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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | Jun 18 2007 20:13 (UTC) |
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| Thanks for all your support. I really need it. I need every word. it has been 8 months and I still cry in my bedroom, feeling guilty and angry and hurt. I still remember every word he said, and I hate him. By the way, I saw him once. He is very ugly, his face is very unpleasant. | |||
| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 30 2007 18:17 (UTC) |
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| squeakygurl: I agree with you that truth always hurt. I know. but don't you agree with me that you no body should make fun of me because I am fat and "old"?
His tone? he was making fun. he mentioned that no girl would like him because he is 400 pounds and 50 years old. Of course he is not. He is slim and 38. Yes, he helped me. But i hate him and I hate myself because I allowed someone like that jerk to insult me. I am the one who is responsible for what happened. I don't really know why did he try to apologize and yes he wanted to see me. but you know what? he said it. he said " I want to meet you and if I don't like your size, I will refer you to one of my friends who doesn't mind plus sizes. " I think I have a point here. No? |
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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 11 2007 22:48 (UTC) |
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| elab: Thanks for the support. Thanks everyone. I am no longer friends with the woman who introduced me to him. She is a manager and she supposed to help me to get a job at her company. I left her offer. I am no longer her friend. I also got a better job with nice people.
All what I want to do now is to keep losing weight. Wish me good luck. :) I wish you good luck too. |
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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 11 2007 16:03 (UTC) |
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| Thanks everyone for your kind support. I really enjoy reading all these replies and truly feel much better.
Ignoranceandwant: Thanks for checking my post again. Yes, you are right. I don't want a guy to admire me in that way. I just wanted to meet someone who can accept me like that then support me in my weight lose journey to become a healhier and sexier woman. That way, I will know for sure he loves me for who I am. Anyway, I know it is hard to find someone like that. I must keep moving on. The story another chapter I didn't mention. It is not that important to mention that he tried to meet a new girl the following week. It sounds she didn't meet his high standards so he sent me messages asking me to call him. I said no. go and have fun with the other woman. It was funny because he was chocked. Anyway, that the end of this sad story. I guess it is not the end, it is the beginning of a new and healthy ME. Don't brainwash yourself. If you believe that being big is not attractive, then work on your body to change it to a new YOU and attractive YOU. Good news??? I am about to leave the 200+ club soon. Hopefully this week. LOVE YOU ALL. Peace |
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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 04 2007 15:34 (UTC) |
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| Lainey150: I am so sorry that happened to you. and I am glad that you found someone who is nice and caring. Because you deserve to be happy. and you are here in the right place for a healhier life and new you.:) thanks so much for the support.
Ellybell: Thanks for writing back:) I do believe that this person used to lose his temper and lash out then apologize then lose his temper again. I am so sorry that a very well educated person like him has this personality. Sometimes I blame myself for what happened. I should have told him in the first call. I, also, blame myself for not being able to lose the weight all these years. I really wasted too much time BUT NOT ANY MORE. Have a great day. |
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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 03 2007 20:01 (UTC) |
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| ellybell: What do you mean by " that person is forever changed by your interactions"? | |||
| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 03 2007 19:40 (UTC) |
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Ignoranceandwant: you mentioned that "He may have even been mad at the thought of someone recommending him a fat girl, as if that's the only girl he could get. " Maybe what you are saying is true. Sometimes I think he is right. Why should he have a relationship with a fat girl? I remember there was a guy who showed interests in me. He was very unhealthy with a unbelievable amount of weight. I didn't say " hey fat guy. Go away..". " I just said " you are a wonderful man but I believe we are not for each other". I didn't hurt his feelings. As my heart broke when I saw him and I was sure he has enough to worry about. As I mentioned earlier, I am not going to date any guy any more. I know it is a big gap in my life but I can't do any thing about it any more. |
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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | May 03 2007 18:43 (UTC) |
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| Yes, I have not dated many guys because I am overweight. I was harassed several times. I was rejected several times. and I am always shy... my friends pushed me to get to know a new guy... I listened to them and thought that I should give it a try... That guy insulted me and apologized but I felt that enough is enough... I have to do something about my weight beacuse my soul is a prisoner for 32 years..
If I will die alone, it is ok. I am fine with that. sometimes I think it is better for people who will carry my coffin to carry a light body not a heavy one. Do you think I am happy? Actually, I am not happy. But I am losing weight and I am not thinking about dating any other guy at the moment. When I am done with the weight loss, I will move on to the next chapter in my life. Thanks for the replies and your time. |
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| Motivation | I can't forget his insult - can you advise? | Mar 30 2007 20:10 (UTC) |
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| Hello again:
I am sending a big and warm hug to all of you. Thank you all for taking the time to read my post and respond in such a supportive a nice way. Believe me, I feel much better now. Thank God I really have a great place where I can get excellent support. I am here in a big city alone, I didn't want to call my sister, or my mom because I didn't want to upset them. I kept it all to myself. akamom2 : you are so sweet to offer calling him to get him straightened out :) that is so nice of you. what would you say when you know that he told me he wanted to meet me to have a look at me, if he didn't like my "size" , he will refer me to one of his friends who doesn't mind "plus size". anyway, I did pray for him, I asked God to give him peace, and to open his heart for real love. I have learnt that pain is part of my life and it is important to be more stronger and successful. I just don't know if I should open my heart " again" to any other opportunities? or just stay away for a while and focus on my weight loss journey? Don't go away :) I need you all. Please keep in touch with me and write to me so i will update you on my weight loss progress. Love |
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