Posts by lambea

Forum	Topic	Date	Replies

Motivation	Boys and their irrational comments...	May 01 2007 13:47 (UTC)	10
"Most men have NO IDEA what look relates to what weight" And all the better for them, in my opinion. They don't know because they don't equate looks with the number on the scale. Makes sense to me :)
Maintaining	I screwed up	May 01 2007 13:45 (UTC)	4
A nutritionist is a human being also. Human beings eat this and that, carrots as well as cupcakes. If you cannot cope with the fact that you ate two cupcakes, you'd better see a psycholigist, not a nutritionist. Sorry for being harsh, but this is an obsessive and stupid waste of time. FOrget about those cakes and move on.
The Lounge	Husband... Don't know what I should do?	May 01 2007 13:40 (UTC)	8
The way I see it, there is little you can do to "stop this madness" apart from simply not triggering it. He is struggling with feelings of insecurity - try to put him at his ease. Perhaps just being kind to him - a little act of attention, plain, simple kindness - would also help? Not a big deal, an unsolicited gentle touch in the morning or whatever? You say you are happy that he loves you the way you are - show it then!
Health & Support	Eating for fewer than one---Comparing the Calorie Restriction Diet with Anorexia	May 01 2007 11:53 (UTC)	1
There is very little objective and trustworthy evidence in this article. I found it particularly annoying that the subjects of the comparison between CR and anorexia are so very different, (a tanssexual man and a couple and a prof.) and the different effects of CR has just as much to do with who they are and their personalities as the calorie deficit. Anyway, the author does not specify what CR is. How big is the deficit? WHat is the deficit that could most possibly lead to anorexia? The fact that calorie restriction takes away libido and makes a person quiet and peaceful is hardly any news. That's why Christians and Buddhists and members of other religions fast. And yes, we know where anorexia starts, most stories of survivors start with a simple attempt to lose a few pounds. Where's the deal? But what I found really annoying was this sentence in the conclusion: "One thing is clear: It's time for doctors who study eating disorders to stop wishing the conversation about calorie restriction would go away. " Why on earth does this person assume that doctors don't like the subject of calorie restriction??? Most articles I have read that were written by doctors say you had better exercise more and eat more. Articles about anorexia emphasize that the illness can start with just a simple CR diet.
Motivation	I'm All I've Got	May 01 2007 11:39 (UTC)	5
i&w, I'm gonna be a little harsh but as long as you sound like a broken disc whenever you talk about yourself and what you want with your life, ("I'm honestly not sure what good to see in my me.") even a girl with the strongest sense of humor will find it hard to get close to you. Not because she cannot reach up to you, but because you have absolutely no sense of humor when it comes to yourself. You say you don't like the way people see you. But by now I am convinced you don't care a straw what people think of you. You think you know. You just substitute your own impressions about yourself for people's impressions. All you care about is what you think of yourself, and you automatically project your feelings about yourself to the outer world. This is not fair and this is silly. If you want a girl with a sense of humor, I suggest you try to develop this quality in yourself first.
The Lounge	Husband... Don't know what I should do?	May 01 2007 01:45 (UTC)	10
Hm... it is not always the best solution to voice his fears... BTW why not work out at home? Just for a litte while until he calms down?
Fitness	Exercise to gain muscle, but not to lose fat.	May 01 2007 01:11 (UTC)	6
lhj.com and prevention.com have some targeted exercises or "how-to"s. As for eating, add protein and fat. Eat at maintenance, maybe 100 cals above. More cardio is not the best idea, weight lifting, resistance bands (they are awesome) and stretching (to prevent injury) are better. Don't expect to build muscle without adding to your weight, muscle weighs more than fat.
Fitness	Rainy Day! Suggestion? Videos?	May 01 2007 01:07 (UTC)	3
Go to youtube. I was amazed to find workout films there. Better: pop in a cd and get dancing!
The Lounge	Husband... Don't know what I should do?	May 01 2007 01:06 (UTC)	12
You have told him this numerous times... Did you actually need to convince him that you wanted to stay with him even before this issue?
Motivation	I'm All I've Got	May 01 2007 01:03 (UTC)	11
I meant live in it (too tired to look up that post in your previous thread). Look at it as a practical, convenient thing, made to walk and breath and get a can from the top shelf and sit up straight at the desk and type and stuff like that. It is what you do not how you look like while you are doing it that counts. Besides, your body will change and change as long as you live (and after that also, but that's another matter). So use what you've got while you have it.
Motivation	HEIGHT GAIN?	May 01 2007 00:59 (UTC)	9
For goodness' sake... You have grown an inch, not gained an inch!!! Growth is good. Growth is good for you. Be happy and rejoice, your body is working all right!!! Your bones are one inch longer (together, not each one of them), so your skeleton is bigger. The point is to keep the height-to-weight ratio in the normal range, not to weigh the same at whatever height.
