Posts by shawnmax

Forum	Topic	Date	Replies

Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Sep 13 2007 14:01 (UTC)	2
bump It's been over a month since a post in this thread. How are people doing? I haven't really been on cc.com this month, and it's been a really busy one.
The Lounge	What do men look for in a woman?	Aug 15 2007 12:39 (UTC)	1
Silk, I totally understand your point, and it's a very healthy way to go about things if you can do it, but the honest answer for me as a guy is... I can't do that. I breathe for women. Almost everything I do in one way, shape, or form is for women. I am getting in shape...for women. Trying to make more money...for women. the only reason I think I even touch a vacuum is because of women. I cook because of women, I watch fricken girly movies and TV shows because of women. I mean I do things for myself, too. But appealing to a woman and trying to be what they want makes up about 75% of my day as sad as that is. I would be content myself not making a whole lot of money, just having a couple bills and saving up to buy a house just so I don't have to have the hassle of renting. But I buy clothes for women, I go out places I don't want to go and watch awful cover bands...for women. I spend money I would rather spend on musical equipment for women. and for women, I wouldn't have it any other way. pathetic? sure honest? you bet. I would suck as a feminist.
Weight Loss	I have a kind if embarassing question....	Aug 09 2007 19:35 (UTC)	12
at least you aren't guys. i got them because i sat on my ass and got fat so fast that I got stretch marks all over. I'm probably never going to be able to take my shirt off at the beach again, even though with a shirt on i look pretty fit.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 08 2007 15:12 (UTC)	7
yeah I'm used to getting over women these days haha. i fall for taken ones about once a month. but anyway, as her friend I don't want to see her jump into a serious relationship just so she won't hurt a nice guy's feelings. Especially when she has pretty strong feelings for someone else. I mean, if I were the other guy, I wouldn't want that knowing what I know. I just don't know how to tell her all this without it looking like I just want her for myself.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 08 2007 13:42 (UTC)	9
yeah that's exactly what I'm going to do. The problem is, I see that choice being pretty clear at this point. She will stay with him, and if they break up down the road she will probably be coming after me. I told her that I'm not going to be around forever either. I mean I think she knows I'm still going to be her friend because we were before this all started, so I'm probably the man in the glass case. part of me feels like if I fight a bit I'll win, but then i'm fighting for a girl that will probably just cheat on me anyway. I just wish I didn't get along so well with her.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 07 2007 22:26 (UTC)	12
haha sorry guys... didn't mean to leave ya hanging. nah, I can't remember what I posted already in this thread, but basically she and I kissed last wednesday after a long talk. it was awesome and all, but the dude she's been dating was inside the bar at the time so not only did I stop it because of respect to my fellow man, but I also didn't want to be in that position. Still though, it left me wanting her, and then she told him she did it, and the man still says how I'm awesome and he has no problem with me. Well, fine, but that's not the truth. I don't care if he does to be honest, I just want the girl. The problem is he kinda gave her an ultimatum that if she does something like this again he's gone, and they are only dating not really serious. So she says how shes going to try to not do anything like that again with me, but how she likes me and doesn't want to hurt me either. Well she's pretty much diving into a serious relationship with a guy just because he's a nice guy and she doesn't want to hurt him, and completely ignoring her feelings for me. so now I'm the tool who looks like I lost the girl when I never really had a fair shake. I don't know whether to fight for her and risk not being able to even be friends with her if I lose, or just let her go even though I like her a lot. I've never been selfish and fought for a girl, I always do the let them go and they'll come back thing...they never do. so now, she wants me to hang out with her, him, and a bunch of his friends on wednesday night. I just don't know how to handle the situation. there ya go people, sorry to do that to you! hehe.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 07 2007 02:46 (UTC)	21
that girl is driving me nuts :(
Weight Loss	monday weigh-in club	Aug 06 2007 13:27 (UTC)	27
I'm up a pound this week, but it's not a full pound and since I weighed myself last wednesday I'm not sweating it.
The Lounge	What do men look for in a woman?	Aug 04 2007 20:02 (UTC)	6
so what that should tell you ladies is... work what you have, because there's a man out there that's going to think you're sexy.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 04 2007 20:01 (UTC)	24
so does that mean confidence is actually a woman?
