Posts by jessicasbc

thanks cptbunny.  i always appreciate your posts since we do have a lot in common.

I do it constantly.  Not just in romantic situations, but anytime I meet someone.   I feel like a lot of people are too good for me and I would just be a nuisance or a burden....and then of course I regret it later.   Its a really difficult process to try and make yourself believe that you are just as good as everyone else.  

Original Post by ipblockedlorik:

Original Post by watergirl:

yet he refused to acknowledge that anyone might have issues with his opinions

 Jewish people have big noses. That is not an opinion, that is a fact about this particular race of people (no, not ALL JEWISH PEOPLE have this. Just more than you would find in...oh...japanese race?).

We know we do. I know I do. I know many people who do. Its just a thing we have a lot of the time *shrug*.

This is not an opinion. This is just how things are.

This is not racist. This is just how things are.

This is not bad. This is just how things are.

 im jewish and i have a total jewish nose.  i dont find it offensive to say that there is a distinct jewish looking nose.  not all the jewish people in my family have it, but i think its a distinct jewish feature.  

i never said watergirl wasnt allowed to be here, i asked why she keeps clicking on loriks threads if they upset her to the point of reporting him all day long.

but clearly watergirl is just as much of a troublemaker as she claims lorik to be.  maybe i should report her....

i read your posts about race differences and though it was controversial i didnt think it was inflammatory.   people are too whiny and stupid.   ive had some pretty heated debates with people on this site and even though there were times where i wanted to come through the computer screen and punch someone in the face, i never once hit the report button.   when it got to be too frustrating i just clicked onto another website. 

did you really get banned from the website?   for the record, i like most of your posts.  

 i havent been on this site for a couple of months, but ever since i returned  i keep hearing all this talk about posts getting deleted and people being told to tone it down.   ive been using this site for two years now and this is the first time ive ever heard so much drama about censoring.   what a shame.   

the sad part is that an internet forum is completely different from a regular conversation face to face.  you cant make someone shut up or get out of your face in person, but on the internet you can click on another link or close the browser completely if something you disagree with is on the screen.   whats up with all the censoring drama?

Original Post by r4eboxer:

Ummm CPTbunny's post was not offensive at all. Your boobs can make you look bigger than you are sometimes. I'm not huge (34C) but if i wear like a babydoll top or a dress that isn't tight anywhere but my boobs, yeah, I look bigger than I am. I know I'm not as fat as I'm coming off to be, so I try to buy clothes that flatter my figure

How can you speak for everyone???? It WAS offensive to me. I don't look fat because of my breasts. I have a gorgeous figure and everything I wear looks good. I got it from my mama. So to say that women look fat because their breasts are large is insulting to me. If you look fat in certain clothing then that's too bad for you. To generalize all large breasted women is insensitive.

 

 

 re4boxer, you sound very insecure.  Relax, nobody called you fat. 

Original Post by kbella24:

Original Post by jessicasbc:

well i guess i'm going to be the bad guy because im against it....and i voted for obama.   i just dont think it should be mandatory (it is in the school district that i live in).   also they should just release the speech and let the parents look it over before their kids have to hear it.   i know that obama isnt a socialist.  i know he is not trying to brainwash anyone.  im not one of the crazy people who think that he's a bad guy with bad intentions.   i just think that the parents have a right to know what is in their child's curriculum at school and its not really obama's place to be giving anyones kids a life lesson if the parents arent in agreement. 

it would also be different if kids were being forced to watch the state of the union or something like that.  that would be just an explanation of policies and plans for the country.   i understand that some parents dont want obama trying to inspire their kids into doing anything.

1) It's not mandatory.  Schools can make the decision to show it.  Parents can choose to keep their kids at home.

2) The Administration is releasing the text of the speech on Monday (the speech will be made on Tuesday).  Parents and schools can look at it and decide if they want to show it to the kids.

 

 It IS mandatory in my school district and my little sister is actually staying home from school.   Also, I posted before they released the text online.

Also, as far as teachers talking crap, Im sure the parents dont approve of that either, but a lot of the time they dont know about it until after the fact.   Parents knew about this ahead of time so they had time to react.

well i guess i'm going to be the bad guy because im against it....and i voted for obama.   i just dont think it should be mandatory (it is in the school district that i live in).   also they should just release the speech and let the parents look it over before their kids have to hear it.   i know that obama isnt a socialist.  i know he is not trying to brainwash anyone.  im not one of the crazy people who think that he's a bad guy with bad intentions.   i just think that the parents have a right to know what is in their child's curriculum at school and its not really obama's place to be giving anyones kids a life lesson if the parents arent in agreement. 

it would also be different if kids were being forced to watch the state of the union or something like that.  that would be just an explanation of policies and plans for the country.   i understand that some parents dont want obama trying to inspire their kids into doing anything.

thanks for clarifying fayeonherway.  i get what you mean now.  i spent a few years not knowing what was wrong with me either and it made me feel like crap having physical issues without a proper diagnosis.   im sorry the doctors havent been able to help you more.  ive also read online that pcos is still very misunderstood, so its probably a good idea to get another opinion from a new doctor.  maybe he/she will be more knowledgeable.   also, make sure to go to an endocrinologist and not just a gynecologist.  the gynecologist never really explained anything to me whereas the endocrinologist was much more helpful.

