Posts by bigmommah

75/2000

I wasn't going to push myself this month because it's my birthday but then I realized I was just taking the easy way so I'm in for 2000 again.

Original Post by alexandrapaige:

In my opinion, we are here because of various issues that we are looking for help with (the majority of us) or because we have experienced personal success and want to encourage others. Those who are not here for anything positive should not be encouraged or celebrated in any way.

so, uh, who gets to decide who's really here for something positive? you?

Did you miss the part of my post that you quoted that stated "in my opinion"? Just as you have the right to find the asinine acceptable I have the right to say that it should not be accepted as the norm.

Original Post by ness757:

@bigmommah

What I found amusing about the article is how much money she makes.

And your posting of that article could be the wake-up call that helps some of those people with ED get over their disorders and start living healthier lives. Or at least that's what it would do for me.

This article is not something that in the normal course of things would have come into my purview. As I stated in my original response, when the thread was posted in the weight loss forum, I came into the thread wanting to encourage someone who may have been down on themselves because of where they are in their fitness journey.

As far as posting a picture of someone who died from anorexia in the ED forum, I would never do such a thing. I can sympathize with their situations, but as I can not empathize I would never do something that could be so potentially harmful.

Some people are hanging by a thread, no matter where they are health wise, and I would hate to be someone who because of my thoughtlessness or sense of superiority did irreparable harm to someone else.

I don't respond to any thread where I don't feel as if I have something valuable to offer.

Original Post by revolution3:

Let's look at it from the other end of the spectrum as someone who needs to lose weight to become healthier would it be appropriate for me to post a thread entitled "You can never be too skinny" and a link to an article on someone who has died from anorexia, with pictures, in the ED forum?

Umm.. don't you mean to say "from the other end of the spectrum as someone who needs to GAIN weight", not "lose weight"?

No. I said exactly what I meant.

Let's look at it from the other end of the spectrum,(perhaps the lack of a comma threw you off?) as someone who needs to lose weight (me) to become healthier would it be appropriate for me to post a thread entitled "You can never be too skinny" and a link to an article on someone who has died from anorexia, with pictures, in the ED forum?

Original Post by bettypage4:

Ness, you know I think you are smart and all and think you are funny, but with all due respect...

"1. You mentioned that the title of the post upset you. What's so upsetting about the title? It was a catchy title and pretty darn relevant to the subject of the thread."

Ness, it is offensive, because it is not HER bum. She is asking if someone else's rear looks big. It is the equivalent of putting a picture of someone's huge butt on yourself and saying "does my butt look big?"

"2. Yeah, it was posted in the weight loss section. So what? It doesn't mean it was put there to start conflict or hurt people. Heck, for all you know it could have been posted to make people feel better. Maybe a couple of large people were feeling down int he dumps about their size and when they saw that article, they brightened up because they don't look like her. Or it could have been a mistake that she psoted in the weight loss section."

Ness, it is offensive because of the situational irony. The implication is that the woman SHOULD lose weight or alternatively OMG she doesn't care about losing weight even though we all judged her and think she should.

"3. So a bunch of people are disgusted over seeing an extremely large and unattractive person in a thong. Does this shock you?"

Ness, this is offensive because if you replaced "extremely large" with a gender, race or disability word, the parallel would be obvious.

Finally, isn't the OP a troll? Leave jewelsmcblah alone. She has the right to feel whatever about this thread just like everyone else has the right to feel righteous about being thin or "healthy."

Well spoken.

I don't know how true that statement is. If you are well endowed I would think that a very supportive bra would be a good investment.

Original Post by bunny1986:

IrishMum I would have thought so too, but when i eat around 1800 etc i dont lose weight

thank you for your replys, i am still confused as too how much to eat. So BigMommah - you recommned eating the same as nonehypos is this correct? May i Enquire as to your daily intake and exercise if i may? thank you ^.^

I'm sorry it has taken me so long to reply.  I average around 1650 calories a day and I burn approximately 1000 a day as my own fitness goal. There are days when I have 3000-4000 calories simply because I am extremely hungry and others where I have to push myself over 1200. I never allow myself to go hungry. If I am hungry then I eat. I try to make food choices that are nutritious and that appeal to my taste buds but I also eat things that make others here on CC shudder.

