Posts by trainwreck

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The Lounge	Do "Beautiful People" get better treatment?	Sep 25 2008 08:02 (UTC)	21
jblarghp oh it's meant to be funny but there is a lot of truth in both 5 and 6.
The Lounge	What are your thoughts on Kirstie Alley?	Sep 25 2008 07:58 (UTC)	16
If they are actors in Hollywood, they are not people they are just entertainment and should be viewed as such.
The Lounge	relationship confusion :/	Sep 25 2008 07:56 (UTC)	6
He's happy not working and your thinking about rings? You already know what you need to do just need the OK to do it. Cut him loose. The reason you don't want to do that is because you've invested a lot of time and resources in what you had with him. He's not investing his time or energy toward you. Get married to him and watch what will happen with that sloppy style and those moobs. Cut him loose. Find someone that's willing to work.
The Lounge	Would like advice on a delicate situation - Mature Topic	Sep 25 2008 07:36 (UTC)
Sure there is ego involved on both sides of this. It's always nice to be selected as a partner by a very attractive woman but as for meaning a lot to me to get selected - not really because I get attractive partners sometimes still in their mid 20's or late 20's and she knows that. monogamy - she tried that earlier this year and ended up with a boyfriend that cheated on her and didn't come home for days at a time. She was serious about that one because we didn't go out for a like two months. He was always worried about her cheating. Ironic isn't it that he did exactly what he was worried she'd do. Yes, I failed to met her needs/wants. She got some pleasure I think because of the way she responded etc but I know I didn't rock her world. Yes, that bothers me because most of the time I please my partner better than I pleased her. I tend to think things would be better next time because in my experience usually the first time can be a little awakward. Anyway, I know I have to get into better shape. We have chemistry when we go out or hang out we had fun teasing and joking before moving to the bedroom as per normal etc. Of course we usually drink a little when we go out etc and neither of us had had anything to drink that evening. I appreciate the insights and comments. BTW - I might be sweet but I'm not NICE...lol
The Lounge	Delete please	Sep 25 2008 05:41 (UTC)	22
we've had a tumultuous relationship in the past What's that mean? What was the hurt? Women very seldom stay with the guys they meet between the ages of 17-24. Get out have some fun. Date more people. Take your time, no reason to rush.
The Lounge	Can I have your opinion? Old friend, old grudge, should I forgive, forget, or what?	Sep 25 2008 05:34 (UTC)	8
Absolutely it's ok to dislike someone for how they look. You can dislike someone for whatever reason. That's ones right. It might be shallow but well that's human nature. I don't like wino's or homeless people. All it takes is one look. I know I don't want anything to go with them. Could careless how good a personality etc they might have. Ever think that maybe when that argument started to get a little heated it would have been good to just let go before it got out of hand and mean stuff was said? Most people will take it personal if their boyfriend or girlfriend is being discussed and they will defend them. we were discussing a guy we both knew and she was dating, and i was trying to tell her that i didn't think he was a good guy. He was always very nice to me while she was around, but when I ran into him seperately, he was dismissive and pretty much ignored me, despite us being in the same group. So I was trying to impart to her that I felt he was two-faced and kind of a jerk. She was defending him, things got a bit heated, and she ended up saying to me, "You want to know why he doesn't like you? It's because you are FAT." The friendship basically got tossed because you got called fat. That seems so childish on your part to me I doubt we could be friends. That friendship didn't die for a good reason it died for a very stupid reason...not being willing to forgive and let go. God if I had a dollar for every time my wife called me fat over the years, I'd be rich. She's my x-wife now and still calls me fat. I really don't care. Have to let stuff like that go otherwise, it will hurt you. I can't believe your willing to give someone that much power over you...for 16 years. Make peace and bury the hatchet.
The Lounge	Would like advice on a delicate situation - Mature Topic	Sep 25 2008 05:14 (UTC)	3
Of course I was safe. BTW when she told me about the 200+ she was like I'm telling you this because I don't think you'll look at me any differently. That seemed to be important to her. My reply was I bet when you have a boyfriend your faithful. I don't look at her differently - I just feel performance anxiety and I know that's my problem not hers. The thank you txt was for getting together. Seemed weird, maybe scarcastic. Not really sure what tone was intended. Yes, I have feelings for her. She has a lot of good qualities. She is rough around the edges in some ways but is kind and considerate of others, carries herself well, acts with class, has a sense of humor. Is very honest, reliable, goes to work, pays her own bills etc. I've found her to be trustworthy in the time I've known her and keep the secrets I've shared. She drinks more than I like but doesn't get drunk. I've never see her get out of control etc knows her limits etc. She smokes weed. She's never been in any legal trouble, I ran a little background check etc. While I'm not seeking a LTR at this point, I do like this person. I like her enough I care about her feelings and would never treat her or any other quailty person that way. In time I might be willing to ease into an LTR but I know there are a lot of potential pit falls and am not eager to rush into anything. Range indeed. Let's just say she's exqusite in many ways.
