Posts by muttlover

Original Post by jackattack07:

Original Post by crazydiamondchrysalis:

Original Post by jackattack07:

You people do realize that animals know how to take care of themselves, right? Why do humans insist on forcing animals into shelters where it's 21423498234 times worse than the wild? Just leave her alone.

 because then there will be 21423498234 more of them... at least she could have them spayed and released.

or maybe you like that many cats pissing under your porch?

You think she's going to pay for all those cats to be spayed? You think a shelter will do it for free?

Most animal shelters will kill the animal, no matter what you ask them to do.

I just checked. My shelter spays/neuters cats for $15. That's a very affordable price!

When I called up the shelter, I asked if they had the room and extra care that a pregnant cat needed. I said if they didn't have both, that I would be glad to foster the cat. But they reassured me that she would be given all the care she needed.

Jules, the mother is pretty far along, I'm not sure if an abort could be done. She's not just a little swollen, her tummy is swinging around like a sack full of potatoes. Her kittens are coming soon.

Augustnkate, I think I might end up fostering her and her kittens until they are old enough to be adopted out. I think kittens need to be 8 weeks old. I will also ask my local shelters if they will do catch and release in my apartment complex.

My boyfriend and I have discussed (well, pretty much decided) that we will adopt one kitten each from the animal shelter in January. The prices suggest the cat overpopulation: Puppies are $75, Dogs are $60, and Cats/Kittens are two for $35. Pretty big price difference, hmm?

Only 220 under blue book? Hmm... That seems pretty high. Do you know if the car needs any repairs, new parts, etc.? How many miles are on the car?

Unless the car is in mint condition with little to no miles on it, the price shouldn't be so close to new. I wouldn't take the asking price. He has been trying to sell for 6 months, he is not going to blow you off if you try reasonable haggling. I would start at maybe 11-12,000.

I also second getting the car inspected.

Original Post by gladysmbaz:

Thanks for all your comments guys.  I don´t think, he is gay but I will consider the possibility.  Maybe I already have the answer and it is that I dont want to be with him anymore. I am just scared to be on my own with my child, and I think I will never find anyone else as I already have a girl on my own.

Your comments made me realize I may have not done enough yet, I may give this relationship an opportunity, I will try to do my best and then if it doesn´t work then I will leave him.

Can you tell us, specifically, what you have done/said to help this situation? I am not putting you down, I am just curious how far you have gone. Maybe you've tried talking, and that's it. But if you have tried being blunt, ie saying you need his sex now, or just grabbing him, then there's a problem.

I would definately get his hormone levels checked. Also, the past 10 or so times you had sex, did he have any trouble "getting up" or anything? I know men can become very insecure if they start to have more frequent symptoms of Erectile Dysfunction.

Also, I suggest looking on the bright side. I understand that you may be bitter from not getting much (hell, I get like that after 3 days of none D:) but please don't let something like sex ruin your marriage, since there is most likely a reason. If you say he is good with your daughter and you have a good relationship otherwise, I think investigating the problem is worth it.

I also think room size is important. If both rooms are the same size, I think the percentages should be 50/25/25. As in, the person with the room to themself pays 50% while the two sharing the room each pay 25%.

If this does not sound fair, take utilities out of the equation and split the utlities three ways, and add that on to the rent. So the person paying 50% will pay 1/3 utilities, while the people paying 25% will also have 1/3 of the utilities added on. This is because each person will most likely use around the same amount of utilities.

If the rooms are not equal in size, then you just have to negotiate a sensible percentage. If your (future?) roommates cannot negotiate that maturely, you probably don't want to be rooming with them anyway. Craigslist has plenty of people looking to rent a room in their apartment.

Edit: If you do end up renting with these people, make sure you have a separate lease. For example, say you had a combined lease. If the apartment (entire thing included, both rooms) costs $1000 each month, then if one person randomly decides to leave, you and the other roommate still owe $1000 that month (so you pay $500 for rent instead of $333 until you find a new person for that room).

Original Post by blondiecath:

Maybe if you then sit in a bath as hot as you can bear you will speed up all the enzyme kinetics and you will reach your goal weight a few micro seconds earlier??? :D

Or the opposite. Wear bags and bags of ice that cover your entire body. Your body's metabolism will speed up in order to keep yourself warm. Or, if it is snowing where you live, just lay in the snow outside with nothing/little to nothing on.

Do this at least four times a day. Each time you remove the ice packs/come in from the snow, you have a meal of one cup of tea. But no splenda, that will add 4 calories!!!!!!!!

Someone needs to ask what the hell genetics were thinking when they said, "If you have blond hair, you have blond eyelashes, too!" Seriously, if I don't wear eye makeup, it looks like I have no eyelashes. It really looks sad.

Oh, and I have sensitive skin. So if I go 2 or more days without shaving my legs, they might get ingrown hairs, which can end up looking like leg pizza.

And hey. Those 15 minutes it takes to put on makeup in the morning gives me confidence (and eyelashes), so it is way worth it to me.

I'll never understand though, why when women put mascara on while looking in the mirror, they have to open their mouth! I'm guilty of it, too, haaa.

I see a therapist for PTSD from rape. Before I saw her, though, I was in denial that I had been raped, that it was only sexual assault, and "stopped" right before it became rape.

I see her for free through a program my college has called the Victim Advocacy Center. We sit on normal chairs with cushions, not couches. Therapists and counselors I believe are very similar, if not the same thing.

