Posts by cerealaddiction

i bought my wedding dress on ebay from a u.s seller who ended up not using the dress they bought.  quite a few people are selling like this, whether it be on ebay, craigslist ect...it's a mori lee so i researched the dress from the official website and tried on similair styles before i made the purchase. i ended up getting a normally $400.00 dress, brand new with tags for less than half the price including shipping.  the only alterations i needed was to put a bustle on and let out a half an inch around the waist. i have pictures of my dress up, and everyone thought it looked perfect and could never have guessed i bought it on ebay. needless to say i have no regrets what so ever and consider it a great experience!

i wasn't allowed to watch rated R movies under my parents house or be alone in the same room with a boy by myself without a parent present.  i broke these rules when i moved out, and nothing bad ever happened from it, but as long as you are a dependent, you need to respect your parent's house rules.  i understand your frustration but in this case, it is neither harmful or unreasonable so enjoy not having the responsibility of bills and mortgage. parents devote most of their physical, emotional and financial resources towards their children, so give her a break and let her have her silly rule for a bit longer.

if you are restricting calories to below what your body needs and keeping yourself at an unhealthy weight, i'd image it would be impossible to recover mentally.

as long as you continue to do so, your body as a survival mechnicanism will cause you to be preoccupied with food.  this unhealthy obsession, need for control, counting, restricting, guilt, ect...will not let you heal physically or mentally.

also amenorrhea and osteoporosis ARE a huge deal. do you want to be brittle, shrink, hunched over and possibly become permanently crippled?  you may be young now but your teenage years will feel like a blink of an eye compared to the rest of your life.  if you keep denying your body the nourishment it needs, you will end up struggling with bone density of an old woman at a young age.

"Both the amount of bone mass you have as a young adult and how fast you lose it as you age determine your risk for osteoporosis. Throughout life, your body removes and replaces small amounts of old bone. The amount of bone you have is called bone mass. As you age, your bones lose mass and may become porous, or less dense. This happens because you lose more old bone than your body can replace.

Women are at greater risk of losing bone mass than men because they start with 30 percent less than men and lose it faster after menopause. Caucasian and Asian women have less bone mass than African American women, which puts them at greater risk.

Bone mass in women is affected by levels of the hormone estrogen. Bone mass builds in younger years, levels off at ages 30 to 35, and remains stable until menopause. After menopause, women lose bone mass rapidly, about two to three percent each year. This loss continues for five to ten years. Women are more likely to break bones in the wrist or spine in the years after menopause, usually from ages 45 to 60, because of the drop in estrogen levels. Fractures of the spine, can cause loss of height and rounded shoulders, sometimes called dowager's hump.

You can take steps now to reduce your risk of developing osteoporosis. If you already have osteoporosis, many of the same steps for reducing your risk can be used as treatment.  Before age 35, your body is building bone mass. During these years, you can take steps to build as much bone mass as possible. These same steps may help slow the rate of bone loss later.

i would say to just remember that the foods are very rich and the portions are very huge.  i'd ask for dressing on the side if you go with a salad but i wouldn't bother trying to find the lowest calorie dish, either.  just eat slowly, drink water and take home left overs.  split dessert or skip dessert.  don't waste any calories (or money for that matter) on drinks.

enjoy small portions of left overs over the next few days with something low calorie, like veggies.  that's what i'd do anyway, i find restuarant food terribly salty to eat in large amounts.

possibly your body is redistributing fat to give you a more "womanly" shape because you are still young and your body is maturing? some women/girls do not stop developing until 18-21.  i doubt you are getting truly getting "fat" and losing a bunch of muscle unless you have changed your lifestyle dramatically and even then it would take a bit of time and you probably wouldn't be confused about it.

congratulations!!  that's really a huge accomplishment even without a history of an ED!!  be proud and happy of yourself!

i would try to switch your mindset from dieting and weight obsession to having a healthy relationship with weight and food.  your weight will fluate a few pounds day by day regardless so don't beat yourself up if you gain a pound or two during a menstrual cycle or anything.

try to eat moderately and follow your hunger.  if you find your clothes are getting tighter cut back on treats.  no one else will be able to tell if you are down or up a few, so remember you are so so so so much more than just a number on a scale!!

it's kind of funny because i don't eat anything from my childhood anymore.  they really don't seem remotely appealing to me anymore...