dont worry, dolphinchick.  im in the same boat as you.   my weight loss is so unbelievably sporadic and slow.  im insulin resistant, i have pcos, and i used to be hypothyroid a few years ago, so i have somemetabolism issues, but you definately arent the only one that doesnt have the results they should.  i swear i eat less than everyone in my famiily and the weight just doesnt come off.  my sisters tell me all the time how easy it is to lose weight and they're much smaller than me.  i should be losing more weight than them and quicker than they did.  it doesnt work like that though.

i believe in calories in vs. calories out, but i dont believe that we are necessarily to blame for not being able to get the equation correct.   i personally dont think all the recommendations work for me.  my body is too whacked out to have my calorie burn calculated by a website.  at this point i dont know what to do other than to keep trying and listening to my body.  

i used to really hate kate because she was so rude to jon, but then i realized that marriages shouldnt end just because the wife has a bad tone of voice.  jon couldve told her to stop treating him badly or they couldve done marriage counseling.  being rude to eachother should not be that big of a deal if you really love eachother and have 8 kids together.  its not that hard to tell your wife "hey, be nice."  if that ends your marriage then that marriage was whacked to begin with.   i think jon and kate are both really confused and i just really feel bad for those babies.  those kids are freakin' adorable.

my self esteem always seems to be contigent on how my clothes fit and how much time i spend looking in the mirror.

If my clothes just came out of the dryer, chances are my self esteem is going to be low.  After a few hours of wearing the clothes, giving them some time to stretch out, I might end up feeling awesome about myself.   Also, this might sound weird, but I tend to feel better about myself when I wear sneakers vs. flip flops.  I guess they make me feel sturdier or something and when I wear flip flops its so much easier to just drag my feet.  I dont know.  Maybe Im weird.

Also, if I spend too much time looking in the mirror I can go from thinking I look good to noticing all of my flaws.  Sometimes i just have to walk away.

helionix, i can kinda agree that preventing weight gain as a teen is a little easier.  I started my first real diet when I was 11 years old and 212 lbs.   My highest weight that I've ever reached was 252.5 lbs, once when I was 16 years old and then again when I was 19 years old.  During those 8 years I only managed to gain 40 lbs, which is not that much considering I somehow gained 80-90 extra lbs in elementary school.  The older Ive gotten the more responsibility Ive taken for myself.

However, my whole concept of taking care of myself was still really skewed.  When I was 11 I started doing Body by Jake with my mom.  I lasted on it for a little while, but eventually I couldnt do it any more, especially with school and everything.   Then when I was 13 I did my first round of the Atkins diet.  I lasted 3 weeks and lost 20 lbs.   I think I almost ended up with that chew/spit disorder at that time because I was so hungry for bread that I would chew up a piece to taste it, but I wouldnt let myself swallow it.   I gained a ton of weight after I fell of the Atkins wagon.   Then I did a variation of my own diets where I just tried to eat less, but those never produced results.  Finally when I was 17, I had my mom buy me one month's supply of Nutrisystem for Christmas.  That was my big Christmas present for the year; the one that was extra special to me.   Last year me and my mom joined weight watchers for six months too.

It wasnt until I became grown and more self sufficient that I started doing internet research on the healthy ways to lose weight that I even found out what a calorie was.  In all my attempts to lose weight I honestly never knew that calories existed.  I knew you had to eat less, but I never knew anything about health.  Now, Im the most knowledgable one in my family because Ive been taking the initiative to research health topics.  

So, I agree with trych, that we all need to learn lessons in our own time. 

edit: I also had to finally convince my mom to take me to the endocrinologist to see what was wrong with my hormones.  I always had period issues and got put on birth control pills at 15, but I wanted to actually figure out what was wrong with me.  Finally, after some blood tests I found out that I'm inuslin resistant, which apparently is directly related to weight issues.

you know, when i was a kid, my mom used to give me a two liter of pepsi everyday.  i walked around the house with it and chugged it straight from the bottle.  we were poor, my parents worked all the time, and food was the one thing that even poor people cant deny giving their kids. maybe an adult would know better than to drink a whole two liter of soda a day, but i was a freakin' baby and my mom was providing it for me.  how would i know that it was bad?  how would i even know that it was abnormal for children to drink that much soda a day?  how would i know that i was doing something completely unhealthy, abnormal, and wrong.   i didnt.     i wouldnt say i have bad parents or anything, but things were messed up for all of us.  i was a child though and the idea that i had the "free will" to say make good or bad choices is just the biggest load of crap ive ever heard.

i have had some serious mental trauma resulting from my childhood obesity.  i have spent many many years truly believing that i was some inferior breed of human being for being so different in such an unacceptable way.  ive never lived a life that didnt involve me being obese.  i wasnt physically born this way, but mentally i was.  i can remember feeling too fat in pre-k.  i hated myself for such a long time and really thought that something was innately wrong with me.   i ended up being so self destructive in every way possible. 

it wasnt until i became an adult, less than two years ago, that i started to consider the concept that maybe it wasnt my fault.  maybe i couldnt do anything to prevent what happend.  maybe im not just a natural born loser.   once i started taking the blame off of myself, i started becoming a productive person.  i started taking pride in myself because i finally realized that i wasnt a loser.  i finally started treating myself like a good person. 

the idea that free will rules all is such a cop out--especially if you're talking about childhood obesity.