The Lounge	Would like advice on a delicate situation - Mature Topic	Sep 24 2008 23:44 (UTC)	9
I like her and she's fun. My relationship with her hasn't been along the lines of fixing her. Friend with benefits is where I'd like this to be and I'm interested in advice on that. So banging around advice would be great. Me fix her? No. Only she could fix herself and then only if she wanted too. She has some issues but she's not out of control like the other girl was. She's more responsible than any of the stripper chicks. Knows her limits etc. Relationship? I'm not about to get emotionally involved to any great degree with my friend. I'm not looking for a long term.
The Lounge	Can I have your opinion? Old friend, old grudge, should I forgive, forget, or what?	Sep 24 2008 23:36 (UTC)	18
"You want to know why he doesn't like you? It's because you are FAT. " Perfectly valid reason not to like someone. You can like or dislike someone for whatever reason. That might make one a shallow person or a jerk but that's how people are sometimes. I'm amazed you've held onto your feelings on this for 16 years. Who cares what that guy thought or felt. He didn't matter then and he doesn't matter now. Unless of course, you liked him on some level and were jealous of your friend. That could explain the intensity of your feeling for say 16 years. I think you should met her for coffee. If you don't like the situation you can leave. Face the issue - deal with it. She might want to apologize and make things right.
The Lounge	Would like advice on a delicate situation - Mature Topic	Sep 24 2008 23:26 (UTC)	11
She's 13 years younger than me. Yes, I'm concerned she took it personal. I called once and we've txt'd a few times etc. I'm not the sort to call more than about once a week. I hate talking on the phone. I thought I might stop by where she works (bar and grill) and say hi later this week. I usually go by there about once a week so that's pretty normal. ignayshus - This is not the same chick as before. That party girl that moved away after getting a better paying job. That one was 17 years younger than me.
The Lounge	Do "Beautiful People" get better treatment?	Sep 24 2008 23:16 (UTC)	29
*Of course attractive people get better treatment.* It's because they are better people - didn't you know that? You can just tell by looking at them. Looks are exactly like money and can be used the same way by a crafty woman. 1. One of my friends is a super attractive young woman. She can get hired with ease, often they won't even make her take the drug tests (she would fail them) that the others have to take just because she's so pretty. Male cops usually won't give her a ticket for speeding etc. When we went out, even women would treat her like she was special...because she actually was special. 2. I used to go out with a model pretty young woman. We got free drinks all the time. Free food. Better service. She had no work ethic at all. She was as lazy as they get. Working one day a week just about killed her. She complain she was so pretty she shouldn't have to work...she wasn't joking either because she'd ask guys to loan her money all the time...they would hoping she'd like them. Of course she didn't pay them back. It was pretty fun (and cheap) for me, to take her out then let her pay for the evening with money she'd conned some nice guy out of. I would NEVER have believed this sort of thing actually happened until I saw her DO this stuff to men all the time. One guy actually paid her $300 to eat lunch with him. When we went out guys were always interested in her...that gets annoying and you'd better be very confident to deal with it. 3. I know a cute 19 year old stripper with a near perfect little body. She managed to get out of putting down her security deposit because the apartment manager was attracted to her. 4. Before my x-wife got fat and bitter and turned into an ugly person all around, she got special treatment all the time. She was a natural blonde with blue eyes about 5 6 and weighted 130 pounds with an honest to God 36C-28-36 figure. We'd get special treatment at restraunts. Usually, get the best seats because she was eye candy. If she wasn't grumpy and would laugh and have a good time (not a given because she always been difficult) we'd get free stuff. She got out of all sorts of traffic tickets. She was basically incompetent at work but her boss didn't care the customers liked her...because she was pretty. She porked up to 250 - she ended up losing that special treatment at work etc and her life turned into hell. These days she's back to 180 and looks ok. If she'll get to 130 again, she'll rule the world once more. 5. I have a co-worker super attractive even at 51. She does and has always used her looks and personality. She has the worst work ethic. None of the guys care they always take up her slack to try to get her to like them. 6. We have a fat woman at work too. She's a real porker at about 300. She works real hard. Often she does the work of two men. She gets angry a lot because people don't seem to want to help her. I'm sure she makes less than the pretty one...been there longer too. Guys try to avoid her.