The Lounge	What do men look for in a woman?	Aug 03 2007 16:16 (UTC)	11
yeah I'm not saying that I wouldn't date a girl who is naturally very skinny and frail, but someone striving to be that way just doesn't have to. I would rather them have some meat on their bones and not for any other reason than I just think it looks better. feels better too when they aren't so bony hehe.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 03 2007 16:12 (UTC)	37
That really stinks about your friends and their lack of support. I'm lucky to have family and friends that actually fully support what I'm doing and when we go out my friends will actually recommend healthier things to eat. I know what you're feeling like too in the whole shutting yourself off thing. It's hard to open up, but eventually you can build your confidence through friendships and then in turn open up to strangers more. A lot of people do act like it's easy. "You just need to be more confident." That is like telling me I just need to lose 20 lbs. I know I do, but it's going to take time. Then we feel like time isn't on our side. Our friends are settling down and we used to think doing so at such a young age wasn't what we wanted, but now that we are around that age, and don't forsee any immediate relationship, we start to fear for our lives like we will never find someone. I try to remember how I felt about marriage about 5 years ago, I thought I was way too young and that I would want to get married in my late 20s or even 30s. Now that I'm almost 25 though I feel almost in a panic mode. You definitely aren't alone though. This site will actually do wonders for your confidence, just because not feeling alone in your struggles gives you a sense of belonging where before you just felt isolated. Good luck with everything.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 03 2007 07:16 (UTC)	42
still here! haha
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Aug 02 2007 20:18 (UTC)	45
katy and spjesq, yeah that song really seemed to just speak right to me. I still listen to it on a semi-daily basis, and it's such a beautiful song even if it didnt have a profound impact on my life
Weight Loss	monday weigh-in club	Aug 01 2007 13:12 (UTC)	30
holy crap. i know this is wednesday but this is like my monday since I was at a seminar for two days. I come in and im 4 lbs down from where I was last monday. 28 lbs down so far, about 25-30 to go.
The Lounge	What do men look for in a woman?	Aug 01 2007 13:11 (UTC)	16
yeah we do. there is no doubt about it. Like I said in my post I am attracted to all different colors, sizes and shapes. I wouldn't have said that before.
The Lounge	What do men look for in a woman?	Jul 31 2007 21:10 (UTC)	20
Jaina that works the same way for guys though. a guy who is in shape is going to get more attention than one who is overweight. it's just natural.
Weight Loss	monday weigh-in club	Jul 31 2007 03:14 (UTC)	31
i wasn't at the office today, so i couldnt use the scale there, but i think according to the one at home i'm down another pound or two. 255 it read. that puts me under my august 12th goal woo hoo. i gotta start working my abs harder, and im going to start running more instead of just biking. i have actually been kinda lazy but i think i got my metabolizm kicking again so it's pouring off me.
The Lounge	What do men look for in a woman?	Jul 31 2007 03:05 (UTC)	32
i was getting ready to answer all the personality traits I'm attracted to, but then i read the post and I don't know if you are talking about physically so... physically: eyes first. I tend to think most women are very pretty. I didn't always feel that way but over the years I have developed an attraction to more types of women. blonde, brunette, redhead, doesn't matter. race doesn't matter. skinny, a little thick doesnt matter. If I had to choose a preference, I would take kirstey alley anyday over one of those anemic little models you see on style network. big boobs, small boobs, doesnt matter. really. this might sound weird... but i like a nice back. I don't think I'm alone, but a nice smooth back is sexy with a tank top. also, sweat pants a white T and a baseball Cap with a pony tail through it is hot. or you know, whatever the other guys say :) personality: low maintanence. love a woman with good musical taste but it's not a make it or break it with me. has a good sense of humor, doesn't make me feel dumb when im going out on a limb to try and make her laugh. can laugh at herself as well as me. just a caring woman. i see so many cynical people these days, that I want a breath of fresh air. oh yeah and for me... AGE doesnt matter within reason. Obviously I'm no pedo, and I'd probably cut it off pushing 50, but I am actually really attracted to women in their 30s... i know that's not typical though.
