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| The Lounge | 6000 calorie diet.. im not kidding! | Feb 29 2008 16:59 (UTC) |
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| I was talking to a runner one time--he ran a minimum of about 20 miles a day or something crazy. He said he ate between 4000-6000 calories a day. he said he would try to eat stuff with value--proteins, vegetables, fruits, --but then he said he'd throw in a whole pizza too... so odd to me. I never know what to think about how much i should eat. Sometimes I think if I ate JUST when I felt hunger, and only until I was satisfied (not "full") that I could probably eat anything I wanted and not be fat at all. I think i have a naturally small appetite. I just eat as a hobby. | |||
| The Lounge | ADHD medication side effects? | Feb 26 2008 17:14 (UTC) |
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| why does it make you zombie like? I feel more human than ever currently--is that a long term side effect?
I do notice a WONDERFUL appetite suppressant. I still want to eat when I'm hungry but never after I'm satisfied and I don't snack as a hobby anymore. BUT I have not lost a pound but thats because i am very stupid and enhance my appetite at night and eat junk for 2 hours straight. but why zombie like? that happens after years of use? |
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| The Lounge | Poll on Relationship status/being single/personality transformations... | Aug 30 2007 16:09 (UTC) |
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| i will now not see him or hear from him until tuesday. i'm sort of excited, well i HATE it, but i'm hoping i can use this time to sort of grow a bit stronger. its funny how your mind works in this sort of situation--like even when you KNOW he is bad for you, when you KNOW you'll never be with him again, and how he has acted is basically unforgiveable...and that he really doesnt care about me in the least--but you still want to see him/talk to him...
i'm going to try to replace him in my thoughts. i have to be disciplined with my thoughts. it is so true that you just remember the good times when things end. i have realized its so much easier for him because he realized he wanted to end things with me months and months ago...so he probably went through most of the thoughts and stuff as he was pulling away. i had sensed this--i just didnt believe it would actually end. so yes, here i am---i am alone. and it will be okay though. i dont know why is in front of me. anything could happen. i could wind up with anyone. i just hope its not 40 years later and i still think back to when i was the happiest--when i was with him, when he loved me and i loved him and i was able to be in the moment. i dont want to be clinging to those moments forever...i hope i didnt hit my max for happiness and now its forever gone. |
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| The Lounge | Poll on Relationship status/being single/personality transformations... | Aug 29 2007 23:51 (UTC) |
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| you guys would be proud of me. he texted me in class and asked if he could sit by me because he didnt get to sit by his other friends because he came in too late and apparently no one likes me so i was sitting alone (law school seriously is like middle school)--
i said no, that i would be too uncomfortable because it would make me just want him in my life more and more...now i'm bawling in class and obviously not paying attention. he was rude for asking. |
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| The Lounge | Poll on Relationship status/being single/personality transformations... | Aug 29 2007 16:02 (UTC) |
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| carrihound, i DO need to change the script. that is something i can actively try to do. thank you.