The Lounge	Just let a dying guy do his own thing...	Sep 24 2008 21:00 (UTC)	4
I'm with the above poster. If sis doesn't have legal control etc as mentioned above. Who cares what she thinks or says. *Do what you want to do.*
The Lounge	Would you or wouldn't you?	Jun 13 2008 21:50 (UTC)
Sure if she was hot & fun I'd hit it....IF I was legally seperated...wouldn't think twice about it...
The Lounge	At what age do you think people begin to look "old"	Jun 13 2008 21:48 (UTC)	3
Lifestyle has so much influence on this... My x GF is beautiful she and is 25 but her rough lifestyle can cause her to look mid 30 at times. Rested she see can pass for 22-23 with ease. I'm 43 and normally pass for mid 30's or so I'm told but I drink a lot of water, stay out of the sun for the most part, eat right and get enough sleep
The Lounge	Which type of body do you like?	May 19 2008 13:10 (UTC)
Face & body are what I notice first. My preferance is thin and fit. I dislike the thick bodybuilder look some women get if they are really into weights. Toned is nice but it needs to stay to the softer side. Personality (or lack of as the case may be) is far more noticable after talking with her.
The Lounge	Why do we want to be thin?	May 19 2008 13:04 (UTC)	1
Thinner because - Feel Better, get less stressed out, people are nicer to you, higher status, more valued as human being, healthier, & able to do more stuff with ease
The Lounge	Would you... (Hypothetical Relationship Question)	May 15 2008 13:13 (UTC)	29
Would you buy your perfect dream car with one little issue? It's won't start so you can't drive it around or have much fun with it. Didn't think so. Next. I think in the end the person who likes physical intimacy will find it elsewhere...very likely discover in time that person is in at least two relationships...sounds like pain and drama in the making...I say cut and run. Might be ok as a Just Friends - friend since that all it really seems like it is anyway based on how you describe the relationship.
The Lounge	The keys to developing a lasting romantic relationship in this situation?	May 13 2008 17:35 (UTC)	2
They seem to have good communication. He's weaker on that than she is. He will do the right thing but she'll go after his reasons for doing the right thing. It's clear she makes him think about stuff on a deeper level. She'll talk circles around him if she gets excited and he'll tend to get quiet and listen to her. I know they managed to talk thru a couple of potentially damaging misunderstandings and come out better in the end. From what I've seen they treat each other with respect. I know for a fact she treats him with more respect than his last two GF's did and he treats her with more than her last two BF's did. She pointed out he put up with too much disrespect in his priors and likewise he mentioned the same to her. Integrity both seem to have it however both have items in their respective past that could call that into question. People tell him bad stuff about her to try and undermine her integrity. She disclosed said bad stuff to him because she's open. He's got some bad stuff in his past too and owned up too it but only after she opened up first. I don't think they are having sex. I doubt he could keep quiet if they were. They did end up sleeping in the same bed cuddled up after a wild night drinking. He said she didn't want their first time to be like that. (I said you just got rejected, say next and move on but he's not listening) She told him something to the effect - I think we can be more than friends but I have to really know someone first as a friend before I can take that step because it always ended badly if we weren't friends first.
The Lounge	Walking on Graves	May 13 2008 13:28 (UTC)	17
I'm very aware of the whole don't walk on someones grave. It was considered a sign of disrespect. As in disrespect to the deceaseds living family. Where I grew up if the deceaseds family memebers saw someone do that...you could be in really big trouble...like getting a hilly billy style beat down that would do the crips or bloods proud today. Of course I grew up in the sticks where it was considered ok to kill someone for running over your best hunting dog if you could find out who did it.
The Lounge	things to talk about during awkward silences..	May 12 2008 19:26 (UTC)	21
Just start talking and go from there... Worst comes to worst...these have worked for me and I ripped them off from someone else. 1) "A friend and I were talking the other day and we were discussing who lies more men or women. I'm sure that (gender of the person you want to talk) lies more than the other. " ...that will usualy stir something up conversation wise...a least for a bit... 2) Whip out the cell phone and have some interesting stupid pictures saved in it that are good for a laugh. 3) Learn a mind reading trick or two to liven stuff up when the conversation dies down. 4) After coaxing them...if they don't want to talk to you...walk off and talk to someone else...no point in wasting your time talking to people that aren't interested or interesting.