Motivation	...you know i need some one...	May 01 2007 00:55 (UTC)	1
Depending on how much you weigh now or how much you would like to loose... But I have an idea: get the new dress, but take extra good care of it! (No tears, no wine-patches etc.) The day after the prom, get it dry-cleaned and then go and sell it at a second-hand store, or just give it away at a charity shop or offer it for sale online (like craigslist). Then reform your lifestyle! If you have an awesome dress in your closet which fits you with an extra 20 lbs, it will be harder to get rid of those 20 lbs. So get rid of the dress and get rid of the weight! And don't forget to Enjoy your prom!
Motivation	I'm All I've Got	May 01 2007 00:50 (UTC)	13
Page 1 of 8... OK, so what can you improve? Let's see the list. Anyway, it is good you have realised you should use your body instead of obsessing about it...
Weight Loss	3 day fast juice diet? Anyone done this? (colon cleanse)	May 01 2007 00:33 (UTC)	4
I don't think it will do much for your acne. There is little scientific proof to acne being caused by improper nutrition, chocolate or pizza or whatever you want to "cleanse" your body of. However, a juice fast can cleanse your system of some nutrients and vitamins necessary for keeping your skin and hair healthy. Our bodies are pretty good at cleansing themselves, I really don't know why a juice fast would be necessary to anyone (who is not put on a fast by a doc.)
Health & Support	Pre-Menstrual Cramps?	May 01 2007 00:27 (UTC)	4
It is possible. I get them sometimes a week in advance. The weight is possibly water, and all these cramps and fatigue and "whale-shit-at-the-bottom-of-the-ocean" feeling can be plain PMS. Especially if your periods have been a little irregular.
The Lounge	Husband... Don't know what I should do?	Apr 30 2007 23:49 (UTC)	16
Perhaps if you ate in front of him, so that he could see you do eat and you are not "out of control" he would not worry so. I have given this advice to people with "unsupportive" grannies. Just make sure your meal does not consist of veggies only! Eat your biggest meal under his very nose, slowly, and with relish. Just to please him. :)
The Lounge	Visiting family friends tomorrow...and I feel uncomfortable	Apr 30 2007 23:46 (UTC)
Good for you! You must be relieved. I'm glad you enjoyed the party, something tells me your nerves just really needed some recreation after such a freak...
Fitness	Posture	Apr 30 2007 23:42 (UTC)	9
One of my suitemates has a firm, long pillow between her back and the back of her chair. It gives support to her back and you cannot slouch when you have a pillow to keep in place... Since I am extremely fidgety, that would never work for me. Sitting on the floor does, however, and I do sit on the floor most of the time when I work at home (hm... I'M actually crawling and squatting and doing asanas unconsciously). If the pillow-solution does not work, or you have to get up too often, try to sit on the edge of the chair, it will be less comfortable to slouch. It helps your chest to expand (people who play the flute or the trumpet or the horn usually sit on the very edge of their chair). Forget about the arms of your chair, they just make you lazy and they push your shoulders upward.
Fitness	HELP, I have horrible feet!	Apr 30 2007 21:37 (UTC)	3
This is a good site: http://orthoinfo.aaos.org/category.cfm?topcat egory=Foot I think it is important to have a closer look at your feet - observe its shape, try to watch your step for a few days and observe how you move them (everyone has a particular gait). If your feet are so prone to blisters when you use them, it is an orthopedic issue (as thedame has pointed out). Perhaps a visit to an orthopedist would be worth the time. Running is good, but it seems you just don't make your feet happy. Remember, all the benefits of exercise are not worth overstraining a limb! You get blisters now - rheumatics later. So go and chat about it to a doc. Good luck!
The Lounge	Husband... Don't know what I should do?	Apr 30 2007 17:06 (UTC)	20
I see. Somehow I have the impression that its the "you are out of control with going ot the gym and your eating" phrase that is the key. YOu are changed. YOu are different from the wife you used to be. You have some new and (for him) unexpected habits. And he is afraid that more change is coming, now that he doesn't see you as a stable, never-changing factor in his life. As for the "you should be happy with your looks because I'm happy with them" thing - he sees your effort to lose weight as if you didn't trust his opinion any more, or, even worse, your behavior suggest that you don't care about his opinion as much as you used to do. He thinks that you are ignoring him and his good opinion. He thinks that the fact that he loves you the way you are is not enough for you - which is but a step away from thinking that he is not enough for you. In other words: in his eyes, your lifestyle change has established a barrier between you and him. Apparently, you could not make him see it as a necessity, as something you need to do for your own health. YOu put too much emphasis on the "look-good" side of dieting, instead of the "live well and longer and happier" side. I'm sure he would be more supportive if you got a check-up and went home with a doctor's approval and suggestions about losing extra pounds and eating better, in order to avoid health issues like diabetes etc. This would be doing something for your health, not ignoring his good opinion about yourself.
