Posts by scarletk

Starting weight (on May 1st): 204.5

Goal Weight (on Jul 3rd): 198

Ultimate Goal: 150

May 1: 204.5

May 8: 203.5

May 15: 207.5

May 22: 207

May 29: didn't get on scale

June 5: 206.5 

June 12:

June 19:

June 26:

July 3: ---final weigh in

Still struggling mentally and emotionally with husband's job loss.  We've had tons of rain here and I've spent way too much time sitting around stress eating.  At least I have been doing some gardening, target shooting, and a few other activities.  Bike still in garage... hopefully this week.  As you may have noticed, I've adjusted my end goal weight so I don't put so much pressure on myself.  As long as I'm taking steps in the right direction, it will be ok.  Our family has too much other stuff for me to be thinking of than for to be beating myself up over not losing quickly enough.  Weight loss is weight loss is weight loss.

Original Post by wormyeyelid:

Firstly, you're so funny.

Secondly, I never knew there were elitists amongst asexuality.

People here are trying to kindly advise you and help you understand better what you are dealing with.  You don't seem to have a true understanding of what asexuality is and if you aren't enjoying sex, what's the purpose?  You're putting yourself at risk for pregnancy at a very young age not to mention any STDs if you and/or your boyfriend have  had previous partners.  You might want to rethink the decisions you're making as they seem to be based on immaturity and insecurity.

If I ever have a girl, I want to name her Thresa after my grandmother.  NOT Theresa.  It's pronounced Tress-uh.  Her nickname was Tress.  Tress Thompson.  Isn't that cute?

The BBQ was great... thanks for checking back in on me.  I had a cheeseburger on a wheat bun LOADED with veggies, some potato salad, some raw veggies, and drank only water.  The dessert I brought was a fairly healthy bar cookie: oatmeal, wheat flour, ground walnuts, flaxseed meal, spices and margarine with a jam filling.  It'll make you poop like a champ!  And I ate well the rest of the day too.  I haven't typed in calories but I'm pretty sure today was no more than 1800 even with the dessert.  Thanks to everyone for helping me hang in there.

Started gardening today and will finish tomorrow.  Stood up and baked and folded laundry for awhile as well.  Thanks so much to everyone.  Hang in there and I will too!

Love and dieting prayers to all,
Kathy

Hey all.  I made SURE I took my medications this morning (it was more forgetting due to the stress than me not committed to staying on the prescribed medications) and had a healthy breakfast and lunch.  Dinner... not so much but I didn't have any desserts or treats today.  I also drank more water than I have in awhile.  It's been pretty rainy here but Saturday, I'm planning to start my garden.  Two to three hours of pulling weeds, hoeing, and planting flowers should be good exercise and help my mood.

Thanks for the reassurance that it was ok to vent here.  I knew I would receive the support I needed if I just spoke up.  I also knew if I didn't say anything, I risked allowing myself to fade into CC oblivion and lose all the progress I've made.  I continue to get great compliments on how good I look and I don't want those to stop!  Thanks everyone-- I'll continue venting but I'll also do my best to continue taking care of myself.

CCers are the best.  Thanks again, everyone!

Keeping it in perspective:

Well, here it is, Mother's Day morning.  The kids didn't make crafts in school this year but with NO reminder, my husband and step-daughter got my cards.  Which was all I really wanted. 

Last night we were planning to attend church as a family (with the in-laws) and give my MIL her card and gift and then take SD to BM's by dinnertime.  BM had okayed this and then around 2 pm started texting and insisting that SD come home sooner b/c they were going to visit her mom and grandmom whom they rarely see.  They aren't a very close family so we knew this was a big deal.  DH took the SD to her BM's apartment and reminded her we'd need her for church (it's in the custody agreement).  BM pitched a big fit even though we said we'd take her to the latest Sunday afternoon service available to accommodate their Mother's Day plans.  She's pissed and probably won't allow us to have SD for church. 

