Posts by berryblue031

From what I understand about her post she doesn't have any specific problems besides the weight gain, and her doctors response to what she should eat is a generic "eat less grease and more vegetables, more whole grains and less junk food" response.

Also cutting back salt during pregnancy to prevent swelling is an old wives tale and has been disproven in recent years.

If she is having problems with water retention and swelling the only way to cure that is to make sure at her weight to get 3L of water a day. Dehydration is the main offender with regards to ankle swelling.

I quit cold turkey, I was drinking strong black coffee all day (easily like 8 - 10cups) it was easiest that way, don't buy it, don't make it.  I had a headache for a week and then I was clean off the stuff :P

Now if I even drink coffee 2 days in a row then stop I get a headache the day after if I don't have any. I am a caffeine junky lol.  I have tried to replace it with tea etc but tbh it's not as good lol so I just drink water.  I guess it's better for me anyways :p

With your period being so varied it's going to be hard to conceive, there is only 4 days per cycle that you have a good chance of conceiving on.  Have you been charting your basal body temperature?  If not I recommend you do that all you need is a digital thermometer, it will allow you to confirm if you are even ovulating and if you are ovulating tell you which days you are the most fertile.

It took me a 1.5yrs to get a regular cycle back after stopping birth control, but I was able to conceive without a problem when we were ready.  Your body may just need more time to adjust.

Sounds like my hubby :P 

I told him how we would never feel completely ready and how it would probably be almost 2yrs away before we had a baby if we started trying now since it takes on average 6 - 12 months to conceive.  Not to mention we have a couple of friends who are having troubles conceiving even though they are young.  He wasn't totally convinced but he stopped using condoms so I took that as he was on board... back counting the dates a bit 8 days later I was pregnant lol

I think they instantly recommend C-Sections because it is easier for them and especially in the states they probably get paid more since a C-Section is MAJOR surgery.

Why else would a lot of doctors completely neglect to tell women that the baby can be turned manually? Midwives have been turning breech babies from the outside for hundreds of years. Why else would they not even give the woman the option after stating the pros and cons?

It's easier, faster, they get paid more, and they can schedule you at their own convenience - nobody likes working weekends.

Putting the work issues aside, do you really think a relationship would work out with somebody so much older?

If you were to pursue things and let yourself fall in love and best situation get married in a few years how would that turn out?  He would probably be 50 when your children were born, he will probably die decades before you, he will be old and tired when you are barely middle aged and still full of life.  Personally that isn't the kind of life I would want to try and pursue and the longer you let things go the harder it will be.

I'm not saying it couldn't work out, but you say you like him and could probably grow to love him - I am sure there are lots of younger guys you can grow to love too.

It may just be something you have to live with.

I HATED cleaning my room as a child and my mother and fought and fought about it she resorted to every tactic in the book, she would sit and watch me I would sit on the bed and do nothing hating her every minute she was there, she would ground me I would go out anyways with the logic well she can ground me for eternity eventually I'll move out and it will be all erased, she would physically drag me into my room take everything out and throw it away I didn't care it just made me hate her more for trying to control my space.  To this very day ( I am now 29 ) I do not keep a clean bedroom, laundry is all over the floor and I never make the bed ( it drives my husband nuts lol ) and I do not have a good relationship with my mother she was so controlling and we fought from when I was about 10 until I moved away for university, every thing she says or asks of me instantly makes me want to do the opposite.  My brother and her on the other hand are the best of friends, he just always did what she said and smiled.  Mother daughter relationships are very different then mother son relationships.

I wouldn't fight and make such a big deal about it - let her feel like it's her own space and give her some privacy and independence and stop going into her room at all.  At 10 yrs old she isn't a baby anymore and the more you fight her the more strain it will put on your relationship.

Tell her if she wants her room painted then it has to be clean and if she doesn't clean it simply won't be painted.  Maybe she doesn't even want it painted who picked out the new bedroom furnishings?

Tell her if she wants her laundry done to have it all in a hamper and by the laundry machine on laundry day, she may end up wearing dirty clothes for a couple of weeks but once the kids at school tease her she will make sure it's ready for the wash.

There is no controlling nuttella, stop buying it lol

It tastes so good directly out of the jar if you put in the fridge it gets a little firmer better on a spoon that way :P

My DH loves the stuff so we always have it up top in his stash cupboard whenever I make him some bread with it I find myself licking it right off the knife

It's impossible lol.

My husband has the opposite problem his BMI is barely 19 bones poke out of him and a size 30 pant is loose on him.  Recently the doctor put him on iron supplements because he is anemic.  I give him food all day long he eats maybe half of it. I put plates of fresh baked goodies on his desk beside him, a week later I throw them away mostly untouched.