Fitness	HELP, I have horrible feet!	Apr 30 2007 12:48 (UTC)	8
Not a good idea. Kidding aside, how do your socks fit? What is your walking style? Form of feet? Where (which part of foot, not exact spot) do these blisters appear most of the time? (Ball of foot, heels, sole?) Even if your shoes fit perfectly, an insole may help, depending on which part of your foot is most vulnerable.
The Lounge	Have you ever dealt with an abusive father?	Apr 30 2007 11:46 (UTC)	8
"its a mothers job to protect her children and make them feel like home is safe and stable, especially to keep you all from harm" I wonder how many people would agree with this. I for one think it is the job of both parents to provide a safe and stable home for the children. Neither the father nor the mother can do it on their own if their spouse does not collaborate.
The Lounge	I need help finding a speech for english class!	Apr 30 2007 11:43 (UTC)	19
Immigrant policy? Illegal immigration and how to deal with it?
Maintaining	5'4" maintaing v. dieting calories	Apr 30 2007 11:39 (UTC)	34
5'4", 113 lbs as of today, 1800-2000 cals (exercising most days of the week).
Maintaining	Hey Walkers!	Apr 30 2007 11:38 (UTC)	3
What do I do? Well, walking is not rocket science - I just put one foot in fron of the other, at a brisk (but not too fast) pace. Like I can still talk, but I'd rather not. :) 30 mins would feel like nothing for me, though, I usually go for one hour at least. I like to combine it with some errand, like going to the supermarket which is farthest from me to get my groceries. What I learned from experience is that a good pair os shoes is very important, and try to keep your leg muscles relaxed esp. in your shins. And do some ankle circles afterward to loosen any stiff joints and muscles.
The Lounge	Mothers Day is May 13th! Gift Ideas?	Apr 30 2007 02:18 (UTC)	2
I think for my mother it will be a phone call and perhaps some photographs in an email - it takes a while to get them to her by post, and she loves Photoshop anyway :)
Fitness	bruises on toes from running!?!?!?!	Apr 30 2007 02:14 (UTC)	5
OK, I think the penny has dropped. How foolish - I am a very active walker (at least an hour of brisk walking every day, plus I am always on the go - walk everywhere) and I have been wondering for years why the nail on my second toe on both of my feet is so thick - like two nails growing on top of each other! And it's not fungus. So it's not the socks... pandajenn, thanks for the link! A question to you guys who know: would it be a good idea to wear toe-protecting foam (like the ones by Scholl)?
The Lounge	Husband... Don't know what I should do?	Apr 30 2007 02:01 (UTC)	24
Just an idea - you DO need to consider your husband's point of view. Why is he opposed to your weight loss? It is vital to find out about his real reason for behaving like this. It might be jealousy or fear or insecurity - it woul dbe selfish to let him cope with all these feelings, centred on you, alone. Of course, you need to do this diet for your health. But you need to take his side into consideration for the sake of his mental health and your own peace of mind. You say it is a "trust issue" - and if anything, this should set the alarm bells off. If he is losing his confidence or trust in you because of the changes, you need to talk to him. Not about weight loss, but about your relationship. I don't mean starting a dramatic wife-to-husband discussion, but try to get it out of him just what is bothering him so much!
Health & Support	need to lose weight but why lose it if I really want another baby?	Apr 30 2007 00:53 (UTC)	7
This sounds like a really complex issue. You have gone through a lot, no wonder you are bewildered. And no wonder your body is bewildered! Just think: first, a super-sluggish metabolism and no eating. And smoking. And Provera. Then, a pregnancy, quitting cold turkey, laid up in bed for weeks and weeks, edema, premature birth. Traumatic!! Then, losing the baby weight - quite an achievement under the circumstances, your body was really put on. Then, your baby's health problems, binging. Which can pretty much upset your metabolism and your nerves, too. Extreme stress releases hormones which make you eat more but that does not mean your metabolism gets faster - the opposite can also be true. And don't forget: if you have iron deficiency and anaema, your body may be very reluctant to let go of the weight, basically because it does not stock a sufficient supply of nutrients (iron - vital for a woman in your situation!). I would definitely talk to the doctor about regulating iron and vitamin and hormone levels first. Weight loss (in a healthy way) rarely happens if your body does not have the stamina to go through it. Finally, let me honestly and openly confess that I admire you for what you have endured, still keeping your head up and looking into the future. If any woman deserves health and a second baby, you are that woman.
Fitness	bruises on toes from running!?!?!?!	Apr 29 2007 13:15 (UTC)	11
Might be something with your shoes. How do your socks fit? If they get crumbled inside the shoe they can cause sg like this. The majority of the toe - does this mean the nail? SOunds like a bleeding under the skin. You may have bumped it - it is very often that we hit our limbs without noticing it. Give it a week or so. Does it hurt or do you have difficulty walking?

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