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**UPDATE***!

first i want to thank everyone for great advice. 

anyway, i did end up going to the dermatologist that day.  he took one look at it and immediately said he'd inject it, lol, i guess it wasn't pretty!

so a few hours later, it definitely shrunk about 1/2 in size.  the pain of it was gone almost immediately.  the next day (yesterday) it was still smaller.  today, less than 48 hours later, it is just a slightly raised bump!  it's still a little red but hopefully will heal up soon!  yay!

since we are talking about home remedies, something that almost always works for the little spots is honey.  it didn't work on my cyst, but for regular pimples, if you dab it on overnight, by the next morning the redness and swelling go way down. i believe it has natural anti-inflammatory properties in it.

hi zifhip,

i'm very sorry to hear your story.  it's really sad that your wife left, but to me, it's even more sad because you sound like you are giving up.  you seem like a very sweet guy, and there is no reason for you to be so down on yourself!  you are not defined by your relationships w/ anyone, be it family, friends, or significant other.  you are defined by what you make yourself, and only you can find that motivation within you!  don't think that just because you're overweight you're not capable of meeting people and finding companionship.  i'm serious!  it's more about attitude than anything!! 

it's a shame that you had to suffer so much and feel like you are not worth it...but it's better that you found out early on that your wife was definitely not the one for you, before you had children and started a family.  now you can really start a new life, and what better way to start it than to take care of #1: YOU!!

motivation is difficult, and i definitely understand lonely times.  i don't really have a lot of friends either.  my family is supportive but i don't see them that often because i work full time and don't live near them. i don't know anyone who would want to go to a gym with me.  i guess you just need to be comfortable w/ doing things alone and rejoicing in your accomplishments by yourself.  trust me, once you have the confidence to appreciate yourself, others will appreciate you too.  it's funny, as we get older it's really hard to make friends, it seems so easy when you're young!! 

i wish i had more advice for you but all i can tell you is just stay positive and do good things for YOURSELF, not for anyone else.  it's time to be selfish!  you are attractive, articulate, and seem intelligent enough!  you're worth it!!

kathygator:

i have brought this to his attention before.  what usually happens is that he says he wasn't doing anything...like for example the waiter issue...he will act like he just made an innocent comment, and why was i flipping out?  i can fight and fight but in the end i'm the one that feels crazy.

and yes my emotional state is important to me but not as important as living my life.  i just wanted to know if it was complete relief or just a little bit of remorse.  i think to make matters worse, i am getting sick too (sore throat, fever), so i'm just in a very bad place right now =( 

thank you all for your replies.  i guess i already know the answer.  my best friend doesn't really say anything about the relationship being toxic, but she keeps telling me i need to look at the underlying issues.  i think i have been in denial.  i have never once done anything to make him mistrust me. i feel so stupid for even having to ask and post this.  i'm just really scared and i am hoping to find courage through the internet, how weird!! 

yes he has isolated me from most of my friends, not directly, but through guilt and saying "but all i want to do is spend time with you".  i think this makes it worse, because i don't know who to turn to.

again thank you all...i have to prepare myself i guess for the inevitable.  i'll keep everyone posted.

Hi beachwalker...

I've never heard that losing weight would reduce body acne...??  Are you sure the acne on ur inner thighs aren't razor bumps?  If so maybe try to replace ur razor more frequently.  I get that too if I use an old razor.  I know that the thights rubbing together can cause bumps there.  Do you use lotion there?  Maybe dust some baby powder around the parts that you seem to be moist/have acne?  (but DO NOT get it near your naughty bits!  i've done that, and it causes problems!!)

My bf gets it on his back sometimes because he sits around after working out instead of showering right away.  I think that may cause his.  Do you get super sweaty and stay like that for a while?

well i know i haven't been TOO much help but i hope it's a start!  good luck!