The Lounge	How do you deal with a jealous partner???	May 12 2008 19:23 (UTC)
Well let's ask the obvious first...have you changed any behaviors that would cause him to be suspicious? I'm guessing that answer to that is no...so that makes the problem his not yours. So the next question is why's he feel that way? Reassurance is good. Spending some quailty time with him is good. However... He probably doesn't see himself as worthy of your attention at this point and that's probably means he isn't based on the way he's acting. Sounds like he needs to get up off of his butt and do some self improvement so he will feel better about himself. It sounds to me like your growing and changing as a person and that's what's threating to him. He's about to be faced with having to get out of his comfort zone. Go do some new fun stuff together. BTW - Is he in shape? I'm guessing probably not...
The Lounge	Breast implants - Do they look good or not?	May 08 2008 21:26 (UTC)	127
Threating? Not in the least. One has to take something serious to find it threating. Comical or tragic sometimes depending on the skill or lack of of the doctor.
The Lounge	Dating - Who said "I Love You" first & how long hand you know each other?	May 08 2008 21:21 (UTC)	12
My most recent experience... Going out/chillin whatever it's called four weeks. She said it after drinking. She'd had a blast saying only one other person had ever seen her act so silly and it was the silliest/craziest time she'd had since she was 17. I said it back.
The Lounge	need help. writing a paper on body language.	May 08 2008 13:40 (UTC)
I hope you post up links for the topics mentioned. I would love to read your paper and research. Excellent topic!
The Lounge	who's your favorite food network personality?	May 08 2008 13:35 (UTC)	16
Rachel Ray - will totally make her my next wife if I met her in real life.
The Lounge	OMFG I can't believe him!!!	May 08 2008 13:33 (UTC)	19
The new girl is a total txt fiend. She LOVES to txt but hates to talk on the phone in part because she talks on the phone so much at work. She can txt about 10 times faster than I can. She's far more eloquent with the written word than I am. This part of our communications tends to be very one sided. I've counted 80+ txt a day before. 30 to 40 txt days are not at all uncommon. I adore her so it's sort of charming in it's own way.
The Lounge	Breast implants - Do they look good or not?	May 08 2008 13:17 (UTC)	131
Haven't missed out on any due to that. Ended up married to a woman who is a D cup despite that not being a preferance of mine. Had a long marriage and went out separate ways. As for the others, I sure don't feel like I missed out...because that life experience tailors the personality besides it's really hard to feel like one missed out on someone they aren't attracted too in the first place. :-) I will agree with the above poster that well done (most aren't) implants are virtually "undetectable" I think that is the correct approach if one wants to do this sort of thing. In the end, the woman should do what she wants as it's her body.
The Lounge	Non-dancer; Is there any hope?	May 07 2008 17:12 (UTC)	15
I think you need to watch "Hitch" with Will Smith...that movie sort of covers a whole of the issues your concerned about. Dancing is addressed too. Actually, I suggest buying a copy of "Hitch" for reference for ya.
The Lounge	I need the honest truth: Evaluate my life	May 07 2008 13:28 (UTC)	7
Only you can anwser the question about of evaluating how your life is going. I'm not sure how to take your post. In some ways it seems like your seeking approval of others to reassure yourself that things are ok for you. See you really want to feel confident about how your life is going so you don't really think o can about other peoples approval. Validation is like the other person posted is a good way of putting it.
The Lounge	Breast implants - Do they look good or not?	May 07 2008 13:11 (UTC)	136
I'm a guy. I think I posted this before but I'll say it again. If a woman is fit and in shape her natural size will look very hot for her body type. Hottest girlfriends I've had were all either A or B cups. One was a 32A the other a 34B. The C's are very nice but anything in excess...not my cup of tea. Had some GF's with the D & DD's...yawn. Natural usually gets it right IMHO. There are a lot of hacks that do implants that ruin the appearance of the female body with there so called "work". I've seen way to many absolutely brutal scars that were left by hacks. Only the very best doctors can make implants look natural. That's ok as long as it isn't to excess. I'm a jerk but this is the REAL reason I like natural and normal. I really don't like implants or excess. The smaller busted women always seem to have socialized differently. They tend to be a little more serious, a little more focused, a little more motivated, they seem to expect to get ahead based on skill and ability. I end up liking their personalities better on average. When these women show confidence you can bet it's the real thing based on the internal not bolstered by some superficial appearance enhancement. Of course the woman should do what she wants but she sure shouldn't let anyone else influence her choice. I've hurt more than one girls feelings by telling her to her face she I would have found her more attractive natural and she should have stayed natural. Flame me.

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