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| The Lounge | Guns | Aug 22 2007 11:42 (UTC) |
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| "shazm - The US violent crime rate has also fallen to an all-time low in the last 10 years, despite the absence of gun controls"
Lysis, maybe this is evidence that people in general are becoming more socially conscious ? Maybe... just maybe.. a cultural shift from pre-conventional to post-conventional moral/ethical development? (I live in hope!) |
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| The Lounge | Guns | Aug 21 2007 14:37 (UTC) |
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Key trends in Australia include:
Peace and love. |
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| The Lounge | Guns | Aug 21 2007 13:05 (UTC) |
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| Frothy, I agree
"Guns don't kill people, (people) kill people" but... if people intend to kill.. it is awfully easier to do if they have a gun in their waistband... AND furthemore, if they are just angry and don't intend to kill... it is still easier to kill by mistake IF they have a gun in their hand. |
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| The Lounge | Guns | Aug 21 2007 13:01 (UTC) |
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| some australian stats... The gun "buyback" saw the number of gun deaths a year fall from an average of 521 to 289, suggesting that the removal of more than 700,000 guns was associated with a faster declining rate of gun suicide and gun homicide. I think that 289 deaths by gun (incuding suicides) is a LOT better than the 30,000+ per year seen in the USA. EDIT: before the gun buyback there were an average of 492 firearm suicides a year. |
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| The Lounge | Guns | Aug 21 2007 12:38 (UTC) |
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| Lysistrata,
Even my 16 year old son says there is a difference between shooting a gun for sport as a test of skill... and carrying a concealed gun... is very different. He said, he feels safer knowing almost NOONE carries a handgun. He and his brother shoot guns for sport. They do not own a gun. They pay to shoot at a gun club - at targets. |
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| The Lounge | Guns | Aug 21 2007 12:15 (UTC) |
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| I am personally 100 percent (yes, 100%) opposed to owning handguns.
Let me precede this by saying I live in Australia. Weapons are illegal. The only ones owned legally are licenced for sport in sporting locations only. Our government did a "buy back" of rifles and shotguns. Farmers were unhappy (but conceded). I am sure some kept them (such is life). I am sure gangs and villians still have some weapons (and intend to use them as necessary to carry out their illegal businesses). But the average Joe Bloggs cannot import weapons such as nunchucks, ninja stars, etc...., vannot own a handgun, can NEVER carry a concealed weapon. Why am I against carrying weapons? I believe that no one has the right to bear arms with the intent (uyes, premeditated intention) to harm another person (and I don't care that you say the other had intent to harm you, therefore you should be able to defend). If there are no (or next to none) guns in the hands of the common man or woman or child, then.... there is a smaller chance of facing an attacker with a gun. Simple statistics. I am not a gambler. I understand statistics though. It is pure numbers. The more people conceal a weapon on their person (out of fear) the more likely one of those persons will use said weapon. I live in a part of the world where... I do NOT fear waking up one morning to news that yet another school child has accidently shot themselves whilst playing with daddy or mummy's guns... I live in a world where I do NOT fear one of the children in my sons school will one morning shoot the whole class before suiciding... I live in a world where I do not have to worry that one of my neighbours gets "pissed" at me for the way I look, or the way I speak, or the music I play, and lets me know by popping a bullet over the fence. I am glad I do not live in the U.S.A. (sorry to my dear US friends). |
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| The Lounge | New moderator - Blackthorne | Aug 15 2007 02:57 (UTC) |
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| CONGRATULATIONS!!!