I used to think that if I saw a therapist (my parents told me that they were for crazy or mentally ill people) that I would be out of control of my emotions. But, I have been more in control of my thoughts than I ever have. Therapists help point out to you how/if you have a different perception that makes you view yourself, as well as other people situations, etc. differently.

They are always unbiased, but sometimes I do ask for my therapist's personal opinion. They can help walk you through some possibile solutions to your current problem or situation. It just really helps to talk out every scenario/outcome with a person who is not biased, like a lot of friends are.

Original Post by jackattack07:

Original Post by michachu:

Original Post by jackattack07:

Hahahaha and this is what happens when you marry someone without thinking it through. Sucks!

 Wow do you ever have anything constructive to say or do you run around just insulting everyone on the board.

Pot meet kettle.

Michachu's only been trying to help the OP, even when she was pushed away. That really shows that she cares.

And jackattack, men (and women) can change during a marriage. A lot. Ptcmama's husband could have been a wonderful man when she married him, or not. What matters is, ptcmama posted on the lounge that she had a problem, and people are trying to help her.

I agree with mich. Talk to your professors after class and ask if they can notify you before class if it is going to be short, and to email you the assignments. If you explain your situation, they may choose to help you.

I have had professors like this. Granted, I didn't have to make a far drive like you did, I'd just go back to my dorm and sleep.

I've had numerous professors who tell you to print out the powerpoint notes before class. Then, when you get to the class, they read the powerpoint. Word for word. With nothing to add. But that's just it, some professors are too into their studies to actually teach the class that pays most of their salary.

Original Post by tortoisewins:

The biggy that really isn't being called out- you're a white person commenting on a person of color.

This is what I was trying to get at. Why should it matter that I am white? I feel like other races can be racist/unfair againts whites and get away with it, when it is not so the other way around.

And in my previous posts about Hispanics, I was usually venting because I have had two main problems.

One, it is true that there are differences in what is culturally accepted or "okay" about men staring at women. I have been taken advantage of by guys and physically hurt by them. So when some random man on the street stares at me like a dog stares at a piece of meat, it makes me feel vulnerable, scared, violated, and angry. I have asked people at school what is up with it, and they say it is just different in some Hispanic countries--it is okay if a man stares at a woman. In most states in the US, if a man stares at a woman like that, it's considered creepy.

Two, I have had numerous Hispanic roommates and girls at school instantly decide the moment they met me that they didn't like me because I was white (the other roommate or a friend of theirs would tell me when I asked why they didnt like me from the beginning). I have heard from some of their own mouths that they "just don't like white girls." Some of them come around and like me once they get to know me, but some of them just continue to not like me.

White people get crap sometimes, too. But people act like it's not possible or something. :(

Re #66: I agree. There are some television shows, I think Forensic Files may be one of them, that tells a story about a murder. I have seen a few where the murderer is sentenced to death. Often, the family members/spouse of the killed victim say, "I know his/her death sentence can't bring back my loved one, but it brings me comfort that he will not be able to kill again, and no one else has to go through this pain.

So it's not so much a family/spouse wants the murderer dead for their personal gain of revenge. They want to be sure that the murderer can't kill anyone else.

lilsammi23 brought up a great point. At every university I have researched they all offer free therapy (they are usually internships or students practicing, but it's still therapy!). I'm not sure if you're going to community college or university, but check your school website. If it's not on the website make some calls.

I also suggest taking the bus to get to school 2.5 hours earlier. There is always a place at school that you can sit and be alone. Also, because you have nothing else to do, you will actually want to do homework and study to fill up your time. You will do awesome at your classes! Or the car-pooling is a great idea, too.

I'm sorry your parents seem to be unfair. I don't want to start a new topic here, but I think parents may be tougher on their girls than their sons because they want them to grow up to be independent women. Trust me, I know how it feels. My parents bought my brother, his girlfriend, and their baby a house, but complain about buying me books for school. It's tough, but I know you have the strength to do this, and I know that you will be a better person for doing this! :)

I believe there is a difference between being emotional, and being negative. If you are emotional, you are emotional about everything, good and bad. Just in my opinion, what you were describing sounded more like being negative than emotional.

Also, emotions are beautiful things. I think people who release their emotions to a greater degree (crying rather than holding it in, etc.) are happier because they release their emotions rather than bottling them up. Back when I lived with my family, I was taught that crying and being angry was wrong.

I still do not like crying much. But I find that if I really feel like crying and just let myself go, then I feel so much better afterwards!

Original Post by kbella24:

A question for all of the Christians in on the debate (those who support the death penalty):

How do you square your support of the killing of another human being as "justice" when Jesus clearly preached forgiveness.  There's that whole passage about "let the person without sin throw the first stone". 

How can you claim to follow Christ's teachings and support something as abhorrent and violent as the death penalty?

ETA: I'm very curious about this because a lot of Christians I know are pro-death penalty, and yet all of the non-Christian (mostly non-religious people) I know are anti-death penalty.  Granted, this says nothing about the Christian population as a whole, but it does pique my interest as to how Christians can support the death penalty.

I was raised Catholic. My mother was a pretty serious Catholic. However, as I've grown older, I consider myself an Agnostic. So I'm not sure if my opinion will be of much value to you.

My answer? There are some things that are unforgivable. If some person brutally murdered my spouse/child/family member without reason (or a stupid one like breaking up), then they would not be forgiven. Ever. Ever. Ever. Simple. :)