Posts by mla931

I have a few things that I absolutely cannot stand...

- When people my age call me "honey" or "sweetheart" or any other name like that. It makes me want to punch them in the face.

- When people are trying to make a point and they ask/answer their own questions (Did I want to go to the party? No. But did I have a good time? Absolutely.)

- When anyone goes on and on about their weight or personal body issues. It gets uncomfortable real quick. Especially if it is a thin person just fishing for complements. I can only tolerate giving out meaningless complements (or lies haha) for so long...

- When you are trying to vent or share a story and the person you are talking to completely misses the goal of listening and they just start talking about a story that "tops" yours. Just freaking shut up and let me talk!

:) That felt good.

Everyone's words are very kind and helpful! Thank you all so much for responding and offering advice!

As a matter of fact, I think I'll go for a run right now :)

This might sound weird, but it made me very happy to read that you referenced something I posted a few days ago :) Just the fact that someone pays attention to my posts makes me feel better

I have had some changes in my life:

- I moved back into my parent's home for the summer (was away for school in my own apartment)

- I started the Nuva Ring about 2 weeks ago

- I don't have classes or a job anymore (i.e. more lazy time)

- I don't have the convenience of hanging out with all my college/apartment frineds like I did when I was on campus. It's like I have to make new friends this summer.

Okay, so all that said...how do I fix this? I just ate 6 brownies and feel like I could eat more :(

I just tried out this recipe, and I'm sorry to say, I thought it was disgusting.

I used less cottage cheese (I just wanted to make a taste) and kept putting more and more cheesecake pudding mix in, but it never started tasting good...

You could see it as a healthy alternative to something sinfully sweet, but it definitely does not satisfy my cravings. Kind of made me gag, actually.

Original Post by trustwomen:

Also, run a search on the forums for "iud" or "mirena" - we've had these conversations before.

I actually did a search for mirena and didn't find anything...

I would have done a search for "iud" but I wanted to make sure I got specific feedback about mirena.

Thanks, everyone, for your responses!

Haha snorting birth control is definitely an option.

I am not sexually active - I'm 20 and single - so having my partner feel the wire is not of great concern to me. But you said you could actually feel the IUD yourself? That's something I'll keep in mind. Doesn't sound too appealing.

I'm not a tuna person, either, vicki, but I love it just because it is low calorie, high protein, and easy to stash in your cabinets!

I find mayonaise more disgusting than anything I could ever imagine, so I mix tuna with barbecue sauce. I swear it's delicious.

I like to put it on toasted bread as a barbecue sandwich. If you add enough barbecue sauce, it loses the fishy flavor and it's just like chicken!!

I just don't know when I transition from "young teenager body" to "adult woman body" and my caloric needs changes from 2000 to (what I'm eating now) 1400.

I don't feel like a teenager, so I guess that's why I think I don't need that many calories.

Original Post by enchantedsky:

When I hear someone is a vegetarian, and then they're eating an egg product, I do not consider them to be vegetarians. It doesn't matter if they are fertilized or not; it still could have been a chicken, no matter how you look at it.

 

 

So by this reasoning, it is also considered abortion every month when you pass an egg through menstruation.

Women's eggs are the same as chickens'. But instead of humans being developed within a shell outside of our mothers, we remain in the uterus and come out when we're done cooking :)

The eggs we pass are not fertilized and are thus, not baby humans. They only have the potential to be a baby human.

I would avoid buying them, and I do, when I am at my apartment.

But I am home with my parents this weekend and they bought all this junk food for ME---knowing I like to eat healthy.

Ugh, it's awful. Something that was meant to be a treat turned into a nightmare! And what's even worse is that I'm not even full! I could probably eat something else!

I think everyone is missing the point of this thread.

My intention with this post was NOT to attack the media or skinny people.

I wanted only to bring some positivity into such a negative, demanding society.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with losing weight to be healthy; nothing wrong with being naturally thin; nothing wrong with working out to tone.

It seems like everyone here thinks I want to picket MTV and make everyone fat and happy. Not the case. I want people to recognize their worth and beauty separate from their weight and size.

There are imperfections in all of us, but joy can be found in loving ourselves for who we are (even who we are while we work on losing weight for a healthier exterior).

Did I clear some things up??

:)

Original Post by aerogers:

My point by saying it's easy for her to post something like her first post is that at her weight and height, she still seems to be suffering from the same media influences and body dismorphia she denounces by imagining she has "handfuls of muffin tops" and supposed gigantic ripples in her legs. It seemed ironic to me. I think that everyone has issues with their bodies, but to be her height and weight (which, btw, I have nothing to be bitter about as I am 5'7'' and 130 - taller and a little curvier), and pass judgment on how others feel about their bodies for not being thinner or taller seems a little wrong to me.

It's very easy if you are blessed with certain "stats" to pass judgment on the mindsets of those that don't have them. It would be interesting to see whether she would believe the same things about body image if she had grown up with an obesity problem or, more extremely, a physical deformity. I think if I was 300 lbs. or had some other factor that made me less physically attractive than the media stereotype of beauty, it would make me angry if someone 5'6'' and 120 lbs. tried to preach to me about "happiness lies within."

I just don't believe it's right to pass judgment on the mindsets of others. ESPECIALLY, if certain adages may be easier for you to believe than for others because you have never had to deal with the hardships they have.

Like I said in my original post, I used to be heavier and yes, I have dealt with body image issues and disordered eating in the past.

The point of my topic was to show everyone that, no matter what jiggles on me or what is available to poke, I have found happiness and satisfaction with myself.

Eating disorders generally come from having negative feelings about oneself. Obesity has roots in emotional eating or finding happiness in food (not to say those are the only reasons people become obese). Eating disorders like anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa typically develop due to poor self esteem and negativity towards oneself--whether that is attributed to the media, family, friends, or the own sufferer's mind.

So my point is: to find happiness and peace within yourself will fight the demons whispering horrible things in your ear. A little light always conquers darkness.

Hey girls!

I am so excited to see this thread take off like this!

I love the debate about how the media affects young women's minds/how it doesn't. I can see both sides and I agree that people feed into the image the media portrays. BUT, the point of my topic was for girls to reject the media's/peer's/parent's/boyfriend's/horrible little voice's demands to be thinner.

Happiness does not come with being thin. Happiness comes with loving yourself and living to love others. And losing weight shouldn't be in the equation of being happy. If you strive to be healthy, then I can agree, losing weight is a good reason to be happy.

I want some real accounts of girls being happy with their curves, their weight, and the things they love about themselves--despite what everything around them is saying.

Hey girls! I just started reading some entries in this thread and they are kind of making me nervous :(

I think it's wonderful you ladies are getting involved and motivated to be healthy, but remember that it is healthy (and necessary) to gain weight throughout your adolescence.

I am 19 years old, so please don't think I'm some old lady harping you about weight issues. When I was 14, I barely hit the 100pound mark. Now--only 5 years later--I weigh 125.

I just don't want you girls to think that not being able to fit into the same jeans you did last year--as a prepubescent child--is a bad thing.

Embrace the womanly curves you are developing and don't try to reverse it!

Trying to halt your natural growth pattern can and will cause all sorts of problems for you, I promise. Let your body do it's thing!!

I'm not suggesting you sit on the couch and eat potato chips all day; it's still suggested that teenagers eat healthy and exercise. Just don't focus on losing weight. Focus on being healthy!!

Hey guys...

Check this out: I scheduled an emergency appointment yesterday with my gynecologist. They were able to slide me in where someone had canceled yesterday afternoon.

And wouldn't you know, an hour before my appointment, I started my period.

I guess I'll be giving them another call in about a week, eh?