:-) will keep you busy LOL! |
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| The Lounge | Don't get to close: Study shows Obesity is Contagious | Jul 26 2007 13:08 (UTC) |
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| I learned of this study tonight too. Though it is a correlationsal study, and it doesn't say association CAUSES obesity, I have sometimes wondered if there is not indeed a more insidious cause of obesity than food consumption. My personal favorite is to blame it on the water supply (chemicals) or on viral contamination of air conditioners (legionaires disease for example). I do find it interesting though that I was "thinish" for years and years and years, then after three of my friends "suprisingly" began gaining weight on their bellies, I too began to balloon in sympathy. Makes you wonder .... |
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| The Lounge | how to get over someone u really love:( | Jul 24 2007 11:03 (UTC) |
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| It sounds as if this is your first love. I won't be condescending about that... I felt my first real love (and loss of that love) at the grand age of 40! It hits us all one time or other... Feelings of love (or infatuation or whatever you felt) may well remain simmering below the surface for a long. long time. You need to expect that. Then learn to live despite that. When we have a falling out with someone we dared to care for, dared to open up to, and dared to love... or if they break contact with us... we go through a grieving process not too dissimilar to accepting the death of a loved one...
I won't lie to you and say it'll all be fine.... just know that others have been where you are and feel your pain. The pain will go away - eventually. |
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| The Lounge | 3 words to describe love... what would be yours? | Jul 24 2007 10:44 (UTC) |
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| three words to describe love....
"the whole doona" or perhaps "he did dishes" and how about "can I help?" |
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| Health & Support | Pimples yucky pimples :-( | Jul 21 2007 03:32 (UTC) |
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| ksylvan: Are you using any new products? (detergents? shampoos? etc.) Yes! I am using a new shampoo! I usually use pantene and switched this month to a Wella product. mmmm sarahbugs: try a shampoo with sulfur in it. Actually, the Wella product I was using was purchased for my son and was an anitdandruff product. Obviously, my skin objects to sulfur. I didn't get acne as a teenager (lucky me, I got it after I gave birth to my first son at 21). I recall however not being able to use sulfur based pimple creams, as I would flare up - red and itchy. mmmm. I think I'll give that shampoo back to my son and go back to my expensive pantene. santonacci: Try tea tree oil A good Australian product, thanks! |
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| The Lounge | Husband refuses me any sex | Jul 16 2007 12:12 (UTC) |
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| You know - men are "visual" creatures to be sure - so yes, a pretty girl with a nice body will always get their attention - BUT... and this is a big but.... men feel comfortable with bigger women too... "if" that woman is comfortable in her own skin. You didn't say it... but you're here trying to lose weight... so it's a fair bet that you're not happy with your body (hey most of us aren't). But.. guess what? if you feel sexy, and you feel comfortable in your skin, men will feel comfortable too. Perhaps it is "his problem". Maybe he has low libido. Maybe he has a depressive illness, or diabetes, or a stressful job, or a history of child abuse himself.. or any number of other things.... The thing is... if YOU feel comfortable, you'll make it easier for him. Don't go "investigating" him, or "suspecting" him like so many here suggest. Love him. Love unconditionally. When he feels comfortable and you feel comfortable things will work :-) |
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| The Lounge | 10 Questions (random questionnaire) | Jul 12 2007 16:35 (UTC) |
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| The Lounge | positive thoughts | Jul 12 2007 16:05 (UTC) |
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| My 16 year old helped with dishes tonight and that made me feel happy.
My 21 year old moved back home for 1 month and moved out again two days ago. He popped in to say hi tonight. Made me feel happy. I have great kids :-) |
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| The Lounge | Proper Discipline for Kids | Jul 12 2007 05:53 (UTC) |
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| A nice link to understand different parenting styles and the consequences for children can be found here.