chix, trust me, i kept thinking nick was losing his mind and then i would think "well you're an irrational, upset exgirlfriend" but i mean, his closest friend is worried--one of the ones who always encouraged nick's behavior, his mom is crying everyday, his sister is worried--but yeah, who knows. maybe he truly just had an ephiphany and he is happier than ever. either way, i havent seen anything like it. but i do keep reminding myself, everything i see is distorted because of emotion. |
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| The Lounge | Poll on Relationship status/being single/personality transformations... | Aug 29 2007 15:43 (UTC) |
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| i just can't handle the constant scroll bar in my head repeating his name "nick nick nick nick" it flashes, then "he doesnt love you, he left you, your whole life has changed, you dont have your best friend anymore, he isnt yours, you arent his"
i mean this is in my head all day. but yes, it was very difficult but i think i have come to terms with the fact that i cannot ever trust him again. i can't be with him again. i mean for him to get me back, (which i really dont ever see him trying to do)--it would take like 5 years of him demonstrating his sanity before i even consider it...i mean i really really wish things could be different but i think i know they cant be. but its still so hard. i still miss him, even though he isnt even on this planet anymore--not the nick i knew. not the nick who i felt so connected to... |
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| The Lounge | Poll on Relationship status/being single/personality transformations... | Aug 29 2007 15:02 (UTC) |
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| really? i mean my mom's dad was bipolar and for years she said she saw a bit of it in nick, but i mean, nick was so consistently happy that i never agreed--but she said even just the times he would drink and go crazy could indicate it a bit...(which still doesnt make sense to me)--
but it was like, he was acting weirder and weirder for months, especially the last week before our break up--like not like him AT ALL. (he also has been smoking a lot of pot, which i dont see how it could change anything..)- then the weekend he broke up with me, he was very awful to his family which was really weird--he also started sounding super arrogant--again, very unusual. he was always hyper and a bit cocky with his hyperness, but always humble--so then he broke up with me, and he did feel sad a bit--i know he cried and he never cries--so anyways, then all of a sudden, bam--he suddenly was on top of the world. and now he doesnt sleep, he talks about being famous constantly...he talks about how he is bigger than Nietzsche, how he is the only one outside the box, how no one elses dialogue is on par with his--he calmed down a bit after the crazy weekend of his rants...but he still is saying the same stuff--that the world has to know Nick, that anyone who rejects him is a loser, that he can offer you fame if you follow him...he doesnt even play an instrument! or act! he wants to be famous because of his personality--which IS loud and crazy and charismatic. i mean he definitely is a crowd-pleaser. anyways, i dont know anything about manic behavior...its weird how he doesnt sleep anymore or eat. its weird how arrogant he is suddenly-- |
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| The Lounge | mornings are the worst i think...about my breakup | Aug 09 2007 14:19 (UTC) |
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| i dont like my future being wide open. i want him to hug me right now. i just keep having to get through more and more days. i have to just get through today. i already hear my brain trying to come up with ways to see him. but i know that is wrong so i'm stopping it...but i just really want to. |
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| The Lounge | Please describe to me your happy relationship | Aug 08 2007 23:32 (UTC) |
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| oh my god, i cant even tell you how much these stories help me--i have been rushing to my computer when i'm home--i'm trying not to be alone. i'm almost moved out. i'm just in a little shock. a week ago, i was still sure we'd get married. even already, (i mean i feel so sick) --i can see how it was coming. i mean we had a rough beginning, then we were together and solid--then he just seemed to regress back to being 20 the last 6 months. i mean, i respect he broke up with me instead of making it last for much longer--and he didnt cheat on me-- im probably repetitive but i'm not sane-minded right now. i just feel like, i dont know--i have met anyone since nick, who i was REMOTELY interested in--so i have a hard time imagining id ever find anyone again... |
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| The Lounge | how do you handle the anxiety attacks of a breakup? | Aug 08 2007 05:05 (UTC) |