Weight Loss	30 pounds to lose club	Jul 30 2007 03:28 (UTC)	186
way to go both of you. I wasn't that great this week. I didn't binge or anything but I haven't been to the gym since thursday but I did get a little excercise. I didn't eat a whole lot but I also didn't eat very healthy either. Oh well, I'm about 28 lbs from my goal now. I'm glad to see you guys doing so well though. It always motivates me, and it's why I love this site.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 30 2007 03:01 (UTC)	54
yeah I know I am trying not to be annoying with my image issues. I really have made some progress this past week with that whole situation I had. Each day I chip away a little at it. Actually I hung out with the girl friday night, and it appears as if I may be able to help out smwhipple with her august challenge ;-)
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 29 2007 20:07 (UTC)	56
I really wish I was just fishing for compliments and didn't honestly feel the way I do. I know it's a confidence problem more than anything, and I'm trying to work on it. I'm getting better at focusing on my good qualities more than my not so good ones, but it's a hard road for me because there have been so many comments in my life that I've taken to heart about my looks. But anyway, I haven't even really been talking about that except i said that one post a few pages ago. People just keep bringing it up hehe.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 27 2007 05:38 (UTC)	81
you know it's funny i whipped out that example... because tonight I hung out with that girl. We were just going to have dinner at a bar and grille like we do a lot (me and a bunch of my friends) and this girl was supposed to come and bring the guy she had been dating so we could meet him. Well, we get there, and the guy she's with really isn't a stud or anything. I mean i didn't feel inferior to him like I usually do with other guys. I was feeling pretty good tonight too. I wasn't dressed up or anything, was just wearing some shorts and a band tshirt but i guess it is more form fitting. So she comments first on how good i'm looking and I jokingly say, "I know...thanks" and she makes a few more comments. Then she's like paying me a lot of attention, and we are kinda doing our thing where we go back and forth in a conversation in front of our group of friends, only this time it's all in front of her guy. I felt a little awkward, like we were getting along so well that this guy has to be thinking wtf? Her plan was to tell me about her friend she wants to hook me up with, but she's pretty forward. she asked me to take a walk with her. She's telling me how she doesnt even want to hook me up with her friend. She is saying, "I'm with this really nice guy, and I said before I want a long term relationship, but now I'm wanting to get with you, and I don't know if its because I really don't lwant to be with him or what" I said that puts me in a real awkward place. That I held nothing back really. I mean I let this girl know I was into her. You knida have to hang out with her to know what I'm talking about, but it's sometimes hard to read what she wants me to do. I said, "what you want me to be like don't be with him get with me? fine, drop him, get with me, I'm a nice guy too, it's not like you're going to be missing anything. BUt make a decision, because I feel kinda bad for the guy that you're taking me aside telling me this stuff while he's out there buying you drinks" I felt so in control though tonight, and so confident. I wasn't even sweating her or her little games. I mean i really like this girl, and I told her that. Because as quirky and shallow as she can seem, we just hit it off. She even said something like, "why didn't you make a move at the christmas party or all those times we hung out" and I said, "honestly i had no chance and you know it...not then" i actually really appreciate her honesty, even if it might come off as shallow, inconsiderate, or just mean. I know where she stands and I like that. She actually probably would've dated me before, but maybe I just didn't make the right moves like you guys are saying. Anyway, it was kinda awkward. I left the bar just a little while ago while she was in the bathroom with her friend. Well i didnt leave, i left her guy, and my other friends and said I would catch her on the way out to say bye. So then the girl she was with kinda made herself scarce so i knew they were talking about me. And she gave me a hug and said...we will hang out tomorrow, ill text you. and I told her, just make a decision. Part of me wants to go for it. part of me thinks she just likes playing one guy against another. she would be the type i would just "have fun" with if i was like that, but i don't know if i can be like that without getting attached. oh well. just my little update to that example. funny thing is...im almost 30 lbs down so maybe she meant it :P
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 26 2007 01:56 (UTC)	88