"Authoritative parenting, which balances clear, high parental demands with emotional responsiveness and recognition of child autonomy, is one of the most consistent family predictors of competence from early childhood through adolescence." |
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| The Lounge | Proper Discipline for Kids | Jul 12 2007 05:25 (UTC) |
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| that's the point Frothy, post #240 "Cause I would really like my little frothbeasty to be just like me, and I figure the best way is to raise him/her just like I was raised. You are suggesting I raise them to be someone I don't even know!" frothbeasty is to be someone independent of you... yes he/she will have your DNA and Wifeypoo's DNA... but Frothbeasty will develop his/her own personality (unlike you most likely). What we do as parents is to provide experiences (environment) for learning. We pass on our beliefs and our little sponges suck it all in ... then ...one day their frontal lobes fully develop and they question it all.. and (some teen frothbeasts) come to their own conclusions, independent of their parents. And all is good in the world. post #252: "I want my children to be free to decide to spank or not to spank. I want to make them aware of the consequences of abuse of power". Free to decide. Admirable goals regardless. To all who have read or added to this thread: There is no one right way to raise our children. the people adding to this thread (at least) all hope that they do less harm than good. Research shows that reactive parenting (spanking is a reactive behaviour) does nothing but make the spanker feel vindicated and the recipient to cower in fear. Spanking might stop the behaviour that led to the spank... BUT.. (and this is important)... it will not teach an alternative behaviour. This is what I do for a living... coach families in learning to be proactive. Prevent problem behaviour (including offensive, violent, self-harmful behaviours) and teach alternate behaviours to your children. Show them by example. Prevention is better than reaction. Noone (EDIT: most people do not) plans to hurt a child, however, sometimes people react with violence. Most parents who spank have authoratorian parenting styles (often passed on by authoratarian but loving parents). Personally, I am an authoratative parent. I believe in providing the guidelines and boundaries of acceptable behaviour, teaching my children the difference between right and wrong, yet giving them enough rope to try themselves - scaffolding yet allowing trial-and-error - they don't only get a chance to learn from their mistakes, but I scaffold and support them through dealing with the consequences of their behaviour. Works for me. Part of prevention is PLANNING how you choose to respond. That I feel is what the original poster of this topic desired. That is an admirable goal. *defending a Frothbeasts right to consider all options* |
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| The Lounge | A refuge for the UN-SANE | Jul 12 2007 02:55 (UTC) |
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| hgielrehtaeh : Is this anything like the UN-dead? Just kidding! santonacci : Okay, I've been looking at this thread for a bit, and just now noticed something about the title. What is the difference between UN-sane and INsane? Just curious... Heheheheh I am so pleased people caught that deliberate play on words... A psychologist could test us with valid, reliable tests (e.g., MMPI) and declare us "sane".... yet be can still choose to be otherwise... UN-DEAD = deceased yet behave as if alive therefore.... UN-SANE = perhaps sane but behave as if otherwise... |
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| The Lounge | A refuge for the UN-SANE | Jul 11 2007 14:30 (UTC) |
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| it's not a "reliable" nor "valid" test
however, i would assume that saying you don't know what quantum mechanics is THEN saying you understand it -- would indicate "some" problem there..... :-) |
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| The Lounge | A refuge for the UN-SANE | Jul 11 2007 13:36 (UTC) |
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| you know, i was thinking that...... um..... well, um....
*retreats to corner of the room in bewilderment* |
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| The Lounge | A refuge for the UN-SANE | Jul 11 2007 13:29 (UTC) |
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| Question 60 Are you purposely lying to conceal your mental instability or stability? | |||
| The Lounge | A refuge for the UN-SANE | Jul 11 2007 13:23 (UTC) |
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| good morning Question 154 Do you find that some of your friends appear to be invisible to everyone else? *giggles to self* |
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| The Lounge | A refuge for the UN-SANE | Jul 11 2007 11:28 (UTC) |
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| definition of insanity : "doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting a different result" *mmmmmm yummy icecream and scotch whisky* try the insanity test here hehehehe hehhhe ho hum *straightens straight jacket* |
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| Recipes | This recipe is just for fun :) | Jul 11 2007 09:53 (UTC) |
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| hilarious huh! | |||
| The Lounge | the thread for sane people | Jul 11 2007 09:48 (UTC) |
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| *pops in, realises that it might be more fun to be politically incorrect, obnoxious, opinionated, un-sane, and pops back out agian* | |||
| The Lounge | Live Earth 7/7/7 Are you In? | Jul 11 2007 09:23 (UTC) |
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| Nicely argued cheree89
Cheers! |
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| The Lounge | My Anniversary..... and I don't care | Jul 10 2007 09:40 (UTC) |
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| You are not alone.
