Posts by swearimn

wow this is great you guys...I find it interesting that we have all used very similiar methods and you can really tell how much harder the weight is to move the closer you get to maintenance. hmmm..just a few thoughts

Watch your carb and sugar intake, focuse on lean proteins and fibereous veggies. While changing the exercise routine is certainly a benefit, what matters even more than that is the intensity. Are the videos that you are doing becoming too easy? What has worked for me realy well are sprints, run like hell for 30 sec...walk for 30,...run like hell....etc for 20 min. the goal is to get your heart rate going.  I promise this is a winner :) let me know what you end of doing

I coslept and demand fed both of my babies, and I loved it! they would sleep with me from about 10 til 8 no problem. At around three months I started transitioning to a crib beside the bed and then one in there own room. Around five months both my babes would sleep from 8 to 5 eat then snooze for another hour or two. by about six or seven months they both were sleeping by themselves through the night.  The only problem I ever had was that all of the other parents around me thought I was crazy and that I would have toddlers in my bed, which actually has happened to a friend of mine, I think the key is transitioning them out of your bed before they get too attached.

His first wife left him when she was seven months pregnant and pretty much said she never wanted to see him again. I was friends with him at the time (I am saying this because I probably wouldn't totally believe his portrayal otherwise)...Basically it looked and sounded like she was fed up with the same things I am frustrated with as well as the fact that she was really young and I don't think she wanted to be married. Anyways, he stayed in there (she moved out) apartment until the baby was born which he never got a call about, he found out about the birth when he read it in the paper and when he tried to visit she told him that she didn't want him around. He left, moved closer to his friends made some efforts to contact and to talk but she wasn't interested (sometimes he was nice "I just want to see my son" sometimes he wasn't "B'tch I can't believe your keeping him from me" sob, sob, sob) after two years, when the divorce finally went through and child support he ended up paying the maximum, compared to the people we know in the same income bracket he pays almost three times the amount. Probably because he didn't listen to me when I said he needed to go to court and actually fight for his rights and for the level of child support. For the most part it has always gotten paid. I think he has a lot of regrets about everything with his ex wife, I think that he wants to see his son, but thinks that it has been so long (he is four) and that he doesn't want to fight unless he can prove that he isn't the loser that they thought he was. I think that he doesn't want to marry me because it is a way for him to supposedly protect himself monetarily and emotionally.

he does watch the children while I am gone, however, I am fairly certain that his idea of watching the kids means, giving them juice and setting them in front of the TV. And the household stuff really depends on how much I complain.

looking at the bare facts I think that absolutely I should leave him. But, I feel like there is so much emotional damage from his ex, from his family (don't get me started) that I feel like I owe it to the institution of marriage/long term relationships to stick it out. has anyone ever stuck it out, really tried to work on it and had a happy ending. I feel like I am taking this huge gamble because if things don't change I will be miserable. when do you give up?

I have suggested counseling and he feels that if it is too the point where you need counseling its over... if I had to guess he would probably go if I made him. I guess I always feel like, I am always the one fighting for things to work out, whether its the relationship, school, work, the kids. I don't know if I have anymore fight in me.

as far as the finances are concerned, he hands me his check, which is about one fourth of our total income I deposite it and he just uses his card and buys whatever he wants, I handle bills, debt and stuff. I recently tried to split the finances and tried to make him get his own account because he kept on overdrawing. He got angry, saying that now that I had finished school and had a decent job I was going to lord it over him.

I honestly think he has some Passive Aggressive issues....

I love that name! its my nieces name as well, Nevaeh Grace, but they call her Nev or Nevy for short. Good choice

Has anyone actually seen a female cirumcision? when I visited Africa, they had a huge festival to celebrate the young girls, coming of age, and finally being circumcised, the girls weren't upset they viewed it as an honor. and yes I know that this is not always the case. When it comes to male circumcision, with my son and in the absence of any religieous constraints, I did a lot of research weighed the options and made the best medical decision I could. and I wouldn't worry about teasing because quite honestly fewer and fewer parents are having there kids circumcised, its not nearly the issue it was twenty years ago.

 I find it funny that the majority of these post sound very American and Very postmodern, not necessarily a bad thing, just very interesting..

Psyllium, isn't really anything special, its just fiber, it adds bulk and water to stool and helps to push it out, you could get the same thing by eating a lot of vegetables. I rhink psyllium is used in metamucil. if you aren't noticing a difference I would suggest, slowly upping the amount that you are taking. I mix a tablespoon with my morning protein shake.

I second the sling idea, I purchased a mya wrap with my second and it was a life saver. I went on vacation when my son was just three months old, because of his age and the time change feedings were completely off schedule.  but it ended up not being a big deal, with the sling I could nurse and nobody knew the difference. I could walk around with both hands free completely covered, while window shopping...amazing, that and my double jogging strollers were the best purchases ever.

it is possible that the fear and stress of thinking that you are pregnant is delaying your cycle, it is actually pretty typical and as far as symptoms are concerned there is no right or wrong answer, every women is different and every pregnancy is different. the only advice I can give you is to relax wait a little bit retake a test if you don't start and go from there.

just wanted to add a couple more things, after reading some of the other posts. The way this diet has been explained to me is that there is no exact calorie allotment, the goal is to eat till you are comfortably satisfied. Secondly after the initial thirty days the individual is suppose to ease back into a sensible eating plan. One of the big goals in this plan is to ween the body off of its dependence on sugar and reset the taste buds which helps lessen cravings in the long run.

I too was an overweight child and, at least in my experience, I wish my parents hadn't made such a big deal about it when I was younger, even though they sincerely tried to be "positive". I believe that all you can do is provide quality food and diet information and the rest is up to her. That being said one of my biggest issues with food when I was younger was the fact that I would diet the way my friend dieted which was basically to starve yourself, I would lose a little bit of weight but eventually gained it all back. It wasn't untill cc that I realized the importance of portion control and not starving yourself.