Posts by kcnae3

I agree with you nasuoni. I will never allow myself to be in a position where I need someone to be happy or to get by in life. Wanting to spend my life with someone is different than needing someone to spend my life with. That is why right now I am proving to myself and the world that I can be happy on my own. I think it would take a very long time for me to every let anyone into my heart again. I have learned alot from my experiences and I will always take those experiences with me. I used to be needy and jealous and insecure and all that, but I have come such a long way. I love being independent and maybe someday someone will come along who I will be more compatible with. But I will always earn my own money, take care of the things that are important to me and make sure I can pay my way through life. I have come really far on my own and I think that is why I am the way I am. I had my son at 17 right out of high school. I worked 2 jobs, put myself through college and bought a house all by myself. I am very proud of that. I have never received a dime of child support for my children and I guess through all of those struggles it taught me I can only depend on me. Not saying it is the best way to be, but I am who I am.

This is such a good question. One that I have recently answered! I am not letting ANYONE take advantage of me anymore. Hmmm...the reason why I am now separated. I have been allowing the husband to put so much pressure on me to be Mrs. Cleaver that it emotionally and physically drained me. I work a full time job and have 2 kids to take care of. I am so sorry if the house was not cleaned to your liking or dinner wasnt on the table when you got home! Cook and clean it your damn self then! Just because I dont work "physical labor" as he says, doesnt mean I am not tired when I get home. He made me feel like I constantly had to be doing something. He would come in the living room and shut the tv off on me and tell me to get off my lazy ass and do something! The more he made me feel that way the harder it was to get myself to do it. Maybe not the right mindset, but whatever. He comes home from work and he tinkers in his garage or plays on the computer meanwhile I am cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, tending to 2 boys etc... One day I just had enough! Now that he is not living in the house it is amazing how clean it is. Seriously, I dont feel that pressure anymore so it isnt such a chore anymore. Plus my kids have been helping out alot more because they want him to stay gone. He is not their father by the way. Now I am working a full time job, a part time job, being a mother and a father to my kids. When he left, everything in the house was his and he took it. We are starting from scratch. But we have each other and a roof over our heads. That is all that matters. I am much happier now with an empty house that I have been the last 6 years! My oldest son actually surprised me yesterday. He took money out of his own savings account and bought us a living room set. He is 16 years old. I dont many that would do that, but he did that for me cuz he loves me.

unbelievable!

ok then.  But when someone insults you (anyone who thinks this is ok), dont take offense to it,  remember they are just having fun at your expense!

I am not giving anyone control over how I feel.  I believe it is rude to sit here and mock me personally or anyone else impersonally. In general it is wrong.

 I may not have been the first or the last to post with those words, but that really doesnt matter. This is a place where people go for support because they feel they can talk here about their different situations WITHOUT being mocked. Being mocked is being mocked. This is no different than someone walking up and calling me fat. I am sure everyone here has been made fun of or picked on in some way for weight or whatever else..how did that make you feel? Maybe a little stupid and bad. So picking on someones choice of words makes you just as bad as the person who may have picked on you.

From now on, I will just read and no longer post, I dont want to see the words I choose as the topic of conversation in another post.

This whole post is a waste of time. Posts like this make people like me not want to post ever again. You are making fun out of other people and honestly I think it is mean.

Original Post by kathygator:

hee hee

also:

"Please don't think I'm mean, but...." does not give anyone permission to be mean.

If you think it, own it. 

 hmmmm.... I guess that would be aimed towards me. I dont think anyone should "pick" on what anyone else says on here. We are all here for the same reason so why single out how people decide to word their questions or posts? We may not all agree with each other but still it isnt very nice to be rude.

I took some miralax yesterday and today...just waiting. I have been getting fiber and my stinkin tummy hurts!

I average about 500 calories for dinner. so that would make my cals for the day like this:

12 oz french vanilla capp - 210

Raisin bran - 190     Milk - 110  

banana - 90 

Oatmeal - 160   Egg - 78   Activia - 70

celery & peanut Butter - 101

 Dinner - 500ish

210+190+110+160+78+70+90+101+500=1509 &n bsp; 

then I burn 2350 set at lightly active for a deficit of 841

If I add in my workout that adds about 200 more cals burned so that would leave a deficit of 1041. I would then eat a small snack so I dont fall below 1000 deficit.

ok I am 34, 5'4 and currently 215 pounds (ugh!). Here is my food for today

breakfast: 1 cup of raisin bran and 1 cup of 1% milk

snack:  banana

lunch: weight control oatmeal, hard boiled egg and activia light vanilla yogurt

snack: celery & peanut butter (1 tbsp)

dinner: not sure yet...

H20 120 ounces

My woo hoo for today is that I went from being classified as severly obese to severely overweight! I had the word obese because I dont think of myself that way so when i entered my info and it didnt say that I did a happy dance!

it helps so much! somehow thinking you have to write down what you eat helps not to over do it!

The hole thing just seems hard for me to imagine as a female. And Yes they really were spitting their food out! He saw it with his own eyes. They werent mixing, spitting! I swear!

I weigh on fridays, so i will add it then. Mine has been going down every week but if it went up, i may skip adding it cuz I will be MAD!