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| heather, i do hope i get over this quicker than i think i will. and spjesq, i sometimes do think maybe i dont want another lawyer..(i had trouble spelling the word "lawyer" just now...) i just feel like i'm lying. i just got home and i knew nick wasnt going to be here--and i have a friend with me, and i was hoping he wasnt here--but now, just 15 minutes here, i'm wondering when ill see him...like it is going to be hard when i know i wont be seeing him at all--but i mean,i have to really stick to the minutes that i dont want to see him, and just tell myself that this urge to see him is fleeting. i'm sure it will be easier once i know i wont see him...? eh except for classes...its going to be so so so so weird. i'm not ready to imagine he'll never be mine again. i'm just not. i think of that, and i feel like dying. heather, how did you date someone so quickly? i imagine that to be really hard--like the thought of even talking to a guy right now makes me sick. isnt it weird too, how you associate some things with the person you were with, and not others? i mean there are a few entire cities that i can't deal with going near right now--but i can handle seeing his sister. we were just about best friends and i didnt really become her friend because of nick. its complicated--but she agreed to never mention any nick-related news to me. plus, i mean, i guess she is on my side...nick caused her some torment greatly recently... what's with people though--i mean i knew what i wanted years ago, and yes, i mean i think i have LOTS of growing to do as a person, but i still know like the central me--and nick suddenly doesnt want anything he used to want? i dont know. i ate a little today. i'm glad, just cause i felt more dizzy when i didnt eat. it's funny that it's only easy to not eat when you feel this bad |
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| The Lounge | Please describe to me your happy relationship | Aug 08 2007 04:57 (UTC) |
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| this is all so comforting. i had a friend tell me to stay away from any happy-relationship people but i feel the complete opposite. i want to hear about GOOD relationships--like you guys talked about--where you TRUST the person and he wants you to be HAPPY. its just so crazy. i mean i wasnt dating a monster, but he was obviously unhappy in this relationship- so i mean, even innocent people can become monsters-- i just love hearing though that other people wind up happy, and trust me, i'm not expecting like a fairy tale--i know things take reason/compromise/patience---but i mean, you should be able to trust the person to at least be IN the relationship, you know? any more stories, please tell. this is such happy reading. |
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| The Lounge | how do you handle the anxiety attacks of a breakup? | Aug 07 2007 21:59 (UTC) |
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| jenmcc, --it doesnt seem like HE is feeling a physical withdrawal, but man, i sure do feel physically screwed up. like i dont feel like i have complete self-control. and i'm constantly too hot or too cold. i do think cold-turkey is the best, at least for sure in our case--because i do think i can't accept what he does and i know even if he ever does change, it will take a long time... heather--, you just broke up june11? are you feeling better at all? i keep comforting myself with stories--of relationships that had break-ups and problems and then they got back together. like in Friends, when Mike broke up with Phoebe because he didnt want to get married and then he realized he did... i just hate that he might never miss me. that he is happy with this decision and he wants to break up with me and move on--like i keep thinking that he just doesnt realize how great we could be. i mean we could talk for hours everyday even 4 years after dating--and after 6 years of knowing each other...i mean, trust me, i'm reminding myself of all the bad and that really helps. especially in the last 6 months when he seemed to have decided he wants to be some sort of drunk drifter rock and roll crazy guy who stays up all night. but if he never misses me, man will i feel stupid--because i thought we were going to get married. sometimes the time BEFORE crying is the worst. like right now i feel so anxious and i wish i could cry to release the pressure in my brain...but i just feel sick. |
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| The Lounge | how do you handle the anxiety attacks of a breakup? | Aug 07 2007 16:47 (UTC) |
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| anblackb, man i hope my boyfriend does that too--i plan to completely leave him alone.
i dont want to be manipulative right now at all. i know right now we dont want the same thing. like we'd be perfect if i was 18, but i am calmer now--i dont want to go out all night anymore--i want him to want to be home too--i want to trust him to make smart decisions and stuff. i mean i can't sum up anything here-- who do you talk to when you are suddenly alone? like what do you do during the nights--like when nick and i would have long conversations? i mean jsdamdam, i really like how you said you were on the phone a lot. i noticed that stuff really helps. and jettaranger, yeah i mean i do have it in my head that if he can break up with me and be so happy and calm about it, that mostly i'm losing an illusion, not a reality--like i CAN survive because if it was mutual, it woudl be strong and we'd be together ... oh and i agree that i dont want flings..i did that before and i was manipulative before-- and now i just want to be okay. i do plan to not let him know the hurt i have because i dont want him to know anything about me at all, even where i'm going to be living... i just dont know what to do with the nights --i mean i told him every detail of my thoughts and activities...and he doesnt even care about that. i dont know. what do you do with yourselves during the late alone hours? like how am i going to study--he used to be my motivation. but yes, i have to stay busy--i have to act happy--i have to follow any advice because i cant think on my own. please any experience, id be so happy to hear. |
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| The Lounge | how do you handle the anxiety attacks of a breakup? | Aug 07 2007 15:56 (UTC) |
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| and he gets the cats--at least one of them, so i dont want to separate them--i just saw a post i made weeks ago about how much cuter my cats are than anyone elses.