My husband woke up this morning to a text claiming that SD STILL has head lice.  She had them 2 weeks ago (courtesy of her half sister who gets them everytime she goes to BM's boyfriend's house) and we were certain it was under control after doing all proper treatments.  I've helped with her hair this week as has her grandma (an RN) and neither of us saw anything yet BM sent a nasty message claiming it was our fault since no on in their house had them.  We're presuming the lice are still living at mom's house and she got them again when she went home last night.

So, here I sit on Mother's Day with things in a good perspective but still frustrated with BM.  If SD were here, she wouldn't have lice.  She'd be going to church.  She would have had a chance to see her grandmother.  She was whisked off so quickly at BM's request, my husband delivered her cards to me and MIL on her behalf. 

I can honestly say, I'm a true mom.  It was actually something my own mom said to me yesterday that helped me pull it all together.  That conversation took place well prior to the BM drama.  She reminded me that being a mom is an everyday job (yes- something many of you have said but there's something about it coming from your own mom).  She also said she didn't want us to buy her gifts anymore (too late for this year!).  She said that next year she wanted each of us to use the money we'd spend on her to create a great day for ourselves by going to a spa (I presume expects my brother to do something more mandly with his $$!) or something to treat ourselves.  Then, she wanted us to call her and tell her what a nice day we'd had in her honor.  That's a true mom for ya-- selfless through and through.

Before I was even awake, my brother texted me to wish me a good Mother's Day.  Then, there were the cards from hubby and SD.  My mom forgot to send a card but they made up with an online one (that's fine with me-- thought that counts).  Later today, when my bro and sis are at my parents, we'll all get on the webcam to give mom her gift.  Dad got her a porch swing and the kids pitched in on serving platters, dishes, and pitchers for the many patio cookouts they have all spring and summer.  She should be stoked.  We tried to get something with her in mind that the whole family would benefit from.

Ok- Happy Mother's Day to all and thanks for your thoughts, wisdom, and suggestions as I faced this difficult/awkward holiday.

P.S. The hubby and I were going to spend the day gardening together but now we have to spend the day de-lousing our house just in case.  FUN!

Starting weight (on May 1st): 204.5

Goal Weight (on Jul 3rd): 193

Ultimate Goal: 150

May 1: 204.5

May 8: 203.5

May 15

May 22

May 29

June 5

June 12

June 19

June 26

July 3---final weigh in

 Well, this is my own fault.  I didn't eat very well this week and due to a lot going on at work (the 3 bosses were all out of the office), I only made it to the gym once.  However, I'm going again today so hopefully next week's weigh-in will be much more noticable.  Congrats to all of you who are starting off so well!  Keep it up!!

I do at home in front of the computer and while watching tv.  I don't bother at work b/c it's a part-time job and 25-50% of my time is spent outside the office.  But, I say, go for it.  My chiro recommends light bouncing and it does help ease my lower back pain due to sciatica.  Be bold and GO FOR IT!

Original Post by icat_7:

Right now I am 105 lbs...goal of 100. (I know this sounds very low, but do take note that I am 5 feet and NO taller). It's not really a matter of numbers to me; it's based on how I look in the mirror. I am a little muscular, but I definitely have some soft parts...namely the thighs. HATE the thighs. I just want to lose some of the fat covering my muscle.

Losing fat and gaining muscle does NOT mean you should be striving for 100 pounds.  Since muscle weighs more than fat, start toning your body but working to maintain your weight.  Speak to a trainer (or go to the fitness forums) for advice on how to tone those areas.  Your BMI is 20.5 which is nearing a dangerously low level.

I understand it's about how you look which means THE NUMBERS DON'T MATTER.  Stop losing and work to develop muscle in those areas that you're struggling with.

I find that even if I stick to a healthy calorie intake (~1500 on days I don't exercise and ~1800 on days I do), there is another factor that influences my weight loss. I try to consume 25-30 g of fiber daily and drink 100+ oz. of water. When I stray from this, I don't lose or don't lose as quickly. Have you had a good BM in the last few days? Maybe those pounds are "stuck" inside of you. I agree with GI-Jane's advice as she's one of the smartest gals on these forums but don't forget about using fiber and water to rid your body of excess waste. I know it helps me. Good luck!

Original Post by workingtobethin:

I know how you feel!! 

