Posts by dog_lady

It sounds like your friend is having a very normal pregnancy!!  I also had heartburn and it was terrible.  Probably the worst part about being pregnant for me.  Oh, and the terrible pelvic pain, the kicking from inside while I was trying to sleep... the weight gain.  I also didn't really like being pregnant.  It's not a pretty time, and you don't feel great.  So just remind her that it will be over eventually!

My five month old son is proof that the pull out method doesn't work forever!! :)

I would recommend getting an IUD.  The one I have is non-hormonal, it is a physical barrier against implantation.  So no side effects, no nothing.  I have heard that they can make the first few periods you have with it in a little more crampy than usual, but I'm still breastfeeding & haven't had a period yet so I can't say for sure.  I'm really happy with it though, no pills to forget, no weight gain.

This is so where I'm at right now.  I gained 40 lbs while I was pregnant and I still have 35 to lose! I'm working out regularly and eating right.  I feel like my body is hanging on to every pound.  I'm breastfeeding, too, so I don't want to drop calories too radically and have my supply suffer.  But I hate not fitting into my pre-pregnancy jeans, not too mention all the front-button shirts that no longer fit over my boobs.

32 is not "older"!!  I hope!

We went in for our 4 month check up and the pediatrician told me that she didn't think I would have to supplement.  She said that around 3-4 months, most women start to think they're going to have to, but then the supply goes up.  So I'm holding out.  I'm taking 2 capsules of Fenugreek four times a day, drinking Mother's Milk tea, and taking another herbal supplement called Mother's Lactation Tonic.  I think it's working: sometimes when I pump I get 3 oz, sometimes 5 oz.  She also told me that I should be taking enough Fenugreek that my pee starts to smell like maple syrup. 

My real question comes down to this: can I eat at a deficit enough to lose weight and not have my supply suffer?  It seems like enough new moms lose weight after pregnancy that it's possible.  I do exercise a lot and have been eating around 22-2400 calories a day to gradually lose the weight. 

take naps! LOL.  My baby is 4 months now and while my husband and I go to bed at 10-11 and get up at 6 or 7 am, we're still waking up at least twice a night for feeding.  Babes sleeps in our room and when he wakes we just have to grab him from the crib and I nurse him laying down and usually I can fall back asleep while he eats.  That has been key for us.  We're waking up, but not for too long so it doesn't feel like I'm constantly awake.  Sometimes I don't remember getting up, even.  I would recommend the laying down nursing for sure.  Usually we all just keep sleeping in the bed together until morning.  There have been a few nights here and there when babes will sleep for 5-6 hours, but those are few and far between.  But I can see the light and it's getting better and easier to deal with.

You can do it!!  Good thing they're so cute, right?  The things we do for them!  (This after changing the biggest blowout I've seen in a while and smiling the whole time at my cutsey, poopy baby)

I think my main problem is that I quit counting calories when I was pregnant.  I only gained about 40 lbs, but have only lost about 15lbs of that.  I was very active during my pregnancy and only stopped working out (but still walking and doing easy stuff) at about 38 weeks.  Before I was pregnant I would eat about 2000 calories to maintain, if, like poster #1, I cut down to 1500 calories I would probably pass out.

I'm just frustrated because it is seemingly harder to lose now that it was before.  Also, I'm mad at myself for getting bigger again.  I'm pumping at work and breastfeeding when I'm with him, and I just barely have enough to keep him from formula so that's why I worry about supply.  I want to keep him breastfed as long as possible.

I have two 65 lb monsters & they never even sniff the diaper genie

Oops - double post!

My baby is 5 weeks old and will not sleep in his crib.  He startles himself awake constantly, so we keep him in our bed at night.  When he startles himself awake and I (or daddy) are next to him, he calms right back down.  I wish that it was okay to let him sleep on his belly - he sleeps soundly that way and I think it's soothing for his tummy.

We plan on doing this as long as we're all comfortable with it, but it seems like the natural thing for us now.

I could change this thread title to "a week overdue!"

I know, I know... it happens to lots of expectant mothers, but it's just so frustrating!!  I'm doing what I can do, sex, spicy foods (not that I think that works, but I do like spicy foods!), not interested in the castor oil, foot rubs, etc... nothing.  Some mild cramping in my back, slight tings of pain & braxton-hicks...  Sheesh!

Going in for an ultrasound tomorrow to make sure baby is still happy, amniotic fluids are still good and placenta is still healthy.  Good lord, if I have to wait another week...  I really don't know what I'm going to do!

Thanks for all the well wishes!

This is kind of an old thread, but since someone replied recently, I'll keep going...

I am super aware of what I say around this friend because I don't want to upset her.  I'm a Midwestern Scandinavian so the way I deal with intense emotions is by being stoic and quiet.  I talked with her about the miscarriage but only when it was clear that she wanted to talk about it.  I have never gone on about anything relating to my pregnancy around her and have only talked about it when prompted.  In fact, right after I told her I was pregnant she and her husband had us over for dinner to celebrate, so I thought everything would be okay for us.

But, alas, it's been almost my entire pregnancy and she still doesn't seem to want to be friends - maybe it's totally unrelated to my pregnancy, maybe not. I'm starting to feel resentful towards her because I could really use friends right now and she's simply not around.  And that makes me feel terrible.

Anyway, patience is key, I guess.

I read recently in What to Expect When You're Expecting that women who exercise during pregnancy tend to have smarter babies (the kids score well on IQ tests in the future, which could be due to other factors as well) but also their babies tend to get less stressed out by labor and delivery.  So there's two more reasons to exercise when you're pregnant! 

Congratulations!  Let me tell you, I was in the same boat - except that me and my husband had just decided that we didn't think we ever wanted kids and seriously like a week later.... surprise!

It's early for you so you have lots of time before anyone knows you're pregnant, and maybe lots of time before you even feel pregnant.  If you don't have morning sickness (I never did, and I wanted it because I thought that it would make me feel more pregnant) or any of the usual symptoms you'll just feel like normal for a few months.  Relish that time, because nothing is going to be normal for you after that.  :)

Trust your instincts!!  Don't freak out over every little weird feeling (there will be lots of those), but don't be afraid to get in touch with your doctor/midwife if you have questions. 

Start exercising and eating really good, if you don't already.  I was cleared to keep up with my exercise routine and it's become so important to me as I am finally starting to get bigger and bigger.  And don't freak out when first your regular jeans start to feel snug, and then your "I only wear these when no one's looking" jeans start to feel snug.  Eat well so you know that you're doing everything you can to be healthy.

And relax.  For sure.  Spend some time just sitting on the couch and thinking about your baby, or take a leisurely walk and just zen out.  You need to be as stress free as possible and it's a good time to delegate stuff to your husband.  He should be happy to cater to your every whim.

I am the same way!  I was craving a tuna melt so bad one day I made my boyfriend go out and get all the ingredients for it.  Now, I can't imagine eating one.  I also had a serious falafel craving ONCE and now I don't ever want it again.  Some food aversions, but luckily not to veggies.  I think it usually goes away by week 12 or so.