
| Health & Support | I can't do this | Aug 12 2008 21:55 (UTC) |
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| Caloricat - wow, you're right, its exactly how I feel. I just also feel sometimes that I can accept myself for who I am, I know I'm not a bad person. I just feel embarassed being 30lbs over weight. I feel like everyone is looking at me asking themselves "god, when is she gonna lose that weight?" Or, "she doesn't really need to eat that or at all!" I feel that I can take it slow if it was just me, but I feel that I want to hurry up and lose the weight so that there is less time for people to think those thoughts about me.
What is healthy is a complete blur at the moment. I have no idea. I don't remember a time not worrying about what I eat. I read the post about the girl that got too obsessive with counting - I know I am. I obsess about everything! It's my personality. I go from obsessing about one thing to obsessing about something else constantly. When I am at this weight, I just feel horrible about eating anything! I feel horrific guilt about every morsel of food that I put in my mouth. My life for the past years has revolved around cycles of bingeing and dieting. When I binge, I feel horrible, I go to work, watch TV and sleep. That's it. When I'm in diet mode, I workout morning and night and watch TV and sleep. I don't do anything social during either cycle as I'm either too embarassed or in "diet mode" thus too exhausted. I don't have friends around where I live, not that I make an effort. It has just been like this for such a long time that this is MY normal. |
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| Weight Loss | I need advice. Anyone out there? | Aug 12 2008 15:53 (UTC) |
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| I TOTALLY feel for you. I felt the SAME EXACT way last year. I was close to my goal, but then I got these hopeless feelings and slight depression like it was all not worth it anymore. I agree with some of the other posters. Get out and do something even if you don't want to. You have to force yourself. You have to. Get your nails done. Get a haircut. Walk in the park. Go for a drive. Listen to a favorite CD you haven't listened to in a while. Something. Just try to stay out of the food. | |||
| Health & Support | I can't do this | Aug 12 2008 12:55 (UTC) |
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| Hey Ashley. I know how you feel. I did the exact same thing when I was your age. I never vomited (couldn't bring myself to do it) I used laxatives instead. All I can say, is that you need to get some help now! Its not going to get better unless you deal with your self-esteem problems and other issues that might be going on. Will your parents get you some help? If not, you may have resources at your school. I know what you are talking about that doctors and therapists ignore this stuff if they are not familiar unless all your bones are sticking out of your body. You need to stop vomiting TODAY - NOW. I know its easier said than done. Then you need to get help!! Let me know if you want to talk. I know this sucks, but since you just started 3 weeks or so ago, it will be a faster recovery for you I think - the longer you go on, the harder it will be to break the habit. | |||
| Health & Support | I can't do this | Aug 11 2008 19:15 (UTC) |
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| Well that's kind of the hard part too. I have never hit starvation mode or anything like that. I have always lost at the rate that I had calculated. I have never had trouble losing weight eating this way. That's why its so hard for me to stop, or to do it differently. | |||
| Weight Loss | Today is August 2008. Why does the Calorie Coach on the My Account page say I'll reach my goal weight on Jan. 12, 2006? | Aug 11 2008 18:24 (UTC) |
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| Mine said weird things too. I think its messed up. | |||
| Health & Support | I can't do this | Aug 11 2008 15:58 (UTC) |
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| Thanks for all the responses. One more thing, you all talk about healthy, I wish that I knew what that was anymore. Healthy calories, healthy exercise amounts - I have no idea anymore. After losing weight exercising 3 hours a day 7 days a week, 1 hour a day 5 days a week just seems like nothing. | |||
| Health & Support | I can't do this | Aug 11 2008 15:54 (UTC) |
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| I went to a few counseling sessions in HS. But my parents refused to pay for them after the initial ones that the insurance covered (about 6). My mom took me to a pediatrician who really didn't know what he was doing - and after I started gaining weight, they all thought that I was cured. I went to my current doctor about this - he looked at me like I had two heads - he couldn't understand what bingeing uncontrollably was and told me to eat less carbs - he laughed at me when he saw how much weight I've gained in a short time - idiot! I go to a therapist now, but we have been more dealing with some of my other problems - I have slight depression, I have a difficult relationship with my mother that I'm working on, I have self-esteem issues and now I have bf issues as well. We haven't talked much about the food. Some how I just feel that if I'm not thin, then I can't be happy. I feel self-conscious around my co-workers, my family, the people at the supermarket etc. I feel that if I'm thin, all the problems will go away, when I know they won't because they haven't in the past. I feel like my dieting, bingeing and drinking is related to my self-esteem issues and my mild depression - I figured if I can work on those, the food would improve and I wouldn't feel the need to starve/binge. On the other hand, losing weight is like a project for me. I chart everything, I weigh all food down to the last drop and count every calorie, I make forecasts as to when I will be at a certain weight - I feel like I'm the CFO at a company where calories are my dollars and cents. | |||
| Weight Loss | I will still feel guilty | Jul 17 2008 17:14 (UTC) |
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| I think that you might find that getting a small something will satisfy you. In the past, I used to cheat and get something big etc and I would be stuffed and feel crappy after eating it. The thing that will kill you is prohibiting yourself to have something - then you're gonna crave it and obsess over it, until you binge on it. That's just my experience though. | |||
| Weight Loss | help!!! | Jul 16 2008 19:25 (UTC) |
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| How many calories per day were you eating? | |||
| Weight Loss | It's 8pm and I'm 490 calories short, AGAIN!!! | Jul 15 2008 19:27 (UTC) |
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| I find that on days when I workout ALOT, I'm not as hungry, but it catches up to me the next day! I would suggest making a chart of your daily calories and aiming for a weekly average. If you are hungry one day, eat more, the next day you won't be so hungry. I'm not one for eating b/c you're short on calories but not hungry. | |||
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