Posts by pgeorgian

driveby:

lulu makes great ****.  it makes your ass look great, if you have a decent ass. 

and re: #24: the other day i saw a bigger girl wearing a moomoolemon tee-shirt.  i thought it was adorable.

i like pav's statement :)

but there's no need to protest, kids.  i'm going voluntarily (igor just confirmed; i'll be deleted at midnight).

it's okay.  it's time.  anyone who wants to keep in touch, 'gator, ali, slo, and others have my contact info.

now i know what happened to giggle_puppy

Original Post by lili769:

I dislike how 80% of the responses are not about my weight at all, but my boyfriend. Thanks to the rational people who answered my question instead of giving me a psychiatric profile.

wow - seriously?  i count exactly three posts before yours that mention your boyfriend, of which two comment on his preference for big girls.

defensive much?

most spices and herbs have no calories to speak of, many have fibre, and they make the difference between bland, boring meals and ineresting, exciting ones.  you really have to experiment and find out what you like; by in bulk so you can get small amounts and save the cost of jars.

to gia's list i would add:

coriander, cumin, tarragon, chilli powder, and chilli flakes.

and don't forget ordinary ground pepper and salt; just keep the salt to a minimum.

Original Post by safina1:

I also know what I want :) but don't you agree that sometimes we can't have what we want?

of course.  here's how that process goes: this is what i want.  can i have it?  (notice, that's a yes/no question, with the possibility of "later.")

i'm not saying that decisions aren't hard, saf.  i'm saying that you've already made the decision and you're here looking for your justification for it.

unless the procedure damaged your reproductive organs (extremely unlikely), your hormones should have returned to normal within a few weeks.  weight is virtually always a function of diet and activity.  it's unlikely that the two are related.

maybe look at what else was going on in your life at the time.  a car accident and two broken ankles?  maybe some related stress and emotional turmoil?  personally, i believe that weight gain (and unhealthy weight loss, for that matter) are usually triggered by emotions, not by physiology.

M-F 8-4, 1/2 hour unpaid lunch, 2 paid 15m breaks.  i usually skip the breaks, take 45 for lunch, and leave 15m early :)

the 8-4 is my choice, too; as long as i'm there for meetings, rounds, etc. i can start and finish earlier or later, if i want.  it's nice to be treated like a professional.

i too think that tying weight loss to a wedding is a bad idea.  there are a few problems with that kind of thinking: first, assuming that you make your goal, what happens the next day?  once the pictures are taken and the dress is hanging in the closet again, do you go back to your old ways?  second, what happens if you realize that you're not going to make your goal?  all bets are off?  third (and sorry for bringing this up, but...), what if you and the bf break up?  you're awfully young to be thinking about marriage, and a lot can happen in six years.

you need to lose weight for your health, not to look good in a 15 minute ceremony and in the pictures in your album.

to answer your question, though, i'm 5'8" and was almost 170 and a size 12 (tight) at my heaviest.  i think lili's estimate is very close: 175-185-ish at size 14, 185-195 at 16 is a pretty good bet.  depends on body composition, frame size, how big your boobs are, etc., but trying to guess that right now is pretty futile.

acute care (hospital) social worker.

Original Post by minuseighty:

I know this wasn't a response to me, but I'm interested in this discussion and curious about what you're thinking here. You're saying that both parenting and formal education disrupt maturation in a way that other pursuits don't?  Would you also say that everyone who had kids young (whatever that means!) or who went through a great deal of formal schooling lacks maturity?  My thinking is that parenting and formal education don't happen in a vacuum any more than any other path does -- most of us are living in the world and interacting with other people all the time. Having a child, and a sick child at that shaped me and directed my path for a while, just as having later, healthy children did. Everything I do, every choice I make, shapes me, and to some extent limit me, but so do all life choices.  Again, I'm not taking this personally or trying to pick a fight -- it's no skin off my nose and I'm pretty confident about the path I've taken so far -- but I'm interested in your point of view since it's not one I've encountered much.

i think lots of things can interrupt or slow the process.  parenting is near the top of the list, but substance abuse will do the trick, too, to a staggering extent.

education - well, that's different.  it's just a predictable, sheltered sort-of delay-of-real-life thing for a lot of people.

i believe that emotional maturity is about achieving individuation.  we're not born with that, obviously: we're born dependent.  healthy, equal relationships require that partners achieve interdependence.  and i don't believe we can get from dependence to interdependence (versus codependence) without being independent along the way.

this connects to what augustnkate said: she needed to know that she would be okay on her own--and that her partner would be okay on his own--before they could be together.  anyone who "can't imagine" not being with him/her (read: "can't imagine" being alone) is going to have a hard time achieving any kind of interdependence.  you have to be able to imagine it.

but i would never say that this is true for "everyone." 

Original Post by voltmeter101:

I beleive being gay is wrong too, and if you want to do it then that is your problem but i don't think that you should get special rights like married straight couples do, you shouldn't be allowed to marry either, i mean come on, where is it going to stop, I'll marry my dog because i am into bestiallity but thats my orrentation so you have to honor me special rights, or maybe i am a petafile, but its ok beccause thats my orientation, it's not right to give gays special rights based on orintation, it's wrong

sorry to revive a post from nine pages back, but i just have to ask...hasanyone else noticed how often homophobia and illiteracy go together?

i don't think chivalry is dead, but it may be on life support.  i hold doors, say please and thank you, tell my neighbours "good morning" when i meet them on the sidewalk, but it always surprises me how many people won't make eye contact and just scowl when i smile at them.

until i live on the farm and milk the cows myself, i won't be drinking any unpasturized milk.  i suspect that most of us long ago lost immunity to the kinds of bacteria that are in fresh milk, and the longer it's out of the cow, the more opportunity those bacteria have to multiply.

ikea hopen, medium brown.  it's on casters, and for some reason i don't understand (collecting dust bunnies?  for spinning into yarn?), it has a platform that glides under the bed.

on it: lamp, book, clock radio, remote, glasses (for watching TV, not for reading.  the TV is small and far away).

in it: more books, clean sheets, counterfeit BtVS dvd box set, great grandfather's railway pocket watch, and...nevermind.