i dont have the energy to pack. i dont know how to get over this. i really thought we were going to be together forever. |
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| The Lounge | how do you handle the anxiety attacks of a breakup? | Aug 07 2007 15:44 (UTC) |
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| thank you so much for responding. i dont want to be alone at all right now.
i do want to be with him--i think he'd be a good husband/father--its more like in the last year he has regressed back to wanting to be this partier--he says it happened around his 25th birthday and i dont know, he has been thinking about it for awhile. i think my brain knows that right now he isnt ready for what i want. i want to hold onto the daydream that in a few years, he'll get it out of his system and we can be together again-- did any of you hold on to that daydream and then wind up with someone different? |
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| The Lounge | how do you handle the anxiety attacks of a breakup? | Aug 07 2007 15:26 (UTC) |
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| how did you guys get over the worst break up of your life? | |||
| The Lounge | Adderall. | Jul 30 2007 21:21 (UTC) |
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| jordan, yeah that's how my friend is--when she is on adderall, she is almost sort of cold-hearted. I think it's more that she becomes entirely functional so she will disregard emotional sentiments in all their forms...But it always makes me want to see her less because she isn't the same--
i mean i'm SEARCHING frantically for a reason to avoid this medication. So i'm not at all criticizing you, it's more i'm constantly trying to talk myself out of going from doctor to doctor to get a scrip. I'm terrified of meth. That's funny that it could lead to it-- what are the other bad effects of adderall/ritalin? |
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| The Lounge | the line between being overprotective or safe with kids... | Jul 30 2007 21:16 (UTC) |
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| stinky, i dont know, i think your plan is interesting. i mean honestly, i NEVER would have lied to my parents and if they asked me to promise something or if i promised something, that was it- i would do anything i could to do it.
I lied to my dad one time in my life that i can think of and that was one time when i had his car up at college for a few days and someone hit the car in a parking lot and broke the gas pump thing off (i guess i left it open? i still dont know what happened! it was ripped off when i came out of the store)--and my dad stresses about car stuff so i told him i got a weekend babysitting so i wouldnt be bringing his car back for a few days longer than i thought--but really i just needed that time to get the car repaired. But i did tell my mom-- i told my dad about that about 3 years later though. but so if i had signed a contract with my parents, i definitely would have obeyed it. And i think i was like your daughter, i LOVED peer pressure because i really enjoyed refusing to ever submit. I used to be the friend that made other friends' parents comfortable about the activity--because i was painfully responsible. Even in college, i was the fun governor! I mean i guess i was raised in a very safe area and so my family had the privilege of being lenient, like weirdkitty... i dont know, but it seems you and your daughter have a really good relationship, stinky. and it sounds like you're smart about it too--i mean truly, when you refuse to let your kids do things, they DO end up feeling pressured to just lie because if YOU aren't rational, they dont feel they have to be! so scary though--what a responsibility, being a parent... |
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| The Lounge | why are kids so mean to each other???? | Jul 30 2007 20:23 (UTC) |
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| besides just bad parenting, it seems sometimes there are just general misunderstandings that might really make ONE kid feel bad that the other kid didn't intend.
