Posts by safina1

thanks everyone. 

hedgren, I go to a stress specialist to help me cope. Actually, I asked my doctor for advice and she referred me to her. the specialist said that I am afraid of change because I don't know what will happen so i am stressed out. she recommended that I just need to go ahead and rent a studio for myself ( same advice i got from Gi-Jane). and she said that my current place is really causing me discomfort and that I got used to " the comfort in discomfort".

Gi-Jane, staying where I am is not an option. to be honest, if someone told me I would stay here longer, I would feel released. what has this  to do with confidence? yes, i am frightended and I don't know why. yes, i still spend my spare cash on cakes, I will take it. thanks.

Abbi, I know. waiting is not going to solve anything. yes, i am trying to stay longer in my current place and I am begging for an extenstion but till when? I am sitting in my room crying and feeling anxious. I think it is better to get it over with. but I need support from here, guys.

I should add that I eat junk all the time because this situation is causing me extreme anxiety. I feel like a huge something is falling apart and I eat because I want to prevent that from happening. 

Original Post by caiteliz014:

Original Post by safina1:

Original Post by caiteliz014:

Relax. Clean it as best you can with soap and water. If you have any antibacterial spray, like bactein, spray that in there. If you think someone will come home soon, wrap it really well with a CLEAN towel, and hold it above your head until someone can take you to a doctor. If you're realy stuck, and you don't think anyone is going to come home soon, you can super glue the cut shut. It will stop the bleeding until you can get stiches if needed. My husband and I are both chefs, and we use super glue on cuts all the time. You have 48 hours to get stiches if you need them. Don't worry, and good luck!

you clean an open cut with soap?? are you sure? 

Not sure if this is sarcastic or not, but, yes, you can clean an open cut with soap.

no, this is not sarcastic. I have never seen anyone cleans his open cut with soap so I asked. 

To the OP, I hope you will feel better soon. 

Original Post by caiteliz014:

Relax. Clean it as best you can with soap and water. If you have any antibacterial spray, like bactein, spray that in there. If you think someone will come home soon, wrap it really well with a CLEAN towel, and hold it above your head until someone can take you to a doctor. If you're realy stuck, and you don't think anyone is going to come home soon, you can super glue the cut shut. It will stop the bleeding until you can get stiches if needed. My husband and I are both chefs, and we use super glue on cuts all the time. You have 48 hours to get stiches if you need them. Don't worry, and good luck!

you clean an open cut with soap?? are you sure? 

well, she called me 3 times at work today. She also sent me an email. she left me a voicemail. Honestly, I was about to throw up after listening to her voicemail. I was exhausted and I told her that I can meet her near my house. She demanded that I go to the other side of the city where her fav place is. I said NO. she got mad and hung up. 

this is really tough. She needs help but I can't give it to her. I am scared she might do something to hurt herself.

thanks Sara and Nieto:) Nieto, I like your new pic by the way

Sara, that is excatly what is happening. she feels loved and valued then gets dumped then her depression comes back again. you know what, Sara?? I don't know if this wrong or not. Can I ask my therapist to see her at least one or two times and then submit the claims as if it was me?

this morning she emailed me that she feels very down and she doen't know why she is still alive? I asked her what does she miss since her divorce? is it sex? she said no, I just miss love.

she doesn't want to have protected sex. I have tried to convience her before.

she wants to see me tonight and I want to go home to pack my stuff because I am moving out and time is tight. I don't have time for her these days but she is suicidal and I feel so guilty now.

I am curiuos. Are you guys overweight? I am binger too and my bingeing problem has turned me to an obese person.

Original Post by onlystardust:

Intellectually, I know you're right.

But emotionally, the phrase "miserable thin, rich, good-looking" sounds like a

contradiction in terms. How could they still be miserable?

They've already won life's lottery. They have everything.(almost)

OK, now back to contemplating my blessings, and looking for the good in life.

 

 Actually, I don't understand it either. How can that possible? I mean how can people who are rich, thin and good looking be miserable?? of course, they have problems like anybody else. I just don't think they would be miserable.I just don't get that, Gi-jane. If you could explain more, that would be great :)

Original Post by watergirl:

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LOL

(((((((bunny))))))

Let me ask you this. after you finish school, you will need a job. Am I correct? then why don't you start adjusting from now?? I know it is hard but baby steps count. I think this is a great opportunity for you to make a change. maybe you will get used to  public transportation without the need of any parents' support.

also eat iron rich food. check out the nutrition info for clams. :)) so rich in iron.

or voice over gigs:) do you have rosetta stone in your country? they always look for voice over talents.

Good luck singing girl. Wish you all the best. It is ok to get fired. I got fired once :) and it was the best learning experience in my life.

you will get another job. just start looking.

Michachu, thanks for asking. I spent that night crying trying to get in but the owner refused and he said : " I can't let you in because I don't know you and never heard from you before, the tenant who rented that apt had moved out and she gave me the keys. Other than that, I am not responsible".

Frankly, he was RIGHT. but I kept begging him to let me in and get my stuff. It was 3 am in the morning and I had no place to go. so he said, ok come in the morning and I let you get your stuff out.

I traveled to another state to my friend and slept a little then went back to the apt and got my stuff.

did I get my 400 dollars deposit from the liar horrible lady? NO. I never saw her again. she never returned my calls.

I moved out and it was not even the end of the month. I paid for the whole month.

That is why I am telling Mutt that sublet is really tricky and not good unless you have a good roommate.

and that is why I am paranoid now since I have to look for another new place with the possibility of sharing with someone.

Original Post by bluedebo:

Original Post by muttlover:

Original Post by figurethefat:

Since there's no written lease, just a verbal, if I were in your place I would just stay on for another 30 days without paying rent.  That puts your landlord/roommate into the uncomfortable position that you're in right now.  If she wants you out, she'll have to pay up.  

I would have done this, but she has already found a girl to rent my room. The new girl is moving in the SAME day that I move out, Nov. 15! That would be a solution, but I do not want to drag some innocent girl into this. I don't think she has anywhere to go.

IMO, the next innocent victim tenant should know how this woman operates. 

Most leases do not allow for sub-lets because of this situation.  If the townhouse was supposed to be leased out to two separate parties, then the property management would have handled the leases of all parties involved with a lease for each room / space.

Exactly. that is my point. the management should have handled everything for all parties. If the OP takes her case to the small claims court, she might be able to get her deposit back but she also could face some trouble because  of her sublet situation without the owner's knowledge.

Congratulations, Cello 

Hi Sara and thanks for the reply:)

you are right. everyone wants to live there in the residence because of the cheap rent. NYC is a tiring place for people who are not extremely wealthy.

there is no problem with the pre war building. I didn't go. sorry for the cofusion. that was another apt with a roommate and I didn't want it becasue the lady has a dog. The pre-war building is very difficult to get in  becasue the super is Super rude. :) he said he doesn't have time to show the apts to anyone. I keep calling with no answer.

the studio I am about the sign the lease for is not month to month . it is one year.

when I get a place, i will treat you guys to a cup of coffee or a drink