1. spagetti

2. chicken devan

3. icy pops

4. salami sandwiches

5. shake and bake

i personally have the same problem if i ever try to eat too much fried or fast food.  i can stomach a few french fries but if i eat a whole meal of just greasy foods, they go "right through me" along with any other fast food.  i don't know if it's transfat, but i don't try it enough to really pin point the cause.  if i eat a smaller portion with something fiberous, like veggies, i can stomach it.  i don't think it's just transfat or just dairy but rather super rich/fatty foods in general.

last time it happened, i had some really rich foods at my wedding, and one night i had some type of cheesy spinach pastry for dinner covered in creamy sauce with nothing else to help digest.  i know it wasn't the food was bad, because it was a really nice restuarant and no one else got sick.  i was on the toliet for 10 minutes shortly after as well but immodium helped...

i really don't agree with that 10x calorie thing. i don't see how 1200=120 lbs when i was eating 1200-1400, sedetary and lost down to 94lbs...and i don't have an amazingly fast metabolism.  it's simply not  much food and people would comment at how little i ate in general.

have you tried sitting him down and telling him what you posted?  and started out by emphasizing

1. please please don't be defensive because i know you love me and wouldn't do anything intentionally to hurt my feelings.  i just want to address this issue, because it IS something that has been bothering me, and i know i would want you to do the same if i was doing something unintentionally that was bothering you in the same way.

2. I feel that you are not accepting of my life style choice by your comments and actions.  I want you to know that I geniunely fully support your life style choices and in no way shape or form think my way of life should be imposed on you.  I just want to feel you support me in the same way.  Maybe there is something I can say or do that you feel I am lacking to do to help express my support of you.  Let both do something for each other to help strengthen our mutual respect, love and support for each other and enrich our relationship and lives.

if you are geniune and he still doesn't listen to your concerns when presented in a reasonable, heart felt and non-accusatory tone...i don't know what to suggest!

one of my spouses mutually favorite activities is when i groom him.

i pluck tiny hairs that grow on the top of his ears and nose.  i also like to clean the wax out of his ears, clip his toenails and will pop a pimple, pick a scab ect ect.

it sounds really gross i suppose and i would never want to touch anyone else that way but i don't find it disgusting with him.  something about "picking" is relaxing and bonding.  the weird thing to me is that i enjoy doing these things for him, but i don't like being on the recieving end. 

i don't even like having an itch scratched or ache massaged. 

I also feel in some ways I was more confident before I started trying to improve my health and get more fit and slim.  I always felt bad about my body, but instead I focused on my talents and convinced myself that good looking people were just "shallow and vain" not true, i know but it helped me deal with feelings of inadequancy during my adolescence when the popular good looking people tended to be mean and pick on me.

As I grew up and tried to work on my appearance and feel better about my looks, instead of feeling more confident, I just got more and more obsessed and picky.  At least before I was confident of my ability, but now I'm kind of unconfident about both departments.  I'm trying to concentrate on being a better person overall, but moderation is hard for me.

Good luck and try to be as kind to yourself as you would want your loved ones to be to themselves.

i think anytime one tries to approach someone to change their lifestyle, it will be answered with resistance, defensiveness and probably hurt.  it's definately something that an individual has to want to do for themselves.  in my experience, the best you can do is provide a good example and be willing to help him with changes if he should come to you and ask.

i would suggest asking him to join you for activities, purely for the enjoyment of his company, but if he refuses, pressuring someone usually ends up in resentment from both parties involved.

i never believed in "love" until i had my first real crush at age 27.  now i'm married at 29 to my first crush and am so glad i never settled for less.  he is my dearest friend foremost and i wouldn't say our lives are filled with passion, but i still come to tears when i really stop to think of what a truly beautiful person he is to me.

some people take longer than others to find "the one".  i know i'd give anything without hesitation for my husband and he'd do the same for me and there's nothing but complete, realistic honesty in how much we cherish each other.

i don't think it's fair to either one of you to stay in this "safe" relationship.  how horrible would it feel to find out, "i dream about having a magic moment with someone else that i never had with you...but i guess you're the best i can do."

i've been in boring, annoying, relationships that i felt that way about someone and trusted my instincts that they felt the same, despite whatever fluff words they used to try and say otherwise. 

i could never entrust my entire heart to someone on those conditions...and those thoughts do not have to be spoken to be felt.

340 calories is not a lot of calories.  1500 is not alot of calories.  I eat more than that and people still think I eat like a bird.

try to focus on eating healthy foods and getting some activity if you are looking to be healthy but don't focus so much on calories.  be patient with your weight loss goals.  you don't want to screw up your metabolism and fight your weight forever. 

you are young and you shouldn't have to spend the rest of your life beating yourself up for eating.  not to mention that what you ate sounds relatively healthy, delicious and is definately a very modest portion.