I have this friend who says when she was little, she would go hang out with kids and they would play video games and never offer her a chance to play. And she would sit there and feel stupid and sad. I mean she brings this up every few months! it obviously deeply impacted her... now i was just the happiest child that ever was...My only concerns were how much I could play each day. And if i had a friend who quietly watched me play a video game, i would have loved it! i would have thought she was content sitting there because otherwise she would have demanded a turn like the rest of us grabby-handed 9 year olds. We would all argue for turns and so if someone did NOT offer, we certainly didnt think to offer them a turn! it might have been different on a one-on-one basis. i dont know. I just wonder if in my happy childhood, i made someone else sad because I didnt have the depth to empathize? That was long and boring, but im hoping to have kids in the next 5-8 years and it just seems like every little word you could say might change the child's personality. i still clutch at certain things I heard in passing...I do believe parts of my personality are based on just 5 minute spans of times from the early 80s... ahh poor parents! |
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| The Lounge | Adderall. | Jul 30 2007 20:08 (UTC) |
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| i am OBSESSED with adderall/ritalin. I have never taken it and i probably won't, but seriously, MOST of the people in my law school class with the highest grades are on adderall or ritalin. i mean not all, but i know at least 4 of the top students...
Plus, everyone i know who goes on adderall/ritalin loses a gazillion pounds and accomplishes a ton of stuff. it just seems like a miracle drug but i'm very weary of mind-altering substances after i had a horrible experience with antidepressants. So i'm constantly re-attempting to talk myself out of making it a goal to get a prescription. I do hear it can mess up your emotions...I mean it seems like only 1 out of 10 prescriptions go to people who actually need it. But it sure is tempting... Get skinny and get 4 points...become a beautiful, successful lawyer--OR struggle with my own will to lose weight and study in my own way...Obviously choice one is more appealing! but i guess I rather retain my sense of self.... bahh |
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| The Lounge | why are kids so mean to each other???? | Jul 30 2007 16:10 (UTC) |
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| it must be the hardest thing to be a parent though. I mean i imagine myself, for example, saying to my boyfriend "you can play but if you touch the ball it's a penalty" and it would just be a joke--id be trying to be funny and we'd both understand. but maybe if a kid was around, he/she would think it was cool to be mean or something? is that how it works? | |||
| The Lounge | dating question..help! | Jul 29 2007 19:09 (UTC) |
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| eh, isnt it awful? cause you don't want to make it seem like a big deal if it turns out he just wants things casual as well--then you almost look like you're flattering yourself. but then, if he gets really into you right away, it is evil to lead him on--it's almost a lose-lose!
whatever, i think the worse of the two evils is to lead him on. But maybe you could wait until the next clear signal that he wants something more serious--maybe it will diffuse naturally--maybe you'll end up marrying him! maybe he'll just be a friend. or maybe you'll never see him again. but i think it's awesome that you're dating and having fun. People never take enough time to themselves. be safe! |
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| Health & Support | 7lbs this week... nauseated | Jul 29 2007 18:06 (UTC) |
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| i think that's a great idea--those shakes will give you calories and some energy and when i'm so anxious i can't eat, i usually CAN drink things. Who is Zach? i'm very sorry for all your troubles. You seem like such a caring person. I really hope things get better for you. Things WILL get better actually. |
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| Weight Loss | Anyone else do anything like this? | Jul 28 2007 04:00 (UTC) |
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| I agree that usually any "trick" ends up not working--
but i have before started eating something and realized i didn't want it at all and spitting it out and then putting it away. i guess i never did it continuously, like eat/spit, eat/spit--but hey, if you start eating pizza and realize no, i dont want this--then i'm all for spitting it out! but i agree about the producing saliva--just like i think gum makes you hungry. someone told me your stomach starts anticipating food or something? i mean i dont know cause gum is usually fine, but i guess when you're already hungry, your body gets mad and wants food, not just the chewing sensation! |
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| The Lounge | Rhonda Byrne's The Secret | Jul 28 2007 01:23 (UTC) |
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| yeah we get it dnrothx, --i just don't see why this is a huge problem? no one is here is suggesting we dedicate a shrine to the book--or follow it intensly--i think it sounded FUN. i mean maybe when you go on a diet, you look for some tips that you never thought of--it's the same thing!