I appreciate your comments ladies. I don't think you guys aren't being truthful or anything, I just see it from a different side and a different set of women is all. I am not trying to be cynical, I just think I'm pretty perceptive and see how women sometimes walk around the looks issue. I think I have been in a sort of "must find love" frenzy that is partly self-induced and partly from outside pressure. It's almost as if getting back in shape made people want to hook me up. I wasn't good enough for the single friend they knew before or something, but now that I'm down almost 30 lbs I'm ripe for the picking or something. You asked for an example... well here's just one. There was a girl I met about a year ago at a party. We didn't really talk there one on one or anything, i just met her there. We had a mutual friend so one night it was unplanned but we all went out to a bar. So my friend the next time he wants me to come out tells me that this girl asked about me and wants me there. So I'm thinking at this point WTF is this girl thinking. "she thinks you're fun" is what he said. Well I didnt know whether this guy was messing with me or not, but i didn't put too much stock in what he said. So then my office Christmas party comes around, and they all want me to bring this girl as a date. So I agree thinking, "why would she want to come to an office party with a bunch of people she don't know?" at the party we were getting along great though. We really connected from the first time we hung out I thought. We are both kinda dorks, and we were even talking about Saved By the Bell and weird stuff like that...but just clicking on every level. Same sense of humor, same thought process, everything. At the end of the night though she talks about some guy she wants to text, so I was like wow that is kinda rude. my friend also told me she said, "I'd date him if he lost about 30 lbs" but I don't know whether to believe that one either. Either way it was a little messed up I thought. But here I am, a little less than 30 lbs down, still have al ot of fun with this girl when we hang out, and yet she has absolutely no interest in me romantically. She is totally single, not attached at all, and really likes my personality. Yet she is trying to hook me up with one of her friends instead of date me herself. It can only come down to looks. that's just an example that you asked for.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 25 2007 22:09 (UTC)	91
tiger, I cannot speak for all guys at all. And I didn't mean for it to sound like i didn't think guys were the same way, but girls go after looks and I just wanted to make that clear. I hear women say they don't all the time and it's just not true. What it does do iw give us false hope. The way I choose a girl is based on looks, but its more like looks to judge their personality. like if i think a woman would reject me in a kind way, i might try, but if I think they look like a mean person, and would reject me in a mean way, then I will not even try. and really you can't base it on anything else. Maybe style (although that really doesnt matter to me) If i saw a woman had a tshirt of a band I like, I would definitely talk to her, but that doesn't really happen. It has happened to me but more in passing like at best buy the cashier noticed a band tshirt and we started talking about it. Then when I came back another time she remembered me and started talking again, but I knew she was just being nice. If a woman is doing or wearing anything I can talk about, that is how I choose how to talk to them. Again, I'm not speaking for guys, because the women my guy friends tell me to go up to and drool over are the model looking ones. But see the thing is, some of the less attractive women by traditional standards have been the meanest to me about my looks. Like I was just trying to be nice and initiate conversation, and they were really mean like I was trying to hit on them and how could I possibly think I could get with them. I've notice a lot of the really pretty girls by traditional standards have been a lot nicer about it.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 25 2007 21:21 (UTC)	96
I don't like when women say that looks aren't important. It's kind of a lie. Because those same women swoon over guys like Chris Daughtry or whatever it is they like. They all have these things they take for granted that deal with looks, but I guess they are trying to say you don't have to be brad pitt. but looks are still important to women. Also, I know I'm a pretty funny guy, I have my friends in tears a lot. A lot of people say they are funny, but I have had enough validation from people shooting liquid out of various orifices to know I am pretty funny. But when I use my same sense of humor toward strange women, they look at me like I'm a moron because they feel like they are just better than me. I can only attribute it to looks in that case, because they know nothing else about me. From what you girls are saying though, these women should be into me because I'm funny and looks don't matter. Also, I'm pretty smart, articulate, and can hold a conversation about anything. I mean anything too. I would say I'm pretty interesting and I like to do a lot of things as hobbies so I can relate to most women. It's just not the case unfortunately. looks matter a lot to women as well as men.
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 25 2007 19:54 (UTC)	107
I'm so far the opposite. I think I'm one of the ugliest people walking the earth, so it's a question of what woman would be able to see past that, and I don't want to pursue any woman that isn't a friend because I fear they will not hold back telling me I'm right in my assessment of myself
Weight Loss	30 pounds to lose club	Jul 24 2007 14:18 (UTC)	211
felt so good going to my doctor's appointment yesterday. He did a double take when he looked at my chart. Then he asked me what I did to lose the 26 lbs and I told him about counting calories and he was very impressed.
Weight Loss	This can't be right!	Jul 24 2007 13:34 (UTC)	3
^^ Hahaha!
Weight Loss	Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here	Jul 24 2007 13:26 (UTC)	127
well cshammas00, I'm going to reward myself with a brand new martin guitar. well, when i pay off some bills first hehe.

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