You might start lovingly teasing your hubby a bit about the love handles, or if you have been working out beat him at arm wrestling or something "manly" to shake him down to reality :P  Do you have a big garden?  Plan some landscapping and get him to go out and help with it (my husband always says no to those types of things when I ask him but if I am out there doing it myself he always drags himself out to help so I do it "right" within 30mins), or try competing a little with him on bicycle rides.

I have a master's in Computer Engineering it took me 6yrs to get it, now I have what some would call a dream job for my field but I hate sitting alone in my corner all day with very limited people interaction, my interests in life have changed so much I'm simply not interested in my field anymore.

If I could do it all over again I would go into Chiropractic and have my own practice.

My girlfriend has two girls and was telling me how much more fun girls were then boys, and how she hoped I would get a girl too. 

Secretly I wanted a boy though so I am really glad :) I know how miserable I was to my mom when I got older and I just want mama's boy whom I can spoil rotten. I hope he turns out just like DH with blond hair, blue eyes, a dent in his chin and a mischievous little smile :) 

DH has some pretty strong genes, his brother, dad, grandfather if you take a picture of them all at the same age and you can hardly tell who is who so if he doesn't end up looking like DH it will be some sort of fluke lol.

I am already planning some sort of space / rocket ship themed room for him :D.. though DH would rather have a farm/tractor theme he isn't going to win that.  I have to mold my little rocket scientist from a young age :P

Personally I find men who shave their body hair really unattractive even though I love a clean shaven face. In my opinion it's unmanly and speaks to them being either insecure or kind of prissy, this also goes for guys who obviously shape their eyebrows and prissy for me is not an attractive trait in a man.

My DH is not a hairy guy, he has like 2 chest hairs and one day I may just call him on his on-going threat to grow a beard (because I really don't think he can).  If he one day decided to up and shave his legs I would tease him mercilessly until it grew back :P

If you have been cycling for 30 years and doing fine with your leg hair I would just keep it where it is :)

"Anyone who just eats what they feel like every day is gonna be obese"

The reason this statement isn't true is because what people "feel like" can vary greatly.  As an extreme example if all a person ever wanted to eat was celery they could eat as much as they wanted and never be obese.

I try to figure out how my husband does it, he is naturally thin borderline underweight, eats whatever he wants whenever he wants and does not excersise.

1. He gets bored of eating ( I know! he will have a full plate of food and only eat half when I ask if he wasn't hungry he simply says he is bored of eating said thing ).  This also prevents him from eating a bag of chips or box of chocolates in one shot, he gets bored of eating the same thing.  This most commonly happens with one-dish meals like a casserole or a pasta dish where everything is together and in his opinion tastes the same.

2. He is very picky about what he eats and as a result rejects a lot of the food on his plate i.e. he doesn't eat the crust on pizza, there is a bit of fat on the meat so he cuts that piece off because he hates the taste of fat, there is a small spot on the potato he cuts that part off because it's gross, part of the side dish touched the ketchup/sauce so he can't eat that part etc etc.

3. He will literally forget to eat or is simply to lazy to bother, often I come home from work and when he greets me at the door, I ask him what he had to eat that day.. athe answer is usually "nothing" or "toast" when I ask if he is hungry he has to think about it before answering.  Even though I leave tins of baked goods all around him to encourage him to eat more.  Me on the other hand, I see something I want to eat or even just think of something yummy and my mind convinces my body im hungry and can't live without consuming said item even if i have just eaten a full meal.

I don't know if how much sleep you get will affect it, from my impression it's just a total body at rest temperature.  I would try charting using

http://www.fertilityfriend.com/

It's the site I used and other people have recommended it too, and just see how it turns out. 

It can take a couple of months to establish your pattern and the site allows you to set a standard time when you take your temperature so you can pick your morning wake up time for that, and days when you take your temperature at a different time will show up as an open circle on your chart so it's easy to see which days you were working nights vs days.  You also get free VIP membership i.e. access to the forums for the first month so you can ask there about the shift work thing and see how other people have been dealing with it.

It is important to chart you temperature as soon as you wake up, preferably while still lying in bed and have the thermometer right beside you. 

If you get up and move around before taking your temperature your body generates heat and can mess it up, remember the changes you are tracking in BBT are very small sometimes just 0.1F so movement affects them very much.

If you are working shifts I would recommend having two standard times you measure your temperature, 1 time for working days and 1 time for when you work nights and make a note on your chart, that way you can start to notice a trend for example: When you wake up at 6am your temperature is generally 1F lower then when you wake up at 6pm