maybe you pull a little of diff religions--i mean there isn't time to learn everything for yourself! and you're fighting human nature--our language is filled with those old adages--"time heals all" "attract more flies with honey than sugar" "power of positive thinking"--i mean are you suggesting we outlaw any sequence of words that are may possibly suggest advice? have you people followed recipes before? what you're saying is ridiculous about not wanting to do the hard work... everyone is so hypocritical if you are saying you don't like the book because you don't want to not do the work yourself. life is hard, right? just because you hear a few words of advice, or perhaps to listen to what someone else thinks works for them... it's not an abomination to do so! at least explain better what is so egregious here because i don't understand the rationale. |
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| Weight Loss | Do you think this is rude? | Jul 27 2007 21:16 (UTC) |
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| oh my gosh i could not be more on your side, tandt. it sounds like you did everything you could not to impose and yeah, the only time i might say just eat whatever is if you were at your boss's house--i mean what about people with no appetite who just don't eat? or if you didnt like the bun? eww, i will never want to eat another bun again after reading the stress you went through over that bun! i swear, people need to calm down.
i used to get mad at my friends when they'd eat junk food in front of me. i mean they can totally eat what they want but when i was really struggling my boyfriend's sister would sit there for 2 hours debating about whether to get taco bell and i mean, i didnt even want her over at all! Then she'd get it, and not want it and leave it on my coffee table. --but yeah obviously we are very close and so manners isn't really an issue-- you did NOTHING wrong. there shouldnt even be anything awkward--why couldnt your brother diffuse any sort of tension with this? i HATE people who arent compassionate--like yeah, good for you--you're thin. that's great. but i have to work at it so at least be understanding. and awesome job for being on a good streak! i just don't get why its an ISSUE. even if you sat at their dinner table and didnt eat at all and just sipped water....and then later went out and got a salad, i think that's fine too! i mean half my friends rarely eat anyways, just pretend you're one of those noneater people who forgets to eat. blahaliuaiou! |
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| The Lounge | Legalization of The Drug Marijuana | Jul 27 2007 21:05 (UTC) |
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| cshammas, i completely agree and i feel like an idiot for never saying that myself. also, we're neighbors! i live in royal oak... | |||
| The Lounge | Legalization of The Drug Marijuana | Jul 27 2007 21:00 (UTC) |
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| eh, yeah just the word "overdose" is scary. i imagine it could happen so innocently--
ritalin is THE most popular thing in law school. apparently it's the new cocaine for students or something--you don't have an appetite while on it so you lose a ton of weight--and you can study for 12 hours straight--or do whatever you want for 12 hours straight--i know at least four of the top cats at law school are on adderal or ritalin... i want it desperately but i'm scared of mind-altering stuff now. i'm fascinated with it all but i'm a big baby... but it just seems unfair that these ritalin people have such an advantage. i mean most of them don't actually need it like those spaz kids who it is designed for. |
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| The Lounge | Legalization of The Drug Marijuana | Jul 27 2007 20:56 (UTC) |
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| oops heather, my last post was before i saw yours--but its funny cause you said acid/shrooms and pot were cool and those are the ones i constantly hear are the ones worth holding on to...
but what sort of pills messed you up? are you part of the "damaged brain" club? broken souls. brains with holes... ritalin/adderall? i want those--makes you skinny and i'd get better grades... i like the giant serpent thing... |
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| The Lounge | Legalization of The Drug Marijuana | Jul 27 2007 20:53 (UTC) |
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| yeah E always sounded fun to me too but it has too many risks. and don't robo-trip! brain lesions! and can't you instantly die from cocaine if you're allergic? but i hear cocaine is not a big deal.
i'm a huge baby with risks--and if you don't miss it, then why start it? for some reason, i'm not afraid of shrooms or pot though. meth and heroin just seem like plain poison to me. Opium always sounded romantic--i used to read those historical romance novels and those pirate heros would stroll into opium dens in china and stuff and so i just have this antiquated image of it-- i hear acid is the best thing in the world, but i'm scared of it too. i mean the word acid --i just picture those frying egg commercials from the late 80s or early 90s where they'd say "this is your brain on drugs"--it worked solely for acid. |
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