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| Weight Loss | Problems with Sibling | Mar 25 2007 20:44 (UTC) |
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| I think some of you have the wrong idea about me. I don't want a clone of myself. I want the sister who I grew up with-and what she has become just isn't what I pictured her to turn out as. She and I used to double date through high school and college, share clothes, go out on the town. That all changed when she started working at the hospital she currently works for. I don't know what it was. Whatever it is, is not worth it. If she is not satisfied with her job to the point that she overeats, she better change her job.
So if all she is doing is "blowing off steam", well you could have fooled me. She wants change to happen by wishful thinking. We were going through her basement the other day and I found a bag of clothes that she wore in the eighties. She forbade me to throw any of it away, "just in case". Now, what does this mean? Just in case of what? Surely it means she wants to lose the weight. She was never depressed before. As soon as she started working in that damn ER and eating from that cafeteria filled with the worst food choices possible, she has been cranky, short tempered, and rude to everyone, even out in public. She snaps at people she doesn't even know! I asked her what she likes best about her job and she said that it takes jer mind off of her problems. I asked her what her problems were and she threw a stack of napkins at me. What did I do? If I am going to let her be, then I gaurentee she will miss all of the help I offer her. I know she will start accusing me of not caring, like she did with our sister who washed her hands of the issue. They barely speak anymore! I can't give up on my sister like that! |
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| Health & Support | boob job? | Mar 25 2007 03:26 (UTC) |
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| Honey, it was the best present ever given to me! I went up two sizes and there was no going back to being Flatty Patty. I felt so much more womanly and alive. I used to breast feed too-until my son bit my nipple! | |||
| Foods | omg a cookie with 540 calories ????!!!! | Mar 25 2007 03:11 (UTC) |
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| How much was the french vanilla coffee? | |||
| Weight Loss | Problems with Sibling | Mar 25 2007 03:07 (UTC) |
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| She is always hot, cold, hot, cold with the issue of her weight. She will burst into tears the minute anyone has something to say about it. I am not talking helpful insite, either. I mean when people at work or on the street say demeaning things about her shape. The other day she came over practically hysterical because someone refered to her as an "oaf". Not that I know what that is, but she was pretty distraught over it. My kids saw her crying and soon everyone was stirred up. My son offered to chase the guy down with his shotgun. What scared me was that my sister was considering his offer! I guess it was some guy who plays basketball everyday at the park she has lunch at. I said-well, what did you do to upset the man? She said she didn't throw the ball back when it rolled over by her picnic table. Now that is so cruel, but she could have made a slight effort to roll it back. This is why she never meets anyone!
I have never been overweight, so I don't see how I can relate enough to her to project my feelings on her situation. We go shopping and I pick out nice skirts or blouses, but all she wants to wear in her free time are sweats. She cannot feel good about herself in this uniform! We got our makeup done at a department store and she looked amazing! I asked her if she would keep it up and she said to me-It's too late for me to even try. It about broke my heart. I said to her she looked stunning and she said to me- That is only because you know me. The average person sees an elephant. Her birthday is coming around and I asked her what she wanted. She asked for money, but I know she will just waste it on food. Should I surprise her with something I know she could use? |
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| Weight Loss | Waking from hunger...Midnight snack>? | Mar 24 2007 21:56 (UTC) |
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| Honey, just be thankful you don't get up and raid the whole kitchen. | |||
| Weight Loss | Problems with Sibling | Mar 24 2007 21:55 (UTC) |
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| Can you really be addicted to food, though? I just don't get it! It
seems to me that if she just found another way to spend her time, she
wouldn't have the problem. I have tried to set her up on dates-there is
this particular fellow that she would be perfect for. Then she tells me
not to bother-that she is happy how she is. But I know she's not. She
is constantly complaining! I am going to attend an OA meeting. I'll let everyone know how it turns out. But I am afraid they are going to feel like I am intruding. If you saw me, you would know I don't belong there! |
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| Weight Loss | Problems with Sibling | Mar 24 2007 01:50 (UTC) |
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| That is funny because that is what her old therapist
suggested-Overeaters Anonymous. She wouldn't dare show her face at one
of the meetings. I think she is in denile. She once said eating is the
only joy she ever gets, which I know can't be true. She is a dedicated
nurse and an Aunt, for God's sake! If she found out I called OA, I can't imagine what she would do. But maybe it is worth a try. They can offer better advice than I can. |
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| Weight Loss | I ate a Wendy's Biggie size meal today - bad dieter! bad! bad! | Mar 24 2007 01:46 (UTC) |
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| So does this also mean that the customer peed into their Wendy's coffee, as well? | |||
| Weight Loss | Problems with Sibling | Mar 24 2007 01:40 (UTC) |
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| I was apparently kicked off of the forums for reasons I fail to understand, hence the new account. The thing about my sister is that she will have moments of breakthrough when she can really see what she is doing to herself. She'll phone me with the-What have I let myself become and the No man will ever love me. Which is fine. I am her sister, after ll. But the next day, all is forgotten and if I even touch on the subject, I get the-What's so great about you? guilt trip. I know she is jealous of me, but she doesn't have to be. She has a lot going for her. She is on several anti-depressants as it is. She is also in therapy. I guess she even switched therapists because of being offended by constructive critisism. |
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| Health & Support | should a woman with small breasts weigh less? | Mar 24 2007 01:31 (UTC) |
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| If you are thinking about getting implants, go for it. I felt 100 percent better after my plastic surgery. And no one can tell they are falsies! | |||
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