Many women have experienced that moment when you wonder "would I be better off with out him?" or "I may as well be a single parent, he is never here anyway". I have been a single paraent raising two teenage boys for the past 6 years. I asked my husband to leave. I had a "fling" just before he did leave. I did the internet dating websites and all I can say is.... sometimes we are searching for something that we don't currently have... but we don't know "what" we are looking for. There are several elements that make up any "normal" relationship: committment, passion, and intimacy. DIfferent combinations provide different types of relationships. Committment, passion and intimacy together can lead to deep consumate love, intimacy and passion can lead to infatuated or lustul love, commitmment and intimacy alon provides a foundation for many marriages, committment alone leads to platonic love, passion alone can lead to infatuation. Two things drew my attention to your post. 1) you are still young and have a huge responsibility raising three children. You may have "missed" a period of your life where you developed a sense of self-identity seperate from your husband or your responsibilities. 2) you obviously liked at least two men when you "first met them" (passionately and/or intimately). I don't mean to be rude in saying that... I just point out, that your new interest may be sparking that "passionate" side of you. So I would ask yourself if it is the romantic "chase" you like, and if perhaps that is what you miss in your marriage. I would sit down quietly (away from the internet chat room) and write down the things you think you NEED from a partner, and the things you WANT. Then write a list of the things you feel your partner provides you. Then write a list of the things your role as mother porvides you. If there is a HUGE discrepency between what you need and what you get... that will lead you to feel unloved and unfulfilled in your role. In your current partner you have committment. So, can you fill the gaps in other ways? If passion is lacking, can you join a club or get involved with a cause? If intimacy is lacking, can you use some creative visualisation and honest communication with your husband about your desires and needs? If you have committment already, then you have one third of the equation for a consumate relationship. Many "Flings" just provide passion (temporary) and intimacy (nice... but)... and seldom the committment that we need to be able to provide the right environment for raising children. Just a thought..... |
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| The Lounge | Live Earth 7/7/7 Are you In? | Jul 10 2007 02:06 (UTC) |
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| Pledge number 6: To plant new trees and to join with others in preserving and protecting forests. Global warming is the result of an excess of greenhouse gases, created by burning fossil fuels and destroying tropical rainforests. Heat from the sun, reflected back from the earth, is trapped in this thickening layer of gases and global temperatures rise as a result. Carbon dioxide (CO2) is a major greenhouse gas. Trees absorb carbon dioxide, removing and storing the carbon while releasing the oxygen back into the air. In one year, an acre of trees absorbs the amount of CO2 produced when you drive your car 26,000 miles. (Source: here ) Um.. okay... in 1 day bush fire can release all that back in to the atmsophere *sigh* |
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| The Lounge | Live Earth 7/7/7 Are you In? | Jul 10 2007 01:57 (UTC) |
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| Johnlynch: Which book are you citing? (please clarify). I followed your link and read some interesting blog articles. I understand the point about the Co2 effect asymptoting. I understand the bit about Co2 doubling resulting in perhaps 1.5degree climate change mostly at poles. As I cannot see the graph on p. 66-67 iI cannot comment on whether or not it is misleading. Is your point here that regardless of any CO2 offsetting we might do, we will still have the global warming cycle because the quantity of CO2 in the atmosphere will (an has) remain the same? (please enlighten us further). | |||
| The Lounge | Live Earth 7/7/7 Are you In? | Jul 10 2007 01:35 (UTC) |
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| and this
Does temperature rise cause CO2 rise or does CO2 rise cause temperature rise? The answer is both. When temperature rises, the solubility of CO2 in water falls. This causes the oceans to give up more CO2, emitting it into the atmosphere. So temperature rise causes a CO2 rise. When there's more CO2 in the atmosphere, the earth absorbs more heat. Shortwave radiation from the sun passes straight through our atmosphere and is absorbed by the earth. Then the earth emits it as longwave radiation which is absorbed by atmospheric CO2. This is the greenhouse effect. CO2 lets energy in, doesn't let as much get out. |
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| The Lounge | Live Earth 7/7/7 Are you In? | Jul 10 2007 01:34 (UTC) |
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| and this
Closer examination, however, reveals that CO2 does not lead the temperature changes, but actually lags by many centuries. All of the mechanisms proposed by which CO2 increases in the atmosphere are reactions to a warming climate. |
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