I noticed that the weight moves more easily when I am doing more than the recommended exercise, hence my working out 7 days a week. I vary my routines and have yet to come to a point where I don't see the benefits. I hope this helps.

First of all congratulations on not knocking her flat with a free weight! =)

I will parrot most of the above posters and say talk to the management if you plan to continue at that gym. I would also caution you about trainers who have a "one size fits all" approach to your training. Just as you would not expect a haute couture gown created for you to fit someone else, a personal trainer should be creating a workout/fitness plan that works for you where you are with an eye to the future. If you've already lost weight and have made forward progress, telling you what you aren't doing is counterproductive to your actually continuing to do what you know and adding additional things that will work in your life.

Congratulations on taking control of your health and fitness and to heck with the tactless personal trainer at your gym.

Original Post by hayleyjayde:

Original Post by bigmommah:

My emotions are not so directly related to my eating that I feel the need to deprive myself of the things I enjoy so that I can be more comfortable in my own skin.

I loved me at my largest, I love me now, and I will continue to love me when I reach my goal weight. I will also continue to enjoy my creme brulee along the journey.

 

I admit my weight and my emotions are a little too closely connected, but this is just down to me being a perfectionist. This same "flaw" that makes me crazy sometimes is also what has gotten me flawless grades all my life and probably what got me into med school, so even if it can mess up my self image I have to love my perfectionist tendencies for all the other things they've done for me.

I don't deprive myself by any means, sometimes I feel like doing but I've grown smart enough through experience and foolish mistakes to know it won't do me any good or make me any happier, I eat healthily now and still enjoy my treats, I love food and it's not just fuel to me, it's one of life's pleasures that I enjoy in careful moderation.

I apologize if I hurt your feelings in any way. I see so much self-hatred and low self esteem on CC that I am on a personal mission to remind people that they and I have value where we are right now. The quote that you used as your post's title is one that tends to set my teeth on edge and have me seeing red so I apologize again if you felt that I was trying to detract from all that you've done.

I understand perfectionist tendencies and I am very happy for you and all of your accomplishments.

Do you know what your body fat percentage is at? If you have lost weight but still have a high body fat percentage what you may be seeing is fat not skin. Looking into ways to lower your BF percentage may yield the results that you are looking for. All the best.

Gratz on your weight loss.

I have to disagree with your post's title though. Quite frankly even at my goal weight it won't feel as good as creme brulee with fresh raspberries tastes.

My emotions are not so directly related to my eating that I feel the need to deprive myself of the things I enjoy so that I can be more comfortable in my own skin.

I loved me at my largest, I love me now, and I will continue to love me when I reach my goal weight. I will also continue to enjoy my creme brulee along the journey.

I also have not removed any foods/drinks from my diet. I have changed the frequency that I consume certain things at, but I still enjoy fried chicken, mashed taters, gravy, corn w/biscuits and perhaps a glass of lemonade. I may use a 1/2 measuring cup for the taters and only have 1 fried chicken breast but I enjoy them just the same.

Big Gratz! =)

Eat and don't stress. One or two days will not derail weeks worth of healthy eating habits. Food is NOT the enemy. Just my two cents.

Original Post by nanathies:

What makes you all motivated to keep going? Need to loose as much as I can in three months in order to show the Dr. I'm serious about loosing weight.

Any input welcome.

Nan,

I developed Type II diabetes which my doctor told me was in the early stages and could be "reversed" meaning that I wouldn't have to take Metformin any more. She also told me that it was a progressive disease and that if I didn't take care of it, it would only get worse. The thought of going blind, or losing a limb was extremely scary as well as shortening my lifespan and quality of life.

It took 1 year and 1 month but I am free. I will never again allow myself to be in a place where I have to be a slave to more medication. I hope that this is helpful for you.

I'm at 227 but at the end of ttotm so next week should show a drop, I hope.  =)

If not I'll still be fine because my stubborn arm fat seems to be moving a bit and that is very exciting.

I hope that you all have a successful week and that July shows us all to be closer to our goals.