 I was with a man who had 4 children and I did all the things you are doing and never even got so much as a card from any of them on Mothers Day.

 But I did find as they got older they remembered all the things that I did for them and appreciated it, which I did not think they even noticed and they remebered most of the lessons that I  taught them (sense of responsibity, etc)

 They also saw the difference between me, always being there for them and their own Mother, who was there for them when it suited her. 

It all takes time and it is sometimes very hard not to feel that you are being taken for granted but you have to look to the reasons why you are doing this in the first place, which should be for the betterment and good life of the child and because she is your hubby's child!!!  Not for recognition of what a good person you think you are!!!! 

This helps a lot.  Like I said, it's not that I want to be petty.  I just get frustrated that my husband and in-laws thank her birth mom for what... giving birth to her?  Because that's about the only helpful thing she's done for the child.

I constantly thank and praise my husband for what he does around the house and what a great dad he is.  I brag about him to others.  I never get thanked for anything I do and he gets reminded of this every few months.  He will sit down with SD (sometimes in my presence, sometimes not) and say, "Kathy does so much for us.  We really need to remember to not take her for granted and thank her more often."  This behavior usually lasts less than a day and then we're back to their ususal ungratefulness.  My husband also regularly plays the "I'm the dad" card which makes me angry.  I want to say, "Yes, and I'm the female who does more parenting than her mom."

Being a step-parent is a damn tough and often thankless job.  My parents usually give me a phone call to tell me how great I'm doing with the SD on Mother's Day.  People at church and friends wish me a nice day.  I just want my husband and maybe my in-laws to SAY it and remember to thank me and acknowledge all I do for them.  I guess it's more me venting about their general ungratefulness rather than Mother's Day itself.

Starting weight (on May 1st): 204.5

Goal Weight (on Jul 3rd): 193

Ultimate Goal: 150

May 1: 204.5

May 8

May 15

May 22

May 29

June 5

June 12

June 19

June 26

July 3---final weigh in

My mom LOVES summer cookouts on her patio.  We're pitching in for fun, inexpensive, plastic, reusuable picnic ware from wal-mart.  You know the bright, fun-colored stuff I'm talking about?  We're getting plates, cups, and some serving dishes as well as a new table cloth for the picnic table. 

IS there a beauty or massage school near your home?  You could pay for an inexpensive massage, mani, or pedi at about half the price of a salon but it's equally thoughtful and your mom would probably love it.

Look online for a buy one get one free coupon (usual valpak.com has some) to movie theaters or restaurants in your area.  You could take her on a cheap mom/daughter date.  Most moms would be touched that you took the time to find a coupon so you could  give her a nicer gift.

Does she like plants?  Go to the local florist and instead of a bouquet, buy a nice ivy or other plant that she can grow year-round.  A small-ish plant and nice pot should only run you $15-20.

Thanks a bunch, Nicky!   Husband actually went for a check-up today.  He needs to lose 100+ pounds (I still need to lose 65 so I'm no lightweight myself).  I've asked him if he wants to start working on exercise or food next and he says he's not sure.  He thinks he wants to start by focussing on exercise b/c now that he can breathe better and the nice weather is coming, he thinks he'll enjoy it and get more out of it.  And while he didn't mention it, I know he's thinking "It's cookout season.  I'd rather exercise and enjoy the brats and s'mores for the next couple of months."  Hell, I feel the same way. :)

I will definitely stay in touch with you.  The good thing is, he enjoys veggies and fruit, he just doesn't take time to always incorporate them into his diet.  Also, he's recently taken to drinking V8 berry blend instead of soda at home.  I know it still has a decent amount of sugar but it's a huge step in the right direction.

Everyone has been very helpful, supportive, and had great suggestions.  I think, in time, we'll get the hang of it.

Oh, and we live in the US.

I don't think you were preachy at all.  I wanted to hear suggestions and that does sound like a good idea.  We are working at compromising and making steps in the right direction.  He is trying to eat less and he quit smoking.  I think he's trying to get over those humps first.  I am a small step person as well so I'm trying to be patient until he catches up to me in the eating healthier department.